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What Judge is going to give me custody? I'm the dad. | N.C. Family ...

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I found this article interesting because I do not yet find this to be the situation in Rhode Island.   As a North Carolina family court blog I wondered if this was more a projection of one lawyer's take on what is or may be happening or if it is merely a perspective because of a few recent cases a North Carolina lawyer has seen.  

 

What peeked my curiosity as well as my ire a bit was the phrase something to the effect that the "allowing a father to be more active." 

 

When should we have EVER been allowed to be more active in our child's lives?  What have the court's been doing?  Well, even as is implied by the blog post, the courts have been stripping us of our fatherhood!  How nice that we aren't equal with the mothers for no reason at all!  I've seen many men who are more caring than the mother but they still get relegated to second place.

 

Does that mean I'm anti-mom?  Far from it!  Some mothers are absolutely fantastic and I admire them so much for all they do is just phenomenal.  So what is my position?  Both parents should always be equal and always "should have been so" but the court's haven't taken that tact. 

 

I can boil my position down pretty easily.  I'm anti-dad if the dad isn't doing what's best for the kids and is basically being and obvious jerk to the mother and/or to the children.

 

Conversely (sorry... fairly ill today so it's taking me longer to think of the words I want....) I'm anti-mom if she's just downing the father, alienating the children from their father, declining dad his parenting time and generally just hurting the kids because she still hates her ex-husband or boyfriend.  In other words, she's not doing what is best for the children.

 

Yet it should always start out with both the mother and the father having equal time with the children unless that would not work for some reason due to work or because the parents do not co-parent well, etc.   

 

For now, I continue to see mothers as being favored simply because they are mothers even when some fathers are better mothers than the mothers are.

 

I can only hope it changes.

 

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Wanneer leert Spruijt het? Of blijven ze aanknoeien in de Nederlandse politiek, in Familierecht,

inzake al dan niet opzettellijke vadervervreemding NB wat in verreweg de meeste gevallen Kindermishandeling is gepleegd door vrouwen, veelal.....

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Another Mom Whose Daughter is Stolen Thru Parental Alienation, Her Situation:

Another Mom Whose Daughter is Stolen Thru Parental Alienation, Her Situation: | Parental Alienation and Family Court | Scoop.it
"I am desperately trying to get my 12 year old daughter back home. My ex-husband, who is a police officer, kidnapped her out of school 14 months ago and I have been trying to get her back ever sinc...
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I'm glad you are speaking out mom.  Unfortunately I have to agree with you that many times the court is blinded by the occupation of the parent to his creating the alienation. The core fails to see that the parent was not involved with the child prior to a particular incident in question (as you indicated in your article) but rather the court merely looks  at the situation as it stands the moment  it is before him or her.

 

 While I have a great deal of respect for law enforcement officers in general, I have seen law-enforcement officers who abuse their position in order to advance their own personal goals. Sometimes those personal goals do involve hurting their former spouse or the mother of their child. Sometimes the court is blinded by this either by the law enforcement officers position itself or by the attorney who represents the law enforcement officer. In some instances the court is even blinded by the personal biases of the judge who may for one reason or another have a "pro-law enforcement" mindset.

 

What is most disturbing about your article is the portion that you indicate in bold, namely that it is the parent who has the most money to drag out the family law battle that ultimately wins.

 

 Regrettably, I do find this to be true in many cases. I have represented several mothers in which the father had substantial funds at his disposal while the mother continued to struggle as the placement parent to provide for several children. Many mothers will even exhaust their retirement accounts and take tax penalties because they care for their children so much. While this is also true of many fathers, I make note of it with respect to mothers here simply because I recall specific mothers in the course of my representation history with gone the extra mile for their children only to be left out on a lurch by the justice system when the father and his attorney needlessly drag the proceedings out and exhaust the mother's finances.

 

I continue to encourage you to speak out and to tell your story as it relates to the alienation of your child(ren).   One significant factor  that I do suggest you take into consideration is whether or not you have traditionally been "alienated" from your daughter or whether you may in fact be partly "estranged" from your daughter, and lastly whether  and injustice has been rendered against you by the legal system itself in order to obtain your daughter. There is most certainly a difference in the definition and the understanding of each of these different concepts.

 

Notwithstanding the circumstances, my heart goes out to you as you struggle to remain connected with your daughter in light of all the circumstances.

 

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Parental Alienation Syndrome

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Parental Alienation Syndrome is the deliberate attempt by one parent to distance his/her children from the other parent.
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A very good article to help people understand the basics of Parental Alienation.  It is often not accepted as a "Syndrome" and yet parental alienation is a very real phenomenon regardless of whether it is accepted by the Psychiatric or Psychological Community.

 

Understanding it properly is a good part of the battle since, as I have learned from bitter experience as a Rhode Island Family Lawyer that it can be very insidious, manipulative and as deeply pathological and narcisstic as a serial killer.  Yet, this is only learned through experience and conscientious study.

 

This is a good primer for understanding Parental Alienation.  I highly recommend reading it.

 

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False Memory Syndrome in Parental Alienation Syndrome

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False Memory Syndrome sometimes occurs in Parental Alienation Syndrome. Difficult for many to comprehend, false memory syndrome has been documented in an award-winning book Jeopardy in the Courtroo...
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False memory Syndrome. but is it real?  What do I mean by that?  Right now the American Psychological and Psychiatric and Medical Associations are on the fence and the Parental Alienation Syndrome isn't in the latest DSM manual so many courts are saying that because of that it doesn't exist.  That doesn't help alienated parents at all who sure as hell know it's real but can't get courts and professionals to wake up and get the picture.

 

 There are many problems underlying the AMA and APA sitting on their hands.  Some are political, some are court related repercussions and legal pressures from outside.  For many of us who are subject to this conduct, it seems like bullshit.  Pardon my language but the failure to put a decent commentary or discussion of Parental Alienation in the latest DSM is truly an insult and does an injustice to all the parents and children going through this traumatic family struggle.

