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It's Not About The Nail

"Don't try to fix it. I just need you to listen." Every man has heard these words. And they are the law of the land. No matter what.
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Communication is SO HARD sometimes!!!!!!

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No Comprende

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The dark side of my genetics left me with a propensity for ear infections, a fat head and eustacian tubes that failed to drain.  I passed this on to my cherubs.  They've had 8 sets of tubes prior to age 4 between them.  Their hearing appears to have been spared.  Thankfully.  

 

Ear infections literally  feel like your brain is on fire.  The pain gets worse when you are flat (sleeping).  A popped eardrum means the pain is gone.  But it also means infection to brain is possible and scar tissue and lousy hearing is on the horizon.  Mine popped about a dozen times before I walked into the doors of a classroom.  I never slept.  Scar tissue ruins sound conduction.  Repeated infections ruin tiny ear bones.  All of that was a mess between my little ears.  

 

I spent the majority of my elementary and middle school years only hearing some from one ear.  I mastered lip reading and "smiling and nodding". Language frustrated me.  I learned more from body language and experience than I did from words.   I became highly visual; colors and patterns were fascinating.  Talking about what you know is  a chore when you think in complex pictures .  Nobody sees what you do; you can't possibly describe what you see.  Why bother?

 

At 14, I discovered that I did not hear in one ear because I fell asleep to music.  One ear mostly worked; the other mostly didn't.  I wore hearing aids for 2 decades.  I sobbed the first time I heard the wind while driving from my left ear.  

 

AT almost 50, verbal language is still an irritation.  I  find it difficult to describe what I know with words.  I want to "copy and paste" the pictures in my head and delete the part in between where people ask questions about tiny  (seemingly unimportant) details.  They want to know in words.  I mostly "know"  in pictures.  I can often "show" them.  They often want a list.  Urgh................

 

 

 

 

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Empathy Without Boundaries - New York Times (blog)

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Empathy Without Boundaries
New York Times (blog)
Jean McFee Raichle, 94, is a remarkably cheerful woman. She lives in an assisted living center in Seattle staffed by aides who are warm and nurturing.
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Emotional contagion is problematic.  

 

"“If we are calm, we can bring people with dementia to a calm place,” he said. “And if we are anxious, we can amp people up.”"


Staying calm is vital.  

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Ivon Prefontaine's curator insight, June 6, 2013 10:01 PM

We need more empathy in our daily llves.

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8 Tips to Encourage Engagement With Students | Edmodo – Where ...

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This is a guest post from Albert Roberts, a secondary school teacher in Essex, UK. If you are interested in contributing to the Edmodo Blog, please complete this form.


Via Bethan Morgan
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Great tips!

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4 Traits Of Extraordinary Bosses

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You must possess these four traits if you want to succeed as a boss.

Via Dionne, David Hain
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Four tips to ponder!

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AlGonzalezinfo's curator insight, June 2, 2013 9:11 AM

I would add "being willing to be wrong" to the Collabortative Spirit on the list.  Many managers get hung up on being right instead of accepting their mistakes and allowing others to lead.  

 

From the article:

 

1. Authenticity: Every leader faces the temptation to project a persona rather than be themselves. They think that to maintain the confidence of their team, they must appear faultless, flawless and wise. Yet most organizations need an authentic leader, not a perfect one. Today's leader must develop the art of self-awareness.

 

Quit trying to emulate someone else and start being yourself. Share and be honest about your own struggles.

 

By doing this, you'll immediately gain influence.

Scott Span, MSOD's curator insight, June 3, 2013 12:52 PM

What traits do you possess? 

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Dr. Neil deGrasse Tyson on Animal Intelligence and Human Empathy | Watch Now

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Dr. Neil deGrasse Tyson, American astrophysicist and director of the Hayden Planetarium, discusses the human-animal connection from a scientific standpoint. Learn more: http://bit.ly/oxaKho
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Love this guy!  

 

Having pets  is one of the best moves parents can make.  They teach children to love.  They teach empathy.  They teach children to think about something other than themselves.......

 

Reading, writing, 'rithmetic and empathy!

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Why The “10,000 Hour Rule” Isn’t Actually A Rule

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My post earlier this week on the validity of the “10,000 hour rule” received a lot of attention, so I thought I would point my readers to this piece by Scott Barry Kaufman, an NYU psychology professor, Scientific American blogger, and author of the...
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I have actually observed that there is a perseverative quality to the behavior I see in people who WILL spend that time practicing ONE thing.  This is neither good nor bad........just an observation.  

