All great work starts with a question, according to author Todd Henry in his newest book Die Empty: Unleash Your Best Work Every Day. But in the midst of daily chores and tasks, our curiosity can dampen.
Self-doubt is a killer. Pure and simple, but when faced with one of the most deadliest of dream killers, once you learn of its intent, understand its nature and where it thrives, you can stop self-doubt dead in its tracks before it can kill again.
As we grow into our lives, into the people we are, there are a few qualities we gain: maturity, patience, independence, all those traits that we perceive as being ‘adult’. But there is one quality that doesn’t get nearly enough attention; whimsy.
✒ As If frame: A way of shifting into a different perceptual framework, and thus obtaining another quality of information.This can be especially useful if the content you are thinking about involves a stuck feeling.To use an "as if" frame, think of what it would be like As if you had the needed resource.http://bit.ly/2OwYRq
The first premise of NLP is to establish rapport, to pace the client.
Probably the greatest mismatch for a traditional British manufacturing organisation is to propose anything that smacks of having any
connotation of “beads and sandals”.
To do so in an unprepared group is to run the risk of instant branding as ‘weird’ and possibly permanent ‘deletion’. (Though if the group is prepared, or work is one-to-one, then the boundaries can be quite different.)
So, how can NLP be used with an unprepared group?
One method that we have found very effective in my business is to use the “As-If” Frame as a simple technique both for diagnosis and change.
The underlying technique is not an NLP construction or discovery, more a variant on “Once upon a time …”, the basic “As-If” frame was derived by modelling Milton Erickson’s “Pseudo-Orientation in Time” trance technique. Whilst it can be used in the basic form, a deeper understanding of NLP helps to strengthen and enrich the technique in its application.
Here is a brief outline of the basic technique and then two examples of how it can be applied in a business.
At the simplest, the basic “As-If” frame is a way of stepping out of current limitations to a point in the future where they have been resolved and hence the appropriate resources are in place.
The client is then asked to look back (from the future) and see how the resolution took place....
I can’t tell my partner how I feel But if you could, what would you want them to know? The client will typically at this point move away from “I can’t”, towards either discussing the heart of the problem (rather than just a blanket denial of their ability to solve it), or – more commonly – they will start to identify what they would wish to say and spontaneously begin to consider ways that it could be said.
Either would be seen as a positive step towards the client learning to solve their own problem.
✒ Other ways of using the ‘as-if’ frame:
> For an outcome, act as if you have already achieved your outcome. Live your dreams now and allow reality to catch up!
> When negotiating or problem solving, you can explore other possibilities by saying, “Let’s proceed as if I agree to this demand or take your proposed course of action. What would you do for me, or what would happen as a result?”
> If a key person is missing from a meeting, you may say, “Let’s act as if Sue is present. What would she suggest?”
> For project planning, you may wish act as if the project has been successfully completed and then ask what steps were necessary to reach this outcome.
This approach may highlight some important information that is not obvious when planning from the present.
Susan Weinschenk, Founder of Weinschenk Institute, LLC was the keynote speaker at Conversion Conference. Susan started the presentation by stating that if you know the science behind motivation, you can get people to do stuff.
I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody. - Bill Cosby What does it mean to you to “fail better?” Better than someone else? Fail/fare a little better each time you try?