 

The medical profession and the courts need to get on track here.  Daily there are thousands of families being destroyed by this tragedy.and our nation will be torn apart while the american family is torn to shreds and values disintegrate and hatred and the same alienation charateristics are passed on to our children who may think this conduct is all right.  

 

Let's wake up medical profession.  Time to be accountable legal profession.  You have the power to deal with this.  We can't take it into our own hands for fear of domestic violence and criminal charges.  You're failing us.... You're failing our children.

 

If you look at the best interests of the children and you can't see what's going on then I'll help you out with some glasses.  Reading glasses are $14.99 a pair at RiteAid.  A small price to pay to save a family or a parent, or a child or a future generation.

 

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Parental Alienation and Domestic Violence by Proxy – How Estranged Parents Heal

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I recently made a post on our Facebook page about making a child feel that it is not safe to love both parents equally. It is so clear that this creates psychological damage that destroys the child from the inside out.
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I am a strong advocate against parental alienation as a result of the destruction it causes.  It creates dysfunctional children, dysfunctional parents, maladjusted future teens and adolescents, and later dysfunctional new parents and grandparents.  Parental Alienation, especially when it is intentionally inflicted, is nothing short of child abuse.    Yet the parents who also end up victims of this very real epidemic need to heal.  Remaining aware through professionals who deal with these things is one of the best things you can do.

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Rhode Island Divorce Lawyers | Affordable RI Divorce Lawyer Christopher A. Pearsall: To Stop Parental Alienation You Must Understand It!

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Beat Parental Alienation by understanding Parental Alienation and the many ways in which it occurs!
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Parental alienation destroys parents, it destroys children, it destroys families, it destroys role models, it turns future generations into maladjusted parents.  Understand it, understand what it does to you, understand what it does to your child, understand that it is not the answer to anything except the further destruction of the very best part of our world.... love.

 

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Yours, Mine & Ours: Parental Alienation

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What is Parental Alienation? Probably not a term most people have heard unless they have. dealt with a nasty custody battle. After a divorce, when one parent seeks to keep his or her child. or children from the other parent by ...
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Here is the Article so you don't have to hunt for it but of course you can click to see the source article. Parental Alienation This is not the type of post I usually put on this blog,  but this is something we are dealing with right now. I've done hours of research on this topic and didn't want to let it go to waste. Its a long read but hopefully it will help someone in a similar situation as ours. (By the way I got an "A" on this paper in my Advanced Comp class) Woot woot! I'll have another post coming soon that will tell our story.


The Effects of Parental Alienation on Children of Divorce 

     What is Parental Alienation? Probably not a term most people have heard unless they have dealt with a nasty custody battle. After a divorce, when one parent seeks to keep his or her child or children from the other parent by any means necessary, it is called parental alienation.
Parental Alienation Syndrome or PAS can also be described as brainwashing a child into thinking one parent is good and one is bad. This behaviour is detrimental to a child and some consider it abuse. It must be recognized by all as abuse, punished and stopped before any more children are hurt. Despite opposition, PA cannot be allowed to continue for the sake of children everywhere.
     Michael Bone and Michael Walsh, in an article written for the Florida Bar Journal, give four main criteria to use in detecting PAS. One or all of these criteria may be present. Criteria one involves blocking the child from access to the absent parent. This may involve restricting phone time, intercepting mail, taking away gifts sent to the child or more. In court the guilty party may argue that they are a better parent, have better parental judgement and visiting the absent parent upsets the children or they have a hard time adjusting when they come home. Criteria two involves false allegations. These are most commonly allegations of abuse, especially sexual abuse. An alienating parent may also accuse the other parent of emotional abuse, this is usually over a simple parenting disagreement. For example, one parent may let the child stay up late once or twice and the alienating parent says this is detrimental to the child’s health.      Criteria three involves a decline in relationship between child and alienated parent after the divorce. If there was a good relationship prior to separation, and it suddenly declines this is a sure sign.  A healthy parent/child relationship does not just change on its own unless it is attacked.      Criteria four involves a fear reaction by the child. The alienating parent may “punish” the child for talking favourably about the absent parent or expressing excitement about visitation with the absent parent. The parent may also shut the child up if they want to talk about fun things they did at absent parent’s house. Contrarily, the alienating parent will be all ears if the child has something negative to say about the other parent. Over a fairly short amount of time the child may start to show fear of visiting the absent parent and/or say only negative things about them (Bone and Walsh 44).
     If a child is subject to PA, the alienating parent should immediately be punished. It isn’t always that easy though. There are only a few cases where PA is punished. This is because there is some major opposition. While many experts have proven the existence of PA, the American Psychology Association refuses to classify it as a mental disorder or even acknowledge it in their manual of mental illnesses. They believe it is a relationship issue and not a “Syndrome” or illness.      A major argument against recognizing PAS in courts is the fact that an abusive parent will sometimes accuse the other parent of PA to take the attention off his or her abusive behaviour. David Cary, in an article in the Boston Globe, includes a quote from the Nationa Organization of Women, ‘‘The truth is that parental alienation really is a dangerous and cleverly marketed legal strategy that has caused much harm to victims of abuse.’’ Not all women feel this way, but since most of the perpetrators of PA are women, many of them do. Another argument is that proving PA in court is not financially worth it since attorneys can charge more billable hours, and an expert witness has to be paid as well. If PA is recognized as a crime it opens the door for false allegations and/or punishing the innocent, as with any crime.
    We must realize, however, that PA is extremely detrimental to a child and some consider it abuse. “Any attempt at alienating the children from the other parent should be seen as a direct and willful violation of one of the prime duties of parenthood.” (Bones and Wash 44)      Anna Lavadera, Stefano Ferrcuti and Marisa Togliatti, professors at the University of Rome, in Italy, did a study on how PAS affected children. They studied 12 psychological reports where PAS had been diagnosed. They also studied 12 reports where there was no PAS diagnosis. Their results found that the alienating parent was always the one who had the most custody. They also found that the children diagnosed with PAS had identity problems and showed manipulative tendencies (Lavadara, Ferracuti and Togliatti 1)      Amy Baker and Naomi Ben-Ami did a study on 118 adults who had been children of divorce. Those who had been subjected to alienation strategies were found to have lower self-esteem, higher rates of depression, insecure attachments and in some a higher rate of alcohol abuse (Baker and Ben-Ami 1). They also found that parents who constantly made negative remarks to the child about the targeted parent lowered the child’s self-esteem dramatically. The child translated these negative remarks into the idea that if one parent is bad, he or she must be half bad because they were half of their parent (Baker and Ben-Ami 3).      Many alienating parents or even divorced parents make nasty remarks about the other parent thinking they may turn the child against the other parent. In reality, all they are doing is tearing that child down. 
     One would think after hearing the effects of PA, people would take it more seriously The problem of PA is a hard one to solve since some professionals deny it even exists. The first step in helping the victims of PA would be to have it recognized as a clear form of child abuse. Onceit has been established as a real problem by both psychologists and legal professionals alike, it will be easier to diagnose and then prove in court. Brainwashing happens over time, so early diagnosis of PA is important. Immediate judicial action can then stop it in its tracks. Some may think 50/50 custody is the only solution needed. While equal custody is the right idea and should be implemented, alone, it is not likely to stop the alienating parent from their actions.      There needs to be consequences enforced as well. “It is our feeling that when attempted PA has been identified, successful or not, it will contaminate and quietly control all other parenting issues and then lead only to unhappiness, frustration and, lastly, parental estrangement.” (Bones and Walsh 44) PA and bona fide abuse must also be differentiated from each other.      A good indicator of PA versus abuse is to take a look at how the parents respond to bringing in a neutral examiner. A parent who is guilty of PA will usually be unwilling to cooperate; the same with  a truly abusive parent. One difference between the two, however, is that an Alienator will be willing to bring in their own examiner who has only had a chance to speak with them and not the other parent. An abusive parent will be unwilling for any examiner to be brought in for fear their abusive behaviour may be found out. (Gardner 100)
      It must be concluded that first of all, Parental Alienation is a serious matter; it needs to be recognized as a genuine syndrome, and the perpetrator swiftly punished for his or her crime. PA causes devastating effects on children and their alienated parent, and while there is a margin forerror in diagnosing or convicting, the harmful effects simply outweigh everything else.  

