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Poliamore, Poliamore - American Spectator

Poliamore, Poliamore - American Spectator | lonopensado | Scoop.it
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The English equivalent, “polyamory,” is a noun which means having more than one romantic relationship going on at one time with the agreement of everyone involved.
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PODCAST: Why monogamy? Talking feminism and polyamory ...

PODCAST: Why monogamy? Talking feminism and polyamory ... | lonopensado | Scoop.it
Many have questioned the idea that committed, intimate, love relationships must necessarily be monogamous. Some see monogamy as a patriarchal invention that mainly benefits men and functions as a mechanism of control ...

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Devil's Mind: Polyamory: The Ethical Problems of Monogamy

Polyamory: The Ethical Problems of Monogamy. I have always had ethical problems with closed relationships and monogamy. I regard love as great and sacred, and for anything to contradict that seems unethical to me.


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Making Love & Losing Friends - Biases Against Polyamory | Life on the Swingset

Making Love & Losing Friends - Biases Against Polyamory | Life on the Swingset | lonopensado | Scoop.it

Very interesting article. Excerpt:

"I don’t understand why some people react so violently towards polyamory (or consensual non-monogamy). We aren’t asking them to live the same way we live, and we are happy and we aren’t hurting anybody. What’s the big deal?

We’re fortunate enough to have only lost one couple who we were friends with, due to our personal choice to practice polyamory."

Would you "unfriend" a couple if you found out they were swingers?


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Everyone Else is Cheating—So Why Aren't You?: Dating + Cheating

Everyone Else is Cheating—So Why Aren't You?: Dating + Cheating | lonopensado | Scoop.it
How Americans are learning monogamy is a myth.

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Is monogamy unnatural? - The Science Show - ABC Radio National (Australian Broadcasting Corporation)

Is monogamy unnatural? - The Science Show - ABC Radio National (Australian Broadcasting Corporation) | lonopensado | Scoop.it
Or, as Dr Chris Ryan’s talk at the Sydney Opera House was entitled: 'If you want fidelity, get a dog'.

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Multiple relationships can fulfill needs and heighten sexuality, says author - Toronto Sun

Multiple relationships can fulfill needs and heighten sexuality, says author - Toronto Sun | lonopensado | Scoop.it
CANOEMultiple relationships can fulfill needs and heighten sexuality, says authorToronto SunOpen relationships can't and won't work for everyone. But neither does monogamy. (Shutterstock) My favourite ice cream flavour is mint chocolate chip.

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Monogamy and the immune system: Differences in sexual behavior impact bacteria hosted and genes that control immunity

Monogamy and the immune system: Differences in sexual behavior impact bacteria hosted and genes that control immunity | lonopensado | Scoop.it
Researchers examined the differences between two species of mice -- one monogamous and one promiscuous -- on a microscopic and molecular level.

 

.....differences in sexual behavior impact the bacteria hosted by each species as well as the diversity of the genes that control immunity.


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Women Struggle with Monogamy More Than Men

Women Struggle with Monogamy More Than Men | lonopensado | Scoop.it

A new drug called Lybrido,is  created to stoke sexual desire in women.

 

Since its beginnings, when it was called "sociobiology," evolutionary psychology has been wed to the theory that women are monogamous and men are promiscuous—Evolutionary psychologists argue that this comes down to innate biology, that men are just made with stronger sex drives. A meta-analysis done by the psychologists Janet Hyde and Jennifer L. Petersen at the University of Wisconsin, Madison, incorporates more than 800 studies conducted between 1993 and 2007: no innate disparity in sexual motivation

 

It's women and not men who get bored with monogamy faster.Women are far more likely to lose interest in sex with their partners. This doesn’t necessarily translate into infidelity.

Nature or Nurture?

Maybe women’s declining interest in monogamous sex is socially, not biologically. If boys and men tend to take in messages that manhood is defined by sex and power, and those messages encourage them to think about sex often, then those neural networks associated with desire will be regularly activated and will become stronger over time. If women, generally speaking, learn other lessons, that sexual desire and expression are not necessarily positive, and if therefore they don’t think as much about sex, then those same neural networks will be less stimulated and comparatively weak.


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Is it a result of a lack of intimacy or its cause? confuse love with merging? boredom or tired? Females are not programmed for fidelity? 

 

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Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality

Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality | lonopensado | Scoop.it

"Ryan and Jethá show that our ancestors lived in egalitarian groups that shared food, child care, and often, sexual partners. Weaving together convergent, often overlooked evidence from anthropology, archeology, primatology, anatomy, and psychosexuality, the authors show how far from human nature sexual monogamy really is. They expose the ancient roots of human sexuality while pointing toward a more optimistic future illuminated by our innate capacities for love, cooperation, and generosity.

In the tradition of the best historical and scientific writing, SEX AT DAWN unapologetically upends unwarranted assumptions and unfounded conclusions while offering a revolutionary understanding of why we live and love as we do. A controversial, idea-driven book that challenges everything you know about sex, marriage, family, and society."


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Does Monogamy Cause Female Sexual Dysfunction?

