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A Nation of Sex Workers: An Interview with Tracy Quan

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I've been reading Tracy Quan since before I was a sex worker, when a prequel to Diary of a Manhattan Call Girl was serialized on Salon.com, and I've been chummy with her online since 2003, when she graciously replied to my e-mails.
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A Difficult Relationship - A Guest Post

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To my shame I have had this guest post languishing in my emails for a couple of weeks now. I apologise profusely to the author, it is in no way a reflection on her work, far from it as this is very...
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Sexologist Jaiya, Thinks Herself To Orgasm – You Can Learn How Too | Jaiya Sex is You

Sexologist Jaiya, Thinks Herself To Orgasm – You Can Learn How Too | Jaiya Sex is You | Love n Sex n Whatnot | Scoop.it
Jaiya is a world-renowned sexologist, author of Red Hot Touch, and the founder of New World Sex Education.
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Let's Talk About The Orgasm

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In 2009, I walked onto the TED stage and gave a talk that included video of a Danish pig inseminator. The topic of the talk was orgasm, and the video related to a centuries-old debate over "upsuck."

 

The same goal-directed, out-of-the-box thinking that led to the sow stimulation plan, that led Masters and Johnson into the lab with their cervical caps and six bold women, lies squarely at the heart of TED.- Mary Roach   

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Ari Meier's curator insight, July 30, 2013 11:09 PM

We talk about this all the time (maybe...)but it's still misunderstood.

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your favorite books about sex

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Not long ago, I did a little survey to find out what folks' favorite non-fiction sex books are. Here are the results. 5 people said The Guide to Getting It On by Paul Joannides. I have assigned thi...
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Brothels for disabled people: Guess what? We like sex too

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It doesn't have to be just about sexual activity, sometimes building confidence is just as important 

 

In 2008, an Observer survey found that 70% of people would not consider having a sexual relationship with someone with a physical disability.

 

In 2009, Lucy Baxter, mother of Otto Baxter, who has Down’s Syndrome, said that she would have no problem if her son “went to a brothel in Amsterdam” to have a sexual experience.

 

In 2012, FHM magazine revealed its three sexiest female Paralympians. In the same year, married Paralympian Sarah Storey revealed her first  pregnancy, and Channel 4 screened its first series of a dating show for disabled people with a title that could use serious improvement. The second series ends tomorrow, and the show has done its job- proved that we are very dateable, thank you very much.

 

At the beginning of 2013, Hollywood movie The Sessions, which tells the story of a man paralysed by polio who visits a sex therapist, was nominated for two Golden Globes. Sadly, it didn’t win any.

 

Then, just last week, former madam Becky Adams revealed to the media that she wants to open an accessible brothel for disabled clients in England in 2014. She has already created a free service which connects disabled people with female prostitutes.

 

I’m a woman and I have been disabled since birth. I thanked FHM when they recognised something I have always known - that disabled women can be beautiful, too. I was thrilled to hear that Sarah Storey is pregnant. I’ve seen every episode of The Undateables and I look forward to watching The Sessions.

 

However, back in 2009, I smiled a very embarrassed smile when I heard of what Lucy Baxter wanted her son to do. He’s around my age, and if my mother wanted to have that level of involvement in my love life, I would not have been impressed. But at the time, when I thought about the results of the Observersurvey, it was easy to understand why the Baxters felt they had no other choice but to go to Amsterdam.

 

When I was growing up in the 1990s, there was absolutely no recognition that disabled people had romantic or sexual feelings. But, guess what, world? We do.

 

So I can see that Becky Adams, by her planned actions, wants to show the world that she realises and recognises this very important fact. I thank her for this.

 

In 2009, when Otto Baxter hit the headlines, the Observer survey was much more recent. Today, its five years old, and based on all the progress that has been made in this area since it was released, a little outdated, in my opinion.

 

I would like to hope that a similar survey today would have very different results that would be more favourable towards disabled people.

