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Use these as a north star to help guide your actions in the days that follow toward an even more fulfilling life. Although we can veer off the path, when we notice the star, we can always come back to it.
It's actually quite helpful to know in advance what sorts of regrets to avoid in the future, when it is too late to do anything about it.
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Take a moment to look back once again at these five regrets people have had and see where you can begin integrating these more into your life starting today.
Powerful and worth reading - or re-reading if you have seen it before!
A school playground aide sees third-grader Riley grab hold of classmate Liza’s scarf and choke her with it. Riley is subsequently viewed as the bully. But is there more to the story? What the aide hasn’t witnessed is the endless ridicule Riley has experienced from Liza and Liza’s best friend, Jada. Liza and Jada have learned they can provoke emotional outbursts from Riley — a girl who has been diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome — through constant social exclusion. Riley is a “bully-victim,” a young person who can be aggressive toward others but who can also be a target for bullying. She serves as a reminder that the culture of bullying is far more pernicious than we might realize.
Anti-bullying strategies must be approached from a teaching framework rather than a punitive one. Schools need to implement social and emotional learning (SEL) programming, or similar curricula that teach children emotion management, empathy, conflict resolution skills, assertiveness, and friendship building — all important tools to stop bullying.
A love for peanut butter is a love like no other. The sometimes smooth, sometimes crunchy spread is so amazing, you might start feeling like you're legitimately addicted. Because peanut butter goes so well with so many foods, you may have thought about having it for breakfast, lunch and dinner. And when snack time rolls around, you can bet your Skippy that you're eating some PB straight out of the jar. So, for those who are hopelessly devoted to peanut butter, here are 13 ways glorious peanut butter can help your body, your soul and even the rest of the world.
I have observed several cases of peanut butter obsession. It seems to be a growing trend globally. Peanut butter may very well be an important step stone to world peace.
Gratitude is the new miracle emotion. Although gratitude has been around for as long as human beings, it’s only recently started to get the big thumbs-up from science. So here are 10 ways gratitude can change your life, followed by a quick 4-step plan to help maximise your own gratitude, whatever level you start from. There’s even a trick for those suffering from ‘gratitude burnout’.
There are few things more resilient than a grateful mind. If you don't have someone to thank for the things that happen in your life, you're not properly connected : )
It will likely come as no surprise to you that men and women are very, very different. And I’m not just talking about the exterior stuff that you can see pretty clearly any time you want if you know where to look on the Internet. The simple truth is that our interior construction is different, too - especially our brains. For starters, male brains are approximately nine percent larger, with the extra brain matter being mostly white matter, the part of the brain that transmits signals between cells. However, women have a more evolved corpus callosum, the portion of the brain that facilities communication between the left hemisphere and the right. (Generally speaking, our left brain controls logic, analytical thinking, and objectivity, whereas our right brain controls intuition, synthesis, and subjectivity.) So we conclude that that male brains have more connectivity between nearby cells, while female brains have more connectivity between the two hemispheres. These basic structural differences explain, at least in part, many of the readily observable differences in male and female behavior - differences that are apparent from birth onward.
What all men should know about women's brains!
Humans have shown themselves to be quite adept at pursuing happiness, devoting much of their money, time, and energy to this quest. But what about our ability to actually attain happiness? Well, that’s a different story. Finding the right path to happiness can be a challenge because, as research has shown, although we think we know the keys to happiness, we are actually not very good at predicting what will bring us joy. Recently, a burgeoning field of research has helped resolve this happiness paradox by showing that prosocial behavior—voluntary behavior intended to benefit another—can boost happiness. Although acts of kindness directly benefit the well-being of the recipient, they also create a pleasurable “helper’s high” that benefits the giver. For instance, volunteer work is associated with greater happiness and less depression, and research has shown that performing five random acts of kindness one day a week (for six weeks) can increase your happiness. Moreover, at the end of the work day, if you more strongly feel that your work made a positive difference in other people’s lives, you feel more positively at bedtime. Even research on spending has uncovered similar effects: Those who spend money on others (versus themselves) experience greater happiness. So, telling people to do good things for others appears to be a good strategy for personal happiness.