Works Cited

Ben-Ami, Naomi, and L. "The Long-Term Correlates Of Childhood Exposure To Parental Alienation On Adult Self-Sufficiency And Well-Being." American Journal Of Family Therapy 40.2 (2012): 169-183. CINAHL Plus with Full Text. Web. 21 July 2013.
Bone, Michael J., and Walsh, Michael R. “Parental Alienation Syndrome: How to Detect It and What to Do About It.” The Florida Bar Journal Vol. 73 (1999): pg. 44-48. Web. 20 July 2013
Crary, David. “Psychiatric Group: Parental Alienation no disorder” Boston.com, 21 September 2012. Web. 31 July 2013
Gardner, Richard A. "Differentiating Between Parental Alienation Syndrome And Bona Fide Abuse-Neglect." American Journal Of Family Therapy 27.2 (1999): 97.Psychology and Behavioral Sciences Collection. Web. 3 Aug. 2013.
Lavadera Lubrano, Anna, and Ferracuti, Stefano, and Malagoli Togliatti, Marisa, Parental Alienation Syndrome in Italian legal judgments: An exploratory study, International Journal of Law and Psychiatry, Volume 35, Issue 4, July–August 2012, Pages 334-342, ISSN 0160-2527
Lowenstein, Ludwig F. "Attachment Theory And Parental Alienation." Journal Of Divorce & Remarriage 51.3 (2010): 157-168. SocINDEX with Full Text. Web. 20 July 2013.
Morrison, SL et al. "Parental Alienation, DSM-V, And ICD-11." American Journal Of Family     Therapy 38.2 (2010): 76-187. CINAHL Plus with Full Text. Web. 21 July 2013.  This is a fantastic summary that illicits all that I have seen in court proceeds regarding both the manipulating parent and the manipulated child, both of whom I can spot after significant observation or investigation into the facts of the case. What is sad to no end is that our conduct of ethics as attorneys prevents us from doing much of anything against our client even when we discover what they are doing to the child because we have a paramount duty to protect the client and preserve his or her legal interests in the matter. My question is this!  What about the child?  What duty do we have to the children in our society as officers of the court and not just as lawyers for our clients.  Are we not creating a greater injustice by allowing the allenation of another parent and the torture of a child to continue? Somehow we must find a way to stop this and for my part I will do what I can to make the judiciary aware of this horrible abuse being waged against defenseless children. Isn't it time we as attorneys or judges looked deeper than the surface to discover what is going on and stop it before not just one child but generations of children are damaged?   ** Links About Divorce and Family Law Practice in RI to Help You **
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Children's Rights: Alienation is a verifiable Psychiatric condition - The new Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM 5) helps our children!

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This is a decent posting.  The problematic issue is that too much is being placed on the DSM-5 and it's publication.  It's almost like Columbus.  Everyone believed that the world was flat and that is what was published and taught but Columbus and many of his followers tried to teach people that it didn't make sense.  They were heralded is lunatics and nuts and heretics in there day because they were challenging what people knew and taught.  Heck, if the world weren't flat they'd have to figure out what to teach the kids.  And they'd have to fund expeditions to other places that might cost a hell of a lot more because then no one would be stopped by the fear of "only going so far" and that would cost more money.  They would also have to determine who owned what and how far their "territory went."  What would the teachers say to children who asked what shape the world was?  How would they explain how the world could be round?  How would they explain gravity and why the water still sticks to the earth if it were round?  If the world were round it would literally unravel everything people believed in and make them scared and think too much.  So there was what was printed and accepted "dogma" of Columbus day that he had to deal with.