 

Curiosity and inquisitiveness is in there.  These people tend to seek answers to questions.  But I have also observed that they bail on the topic/interest once they learn all they want to (or run out of questions).  

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Why Millennials Will Be The Generation 'To Save Us All'

Why Millennials Will Be The Generation 'To Save Us All' | Potpourri | Scoop.it
They're entitled idealists.
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1.  They believe they can change the world

2.  They don't believe in hierarchy

3.  They are resourceful and adaptable

4.  They want to have a sense of a mission

5.  They think before they act

 

Perfect!  

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Ivon Prefontaine's curator insight, May 19, 2013 11:02 AM

I think it is an oversimplification to think one group is better suited to 'save the world'. We are all in this together.

Mary Perfitt-Nelson's comment, May 19, 2013 9:39 PM
Ivon- in my lifetime, I've not seen the kind of "fear" regarding the future as I have with this young group of kids. Having hope is a good thing, regardless.
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Barking At Print

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I spent the afternoon with some of my favorite females:  my mother, my sister, my daughter and my niece.  What a great group! 

 

My 9 month old niece is read to like crazy, of course, since her mother and aunt are educators.  We know the importance!  

 

We gave her a book today and I belly-laughed as she tried to get the pages open and began grunting "words" with each page.  "The beginnings" of reading.  Amazing thing to see in a baby.

 

 

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The Draining Worry Habit and How to Overcome It

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Image by amira_a (license). “Worry often gives a small thing a big shadow.” Swedish Proverb One of the most common and subtly – or not so subtly – destructive habits people get wrapped up in must be worrying.
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Worrying is a choice.  

 

Solving the problem is an option we can choose, instead.  Once you make a decision go with it and don't look back.  

 

 

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Scientific Proof that Trees Make Us Happier | Nature on GOOD

Scientific Proof that Trees Make Us Happier | Nature on GOOD | Potpourri | Scoop.it
A tree-lined neighborhood doesn't just look good, it actually makes you happier. That's the conclusion of a major study in the UK that followed 10,000 Brits—for 17 years—as they moved around the country.
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So true!  

 

Driving through impoverished, urban areas, I wonder what it would be like to grow, from your earliest years, in an environment like that.  As a child, I recall driving from our very middle class neighborhood to visit my aunt in an upper middle class area.  The difference, through my 8 year old eyes:  everything was green and pretty.  

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Deborah McNelis's curator insight, April 30, 2013 5:53 PM

Brains need nature!

Lon Woodbury's curator insight, April 30, 2013 6:27 PM

Living in north Idaho, I personally can attest to the benefits of looking out the window and seeing many, many trees, or better yet, the benefits of simply taking a walk down our tree lined dirt lane. -Lon

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Tension Problem

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The weight of a crate is 566 newtons. Find the tension in each of the supporting cables shown in the figure. The Newton is the unit used for Force and is equivalent to the force required to give a ...
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My son's blog around math, physics and music (why not!)  


"The weight of a crate is 566 newtons. Find the tension in each of the supporting cables shown in the figure. "



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Malcolm Gladwell: Albert O. Hirschman and the Power of Failure

Malcolm Gladwell: Albert O. Hirschman and the Power of Failure | Potpourri | Scoop.it
Hirschman made his arguments without mathematical formulas or complex models. His subject was economics, but his spirit was literary.
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Creativity.........and learning...........comes via mistakes, failures and roadblocks.  Some people avoid them; others embrace them.  

 

"Creativity always comes as a surprise to us; therefore we can never count on it and we dare not believe in it until it has happened. In other words, we would not consciously engage upon tasks whose success clearly requires that creativity be forthcoming. Hence, the only way in which we can bring our creative resources fully into play is by misjudging the nature of the task, by presenting it to ourselves as more routine, simple, undemanding of genuine creativity than it will turn out to be."

 

" People don’t seek out challenges, he went on. They are “apt to take on and plunge into new tasks because of the erroneously presumed absence of a challenge—because the task looks easier and more manageable than it will turn out to be.”"

 

This, I believe, is a critical life mistake:  fearing failure; fearing challenge; fearing obstacles.  

 

From M. Scott Peck:  

 

“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”

 

“We must be willing to fail and to appreciate the truth that often "Life is not a problem to be solved, but a mystery to be lived.” 
― M. Scott Peck

 

 

 

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The Structural Genocide That Is Capitalism

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The internal logic of capitalism results in structural violence that includes genocide, a review of Garry Leech's new book argues.
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"the catastrophic scale of violence for which this system is responsible can be considered nothing less than genocidal, however shocking such a conclusion might prove to be."


