From my early days with Lee Thayer about 20+ years ago, it has always been about being in the learning mode. Vistage, formerly known as TEC (The Executive Committee), was one of the many organizations that Lee infected with being in the learning mode as opposed to the knowing mode. Red Scott would always say: You're green and growing (learning mode) or ripe and rotting (knowing mode). I added that for many of us we turn to rotting and composting so that we can once again become green and growing. It's not what I know that gets me in trouble. It's what I know that just ain't so...that does. ozzie MIndfulness.com
Ten psychological findings that challenge our intuitive view of how our minds work.
When I follow my heart or emotions, I must remember to take my brain along. I don't learn from my experience: I learn from my interpretation of my experiences. Practice doesn't make perfect; practice makes permanent. Perfect practice makes perfect.
Lee reminds me: It's not what I know that gets me in trouble: it's what I know that just ain't so that does.
I use my rationalizations to explain why something happened the way it did or why I did something not realizing the choices I made or that I was not conscious and in a triggered state.
Some things to think about. Getting my thinking right is what Lee continues to share in his writings.
"Mindless habits sap our energy, steal our time and clutter our life at home & work. It is the never-ending obsession with doing or being good enough. Mark Nepo and Oprah highlight, in the video clip, the limitations of the listening to the constant chatter of the inner critic, our distractions and busyness. Nepo stresses the need to develop the discipline and personal practice of presence."
"Being fully present in the here and now creates greater peace, power and harmony. Presence and making genuine, loving contact is not always safe or easy. There is always a risk involved in trying to make a real connection. Being aware of our presence and making small adjustments in our mindless habits will help our lives flow more harmoniously according to our own nature and natural rhythms."
So I remind myself: Am I awake, aware, fully present and living my life intentionally?
Lead people to their better selves. And start with myself first.
Leaders change the world in some way. Often it is radical change. Look at leaders in history. There were no books on leadership. Leaders influence/influenced this person and the next and the next to get out and create the change necessary to alter the world. The measure of performance is: Performance.
When you think about it, the leader is often identified only after the fact. After the results have been achieved.
Leaders don't have a Vision. They are had by a Vision.
Umair Hague's thoughts on leadership are reflected in the life work of Lee Thayer on Leadership and High Performance Organizations.
Should I want to see what it takes to prepare myself to become a leader should the occasion arise, then I will begin to read the works of Lee Thayer starting with Leadership: Thinking, Being, Doing. Then I must be prepared to challenge myself for the rest of my life.
Closing keynote of the OuiShare Fest by Michel Bauwens, founder of the Foundation for P2P Alternatives, who introduces four prospective scenarios for the col...
What is my contribution and what future scenarios am I helping to create? How am I reaching out peer to peer (P2P) to create the future that is for the benefit of all. See the Kalama Sutra Leadership is about how I think influences my being and who I am. Who I am impacts what I do.
We are back to what Lee Thayer shared from the beginning. When had by a purpose that is greater than the individual, the person doesn't have a vision or purpose; rather the vision or purpose has the individual...for the best of mankind.
The models of the world that we create based on who we are and what we've experienced and interpreted create the way we look at "our" reality. So in a way I will never know reality; only my interpretation or explanation of my experiences and my thoughts. Guess what. My lense will always be different from yours.
This piece from Cleveland Clinic touches on why Empathy is so important. I never know what you are experiencing when I make my judgmental decision of your intentions without knowing...your story.
Red Scott said it this way: I'm either green and growing or ripe and rotting. Lee Thayer continues to talk about and address the difference between being closed when in the knowing mode, and open when in the learning mode.
I added to Red's comment: If I become ripe and rotting, I can become rotting and composting. When this occurs I can again become Green and Growing. This is the reason that questions open one and answers close one off. How does one stay in the learning mode for a lifetime?
Thanks to Mark Taylor, fellow Vistage Chair for bringing the article to my attention.
The public and press devour news and books about ‘lit up’ neurons with gusto. Politicians have the bug, too, with Obama and Harper each launching $100-million research plans.
Looks like we have moved from pop-psychology to pop-neuroscience. The suggestion is that it might serve us better to learn about neuroscience by "reading the blogs of the Neurocritic, Neuroskeptic and Mind Hacks. ...Those are actual practicing neuroscientists who are experts in their respective fields."
New insights into how the brain works are changing how learning leaders structure programs and how the corporate learning industry thinks about knowledge retention and study habits.
While scientists now know more about the brain, it's validating scientifically what our earliest philosophers understood intuitively. They lived and practiced: repeated retrieval, the spacing effect, and deep encoding, Think: knowing my times tables. Or the Roman who held up two fingers and said: Five beers please.