 

Today we have the DSM-5 and if the powers that be that in publishing it are too worried about describing it, explaining it, treating it, dealing with what lawyers might do with it, dealing with whether insurers might not pay for it's diagnosis and treatment, etc.... then people want to say "it's not valid, it doesn't exist.  It's been discredited.  Or.... if it's real then why isn't it in the DSM-5 then?

 

People need to remember that there are lots of Columbuses out there on this one.... not just one or two or 50 or even 100.  There are MANY who believe it should be in the DSM-5 but their opinion didn't make the cut.  Or they just aren't the majority yet.  Or the other therapists say there isn't enough empirical data to warrant findings.  Or there is confusion about the definition and the exact words that should be used to protect the mental health community.  Remember, these people who publish this DSM-5 place there reputation on what is in there.  What happens if they are wrong?  They might get sued or ridiculed or lose their cherrished place of high regard among their peers.

 

Let's remember.... just because it is not yet in the DSM-5 has absolutely nothing to do with whether it exists or not.  If that were the case then those who argued that there is no such thing as Post-Traumatic-Stress Disorder didn't exist until it was published in the version of the DSM for that correct time.  The fact is.... it was always there for years before it was even considered.... it just wasn't in that particular book at that time.

 

Parental alienation is real.  It's been real for a long time.  It may take time for the mental health community to go through the red tape of getting the words right so they cover their own butts and figure out how they mutually agree on treatment so they will be paid for it, but it's there nonetheless.  Parental Alienation like many other things in this world is caught up in the red tape of humanity while good parents and children suffer and families are destroyed.  

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This is a decent posting.  The problematic issue is that too much is being placed on the DSM-5 and it's publication.  It's almost like Columbus.  Everyone believed that the world was flat and that is what was published and taught but Columbus and many of his followers tried to teach people that it didn't make sense.  They were heralded is lunatics and nuts and heretics in there day because they were challenging what people knew and taught.  Heck, if the world weren't flat they'd have to figure out what to teach the kids.  And they'd have to fund expeditions to other places that might cost a hell of a lot more because then no one would be stopped by the fear of "only going so far" and that would cost more money.  They would also have to determine who owned what and how far their "territory went."  What would the teachers say to children who asked what shape the world was?  How would they explain how the world could be round?  How would they explain gravity and why the water still sticks to the earth if it were round?  If the world were round it would literally unravel everything people believed in and make them scared and think too much.  So there was what was printed and accepted "dogma" of Columbus day that he had to deal with.

 

Today we have the DSM-5 and if the powers that be that in publishing it are too worried about describing it, explaining it, treating it, dealing with what lawyers might do with it, dealing with whether insurers might not pay for it's diagnosis and treatment, etc.... then people want to say "it's not valid, it doesn't exist.  It's been discredited.  Or.... if it's real then why isn't it in the DSM-5 then?

 

People need to remember that there are lots of Columbuses out there on this one.... not just one or two or 50 or even 100.  There are MANY who believe it should be in the DSM-5 but their opinion didn't make the cut.  Or they just aren't the majority yet.  Or the other therapists say there isn't enough empirical data to warrant findings.  Or there is confusion about the definition and the exact words that should be used to protect the mental health community.  Remember, these people who publish this DSM-5 place there reputation on what is in there.  What happens if they are wrong?  They might get sued or ridiculed or lose their cherrished place of high regard among their peers.

 

Let's remember.... just because it is not yet in the DSM-5 has absolutely nothing to do with whether it exists or not.  If that were the case then those who argued that there is no such thing as Post-Traumatic-Stress Disorder didn't exist until it was published in the version of the DSM for that correct time.  The fact is.... it was always there for years before it was even considered.... it just wasn't in that particular book at that time.

 

Parental alienation is real.  It's been real for a long time.  It may take time for the mental health community to go through the red tape of getting the words right so they cover their own butts and figure out how they mutually agree on treatment so they will be paid for it, but it's there nonetheless.  Parental Alienation like many other things in this world is caught up in the red tape of humanity while good parents and children suffer and families are destroyed.  

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This is a decent posting.  The problematic issue is that too much is being placed on the DSM-5 and it's publication.  It's almost like Columbus.  Everyone believed that the world was flat and that is what was published and taught but Columbus and many of his followers tried to teach people that it didn't make sense.  They were heralded is lunatics and nuts and heretics in there day because they were challenging what people knew and taught.  Heck, if the world weren't flat they'd have to figure out what to teach the kids.  And they'd have to fund expeditions to other places that might cost a hell of a lot more because then no one would be stopped by the fear of "only going so far" and that would cost more money.  They would also have to determine who owned what and how far their "territory went."  What would the teachers say to children who asked what shape the world was?  How would they explain how the world could be round?  How would they explain gravity and why the water still sticks to the earth if it were round?  If the world were round it would literally unravel everything people believed in and make them scared and think too much.  So there was what was printed and accepted "dogma" of Columbus day that he had to deal with.

 

Today we have the DSM-5 and if the powers that be that in publishing it are too worried about describing it, explaining it, treating it, dealing with what lawyers might do with it, dealing with whether insurers might not pay for it's diagnosis and treatment, etc.... then people want to say "it's not valid, it doesn't exist.  It's been discredited.  Or.... if it's real then why isn't it in the DSM-5 then?

 

People need to remember that there are lots of Columbuses out there on this one.... not just one or two or 50 or even 100.  There are MANY who believe it should be in the DSM-5 but their opinion didn't make the cut.  Or they just aren't the majority yet.  Or the other therapists say there isn't enough empirical data to warrant findings.  Or there is confusion about the definition and the exact words that should be used to protect the mental health community.  Remember, these people who publish this DSM-5 place there reputation on what is in there.  What happens if they are wrong?  They might get sued or ridiculed or lose their cherrished place of high regard among their peers.