 

For one thing, Becky Adams told BBC Radio 2′s Jeremy Vine that she had received as many emails from people seeking to work with her as people looking to use the service.  So, non-disabled women today don’t seem to be against the idea of having a sexual experience with a disabled man.

 

I’m pleased to see that Becky Adams is concerned about making her service accessible to people with physical disabilities. She plans to furnish it with ramps, hoists and other helpful equipment.  She told BBC Radio Ulster’s Stephen Nolan that physically disabled people want access to sexual services as much as anyone else, but they can face physical barriers.

"Working ladies often set up in a flat above a chip shop which is difficult to access," she says, "so it is about setting up somewhere that is totally accessible."

Brothels are illegal in the United Kingdom. But Adams has an answer ready for this. She believes that her project has a higher positive purpose, maintaining that: "If you are educating or training people with disabilities with their sexual functions, it is not a brothel." She has invested £62,000 in the project.

She says clients for her current service, called Para-Doxies and running in Milton Keynes, can be men, women or couples, and come from a range of backgrounds.

"We see service men who've been wounded. They are going through traumatic times and so choose not to try and form a relationship. They like to boost their confidence by seeing a lady and maybe having a massage."

The women, who she refers to as body workers, sometimes show men with autism how to chat up girls. Sex, Adams explains, is often not on the cards. 

"A lot of our clients have no ability to perform a sexual experience," she says, "it could be just about holding somebody naked skin to naked skin for an hour."

The not for profit company has been running since last year and Adams says she already receives around 12 enquiries a week. The service aims to help disabled people to find workers and there are experts available to give advice to disabled people, parents and carers, on any legal questions arising.

Adams also told Nolan that she recognises that disabled people can and do form sexual relationships in their own right. This is something I would personally agree with. I feel strongly that disabled people should be allowed to form romantic and sexual relationships for themselves, just like anyone else, whether these are with other disabled people or not. I am pleased to see this is recognised.

Adams has been criticised for putting two vulnerable groups - disabled people and sex workers - together through her services. 

Defending her service, and the people involved in it, Adams says: "We have a very small number of ladies, most of whom have come from the nursing profession or caring profession. They see themselves as holistic body workers, rather than prostitutes," and apparently most work on a voluntary basis.

Does the service cheapen the idea of sex? Adams doesn't think so:

"From the comments we get from clients, they have a much better human experience afterwards, because many of them were in residential care all their lives and have no human experience.

 

"After his first session with a body worker, one client said that he hadn't realised women have warm skin."

 

All that is left for me to say as a disabled woman and a feminist is - although I don’t think I’d use it myself - I hope Adams’ planned centre will be open to disabled women as well as men.

 


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No Strings Attached Snuggling; The Trending Sensual Intentions Surrounded by Sexual Misconceptions

No Strings Attached Snuggling; The Trending Sensual Intentions Surrounded by Sexual Misconceptions | Love n Sex n Whatnot | Scoop.it
You are most likely a hopeless romantic following my blog for an instant emotional and intellectual connection within yourself. My recent blog posts may have helped you release your daily stress fr...

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Are you down to snuggle? Check this article out! Stay a while! 

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Michael Massaia's Stark Photographs Of Discarded Vegas Call Girl Cards

Michael Massaia's Stark Photographs Of Discarded Vegas Call Girl Cards | Love n Sex n Whatnot | Scoop.it
Michael Massaia is a documentary style photographer who specializes in black and white film. His "Lost: Las Vegas Call Girl Cards" series touches on the over-saturation of advertising, commodification, waste, and salaciousness within our culture.
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Deanna Dahlsad's curator insight, March 18, 2013 2:21 PM

This is what happens with most flyers and promotional pieces of paper that are handed out on the streets, put on windsheilds, etc. The fact that it's about selling sex makes me take pause...This appears to be one case where erotic images of women involved in sex work are actually adding value and humanizing the advertisements. Food for thought.

