How Emotionally Intelligent People Deal With Toxic People
Elysian Training's insight:
When Daniel Goleman popularised the idea of emotional intelligence it opened a conversation that has become the basis for modern organisational culture. We now take for granted that a person’s attitude and behavioural ‘style’ play a critical role in selecting, retaining and promoting employees. This new focus combined with work in the field of positive psychology allowed organisations for the first time to prioritise employee engagement and drive the recognition that the emotional experience of work profoundly impacts an organisations productivity.
Despite these huge strides forward one unfortunate fact has remained constant regardless of how fantastic your workplace culture… there will still be some people who are negative or with whom you just don’t connect. Even with significant organisational efforts it seems some of these ‘toxic’ people remain. The issue of ‘toxicity’ in businesses is well documented and in particular the disastrous effects of toxic leadership. For more on this subject read the excellent book “The allure of toxic leaders” by Jean Lipman-Blumen.
We must remember that the toxic person may not appear that way to others and perhaps we may well be part of the problem. Worse still, to others on bad days, we ourselves may appear toxic!
Intelligence, or a person’s cognitive ability to understand and deal with complex problems in a rational and purposeful way, is undoubtedly a huge asset in the workplace, and is crucial in dealing effectively with work demands and challenges.
There is a lot of great information out there in the world, but in a world where we need to focus more and more on developing the “whole child”, if our entire life revolves around education all of the time, I am not sure we are modelling “appropriate use” ourselves. Not using something is also part of the appropriate use as we move forward. There will always be something “awesome”, but to try to use everything is not possible or helpful in the long term.
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The average tech CEO works about 300 days a year, 14 hours a day. That’s 4,200 hours a year.
The stats for most other tech leaders and startup employees aren’t too far off. It sounds like a lot of time, but for most, it’s not enough. Nearly 30% of that time gets sunk into email. Another third gets spent in meetings--and studies show that half of those hours are completely wasted.
It is hard to find people who do not complain about their work or colleagues. But when probed further, you will find that many want to do work that is fulfilling, and collaborate better with colleagues.
When it comes to productivity, we all face the same challenge—there are only 24 hours in a day.Yet some people seem to have twice the time; they have an uncanny ability to get things done. Even when juggling multiple projects, they reach their goals without fail.
It’s really hard to talk about failure. The "Admitting Failure" website, connected to engineering failure stories at its creation, hopes to change that.
...acknowledging failure is often a catalyst for innovation... _____________________
It is painful for civil society organizations to acknowledge when we don’t meet our goals and objectives... The paradox is that we do everything we can to avoid these pains even though we all know failure is the best teacher and we have to be open and talk about our failures in order to learn. ....acknowledging failure is often a catalyst for innovation that takes our work from good to great.
To address this conundrum we need a paradigm shift in how civil society views failure. We think this starts with open and honest dialogue about what is working and what isn’t so Admitting Failure exists to support and encourage organizations to (not surprisingly) admit failure.
ad·mit /ədˈmit/ verb: 1. To concede as true or valid <admit responsibility for a failure> 2. To allow entry <admit failure into the organization, allowing a safe space for dialogue>
Fear, embarrassment, and intolerance of failure drives our learning underground and hinders innovation.
No more. Failure is strength. The most effective and innovative organizations are those that are willing to speak openly about their failures because the only truly “bad” failure is one that’s repeated.
Related posts by Deb on Learning and Failure:
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