Does Monogamy Cause Female Sexual Dysfunction? | lonopensado | Scoop.it
There has been talk of a female equivalent to Viagra for years. Now it may become a reality -- one that could be in pharmacies within the next few years, according to a May 22nd New York Times magazine article by Daniel Bergner.

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LUST IS GOOD: A View from the author of novel “Monogamy Sucks” « Monogamy Sucks

LUST IS GOOD: A View from the author of novel “Monogamy Sucks” « Monogamy Sucks | lonopensado | Scoop.it

Pls read my blog post: LUST IS GOOD http://bit.ly/iUpoE5 #epublishing #ebooks #sex #lust #publishing #erotica #erotic #dating #bloggers...


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Are Humans Really Meant to be Monogamous? - Huffington Post

Are Humans Really Meant to be Monogamous? - Huffington Post | lonopensado | Scoop.it
Are Humans Really Meant to be Monogamous?
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... species on Earth practice monogamy. Given how common infidelity is among married couples, what can science tell us about the capacity of humans to be monogamous beings?
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The Evolution of Intimate Relationship | Integral Life

The Evolution of Intimate Relationship | Integral Life | lonopensado | Scoop.it
Robert Augustus Masters shares the introduction to his new book, Transformation Through Intimacy: The Journey Toward Awakened Monogamy.

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Does Monogamy Really Work? [EXPERT] | Tammy Nelson | YourTango

Does Monogamy Really Work? [EXPERT] | Tammy Nelson | YourTango | lonopensado | Scoop.it
Is society's expectation of monogamy appropriate for modern times?

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Is monogamy making us miserable? - Telegraph

Is monogamy making us miserable? - Telegraph | lonopensado | Scoop.it
Marriage can be tough. But one expert believes it doesn’t have to be – that
our ‘one mate for life’ rule is unrealistic, unnecessary, even unnatural. We
dare to ask if, perhaps, he has a point.

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Love for Life? 12 Animals That Are (Mostly) Monogamous [Slide Show]: Scientific American

Love for Life? 12 Animals That Are (Mostly) Monogamous [Slide Show]: Scientific American | lonopensado | Scoop.it
Is monogamy a myth even in the animal kingdom? Not necessarily.

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Study: Non-monogamous couples are as happy as other couples

Study: Non-monogamous couples are as happy as other couples | lonopensado | Scoop.it
When it comes to consensual non-monogamy, one study suggests we shouldn't knock it until we've tried it

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Why monogamy is natural

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Traditional theorists and modern scientists point to four facts of human nature that commend monogamy.

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WATCH: What I Learned From Cheating On My Husband

WATCH: What I Learned From Cheating On My Husband | lonopensado | Scoop.it
Is lifelong monogamy possible?

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Monogamy Is a Patriarchal Myth and Other Things Your Parents Probably Never ... - Huffington Post

Monogamy Is a Patriarchal Myth and Other Things Your Parents Probably Never ... - Huffington Post | lonopensado | Scoop.it

Monogamy Is a Patriarchal Myth and Other Things Your Parents Probably Never ...Huffington PostThe super-micro version of their thesis is that in terms of human history, we just invented monogamy like, five minutes ago -- because we went from...


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Monogamy Helps Geese Reduce Stress

Monogamy Helps Geese Reduce Stress | lonopensado | Scoop.it
With monogamy so uncommon in the animal world, the idea of lifetime fidelity can seem a little strange, at least to evolutionary biologists.

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The Real Reason It's So Hard To Stay Faithful

The Real Reason It's So Hard To Stay Faithful | lonopensado | Scoop.it
If monogamy fails more than half of the time, are we looking at a system that no longer serves our needs? Are we holding onto a romanticized notion of love and desire, hoping that we can get it right, but continuing to fail at it over and over again?

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The Cheater's Manifesto (The Case for Non-Monogamy) - Huffington Post

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The Cheater's Manifesto (The Case for Non-Monogamy)
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The evolutionary psychology book Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá provides the reproductive motivations behind why men and women cheat in monogamous relationships.

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Tom Uytterhoeven's curator insight, June 14, 2013 4:03 AM

There is something paradoxical going on in this article. The author stresses that although evolution makes cheating in a relation somehow reasonable - it's part of human nature, so to speak - but at the same time repeatedly states that evolution can not be used as an excuse for our actions - "Sorry, hon', didn't mean to hurt you, it's just that my genes, you know..." 

Let me first say that I agree on this: I believe the author is right when she argues that we can acknowledge our 'natural' urges, without giving in to them. What gives us the ability to distance ourselves from our evolutionary inheritance - the male urge to produce as much offspring as possible - is not explicitly identified. The author hints at reflective reason in her closing paragraph. And that's what so paradoxical about the article, I believe. Although it seems that we are put against evolution - we can surpass evolutionary reasons to act in certain ways and choose a different path - in fact we are only using what evolution gave us: our reflective reason, and/or - not mentioned by the author - our cultural values. For me, as a theologian, that's where the interesting questions come up: what does it mean for a Christian to acknowledge that we acquired the ability to make our own choices through the evolutionary history - a combination of chance and necessity - of our species? Is it possible to identify revelation with (aspects of) cultural evolution? Can Christian belief in divine creation give us a deeper understanding of human free will, or can it only add some colour to the picture science paints?