The helper's high: It pays off to help others. Helping others should be an unselfish deed, but that doesn't mean that we should feel guilty about feeling good about it. On the contrary, humans are designed to feel good about "being there" for others. Just like the pleasure of sex increases the likelihood of reproduction, the pleasure of giving and helping increases the odds of survival. Helping is beneficial for all involved - the provider and recipient alike. If you structure and plan your life around helping and giving to others, you are almost guaranteed sustainable happiness.
There are a variety of ways to give and to help.
Sign two globals petitions against female genital mutilation and child marriage: http://sco.lt/5jGR73
Here is a cause really worth investing in:
Help boost the health care work force in low-income countries through provision of education. Make a donation to Save The Children: http://www.savethechildren.ca/page.aspx?pid=820
Why you should donate to Save The Children: http://sco.lt/7ej2Ej
Here are a few highlights of what donations for Save The Children has accomplished the past year:
- Trained over 85,000 health workers worldwide, treated over 240,000 children with life-saving interventions, and reached more than 40 million young children and mothers with health and nutrition programs.
- Enrolled 23,718 children – over half of them girls - in schools in Afghanistan.
- Improved access to learning opportunities in a safe and protective environment for 14,740 children in Haiti.
- Provided food, water, healthcare and crucial support to more than 2.5 million people affected by the drought and food crisis in East Africa.
In the last few weeks, I have come across two fascinating pieces, both of which stimulated some thinking about organisational life. One was about empathy, the other about psychopathy in bosses. I have drawn on these two in the writing of this article and I hope that you will find some value here. Scientists believe that about 1% of the general population would fit a diagnosis of Anti-Social Personality Disorder (ASPD). Studies show that as many as 4% of bosses would fit this classification. When we think of the word psychopathic, we tend to think of mass murderers and serial rapists, however, a psychopath may not necessarily be the Hannibal Lecter of our nightmares. The thing that most clearly identifies this kind of person for me is a lack of empathy for others.
Don't take the bait! If your boss is a psychopath, start looking for new opportunities.
A person with a "fixed" mindset tends to view themselves with static traits and a deterministic outlook. For these people, intelligence, character and creative ability all cannot be changed in any meaningful way, while success is seen as affirmation of those given abilities and traits. The fixed mindset views the human almost like an already-completed spreadsheet, with things like intelligence and personality operating as unchanging, fundamental characteristics. Thus, "striving for success and avoiding failure at all costs become a way of maintaining the sense of being smart or skilled." A person with a "growth" mindset, on the other hand, sees challenges as things to overcome and views failure as an opportunity for growth and personal development.
If you don't have a growth mindset already, start having one today. It's a good deal!
Erectile dysfunction is no fun for any man, and some are turning to penile implants to get their gear back to its full function. But can the ailment be avoided? HuffPost Live's Caitlyn Becker spoke with experts about what men can do to keep their penises in working order throughout life. Urologist Bruce Garber said the widespread cases of erectile dysfunction -- more than 30 million men suffer from it in the U.S. -- can be partially attributed to things like diabetes, prostate cancer and years of smoking cigarettes. Relationship expert Steve Santagati added that there are many health issues facing men that "they could avoid if they took their penis more seriously."
Hmm, what to choose... prevention or the magic pump penile implant?! Kudos to those men with no other alternative, for whom the implant supposedly does a surprisingly good job. But for the rest: Live well, eat healthy, do exercise! If not for you, do it for your penis!
Rejection is rough, no matter how you slice it. But it's also an inescapable fact of life, and our ability to deal with failure and rejection has a hand in determining how successful and happy we are. Happiness isn't the opposite of depression -- resilience is, according to psychologist Peter Kramer. Think of the people you most admire -- many of them didn’t get where they are just by sailing through life without any negative experiences or failures. Most of them distinguished themselves by their ability to get right back up every time they fall, a truism reflected in countless inspirational quotations on the power of perseverance (In the words of Winston Churchill, "It is the courage to continue that counts."). So how do resilient people differ from those who become paralyzed by every failure and setback? Here are seven habits of highly resilient people -- and ways that you can improve your own ability to cope with challenges.
