"As parents, this is also a critical step to do for our children. Truly successful parents are those who can maximise their children’s capabilities, not those who can achieve the highest goals at the expense of their childhood.
The first step is to encourage our kids to find and understand their own strengths and weaknesses. We must also stop the urge to compare their academic performance or behaviours with siblings, friends or worst, their cousins.
While we can point out other people’s achievements or good behaviours, we must be very careful in doing so because children will pick up the wrong signals. If we say things like “Why can’t you be more like your cousins?” the children may read that the parents prefer their cousins to them. That is a very bad signal as it will definitely damage the good parent-child relationships. When this happens, it is very hard to get back on track and we may have temporarily lost their trust."
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SMART PARENTING: Stop comparing, start living
New Straits TimesBy Zaid Mohamad