Money, money, money, money...........

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Why Finnish babies sleep in cardboard boxes

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Why Finnish babies sleep in cardboard boxes

Via Jocelyn Stoller
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I completely love this!

 

" Pulma says, the box is a symbol. A symbol of the idea of equality, and of the importance of children."

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11 Ways To Make Your Mindfulness Practice Stick

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When the fact that I teach mindfulness comes up in conversation, a frequent response is “Oh, I LOVE meditating... but I can’t get myself to practice.” Then there’s a guilty look, as if they’ve been a

Via Ivon Prefontaine
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This is about being truly present, which can be a gift!  

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Ivon Prefontaine's curator insight, June 5, 2013 9:39 AM

We need mindfulness more today than ever.

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Creativity as Connecting Dots

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DARE - CARE - SHARE: Brainpickings is by far my most treasured source of inspiration. This piece + video on connecting the dots should be an eyeopener to everyone - finally someone talks about the ability to connect the dots as a skill set!


Via Kenneth Mikkelsen, David Hain, Ivon Prefontaine
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Worth watching......

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Ivon Prefontaine's curator insight, June 1, 2013 11:21 PM

This is a pretty interesting article.

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Brilliant Leaders Use This Type of Humor (Hint: Think Woody Allen)

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Great leaders tend to be funny in a particular way, new research shows. (Are you a funny leader?

Via Dr. Susan Bainbridge
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Correcting Students’ Misconceptions About College

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Early college counseling—as early as middle school—is essential to students’ aspirations for attending college, according to new study from the National Association for College Admission Counseling (NACAC).
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Great article.  

 

In my personal life, college was not an option.  It was the expectation, early.  I never thought there were other choices.  I thank my mother for this as she feared her daughters might aim for the Mrs. degree and find themselves SOL at 40 if things didn't pan out (her story).  

 

 

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Making Mistakes : NPR

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We try so hard to be perfect, to never make mistakes and to avoid failure at all costs. But mistakes happen — and when they do — how do we deal with being wrong?
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""When we start losing our tolerance for vulnerability, uncertainty, for risk — we move away from the things we need and crave the most like joy and love and belonging, trust, empathy, creativity." — Brené Brown"


Most of the greatest successes in medicine are borne out of mistakes.


SHAME is the fear of disconnection.  WOW .  We MUST be allowed to be seen.  Really seen.  Vulnerability is key.  The "wholehearted" walk into vulnerability.  


Vulnerability is NOT weakness.  It is our most accurate measurement of courage.  


I'm not sure we can BE creative if we aren't courageous and vulnerable.  Te be human is to be vulnerability.  


Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.  

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Ivon Prefontaine's curator insight, May 13, 2013 6:48 PM

We need to help children develop resiliency and find out mistakes are OK. We will make them.

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Giving love away

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This is a picture of my beloved Fitzgerald. His litter was planned two years in advance. His parents were born with my love and guidance. He represents more than a decade of my attention and energy . I gave him to a friend. Both of their lives are now better. I breed hairless sphynx cats, primarily, for a small group of us who love the animals but are quite allergic to their dander. Most of us are fine with Sphynx. I have about one litter yearly . Kittens leave us well- mothered and well-socialized to kids and dogs. Loving a sphynx is mutually beneficial, as you can see. Cannot picture life without these guys here to celebrate. They do get a little excited over butterflies, after all!

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The Story of Our Time

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A refresher on our economic woes, and why this is a very bad time for cuts.
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this is a time for above-normal government spending

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A 75-Year Harvard Study Finds What It Takes To Live A Happy Life

A 75-Year Harvard Study Finds What It Takes To Live A Happy Life | Potpourri | Scoop.it
Insights from the landmark Grant Study.

Via Sandeep Gautam, David Hain, Ivon Prefontaine
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Love, relationships, and MOM!  : )  

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Ivon Prefontaine's curator insight, April 26, 2013 7:12 PM

"“The seventy-five years and twenty million dollars expended on the Grant Study points … to a straightforward five-word conclusion: ‘Happiness is love. Full stop.’ ”

 
Cathryn Wellner's comment, April 28, 2013 1:39 PM
The secret? "Happiness is love. Full stop!" Ahhhh
Cathryn Wellner's curator insight, April 28, 2013 1:39 PM

The secret? "Happiness is love. Full stop!" Ahhhh