Science is a metaphor for understanding reality. The truth is that I do not learn from my experiences. I learn from my interpretation of my experiences. Remember that reality is my reality because it is filtered through my mental model. My mental model is based upon my interpretation of my unique experiences (that have a great deal in common with many others in the species genus homo. So we are back to Lee Thayer's: Get my thinking right.
For how I think creates and reflects who I am. Who I am and how i think create what I do. What I do creates my habits and then in the end my habits create me. So it is in the doing the right thinking about doing the right actions that creates me. (The Latin verb for the word "do" is: ago/agere, agi, actus.
Think with the end in mind. Or another way of saying it is: Act from the future.
So in one way we live reality while understanding reality by explaining it metaphorically through science. I continually have to be reminded not to mistake the finger pointing at the moon for the moon.
I have seen the future, and for better or worse, it seems to be made of thousands of "rules." For managing customer experiences, for driving how you engage with prospects, for nudging a customer
A nice morning moment of reflection.
*Know the rules well, so that you can break them effectively. Dali Lama XIV My mentor,
Lee Thayer, reminded us many times that:
No tool/rule is any better than the understanding of the person using it.
The best tool/rule in the wrong hands will not accomplish what was intended.
No too/rule or technique can be any better than its users.
----Being effective looks at doing what needs to be done to accomplish what needs to be accomplished. That starts with: Am I going to be better and more competent tomorrow than I was today at doing what needs to be done for the success of our organization in delivering what the customer/client/fellow employee/community needs.
Leadership begins at home with followership, decision making, choices and their consequences, knowing that: If you want to know the future, create it; and right thinking. My thinking determines who I am. Who I am determines what I do. What I do creates my habits. And my habits create me. Mindfulness, like leadership is about practice. It takes a leader to destroy the adult daycare mentality that many people bring to work.
Am I awake, aware and living my life intentionally?
I am also reminded: Not everything new is good, nor everything old bad.
Evje sums it up well:
"A very hard element of personal growth is the awareness, discipline, and courage to set down the skills, activities, and identity of the past, in order to pick up new things for the future. You can’t carry both. You must listen for what the past is telling you to stop, and learn what the future requires you to start."
My Greatness Zone is a result of the passion when I find my unique contribution and live it. It is the place one can change the world for the better in some way. Cindy shares how she has found hers.
We are interdependent. We are herd/pack animals euphemistically calling ourselves social animals. It is with the help of others tht we reach our greatness. That Greatness Zone lays in what Suzanne Livingston calls: My unique contribution. For me that is my passion around servant-leadership and building community. Cindy shares well how the work as a fellow Vistage/TEC Chair has allowed me to fulfill my passion for the past 27 years.
Cindy talks about being good at what she did. She also mentions "I found I became bored easily" When I can do something well and it becomes habit, I can coast. And you know what they say about coasting. When you're coasting you're going downhill.
The challenge that Lee Thayer throws down is: How will I be better tomorrow that I was today in living my life and performing better than I was today personally and professionally?
Cindy has found her unique contribution that challenges her daily to be better than yesterday.
Remember, I cannot motivate another person. Motivation comes from within.
Motivation: the state or condition of being motivated.
Motivate: Providing motive.
Motive: Goals or objectives of one's actions.Random House Dictionary
You may be able to inspire me, however it is up to me to achieve the "goals or objectives my one's actions."
I am not saying that success is unimportant, that failure is okay, or that you should feel good about missing your goals. To live with excellence, you must use your resources fully, doing your best to accomplish the outcomes you seek. What I am asserting is that if you want to live a “good life” you must first learn to subordinate success to integrity.
Instructing somebody to meditate -- to release or dis-identify with his or her thoughts -- is like trying to instruct somebody to instantly sneeze, or like telling someone just not to think, when the mind but built to do little else but that.
The ancestor of every action is thought. -- Emerson Steve Robertson reminds us in this Huffington Report article Mindfulness and Monkey Mind: Our ...
Some of my thoughts after reading Steve Robertson's Mindfulness & Monkey Mind and how Lee's thoughts reflect that same Mindfulness when it comes to who is responsible in communication.
My message in any medium is not a message if it is not accessed and interpreted by some person.
My message is not a message if the receiver doesn't take my message into account.
My message is not the message I intended if the other person interprets it other than the way I intended.
So the learning lesson for me, if I am able to hear is:
The one who interprets my message
is always the one who is in control.
So it is my responsibility as the receiver of the communication for getting the message the person speaking to me intended.
My communication and all communication have consequences. Those consequences involve me and the other(s) who hear my communication.Those consequences are independent of intentions (mine or theirs, communication skills (mind or theirs) or whatever is going on in life (mine or theirs).
This brings us back to my blog and the quotes from Lee on the metaphor of communication being like a virus. The Kalama Sutra said the same thing over 2500 years ago.