A lot of people tend to think that if they could just be happy, then they wouldn't be prone to depression. This does make intuitive sense. However, happiness does not come out of a vacuum. Resilience is what actually sets the foundation for happiness. When resilience is established, happiness is pretty much downhill from there.
Characteristics of resilient people:
- They fully experience both positive and negative emotions.
- They're realistically optimistic.
- They "reject rejection."
- They build strong support systems.
- They notice (and appreciate) the little, positive things.
- They seek out opportunities for growth and learning.
- They're endlessly grateful.
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“What do you want to be when you grow up?” For Teenager Logan LaPlante, the answer is simple: “I want to continue to be happy.”
He asks the pointed question: “What if we based education on the practice of being happy and healthy? Are schools making this a priority? Much of education is more geared towards making a living than towards making a life.” So he’s created his own model of a school based on things like community, time in nature, general happiness. He calls his alternative school model “hackschool” because it’s all about being willing to change a system. “Everything is up for being hacked,” said LaPlante. Since he started his new system, he’s hacked through every subject — from physics to math to history — while building things along the way. Check out his inspiration talk.
Well, this one just says it all. This kid is just brilliant. There is a need for a complete paradigm shift in modern education. Watch this fantastic and inspirational video delivered by Logan LaPlante.
Want to be remarkably successful? Want to get really rich? (While there are many ways to feel "rich," in this case we're talking about monetary wealth.) Then check out this little gem of an investment opportunity. It's a simple investment. You only have to invest almost all of your money. On the upside, after a year you might earn 3 percent more. The downside? Any day you could lose it all, for reasons usually outside your control and that you will almost never see coming. Would you make that investment? Of course not. Yet millions of people do--every day they go to work for someone else. Of course the analogy isn't perfect. Until you're laid off or fired you do earn a salary. But when you work for someone else, your upside is always capped--sure, you might occasionally get a raise, but in most cases 3 to 4 percent is the best you can expect. Yet your downside is always unlimited because getting fired or laid off can make your income disappear overnight--and with it the considerable investments you've made in time, effort, dedication, and sacrifice. Extremely limited upside. Unlimited downside. That's a terrible investment. So if you hope to get really rich, working for someone else will never get you there. But don't just take my word for it, the government agrees. The IRS Statistics of Income Division, a place where fun surely goes to die, has published "400 Individual Tax Returns Reporting the Largest Adjusted Gross Incomes Each Year, 1992-2009," or in non government-speak, "400 People Who Earned a Freaking Boatload of Money." In 2009, it took $77.4 million in adjusted gross income to crack the top 400. (That just barely got you in; the average income of everyone on the list was $202.4 million.). Where it gets interesting is HOW the top 400 made their money...
If you want to be rich, you have to start your own business. Makes sense. I'm not really a big believer in extreme wealth. However, if you are someone who dreams about making tons of money, you should read this article. Here is why: The high rates of unemployment across Europe can be attributed to the fact that too many people apply for jobs, and too few start their own businesses. Therefore, more people should go ahead, start a business, and make their dreams come true. True GDP growth occurs only by two means: increased productivity and increased employment. If more people start businesses, productivity will automatically increase, and so will employment, given that people will have to hire employees for their newly started business. Starting a business is doing good, not just for you, but for society as well!
Couples in Denmark are being encouraged to travel to help boost the country’s falling birth rate in a hilarious new advert.
The Do It For Denmark! clip explains how getting away from it all boosts men and woman's libidos – with a therapist claiming nearly half of couples have more sex when on holiday. And the tongue-in-cheek video says 10 per cent of all Danish children are conceived while abroad – with the producers Spies Travel offering a free holiday to anyone who conceives on one of its ‘ovulation discount’ trips.
