More generally, in situations with our families, romantic partners, or even work colleagues, how can we practice empathy?One approach, based on John and Julie Gottman’s long-term research with married couples, involves 4 steps that anyone can take to understand another’s perspective. Yes, you can use this even when your romantic partner or in-law or business colleague seems to be weaving webs of insult, devising deceptions, or making outrageous observations. Indeed, what they mean is not likely what it seems at first. Our job – as people who aspire to communicate skillfully – is to work compassionately to understand them. Here’s how: by J. Andrew McKee, MD
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As journalist Anneli Rufus sees it, the self-hating person inhabits a world of muted despair that prevents him or her from ever feeling at ease in the world. InUnworthy: How to Stop Hating Yourself, Rufus mines the intractable, negative perceptions that she and others have held about themselves, and analyzes the emergence of self-esteem as a goal that feels unattainable for many people. I spoke with Rufus about what it's like to live with low self-esteem in an esteem-driven world, and how people who experience self-loathing can establish healthier relationships with themselves and others in their lives.
At the 2014 HOW conference, Debbie Millman, host of the excellent interview show Design Matters and a remarkable mind, sat down with the prolific Seth Godin to discuss courage, anxiety, change, creative integrity, and why he got thrown out of Milton Glaser’s class. She used an unusual book of Godin’s as the springboard for their wide-ranging conversation: V is for Vulnerable: Life Outside the Comfort Zone (public library) — an alphabet book for grownups illustrated by Hugh MacLeod with a serious and rather urgent message about what it means and what it takes to dream, to live with joy, to find our purposeand do fulfilling work.
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Google's 'Head of Mindfulness' Speaks Out NewsFactor Network A growing awareness of the importance of our emotional fitness is mirroring the same journey of acceptance that physical exercise took in the last century, says Chade-Meng Tan, Google's...
Acclaimed director Steve James (Hoop Dreams) and executive producers Martin Scorsese (The Departed) and Steven Zaillian (Moneyball) present LIFE ITSELF, a documentary film that recounts the inspiring and entertaining life of world-renowned film...
Is fear holding you back from trying something new or going after what you really want? Here are some ways to get past it.
I hate fear. Fear has cost me a hefty sum in dental bills from grinding my teeth. Fear interferes with sleep, digestion, and many other things that make life worth living. When you examine some of the worst things human beings have done, you'll often find fear as the root cause. There's no doubt about it: Fear sucks.
Here's what's worked best for me over the years. (And if you've found something else that works, I'd love to hear it!)
1. Ask yourself: Should I take action to solve this fear?
Entrepreneur 10 Awesome Ways to Inspire Others Entrepreneur To realize the utmost potential and minimize wasted effort, identify exactly what you're going after and make sure your people do, too. Redundancies arise when communication falters.
Is life a series of successes and failures, or an experiment?I invite you to reflect on your life over the past five years. Consider the key events that shaped your experience, that helped form how you view the world today. How do you feel about those experiences? What is the story about your past that shapes how you see the world today?These questions came to me as I finished reading Mahatma Gandhi’s autobiography, titled “Experiments in Truth”. Gandhi’s emphasis on life as an experiment is an important distinction to a typical perspective of life as a series of successes and failures.
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How Compassion Can Unleash Third Metric Success For Women in Workplaces Huffington Post "There is always pain in the room," cautioned Peter Frost, one of the world's leading researchers on compassion at work, and he was absolutely right.
Mindfulness-based meditation could lessen some symptoms associated with cancer in teens, according to the results of a clinical trial intervention led by researchers at the University of Montreal and its affiliated CHU Sainte-Justine children’s...
Well-being wish list for the future of health care Pittsburgh Post Gazette The health care system is filled with dreamers, from compassionate nurses and doctors to technology experts and researchers in the lab.