The authors of "A Billion Wicked Thoughts" have used extremely dodgy research to back up their assertions that men and women are different. And they've flat out lied about ForTheGirls.com in the process.
The point I am trying to make here is that if clients were contributing something valuable or even something innocuous to our movement, I could deal. Instead, they are perpetrating whorephobia. I fear that people who don’t know better will see posts like this and think these men somehow have more knowledge of our lives and the realities of our work than we do. After all, the conversations surrounding punters and activism are largely cisheteronormative, and most of these men bring their male privilege to the table, while not even being aware of these advantages.
Beyond that, this issue seems to cause a divide between sex workers and, as evidenced by my anon friend, makes those of us who don’t subscribe to this thinking feel isolated, as if we’re doing something wrong. As if it’s our responsibility to listen and care about what men have to say. After all, it’s part of our socialization as women and marginalized people to listen to men, just as it’s part of our male clients’ socialization to speak over us and for us.
Female students have admitted to rounding down the number of men they've slept with in a new study. Dr Brooke Magnanti, an ex-sex worker, has slept with more than 100 men, and society is still shocked – despite her previous line of work
1. Eyes are an erogenous zone. Whether I'm gazing up at a stripper while she defies gravity on the pole or furtively searching porn tube sites for the perfect money shot, watching sex is exciting. Any...
Many men who have sex with men aren't gay or even bisexual. Although their mental and emotional state resembles that of the initial stages of coming out, gay and bisexual men go on to develop a gay or a bisexual identity, whereas these men don't.
As a kid, lice seemed particularly attracted to me. The bugs infested my head all the time, meaning that throughout most of my childhood, I had a very short haircut. So, from age six to 12, I was constantly misgendered. I...
When Kate White became editor in chief of Cosmopolitan in 1998, she worried that she’d quickly run out of ideas to fill the magazine’s monthly quota of blissfully sinful secrets that will blow your man’s mind. In White’s 14 years at the helm, the magazine valiantly reached for an electric toothbrush, a string of pearls, a hair scrunchie, a handful of refrigerated marbles, edible body paint, tomato sauce, and “a small bit of mango” to introduce Cosmo readers—and their unsuspecting boyfriends—to unprecedented levels of sexual innovation. But in the summer of 2003, White landed on a sexual accessory so unforgivably weird that it would come to exemplify the ludicrousness of Cosmo sex tips forever. “99 Ways to Touch Him: These Fresh, Frisky Tips Will Thrill Every Inch of Your Guy,” White wrote on the magazine’s June cover, then teased: “(Our Favorite Requires a Glazed Doughnut).”
Is it possible to combine desire for variety in sexual relations with the maintenance of a stable, happy marriage?
by Edward Dengrove, M.D.
FROM time to time one reads in the newspapers reports of cases such as that of the Percy Radfords and the George Hauses, of St. Louis, Missouri. These two couples, after a friendship of four months, decided they'd be happier married to each other's partners. At the time the swap was made, one couple had been wed for some seventeen years, and the other for almost five.
Accomplished as it was, through divorce and remarriage, this trade of spouses had legal sanction, as well as the attention of the press. But there is a lot more such swapping than the newspapers ever discover, because most of it exists on a sporadic basis and does not end in divorce and the remarriage of the alternate couples.
This is the full text of the interview with feminist genderqueer sex worker @MxLaudanum, which was quoted in this article on the rescue industry I wrote for Cliterati (published 1/02/14). The interview itself makes a very powerful post in its own right. Written in just a couple of hours, it’s a stunning critique of contemporary feminism and how all of us on this planet tend to view the world in black and white.
Red, who works at San Diego's Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Community Center, identifies themselves as non-binary: that is, neither male nor female but somewhere in a "cloud" of genders that rejects the idea that there are only two human gender identities, male and female. They gave an interview for the August 2011 Zenger's Newsmagazine in which they (you refer to a non-binary person as "they," "them" or "theirs" even if you're only referencing one individual) explained these new, unfamiliar concepts of gender that are beyond the experience of most people, including most Transgender people. Red and Zenger's editor/publisher Mark Gabrish Conlan discussed how both gender identity and sexual orientation are far more complex and fluid than either the straight or the Queer mainstream is willing to acknowledge.
The Adult Performer Advocacy Committee has created a 15 minute video called Porn 101, giving all the basic info you need if you want to be a porn performer. It's great that there's now an advocacy group for performers, making ethical porn production more likely.