It's an interesting public health approach, and certainly both unconventional and amusing. However, this approach is unlikely to offer a sustainable solution to the problem at hand. Our researchers and policy makers need to investigate how the modern culture has shaped the prevalent reluctance to childbearing, while figuring out how to reverse the process in way that doesn't eliminate the advances we made. Progressions in equality and the empowerment of women has definitely improved society for the better. At the same time, one may wonder if current negative attitudes toward traditional roles, the resistance to notions of religion, the redefinition of marriage by the Danish government, and the embrace of "open" relationships, abortion, atheism, and materialism are partly responsible for this trend towards the extinction of the Danish people!
You know the feeling. A face you catch sight of, a body that demands attention, a lingering glance. Lust is about to take over your body and mind. But how, exactly, does it do that? With a series of dramatic experiments in laboratories across the US and Europe, and even on the streets of Hollywood, The Science of Lust will expose the surprising ways in which lust works ... and how to control it, if and when you need to. Evolutionary psychologist Vlad Griskevicius will prove that lust influences a vast range of human behavior: not just mating, but hundreds of everyday activities, like shopping, artistic creativity, and even how kind we are to one another. Lust, it turns out, is not at work just in the bedroom: it's everywhere, even when we have no idea we're thinking about sex. Geneticist Dean Hamer reveals surprising evidence that some people might be born to lust more than others. And we'll explore the age old battle between lust and love, where psychologist Martie Haselton has discovered some surprising evidence. While it may be true that a healthy sex-life keeps relationships strong, lust for your partner could also make you more likely to cheat.
There is nothing more fascinating than discovering the way our most primal urges determine the majority of our behaviors - without us ever even noticing it!
What is unhappiness? Your intuition might be that it is simply the opposite of happiness, just as darkness is the absence of light. That is not correct. Happiness and unhappiness are certainly related, but they are not actually opposites. Images of the brain show that parts of the left cerebral cortex are more active than the right when we are experiencing happiness, while the right side becomes more active when we are unhappy. While circumstances certainly are important, a better explanation for unhappiness may be our own search for well-being. Have you ever known an alcoholic? They generally drink to relieve craving or anxiety — in other words, to attenuate a source of unhappiness. Yet it is the drink that ultimately prolongs their suffering. The same principle are at work in our pursuit of fame, wealth and pleasure.
People are generally attracted to two forms of happiness: The one that makes us happy, and the other one that doesn't. Make sure you pick the right one : )
By now, perhaps you’ve seen the trailer for the new sci-fi thriller Lucy. It starts with a flurry of stylized special effects and Scarlett Johansson serving up a barrage of bad-guy beatings. Then comes Morgan Freeman, playing a professorial neuroscientist with the obligatory brown blazer, to deliver the film’s familiar premise to a full lecture hall: “It is estimated most human beings only use 10 percent of the brain’s capacity. Imagine if we could access 100 percent. Interesting things begin to happen.” Johansson as Lucy, who has been kidnapped and implanted with mysterious drugs, becomes a test case for those interesting things, which seem to include even more impressive beatings and apparently some kind of Matrix-esque time-warping skills. Of course, the idea that “you only use 10 percent of your brain” is, indeed, 100 hundred percent bogus. Why has this myth persisted for so long, and when is it finally going to die?
It's time to end the myth!: "65 percent of Americans believe the myth is true, 5 percent more than those who believe in evolution. The 10 percent claim is demonstrably false on a number of levels. The entire brain is active all the time. The brain is an organ. Its living neurons, and the cells that support them, are always doing something. (Where’s the “you only use 10 percent of your spleen” myth?). In fact, the entire premise of only “using” a certain proportion of your brain is misguided."
A heavy metal fan has been found to have bleeding in the brain a month after a night of headbanging at a Motorhead concert in Paris.
