Social location technology enables a degree of serendipity and human contact -- and yes, even romance -- in our all-too-alienated social media life. By Joel Simkhai.
Cited from the article: "The traditional dating Web site, the first incarnation of social media, is designed to help you find somebody new. But it isn’t fun, spontaneous or romantic. Perusing profiles and sending messages on a computer feels like shopping online. "
In this week’s links: how online-dating sites tear us apart; what free will does not require; and more.
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""But it is friction, the complications it introduces, Ludlow thinks, that is exactly what we need in love–even if it’s not what we want. “If diamonds grew on dandelions no one would care about diamonds,” he pronounces. Along with making finding a partner just a matter of creating an online-dating profile, these markets make it easy—too easy—to replace partners."
Online dating sites defend the usefulness of their scientific approach. But a social psychology professor says that “technology is not the way to figure out who is compatible and will never be.”
Very very good article!
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" But in a world where we can pay someone for lunch by tapping two phones together and stream live television over a tablet computer, the de facto model of browsing through static profiles on a Web site or in a mobile app can feel comically outdated."
"“At the end of the day, the human algorithm — neural tissue in our cranium called a brain — has evolved over a long period of time to size up people efficiently. On a blind date, a person arrives and in that instant I can say I’m glad I did this or regret it.” "
The strange case of Manti Te’o's fake girlfriend reminds us why, when it comes to romance, eye contact is generally a good idea.
Cited from the article " a generation that values digital encounters over the more complicated messiness of real human interaction. As my colleague Alex Williams reported in a widely discussed piece a few days ago, screen time may be more important than face time for many 20- and 30-somethings."
And "The Internet is the cause of much of today’s commitment-free, surface-only living; it’s also the explanation for why someone could tumble head-over-heels for a pixelated cipher. Online dating was only the start of what led us down this road. To fall in love requires a bit of unpredictable human interaction. You have to laugh with a person, test their limits, go back and forth, touch them, reveal something true about yourself. You have to show some vulnerability, some give and take. At the very least, you have to make eye contact. It’s easier to substitute texting, tweeting or Facebook posting for these basic rituals of love and friendship because the digital route offers protection."
Online dating services have long promised to help people find a mate by using statistical science to predict personal chemistry. But some of the biggest services are now adding a retro twist, Jenna Wortham reports in Wednesday’s New York Times.
Cited out of the article: "“There’s only so much you can do with data,” said Susan Etlinger, a research analyst at the Altimeter Group who advises companies on how best to use technology. “There’s always the unknown that has to do with pheromones and human nature.”"