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Slut Vs Stud

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Thoughts on the power of the word “slut” ~ and how it so varies in our slut-shaming culture from the word “stud” as found in the ever-fabulous The Ethical Slut. (Ah, would that we sluts could have such a breathy, lusty theme song as studs do, a la The Stud!)

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Queensland drags heels on anal sex law changes

Queensland drags heels on anal sex law changes | Let's Get Sex Positive | Scoop.it

The Palaszczuk Government has taken more than six months to bring a discriminatory Queensland law that has stood on the law books since 1899 to the consultation phase, with any action likely to still be months away.


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The Horrifying Reason Women Are Buying Plan B for One Another 

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You guys are the real heroes.

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Bans on Bondage and Spanking During Sex Could Be OK, Says Federal Court - Hit & Run : Reason.com

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The Constitution "does not prohibit the regulation of BDSM conduct," according to a U.S. District Court.
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Of Boobs On My Twitter Timeline & Women’s Rights

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I met an old friend for lunch today. As is the new polite norm for such lunches, he took a moment to deal with messages on his phone before putting turning it off & putting it back in his pocke…
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Phoenix Goddess Temple Proves Need For Sex Worker Solidarity

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"As long as the law can come for some of us, they can come for all of us."
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Just Let This Sink In For A Moment

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“There are teenagers having unprotected sex, but have cases on their cell phones. Just let that sink in for a moment.” Mind-blowingly true. Share; get sticker here.

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Creepy & Complex Sexual Discussions Regarding David Bowie

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It wasn’t until David Bowie passed that I heard about how he had slept with an underage girl.

At the age of 15, Lori Mattix was a self-described groupie in the 70s ~ a groupie who lost her virginity to David Bowie. Last November, in an interview at the Thrillist, the adult Mattix seemed fine about it. Even when Thrillist reporter Michael Kaplan pressed her about it, she seemed dreamily happy, gushing, “Who wouldn’t want to lose their virginity to David Bowie?”

Mattix’s stories of her groupie years, deflowering, and age have varied over the years ~ which is not stated here to cast doubt on her claims, but to point out that she clearly hasn’t viewed her sexual activities with Bowie (or others) to be rape or anything remotely close to it. But, as told in the Thrillist piece, Mattix was a minor and Bowie was not. So even with Mattix agreeing and desiring to have sex with Bowie, her age removes her legal ability to consent. This would make Bowie guilty, ethically if not legally, of statutory rape.

Yes, I know; we all took David Bowie’s death pretty hard. But I’m not posting this about Bowie per se…. I mean, sure, there are definitely implications and conversations we should be having regarding celebrities and abuse. And we do have some consumer power we can wield. But the real issues I am looking at in this conversation are the rights of young people to have any sexual autonomy, who decides who is victimized, and how autonomy and victimization impact one another.
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Icky Child Sex Dolls

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Recently, The Atlantic covered the story of Shin Takagi and his company, Trottla, which produces life-like child sex dolls. Yes, you read & understood that correctly; Takagi produces life-like …
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Why (Some) Women Love Strap-Ons

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Life is more free now. But we’re also being forced to ask ourselves some serious questions. Like, ‘Does shaving my armpits make me a bad feminist?’ And, more pressingly, ‘Is my strap-on a symbol of male supremacy?’ And if so, should I set it on fire as a performance art piece?”


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David Bowie's anthem for the outsider "Kooks"

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Kooks extols the possibility of good parenthood by unconventional mothers and fathers.

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Every Grindr Conversation Ever Boiled Down To Six Messages

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Vote now for the 2015 Feminist Celebrity of the Year

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The Ms. Foundation for Women celebrates all feminists all year long. Women and men who believe in social, economic and political equality are working every day to change the conversation and build a more equal society for ALL genders. Their work makes all the difference.
In 2014 we teamed up with Cosmopolitan.com for our first EVER Feminist Celebrity of the Year survey. You voted and we recognized those who used their impact, influence and notoriety to promote true equality.  These celebrities not only publicly identified as feminists but worked to change the national and international dialogue around diversity, inclusiveness and intersectionality. 

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If you want to encourage the feminist movement to be pro sex work, vote for Cho!

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Deanna Dahlsad's curator insight, December 4, 2015 3:54 PM

Surprise, some men are on the list.


If you must know, I voted for Margaret Cho.

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Encourage the feminist movement to be pro #sexwork, vote for @margaretcho! via @DPopTart

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James Deen’s Alleged Assaults Were Ignored, Laughed Off by Casts and Crews #sexwork #porn #rape

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Since Saturday, when porn actress and writer Stoya tweeted that she was raped by porn hero James Deen, four more adult film performers have come out agains
Gracie Passette's insight:

Cauterucci's article gives the most balanced view of the whole James Deen rape story ~ including the debacles facing women in porn and sex work. While the adult industry has a much faster (and positive) response to its stars who rape and abuse than Hollywood and mainstream media do, there are always the following issues of whether or not it is rape if a person is paid or likes rough sex. 