German doctors who diagnosed the 50-year-old man's bleed say the case is "evidence of Motorhead's reputation as one of the most hardcore rock'n'roll acts on earth" - but also serves as a health warning against headbanging. Neurosurgeons at Hanover Medical School found a small area of bleeding on the right side of his brain, called a chronic subdural haematoma, where blood gathers under the outer membrane of the brain. Emerging from heavy metal's 1970s heyday, headbanging has from time to time been associated with health scares such as whiplash and fractures of a cervical bone called the odontoid.
But the Hanover doctors suggest the risk could be greater.
Appreciate the brain. Cherish the brain. Protect the brain!
"Wow, what a good baby." This is what a nurse told Trish and Steve Gingras after their daughter Gabby was born. The hours-old infant had just slept through a blood draw that pricked her heel with a needle. No one thought much of it at the time, but this seemingly minor incident foretold a challenging and precarious future. That future, as doctors discovered, centered on Gabby's extremely rare condition that does not allow her to feel physical pain. As parents, the Gingras quickly learned that Gabby was not like other children. She compulsively chewed her own hand, mutilating three little fingers. She chewed her own tongue so much that Trish and Steve decided to have Gabby's teeth pulled. She also poked and scratched at her eyes constantly, forcing doctors to remove one and leaving her legally blind. When Gabby was 5 years old, she appeared on "The Oprah Winfrey Show" in 2005 with her older sister Katie and their parents, who explained what life was like for the family. They spoke about dealing with such challenges as her inability to regulate her body temperature and the need to use pediatric arm restraints when she slept. Gabby's childhood seemed hard on everyone.
Most of us do what we can to avoid pain and to seek pleasure and happiness. When we experience pain, we are unhappy and discontent, and with good reason. However, when we experience pain, whether physical or emotional, it's an indication that something is not right and something needs to be adjusted. To not have the ability to experience pain is NOT a blessing or an advantage. Even if you feel pain, try to appreciate that it's there to guide you. Life would be incredibly difficult without it.
People aren't merely social animals in the usual sense, for we don't just live in groups. We live in networks -- and we have done so ever since we emerged from the African savannah. Via intricately branching paths tracing out cascading family connections, friendship ties, and work relationships, we are interconnected to hundreds or even thousands of specific people, most of whom we do not know. We affect them and they affect us. Nicholas Christakis explores how the large-scale, face-to-face social networks in which we are embedded affect our lives, and what we can do to take advantage of this fact.
The power of social networks!
Positive social relationships in childhood and adolescence are key to adult well-being, according to Associate Professor Craig Olsson from Deakin University and the Murdoch Children's Research Institute in Australia, and his colleagues. In contrast, academic achievement appears to have little effect on adult well-being. The exploratory work, looking at the child and adolescent origins of well-being in adulthood, is published online in Springer's Journal of Happiness Studies.
"If these pathways are separate, then positive social development across childhood and adolescence requires investments beyond development of the academic curriculum."
Social connection is a more important route to adult well-being than academic ability. There is a need for a complete change of priorities in our educational systems!
Watch the kids try and figure out how to use a 1970's era computer in another special Old Technology episode!
God bless innovation and modern technology!
Past studies have indicated that many factors may help prolong life; eating nuts every day, increasing fiber intake and getting married are among a few. Now, new research suggests that having a "sense of purpose" in life may help us live longer. Lead study author Patrick Hill, of the Carleton University in Canada, and colleague Nicholas Turiano, of the University of Rochester Medical Center in New York, NY, recently published their findings in the journal Psychological Science. Overall, individuals who reported having a greater purpose in life had a lower mortality risk. The researchers say they were surprised to find that this association was true across all age groups during the follow-up period.
Interesting finding. It's always fascinating to see how our attitudes can predict something as fundamental as our ability to survive. A sense of purpose can boost survival rates. So if you want to live longer, find something to live for! On the other hand, one could argue that if you don't have a sense of purpose in life, what is there to live for?! Accordingly, life takes its course depending on our attitude.
