"So how can we improve ours? Baumeister's big idea, now borne out by hundreds of ingenious experiments in his and other social psychologists' labs, is that willpower – the force by which we control and manage our thoughts, impulses and emotions and which helps us persevere with difficult tasks – is actually rather like a kind of moral muscle."
Trying to enjoy each moment may actually be good for your health. Studies suggest that the ancient practice called mindfulness may help people manage stress, cope better with serious illness and reduce anxiety and depression.
So it’s time to define, find and actively seek happiness. Ask yourself the following questions, take only 2-3 minutes to answer each of them. Don’t stay on them too long. The point is to flow.
How do you currently define happiness?Who is the most joyful person you know? The most authentic? – List one to three people.What was the best period of time thus far in your life.Who are your true friends? Who would you call at 3am and they’d help you no questions asked?If you had to flee the country and you had 30 mins to pack, what would you bring? A little disclaimer: You can’t have cash, your pets are automatically included and your kids, if you have them, have their own suitcases. Also, you suitcase is about 26″ tall and it’s checked luggage.What is your code of ethics?If you knew that you’d die in a week, what would you regret not having done?What is your mission in this life?How do you sabotage yourself on a daily basis?
Focusing on our intangibles takes pure effort and focus. Although the result is something we earn, intangible things expend our mind and spirit as we try to convert what is intangible into actions that are meaningful.
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This is a wonderful article about Resolutions that are grounded in wisdom and might very well enrich our lives, even if they are not made at the beginning of the New Year. In fact, we might consider reading this list every month, just to remind us of the possibilities for the rest of the year. <Kat Tansey>
Nobody likes making mistakes—that's a given. But at least we have the opportunity to learn something from them... right? Yes. But did you know that how you react to them makes a big difference in whether you learn from them?
This article was written by Ruth Buczynsky, who is the President and Co-Founder of The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine. NICABM, as it is called, has created a program to help practioners learn now to use mindfulness to help themselves and their patients.
In this piece, Ruth provides an excellent description of what mindfulness practice is all about. This is one of the best descriptions I have read -- enjoy!
--Amy Gross was editor in chief of O, the Oprah Magazine from 2000 to 2008. She writes . . .
"After decades of the monthly magazine cycle, the thrill of spotting a fresh idea, shaping it for our audience, commissioning the right writer --that thrill had subsided to a small tickle. Instead I was finding challenge, purpose, and meaning offsite, in mindfulness meditation, the Buddha’s prescription to end suffering. He discovered that if you pay attention to what’s going on, moment to moment—without trying to hold onto what feels good or push away what feels bad—your relationship to pain changes."
I'm not advocating that we drop out of our busy lives -- but learning to meditate provides respite and a new perspective that will help reduce stress and increase our happiness.
"The holidays can be a joyful experience, but they’re also challenging, a chaotic time of year in our culture. Families getting together can be lovely and can also be very hard for people. Sometimes when you visit your relatives, you feel like you’re 15 again instead of an adult..."