 

Let's remember.... just because it is not yet in the DSM-5 has absolutely nothing to do with whether it exists or not.  If that were the case then those who argued that there is no such thing as Post-Traumatic-Stress Disorder didn't exist until it was published in the version of the DSM for that correct time.  The fact is.... it was always there for years before it was even considered.... it just wasn't in that particular book at that time.

 

Parental alienation is real.  It's been real for a long time.  It may take time for the mental health community to go through the red tape of getting the words right so they cover their own butts and figure out how they mutually agree on treatment so they will be paid for it, but it's there nonetheless.  Parental Alienation like many other things in this world is caught up in the red tape of humanity while good parents and children suffer and families are destroyed.  

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Parental Alienation and Hostile Aggressive Parenting Awareness - Emotional and mental child abuse

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Parental alienation is a problem that most people don't know about. It is child abuse and needs to be stopped. We need YOUR help to get the word out.
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This is a helpful website that provides a good basic understanding of Parental Alienation.  It provides a new take on what they refer to as Hostile Aggressive Parenting.  It is very important to understand Parental Alienation and what it is and what it can do.  Many people, including judges and lawyers believe it is nothing more than one parent badmouthing another parent in front of a child to create a negative impression.

 

In truth, Parental Alienation is much deeper and insidious than that.  The damage it can do is more than just anger or temper tantrums.  It can lead to the destruction of families both now and in the future as well as the destruction of parents both now and in the future.

 

As a lawyer I have seen the depths that parents will go to in order to carefully turn a child against their other parent because they are angry themselves or because they need help themselves, or because the child reminds them of the other parent or has a bond with the other parent, or even because the parent knows that nothing will hurt the other parent more than to lose the bond with the child.

 

The destruction is not merely superficial but is often psychological and of such a deep nature that it may not be reversible in both the child or the target parent.  Parental Alienation is a destroyer of children and their youth and it is the destroyer of good parents.  In total it is a destroyer of families and it propagates in a child that the type of behavior that the alienating parent is engaging in is not only acceptable but that it is the proper way to go about resolving anger or conflict and it may make the children so dysfunctional into their adult years that they pass this conduct along to their children just like an inherited gene or disease such as alcoholism.

 

In short, Parental Alienation is dangerous and it is growing because of the lack of seriousness which it is being treated with in the court system, the social welfare system and even with clinicians who will not recognize anything that is not within the mainstream.

 

I urge you to participate, learn, donate and take the time to understand this disease and to be keenly aware as to whether you are becoming a poor role model or a vindictive parent who is participating in and/or passing along Parental Alienation to your child.  Your conduct may be damaging many children for years to come.  

 

Do you want that to be your legacy in this world?

 

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5 Signs Your Ex is Turning Your Child Against You

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Has your loving and affectionate child suddenly become unrecognizable to you? Does your child make you feel like you are the worst parent in...
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Recognizing the signs of Parental Alienation as early as possible is important to stopping or reversing the adverse affects on the child and the devastation done to the child and parent relationship.

 

Voices differ on how to recognize those things that constitute Parental Alienation, what those triggering recognizable actions are, whether a parent should address them immediately or think about them first, and then when things are in need of court action.

 

But the signs don't seem to differ that much from opinion to opinion.  One way or another they are negative.  The thing is to make sure you aren't simply dealing with a rebellious child and that the cumulative affect of what you observe is more than just a rebellious child.

 

The most important thing a parent can do is to inform himself or herself about parental alienation as quickly and as fully as possible.  Through knowledge you have the best chance of addressing the issue with your child without damaging your relationship further or by counteracting what the alienating parent has done.

 

I have been there.  I have walked this road.  It is a loss and pain no parent should bear..... to lose your child by alienation only to know your child grows up elsewhere, without you in their lives, all based upon a perception of you and of things twisted within their minds that you are not the loving parent you truly are.

 

To all those going through it, I empathize with you and urge you to do everything you can to stop it.

 

To all those who have been through it and have done all that you can, know that I feel your pain of a child's mind warped beyond repair and a fountain of love for this child that they never allowed you to be part of their lives and never will.

 

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Dad's Visitation Rights: A Surprise from a Judge

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Many judges now share the opinion that a child's time with a non-custodial parent is very important.
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It may not be a decisive blow against Parental Alienation but it most certainly is a wonderful thing to see a decision in favor of a father.  It is not surprising that there is inconsistency between judges or even from the same judge on different days or even on the same day.  Judges are people and each day's presentation to the judge may be different or may be seen differently.  

 

Family court cases are perhaps the hardest cases to determine because judges may presume that attorneys are telling the truth when they may be misleading the court or diverting the judge's attention to something that is a non-issue simply to distract the judge's attention from the truth or what that real focus should be.

 

In any event, I urge judges to look more closely.  Look more closely at fathers who are hurting.  Look more closely at the men who want to be fathers and are fighting so hard to be with their children and be a part of their lives.

 

To the judge who made this good decision.  Thank you.  From fathers who never got the chance to be the fathers they wanted to be.

 

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This is a decent posting.  The problematic issue is that too much is being placed on the DSM-5 and it's publication.  It's almost like Columbus.  Everyone believed that the world was flat and that is what was published and taught but Columbus and many of his followers tried to teach people that it didn't make sense.  They were heralded is lunatics and nuts and heretics in there day because they were challenging what people knew and taught.  Heck, if the world weren't flat they'd have to figure out what to teach the kids.  And they'd have to fund expeditions to other places that might cost a hell of a lot more because then no one would be stopped by the fear of "only going so far" and that would cost more money.  They would also have to determine who owned what and how far their "territory went."  What would the teachers say to children who asked what shape the world was?  How would they explain how the world could be round?  How would they explain gravity and why the water still sticks to the earth if it were round?  If the world were round it would literally unravel everything people believed in and make them scared and think too much.  So there was what was printed and accepted "dogma" of Columbus day that he had to deal with.