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"There is nothing wrong or rape-like about enjoying rough sex and being good at it. There is nothing wrong or suspicious about acting out a consensual rape fantasy. But, as in offscreen/noncommercial sex, the entire validity of porn as an industry hinges on consent. Perversely, that may be one reason why a porn actress might feel compelled to stay silent about these kinds of violations: Women who act in adult films are often portrayed as victims with little agency or know-how, who must resort to a demeaning and dangerous career because they have no other options. Stories like the ones Fires, Lux, Rayne, and Peters tell—important as they are—don’t exactly contradict that myth.


But neither porn nor rough sex subjected these women to sexual assault, and they didn’t turn James Deen into a rapist. The allegations against Deen are full of references to ways porn actresses control their own careers: through lists of acts they won’t perform, lists of people they won’t perform with, and contracts that specify exactly what will happen in a scene. Deviating from the agreed-upon variety, timing, and manner of sex is just as wrong as any other kind of assault. The women who’ve told their horrifying stories about Deen know that. Deen and the bystanders who looked on and laughed did, too."


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Gracie Passette's curator insight, December 2, 2015 6:33 PM

Cauterucci's article gives the most balanced view of the whole James Deen rape story ~ including the debacles facing women in porn and sex work. While the adult industry has a much faster (and positive) response to its stars who rape and abuse than Hollywood and mainstream media do, there are always the following issues of whether or not it is rape if a person is paid or likes rough sex. 


Cauterucci:


"There is nothing wrong or rape-like about enjoying rough sex and being good at it. There is nothing wrong or suspicious about acting out a consensual rape fantasy. But, as in offscreen/noncommercial sex, the entire validity of porn as an industry hinges on consent. Perversely, that may be one reason why a porn actress might feel compelled to stay silent about these kinds of violations: Women who act in adult films are often portrayed as victims with little agency or know-how, who must resort to a demeaning and dangerous career because they have no other options. Stories like the ones Fires, Lux, Rayne, and Peters tell—important as they are—don’t exactly contradict that myth.

But neither porn nor rough sex subjected these women to sexual assault, and they didn’t turn James Deen into a rapist. The allegations against Deen are full of references to ways porn actresses control their own careers: through lists of acts they won’t perform, lists of people they won’t perform with, and contracts that specify exactly what will happen in a scene. Deviating from the agreed-upon variety, timing, and manner of sex is just as wrong as any other kind of assault. The women who’ve told their horrifying stories about Deen know that. Deen and the bystanders who looked on and laughed did, too."

Click links for more info on rape & rape fantasies ~ including issues in porn & sex work.

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Cauterucci's article gives the most balanced view of the whole James Deen rape story ~ including the debacles facing women in porn and sex work. While the adult industry has a much faster (and positive) response to its stars who rape and abuse than Hollywood and mainstream media do, there are always the following issues of whether or not it is rape if a person is paid or likes rough sex. 


Cauterucci:


"There is nothing wrong or rape-like about enjoying rough sex and being good at it. There is nothing wrong or suspicious about acting out a consensual rape fantasy. But, as in offscreen/noncommercial sex, the entire validity of porn as an industry hinges on consent. Perversely, that may be one reason why a porn actress might feel compelled to stay silent about these kinds of violations: Women who act in adult films are often portrayed as victims with little agency or know-how, who must resort to a demeaning and dangerous career because they have no other options. Stories like the ones Fires, Lux, Rayne, and Peters tell—important as they are—don’t exactly contradict that myth.


But neither porn nor rough sex subjected these women to sexual assault, and they didn’t turn James Deen into a rapist. The allegations against Deen are full of references to ways porn actresses control their own careers: through lists of acts they won’t perform, lists of people they won’t perform with, and contracts that specify exactly what will happen in a scene. Deviating from the agreed-upon variety, timing, and manner of sex is just as wrong as any other kind of assault. The women who’ve told their horrifying stories about Deen know that. Deen and the bystanders who looked on and laughed did, too."


Click links for more info on rape & rape fantasies ~ including issues in porn & sex work.

TheBodyHouse.biz's curator insight, December 4, 2015 12:08 AM

For God's sake... It's never ok to punch a woman in the face and take her from behind... even if she's a paid porn star. Even if she literally... asks you for it.

 

It doesn't matter that this happened on the set of a porn flick. This incident springs from the generalized notion that it's excusable to treat a woman abusively because you are a more powerful and dominant male. Get over yourselves!

