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Facebook Makes Us Sadder And Less Satisfied, Study Finds : NPR

Facebook Makes Us Sadder And Less Satisfied, Study Finds : NPR | Major In Happiness | Scoop.it
Researchers from the University of Michigan find that while Facebook provides an invaluable resource for social connection, it actually undermines well-being.
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Interesting to find this article, as it strikes an emotional chord with me. In addition to social comparison, I think there is a negative affect on us when we share something on facebook that is important to us, and we don't get the response we hoped for. Some of us know the dangers of having "expectations," and how we can set ourselves up to feel let down. I have experienced this many times on facebook, and have been left feeling angry... like nobody cares... like facebook promotes a false sense of "friends," like there must be something wrong with me, like maybe I'm undeserving.

 

If I'm feeling this — being the strong, well-balanced woman that I like to believe I am — surely many, many more folks are feeling the same way, right? Maybe we just don't want to admit it or talk about it? I don't know, but I have a love/hate relationship with facebook. I like to see what people in my community and the world are up to. I like to support others and cheer them on when I see their posts of struggles and accomplishments. I guess I expect the same kind of cheerleading & support. I guess I expect my so called facebook "friends" to be happy for, and supportive of, me too... but the reality is... I am more often let down.

 

When I post something sad... like a loss... then lots of people comment with supportive words. Is this because people are way more likely to commiserate and share your pain than they are to celebrate your joys and accomplishments? Is it because people are generally sad and feel better when others are down too? Ya know... "misery loves company." Is it because seeing other people being happy makes many of us feel worse about our own life choices?

 

See I think there is this false sense of community that facebook creates, and it is damaging to our emotional health. But having said that, I still have my account, although I think about deleting it a couple times a month. Thank you for reading.

 

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How to Make Happiness a Habit

How to Make Happiness a Habit | Major In Happiness | Scoop.it

“I’m not one who believes you can be happy all the time, but I have learned you can be happy much of the time. And that’s not something that depends on how your day is going or how others treat you—it depends on what you do on a regular basis.”

 

"I make a lot of lists—it’s one of my favorite habits— but this list seemed to have a magical power. It was a list of the things I was grateful for. Amazingly, there were a lot of things on the list, from things about my wife, kids, relatives, and friends, to things about my job, about nature around me, about my life. This list was magical because I went from feeling a bit depressed about everything, and hopeless and helpless, to much happier. My mindset shifted from the things I didn’t like or didn’t have, to the things I was really happy I had. And I was in control.P" http://buff.ly/16xkpiS


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