 

Today we have the DSM-5 and if the powers that be that in publishing it are too worried about describing it, explaining it, treating it, dealing with what lawyers might do with it, dealing with whether insurers might not pay for it's diagnosis and treatment, etc.... then people want to say "it's not valid, it doesn't exist.  It's been discredited.  Or.... if it's real then why isn't it in the DSM-5 then?

 

People need to remember that there are lots of Columbuses out there on this one.... not just one or two or 50 or even 100.  There are MANY who believe it should be in the DSM-5 but their opinion didn't make the cut.  Or they just aren't the majority yet.  Or the other therapists say there isn't enough empirical data to warrant findings.  Or there is confusion about the definition and the exact words that should be used to protect the mental health community.  Remember, these people who publish this DSM-5 place there reputation on what is in there.  What happens if they are wrong?  They might get sued or ridiculed or lose their cherrished place of high regard among their peers.

 

Let's remember.... just because it is not yet in the DSM-5 has absolutely nothing to do with whether it exists or not.  If that were the case then those who argued that there is no such thing as Post-Traumatic-Stress Disorder didn't exist until it was published in the version of the DSM for that correct time.  The fact is.... it was always there for years before it was even considered.... it just wasn't in that particular book at that time.

 

Parental alienation is real.  It's been real for a long time.  It may take time for the mental health community to go through the red tape of getting the words right so they cover their own butts and figure out how they mutually agree on treatment so they will be paid for it, but it's there nonetheless.  Parental Alienation like many other things in this world is caught up in the red tape of humanity while good parents and children suffer and families are destroyed.  

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Children's Rights: It's Constitutional - Discussing Constitution and Family Law Reform

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Justice is a concept of moral rightness based on ethics, rationality, law,natural law, religion, equity or fairness, as well as the administration of the law, taking into account the inalienable and inborn rights of all human beings and citizens,...
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It is not so much this article that caught my eye, but rather the note in the left corner that says "The BEST Parent is BOTH Parents!"  Having been a child who grew up with a verbally abusive drunk as my "father" constantly being in fear of what each day held, how I could protect my mother, how could I shield my younger brothers from the brunt of things, and how I could still have enough energy left to believe that I wasn't the worthless peice of crap he was always telling me I was.... That was may daily challenge!  

 

Today I do fight for the BEST Parent for the Child(ren).  If there are two good parents then that's what I try to fight for.  If one of the parents is the better parent and I represent him or her, then I fight for my client.  If my client is clearly not the best parent for the children, then I fire the client, sacrifice the income, and return whatever unearned monies there are.  

 

The Best Parent for the Children is not always both parents.  It is only both parents when neither of the parents are destructive to the child.  Too many parents are alcoholics, drug addicts, gambling addicts, self-centered narcissists, verbal abusers, physical abusers and batterers, pedophiles, and simply neglectful parents who have the means to take care of a child but don't.

 

While I know my mother was the best parent for me and that so much damage could have been avoided by removing the father from our lives, we had to wait it out.

 

With me, I have two daughters.  Yet I made two mistakes neither of which I have been able to make up for because I haven't seen my children in a decade.  In my history as a father in my own right, the best parent would have been both parents.  I regret that I never got that chance.  One mistake coupled with parental alienation and it never happened.  

 

Despite an emptiness that can never be filled I focus my energy and my own experiences to help other parents and particularly children.

 

I would rather go hungry than allow a single child to be hurt.

 

Justice has many meanings to many people and while we can cite cases until the cows come home, justice is a factor of cause and effect and whether the effect is positive for a child as opposed to negative.

 

It's not all in the perspective, it's all in the after affects.  Would that I had a crystal ball into the furture.

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Parental Alienation are destructive actions by an alienating parent to discredit and sabotage the target parent in the eyes of the child. This will eventually cause increased hostility and ...
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Excellent summary article by this law firm. It can go deeper but the fundamentals are present. Syndrome or not this abusive conduct toward the child must be stopped!
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Investigation exposes little oversight of child advocates

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A CBS Atlanta News investigation found questionable oversight of court-appointed advocates sworn to protect children.
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I would be much happier writing more positive things regarding the various family courts throughout this country. However it is with a great deal of frustration that I find that many times a great injustice is done with the children of these United States in the family courts of many states.

 

This article gives indication of things that I have seen personally occur in the courthouse in Rhode Island. I've seen Guardian ad litem's who indicate that their decision was for one particular parent in a conference that occurred moments before taking the bench to report to the court which parent should have placement of the child or children. Then only moments later that same guardian ad litem would announce a completely different decision under oath.

 

I've seen Family Court investigators who review documents in a file and then prejudge the individuals who are to be investigated regarding possible recommendations of placement and/or reviews of their homes before even having met them.

 

I have seen mediators assigned by the court who merely based upon the appearance of one or the other of the parties in the case develop their own personal bias and then rather than mediate in an arbitrary and impartial fashion, literally argued on behalf of the party who they felt was better dressed, had a better job, or even treated them more respectfully. None of which should have anything to do with a proper investigation or determination as to what an impartial mediator should do.

 

I've seen attorneys yell at witnesses or threaten them to intimidate them before testifying. I have heard parents bribe children in order to obtain favorable testimony on the stand which unfortunately successfully works in many instances. I have heard family court investigators who should conduct an impartial investigation immediately make judgments based upon their own personal feelings about  some aspect of the case which is thereafter taints their report as well as the judge who reads the report.

 

 These are things both the court and the public need to be aware of. They are practicalities of what occurs in our world and what occurs in our legal system. Yet it is battling these biases and practicalities that becomes the most difficult within our system.

 

 Case workers and investigators for the Division of Children, Youth and Family Services are no less prone to these biases, admonitions, or other human qualities which make our system less-than-perfect.

 

This article gives a small sneak peek into those types of things that we should be aware of when entering Family Court or our legal system involving family law matters.