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Gina The Chimp Only Wants To Watch Porn (And Us Humans Are Rather Fond Of It As Well)

Gina The Chimp Only Wants To Watch Porn (And Us Humans Are Rather Fond Of It As Well) | Love n Sex n Whatnot | Scoop.it
Sometimes I feel bad about wild animals enclosed in zoos. But I feel slightly less bad for Gina, a chimpanzee at the Seville Zoo in Spain, who spends her
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Sexual Anatomy 201: The 18 Parts of the Clitoris « Sex Ed « Sexual Health

Sexual Anatomy 201: The 18 Parts of the Clitoris « Sex Ed « Sexual Health | Love n Sex n Whatnot | Scoop.it
Did you know the most of the clitoris is hidden from view? Can you name the many parts of the clitoris? The key to understanding something is to truly study it!
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"Thinking-Off" (The Thought Induced Orgasm) « Guides « Advice

"Thinking-Off" (The Thought Induced Orgasm) « Guides « Advice | Love n Sex n Whatnot | Scoop.it
Since the 1970s, the connection between thought and orgasms has been a hot topic (Masters & Johnson)...Mental orgasms, Energy Orgasms, Thinking Off, Thought-gasms, Thought-induced orgasms.
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Porn For the Rest of Us: Top 5 Reasons to Read Fanfiction « Sex in General « Advice

Porn For the Rest of Us: Top 5 Reasons to Read Fanfiction « Sex in General « Advice | Love n Sex n Whatnot | Scoop.it
The phrase “porn for women” is thrown around a lot these days, sometimes mockingly accompanied by a photo of a man doing the dishes, but you might be surprised to learn that there is a massive community of porn – real, explicit, kinky, delicious...
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“American Ecstasy”: A Unique Guidebook Through Porn Land

American Ecstasy is a wonderful coffee table book: sexy, funny, artistic, thought-provoking. What else could you ask for? OK, here’s something else: its photographer/author Barbara Nitke raised hel...
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Leveling Up: The Most Attractive Aspect of a Man

Leveling Up: The Most Attractive Aspect of a Man | Love n Sex n Whatnot | Scoop.it
Dr. NerdLove discusses the number one quality women find attractive in a man, and offers tips for how to increase that factor in your life.
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Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence [Video]

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence [Video] | Love n Sex n Whatnot | Scoop.it
Book author and TED Talk speaker Esther Perel shares the secret to desire in a long-term relationship.
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Monogamish: Two Is Company, But Is Three Really a Crowd?

Monogamish: Two Is Company, But Is Three Really a Crowd? | Love n Sex n Whatnot | Scoop.it
Zach Stafford digs up some surprising figures about modern relationships, and asks: is it worth pretending to be monogamous when you're not?
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The Cultural Shadow of Pornography

The Cultural Shadow of Pornography | Love n Sex n Whatnot | Scoop.it
Candice Holdorf isn't against pornography, but encourages us to look more critically at porn as a business, and try to figure out exactly what it is they're selling.
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House of Self-Indulgence: Come With Me My Love (Doris Wishman, 1976)

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Lies Women Tell One Another About Men and Love — The Good Men Project

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Sundance 2013 explores the gamut of sex

Sundance 2013 explores the gamut of sex | Love n Sex n Whatnot | Scoop.it
The festival for indie films, which kicks off Thursday, has a highly charged slate exploring sexual relationships in all their forms.
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Sundance 2013: Joseph Gordon-Levitt on Editing Porn, Sex Scenes, and Directing Himself

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PARK CITY, UT: Let’s get this right out in the open: Don Jon’s Addiction, the new comedy from Joseph Gordon-Levitt premiering at the Sundance Film Festival, is filthy. It concerns a wom...
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Seven Things I Learned as a Male Phone Sex Operator

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Noah Brand talks about his days working phone sex, and the important lessons he took away.
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The REAL Reasons Why Yoga Improves Your Sex Life | Em & Lo: Sex. Love. And Everything in Between.

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Providing your daily dose of love & sex-related advice, horoscopes and news. No yoga mat required.
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Porn For Women Retrospective 2012

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My annual porn for women retrospective post, summing up feminist porn in 2012.
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Destricted

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