Most coaching interventions try to enhance some aspect of EQ, usually under the name of social, interpersonal, or soft skills training. The underlying reasoning is that, whereas IQ is very hard to change, EQ can increase with deliberate practice and training.
But what is the evidence? For example, if you've been told you need to keep your temper under control, show more empathy for others, or be a better listener, what are the odds you can really do it? How do you know if your efforts will pay off, and which interventions will be most effective?
Nearly 3,000 scientific articles have been published on EQ since the concept was first introduced in 1990, and there are five key points to consider:
1. Your level of EQ is firm, but not rigid.
2. Good coaching programs do work.
3. But you can only improve if you get accurate feedback.
4. Some techniques (and coaches) are more competent than others.
Whether on the gridiron, in the boardroom, as part of a project team, or as a personal or professional counselor, all coaches use similar tenets and tools to help others excel. Coaches might implement these tools in different ways, but the common denominators present in most coaching relationships can have lasting effects on employees' performance, as well as on your own.
Here are six strategies to boost the effectiveness of your workplace coaching...
I know you want to be the best you can be. We all do. But sometimes we look for success in the wrong places or we try to achieve it in the wrong ways.
Here are 60 inconvenient truths about personal development to help you stay on track.
The acquisition of knowledge doesn’t mean you’re growing. Growing happens when what you know changes how you live.You can’t have good ideas unless you’re willing to generate a lot of bad ones.A good idea without action is nothing at all.It’s not so much about finding opportunities as it is about creating them.10% of our lives is decided by uncontrollable circumstances. 90% is decided by how we react to those circumstances.What we don’t start today won’t be finished by tomorrow.If you’re waiting for the perfect conditions, ideas or plans to get started, you’ll never achieve anything.
Public speaking is a great way to ramp up your profile as a coach. If properly planned you could be talking to a collection of potential clients, delivering them valuable advice, whilst raising awareness of your practice.
We hear a lot of about excellence and the need for it. Theoretically we understand its importance and the need to set a high standard of quality in our work and in our expectations. While this is admirable we will never achieve excellence until we denounce the toxic attitudes and beliefs that prevent us from achieving it. Here are four of the most common excuses that stand between you and excellence. Conquer these and you can fast track yourself to a path of excellence.
Karl Pillemer of Cornell University interviewed nearly 1500 people age 70 to 100+ for his book “30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans.” He asked them what life lessons they’d pass on.
What piece of advice were they more adamant about than any other? More adamant about than lessons regarding marriage, children and happiness?
As a manager your best development tool is yourself as a coach. Coaching is about making people think for themselves instead of being given the answers. It therefore relies on you to ask great coaching questions.
The Wheel of Life (or Life Wheel) is a tool with a free worksheet which helps you consider each area of your life in turn and assess what's off balance. And so it helps you identify which areas need some more attention.