 

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The Gregory Mantell Show -- Parental Alienation Syndrome

When divorce turns nasty and one parent tries to turn the kids against the other. Dr. Jayne Major, police officer Catherine MacWillie, and film director Shel...
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On the Gregory Mantell Show - Dr. Jayne Major, police officer Catherine MacWillie, and film director Shelli Ryan discuss parental alienation syndrome/parental alienation.

 

Do you find them convincing?  Do you find them credible?  Are each of their credentials and experience presented so that you know know what weight to give their opinions and/or explanations?

 

Each of us need to weigh the information we are given from stated experts and learn enough so that we can not only protect our rights as parents but also do whatever we can to protect children from becoming pawns in the anger, mistrust, resentment, hurt between the adult parents.  That includes our own either purposeful actions or even accidental or unknowing actions because we don't think of our children first but want to simply avoid the children's other parent for any number of reasons.

 

A good parent puts the best interests of the child(ren) first above their own interests no matter what.

 

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On the Gregory Mantell Show - Dr. Jayne Major, police officer Catherine MacWillie, and film director Shelli Ryan discuss parental alienation syndrome/parental alienation.

 

Dr. Jayne Major discusses how this might occur when a family court divorce turns nasty.  Though this his one context in which it may occur, post-divorce matters often continue to trigger this type of behavior long after the divorce is completed.

 

Do you find them convincing?  Do you find them credible?  Are each of their credentials and experience presented so that you know know what weight to give their opinions and/or explanations?

 

Each of us need to weigh the information we are given from stated experts and learn enough so that we can not only protect our rights as parents but also do whatever we can to protect children from becoming pawns in the anger, mistrust, resentment, hurt between the adult parents.  That includes our own either purposeful actions or even accidental or unknowing actions because we don't think of our children first but want to simply avoid the children's other parent for any number of reasons.

 

A good parent puts the best interests of the child(ren) first above their own interests no matter what.

 

A good lawyer for any parent will always consider the interests of the children to be paramount over and above that of the client in most states since the prominent test is to present the evidence to the court in or to insure that the best interests of the minor child are addressed and served.

 

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The Difference Between Estrangement and Parental Alienation Syndrome

The Difference Between Estrangement and Parental Alienation Syndrome | Parental Alienation and Family Court | Scoop.it
Is it estrangement or Parental Alienation? Parental Alienation results from a parent actively working at causing hard feelings between a child and parent.
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It's interesting the difference between Estrangement and Parental Alienation that is noted by the writer of this article as noted by the relationship expert identified as Irina Firstein.

 

I think the difficulty lies in the very fact that there is overlap between Estrangement and Parental Alienation.  I have seen cases where two overlap with an element of each situation and/or condition, whichever it may be called.  What then might it be called, "Alienation by Estrangement?"  

 

In essense, parental alienation can often lead to the estrangement identified in this article or vice versa.  In retrospect, I can think of several cases in which several cases have led, one into another .

 

For instance, in my own case I in essense lost my children, due in apart to parental alienation followed by a few of the descriptive elements of estrangement from this article followed again by elements of characteristics of parental alienation.  

 

Sometimes the identification and classification of what a person has been through is not so readily a label that can be attached to a situation.

 

Parental Alienation is nonetheless real and affects parents, children and families.  Estrangement is likewise something that affects children, parents and the family unit.  A better awareness of these situations that destroy families and how to differentiate between them may well help all of us to help our children and family members to prevent dysfunctional generations in the future resulting from angry parents, angry children and consequently bad role models for future generations.

 

I hope that by bringing these issues to light we can enlighten ourselves and protect our most valuable asset for the future of this world, our children.

 

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Pushing Past the Trauma of Parental Alienation | Moms' Hearts ...

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... Kids' Rights & Support (It's not your fault!) Parental Alienation & Teens · Unsilencing the Methods Used to Abuse Children & Crush Our Hearts · What Friends Can Do to Help an Alienated Parent & Their Child/Teen ...
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Clearly this person has been there and may well still be there at this very moment.  Where is that?  The place where a loving parent who has had loving and beautiful times with his or her children are emotionally and mentally when one is alienated from that child and a large deep void of pain forms.

 

As a father, I have been there and I still am there.  Yet it has been many years for me.  More than 10 years to be more correct.  Though what I have learned may be a bit different from this website writer, I can say with some certainty that for those who are the alienated parent or child, time most certainly not heal all wounds.  What time does is to allow the scar tissue to form over the wound as a protective mechanism for your mind and your heart.

 

As with many parents who are suffering (or have suffered) through parental alienation, this woman probably feels as though her very sanity is being ripped from her just as her child or children have been torn from her as if a grenade has exploded upon your chest tearing out your heart and your mind and your limbs, but you are ever consious and ever present and you know you will never be the same again.

 

For those who believe they are alone fighting a family court system that may be brushing off this killer of parents, children, and families creating generations of dysfunctional individuals which perpetuate one upon the other, this scoop will show you that whoever you are, you are not alone.

 

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This Sunday, Nov 24, Dr. Craig Childress, Treating Parental Alienation

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Stay informed about Parental Alienation.  Dr. Childress helps parents and professionals understand how to address parental alienation and understand it more thoroughly.

 

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A sure sign of Parental Alienation????... - My Stay at Home Mama Life | Facebook

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A sure sign of Parental Alienation???? When the custodial parent INSISTS on being present for every phone call (Skype call!!!)

i.e. the Ex insists on... (A sure sign of Parental Alienation????
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There are lots of signs of parental alienation.  The sad part is that too many Judges, Attorneys, Guardian Ad Litems and even family court investigators  aren't educated enough about it and don't take the time to look deeply enough to see the damage that is being caused to the child.

 

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Parental Alienation Syndrome - PAS - is it real?

OFSTED consultation on CAFCASS http://85.234.135.179/index.php?sid=79896⟨=en Why has Parental Alienation been rejected by every reputable organisation that's...
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I think the problem is that they have named it wrong.  All this time they are trying to get it set up as a psychological diagnosis for the child.  For the longest time I thought it was applicable to the alienated parent.  Now I have a different take on it.  Think about it.  Perhaps it should be called Systematic Parental Alienation and iit should be more of a phenomenon rather than any kind of diagnosis.  Yet shouldn't it relate to the parent who is causing the alienation since that person is the source of the problem.  Don't we try to attack a problem at it's source?