 

I see this attitude (and often experience it) everywhere. It's the attitude whereby men believe women have been put on this Earth to serve them.


Men feel entitled to us. This leads to a sense of ownership. I'm not sure where this comes from (The Bible maybe?) but it has got to END.


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Plus-Size Porn Is on the Rise — But Not for the Reason We Think

Plus-Size Porn Is on the Rise — But Not for the Reason We Think | Let's Get Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Body positivity has been having a moment as of late. Plus-size models are dominating runways and magazines. The tyranny of the "thigh gap" has been usurped by the somewhat more fat-friendly "thighbrow." In a duet with self-proclaimed "thick" chick Nicki Minaj, Drake has even declared, "I like my girls BBW," referring to "Big Beautiful Women," a niche genre of porn featuring women that are, well, big and beautiful.

However, even though we pay a lot of lip service to women like models Nadia Aboulhosn and Tess Holliday, is the body-positivity trend in the style sphere reflective of a larger phenomenon? Is our culture becoming more accepting of bigger women, both in the fashion world and in the privacy of our own bedrooms? In short: Are we increasingly masturbating to plus-size porn? 

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Why Movie Studios Are Starting To Advertise On Porn Sites

Why Movie Studios Are Starting To Advertise On Porn Sites | Let's Get Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Any major film that comes out is going to have teasers, a few trailers, posters and the stars doing umpteen interviews about their newest film. But now, one insider has let us in on an advertising technique you may not, or at least pretend not to know about.
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Are Humans Meant to be Monogamous?

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When you ask psychologists, biologists, and sexuality experts whether humans are meant to be monogamous, the first thing they will come back with is, What do you mean by “meant to be”? Society, culture, and religion affect what we do as much as evolution and biology. So they were asked if monogamy is "natural" for humans. Author and educational consultant Dr. Elisabeth Sheff begins with the facts that most of the experts quoted agree upon.I'm not sure if there is any intention behind

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It Gets Queerer: TV’s portrayal of LGBTIQ people is better than ever

It Gets Queerer: TV’s portrayal of LGBTIQ people is better than ever | Let's Get Sex Positive | Scoop.it

In terms of reach and scope, nothing brings queer stories and characters to audiences with the same effectiveness as television. Sure, films like The Imitation Game and Dallas Buyers Club get nominated for Oscars and attain a higher profile than most TV shows, but in terms of pushing the limits of what mainstream audiences encounter, it’s impossible to beat a medium which reaches a captive audience in living rooms across the world.

The problem with these films is the fact that they’re fundamentally heterocentric works. While they may have queer characters at their core, they’re not actually interested in those characters’ queerness in a way that understands the increasing significance of LGBTIQ representation. Television, on the other hand, has become adept at doing this, but it still has a ways to go.


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'Don't Sneak': A Father's Command to His Gay Son in the 1950s

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In a StoryCorps animation, Patrick Haggerty remembers the remarkable advice he got from his dairy farmer dad.

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Two years before he died, he had the chance to make his son feel comfortable about himself and he did against all conventions at the time.  A saint? Yes, I think so....

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Why Is Sex So Weird in the Future? - Inverse

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Stories that take place in not-too-distant futures are hot right now. Whether it’s franchises like The Hunger Games, TV...

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Meet the boys leading Margiela’s gender revolution

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John Galliano makes another androgynous statement in Paris, enlisting a cast of gender-fluid male models for the house’s SS16 women’s show

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The history and future of gayness: I Was Born Homosexual. I Chose to Be Gay.

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“You know,” observed a recent dinner guest, glancing around our living room between sips of his digestif, “there are a lot of strong women in this apartment.” I follow his gaze toward the massive tangerine-on-yellow She-Ra painting that anchors one end of the room—a tough lady if there ever was...
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Are young men really porn-watching, video game-playing losers?

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The Guy Behind the Stanford Prison Experiment Says Video Games Are Destroying Men


In 1971, the psychologist Philip Zimbardo spearheaded the Stanford prison experiment to show how the hierarchy of the penitentiary system could turn otherwise reasonable men into monsters. Now, Zimbardo has identified a new threat to mankind: the Internet. Excessive video game use and porn consumption, Zimbardo says, is turning modern...

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One woman's hilarious game about the UK's weird porn laws

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Designer Holly Gramazio makes games you play in person, at events and installations: non-digital works that use physical spaces. But thanks to a very special set of rules—namely, the long list of sex acts suddenly banned in the United Kingdom—Gramazio was drawn to make a hilarious digital game for the first time.

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'Margarita With A Straw' and the sexuality of the differently abled

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'Margarita With A Straw' and the sexuality of the differently abled - All too often, society turns a blind eye to the primal needs of the differently abled.
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