See also: http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/276893.php
appiness isn’t often a big topic of conversation in classrooms. Amidst the rush to meet standards, raise test scores, and provide engaging learning experiences, not to mention the daily chaos of students’ lives, many educators don’t have much time to bring up issues around students’ happiness. But what if students could explore an important life lesson about how to identify and replicate happiness as they’re doing school work? That’s the premise behind New Tech Network’s Global Happiness Project. The driving question behind the project is this: What elements contribute to a happy and healthy society? More than 240 teachers across in 43 states and 11 countries are taking up that challenge.
This is exactly what modern society needs. Conventional education is oriented towards making a living rather than making a life. It focuses on a variety of important disciplines, but rarely does it provide the necessary information and training in terms of how to be happy, how to take control of one's happiness, and how to contribute to the overall happiness of society. This project should be implemented as a vital component in traditional education. Read more about the project here: http://www.newtechnetwork.org/services/resources/global-happiness-project
Education is about being able to meet life's situations. The aim of education is not knowledge but action!
Your brain is the most amazing organ in the universe. Even though it is only 2% of your body’s weight, it uses 20-30% of the calories you consume, and 20% of the oxygen and blood flow in your body. It is the most expensive real estate in your body that requires the most resources. It has 100 billion nerve cells and more connections in it than there are stars in the universe. Your brain, especially the prefrontal cortex, is the organ of judgment, personality, character, and every single decision you make. When your brain works right, you work right, and when your brain is troubled you are much more likely to have trouble in your life. With a healthy brain, people are happier and physically healthier, because they make better decisions, they are wealthier (because they make better decisions – are you beginning to see a pattern?), and more successful in every area of life. When the brain is not healthy, for whatever reason, people are sadder, sicker, poorer, and less successful.
Feed your Brain! It's amazing how often people focus on improving physical health and bodily fitness, and so often neglect the importance of maintaining a health brain. At the same time, people take caution with risky behaviors that may affect their physical functioning, but they show little appreciation of how their behaviors impact on the functions of the brain. Treat your brain like any other organ or muscle in your body. Prioritize it! Value it! Feed it!
Having recently been inundated with apologies (from my students who have waited until the last minute to do an assignment, to my recently ex-girlfriend who cheated on me after being together for over two years), I have begun to re-examine my absolute hatred of the expression, “I’m sorry.” It seems like everywhere I turn I am hearing it casually tossed about as a response to someone’s mistake. In fact, the word is bandied about so much it has become (at least to me) one of the most insincere sentiments available in the English language. We hold it up like a crucifix to ward off responsibility and accountability or to permit incredible acts of stupidity, disloyalty and mistrust on our part like it will make things better (and while we all know it doesn’t, we still insist on throwing it out there like a band-aid on an amputation).
Actually some quite good points raised. Perhaps, banning the word may be an overreaction, but a bit of sincerity is not too much too ask for. Here are a couple of recommendations to both providers and recipients of apologies:
1) Don't apologize if you don't mean it. If you do so, it's disrespectful and offensive. If you are inclined to use the word "but" after the apology, you probably shouldn't apologize in the first place. A real apology should assume personal responsibility.
2) Don't expect or demand an apology from someone, if that person does not actually feel remorse or show signs of regret. Try to understand that even if you were unfairly treated or harmed, an apology is only valuable insofar as the other person truly understands and agrees that he or she did something wrong.
3) Whether that person apologizes or not, you need to accept, forgive, and move on. This is not for his or her sake, but for your own. Don't hold on to a grudge - it's a bad deal!
What if I told you that as a man you are only tapping into 5% of your sexual abilities. It is a extremely unknown fact that men of all ages can experience multiple orgasm’s, not only intensifying their sexual pleasure, but satisfying their partner to levels they have never imagined. The Multi Orgasmic Man is essentially a how to guide for any man to experience multiple orgasm’s and dramatically enhance his sex life. No matter what age you are, this power is lying inside you. The key to it all is in the fact that ejaculation and orgasm are actually two completely separate phenomenons, that with the right training can be separated.
It is this separation that allows you to experience orgasm after orgasm without ejaculation and the dreaded refractory period (loss of an erection).
Why, oh, why, did we not learn this stuff in school....?!! : )