 

How much could we accomplish by addressing parental re-patriation between the alienated parent and the child who has been affected if the child continues to remain with the parent who continues to practice an on going practice of systematice partental alienation on the child and typically against the non-custodial parent.

 

There are so many takes on this subject that it needs to be addressed.  No matter how you look at it, it is a problem, it is a destroyer of families and of relationships between parents and children and it is problem created almost always by a custodial parent with issues of their own.

 

What are your thoughts?

 

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I think the problem is that they have named it wrong.  All this time they are trying to get it set up as a psychological diagnosis for the child.  For the longest time I thought it was applicable to the alienated parent.  Now I have a different take on it.  Think about it.  Perhaps it should be called Systematic Parental Alienation and iit should be more of a phenomenon rather than any kind of diagnosis.  Yet shouldn't it relate to the parent who is causing the alienation since that person is the source of the problem.  Don't we try to attack a problem at it's source?

 

How much could we accomplish by addressing parental re-patriation between the alienated parent and the child who has been affected if the child continues to remain with the parent who continues to practice an on going practice of systematice partental alienation on the child and typically against the non-custodial parent.

 

There are so many takes on this subject that it needs to be addressed.  No matter how you look at it, it is a problem, it is a destroyer of families and of relationships between parents and children and it is problem created almost always by a custodial parent with issues of their own.

 

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Feelings of love, loss on Father's Day - Daily Pilot

Feelings of love, loss on Father's Day Daily Pilot He chose an endearing term that translates more directly to "Daddy," offering us an image of a loving, playful, doting parent who is personal enough for us to share secrets, to cry in his arms, to...
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For all those like myself are fathers who who feel the loss of their children and/or grandchildren due to Parental Alienation or even something as simple as "tough love" for a child who did not appreciate it.  My thoughts are with you and I too feel your loss. 

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CPFM: How to Defend Against Parental Alienation Allegations

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This posting is limited to how women can defend against Parental Alienation in courts.

 

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I am going to give this particular listing very little coverage as far as my own insights.

 

This site clearly provides temporary quick fixes that any mother could do to cover up her attempts at alienation with the minor child or children.  These are "notably" things that could be done to literally hide the alienation and not necessarily as true protections because the mother is not guilty of conduct creating the alienation.  For this very reason I am not impressed by this site.  

 

Additionally, I find that the "protections" are superficial and transient.  Most could be changed at a moments notice to cover up the alienation by the mother.  

 

Having the Father's name listed with doctors and schools should be a thing that would occur and is proper in any case... it has little to do with conduct or statements to the child that would change the child's mind and mannerisms toward the father.

 

The same is true for pictures.  Pictures could be tossed up for a court examination of the home but removed moments later after the examination is concluded.

 

As a quick commentary, I see this as nothing more as tips for a or father to superficially cover up their own conduct of parental alienation of the child.

 

It is what it is.  What is more important is how to prove that alienation is occurring or has occurred so as to prevent future damage.  This site focuses on the parent whereas the latter and more important focus relates to the preservation and/or protection of the parent/child relationship.

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About PAS « A Kidnapped Mind: A Mother's Heartbreaking Story of Parental Alienation Syndrome

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Is it a syndrome?  Is it an angered parent speaking badly of the other parent?  Is it a child merely absorbing what they hear and forming their own decisions?  Or is the child being brainwashed by a parent during formative years a result of trust instilled in a parent who provides misinformation?

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The complication of this phenomenon in court becomes a two edged sword.  Even today, too many judges are still ill-informed about what this is and professionals even differ about what it is and how it applies.  What it does to the family unit is uncontroverted.  It destroys it!

 

Court is where it often comes to light when one parent is being alienated from the child he or she loves.  If the court doesn't take this phenomenon with the seriousness it deserves then the alienated parent ends up with the burden of proving that he or she is being alienated not because of a specific violation of an Order of the court, but from not encouraging the relationship between the child and the parent.  

 

If the child isn't brought in or examined by a court appointed therapist or psychologist to understand what is going on with the child or to try to repatriate the child with the parent then the burden is almost insurmountable and the danger is the loss of the child.

 

What do you do?  Do you have an answer dear author of "A Kidnapped Mind?"  I'm all eyes and ears.  I want to help these kids.

 

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Deletion of Social Media Accounts or Other Electronic Information Can Result in Harsh Sanctions for Plaintiffs | Denver Employment Law Attorneys Blog

Deletion of Social Media Accounts or Other Electronic Information Can Result in Harsh Sanctions for Plaintiffs | Denver Employment Law Attorneys Blog | Parental Alienation and Family Court | Scoop.it
The case of Gatto v. United Air Lines, Inc., Civil Action No. 10-cv-1090-ES-SCM, 2013 U.S. Dist. LEXIS 41909 (D.N.J. Mar
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Deletion amounts to destruction of evidence in an ongoing case if the Social Media Accounts being deleted can be used as evidence in some way by the Defendant.  It's nice to see this being taken seriously.  I've seen this happen at least a half dozen times.  Thankfully it could be verified before the deletion, but what if it couldn't?

 

Think before you delete.  Call your attorney before you delete.  When in doubt, don't delete!

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In divorce, alienation a big risk - Minnesota Lawyer

In divorce, alienation a big risk Minnesota Lawyer Children who have been subjected to Parental Alienation Syndrome need a process to help them learn to think clearly about their parents and the marriage dissolution.
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This is a fantastic article! It provides clarification that PAS was offered as part of the DSM as a childhood syndrome when the actions are taken by a singular alienating parent. It is even more significant that specific actions are noted that if not taken and agreed to by the various players will not effectuate the therapy.
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