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Addicted to Approval: Reclaim Your Self-Esteem

Addicted to Approval: Reclaim Your Self-Esteem | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
Depending on others to confirm that you’re worthwhile is a recipe for disappointment. You are good enough, whether others approve of you or not.
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We live in a world that seems to tell us the opposite; that we need external approval. Thich Nhat Hanh's quote is a great entry into this article.

 

This is something we need to emphasize in schools and with students. It might help overcome bullying a bit.

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Love Notes.

Love Notes. | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
Tyler Knott Gregson captures a poetic moment with clarity and precision, creating emotional saturation in a brevity of space, as if he developed a photograph
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This is an interesting article about poetry, love, and creativity.

 

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Decompressing emotions with radical acceptance

Decompressing emotions with radical acceptance | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it

A common way in which we deal with unpleasant emotions is to suppress or ignore them. These are normal coping mechanisms our minds use to handle situations we don’t particularly want to deal with in the present moment. When strong emotions come into our consciousness, there is often something inside of us which says, “This is going to ruin my happiness right now and I don’t like that, so I’ll just deal with it later.” The problem with this approach is that ‘later’ never comes and these emotions get pushed further down, out of our conscious awareness.

It is a basic law of the universe that energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only change form. The same law applies to our consciousness. We can suppress emotions for a very long time, and although they leave our conscious awareness, it doesn’t mean they are completely gone. This repressed emotional energy gets buried deep within the basement of our subconscious, where it sits gathering ‘emotional dust’.

This ‘dust’ is actually emotional energy that resonates with the repressed emotion. These emotions also attract like-emotions, and they do this by bringing situations into our day-to-day life which activate and feed them with similar emotional energy. In this way, suppressed emotions (which are basically energetic patterns) begin to gain more power, until an emotional pressure begins to build.

This internal pressure of repressed emotions is what many of us are afraid to look at. This gradually accumulates until the pressure becomes too great to remain hidden, and rises to the surface in a fit of rage, depression or an uncharacteristic emotional reaction. When this breakdown happens, we feel a temporary relief from the released energy. However, if we don’t work to bleed out all the accumulated energy, the pressure will, once again, begin to build until the next ‘external’ event releases more of the pressure.

When an emotional trauma occurs, there is the choice to either deal with it effectively or to turn away from it. When we choose to turn away from it, we must do something with the energy of the situation. We either 1) repress/suppress the emotions, 2) express them (i.e. saying things out of anger), or 3) distract ourselves with something else.

These debilitating forms of handling emotions lead to the reinforcement of an emotional pattern within the psyche, which can eventually take on a life of its own and begin to run our lives. When approached in this way, the process can continue indefinitely, or until a complete (often called nervous) breakdown occurs. The nervous breakdown, although traumatic, usually has a very transformative effect because a vast amount of pent-up emotion is released in a very short period of time. It is this catharsis, or ‘dark night of the soul’, that is touched upon in many world myths, religions, and shamanic traditions.

THE GOOD NEWS

The good news is that we don’t have to wait for a complete nervous breakdown to start letting these repressed emotions go. There is a way to let out this emotional pressure, no matter how deep, in a beneficial and transformative way. It requires radical self-honesty and the courage to face the fear that played a main part in suppressing the emotions in the first place.  It is not the easiest of paths, and not to be undertaken lightly, but it is one that we must take if we wish to live a truly peaceful and balanced life.
THE DECOMPRESSION PROCESS

First, it is important to create a safe environment in which the decompression process can occur.

The tools for cultivating this are simple: humility and acceptance. We can become humble to the fact that everything is fine, and the emotions we fear coming up, in reality, are not going to kill us, even though at times it may feel like it. We can also cultivate an attitude of acceptance towards all the emotions that arise and just observe them, without judgment.

Second, drop the urge to label the emotions as they arise. Ignore all thoughts about the emotion and instead focus on the sensations that occur in the body. At first, this may be difficult to do, as an emotional numbness can be present. If this is the case, focus on the intention to just feel them, and eventually it will happen.

Once the thoughts and labels about the emotions have been dropped, just sit with the feelings, without trying to change them. Notice if there is a resistance to the way the emotions feel, and just be with that. If a resistance is felt, the key is to not resist the resistance.

In the space of observing the emotions as they are occurring, free of any mental labeling, they become only energies playing out across the energetic backdrop of consciousness. Since there are no labels, it doesn’t even matter if they are there or not. You can ask the question, “What if this feeling stayed in the body forever?” Then what? Would it kill you to feel this way forever? Probably not…

THE RADICAL STEP: ACCEPTING THE EMOTIONS, AS THEY ARE

Try for just a second to experiment with the possibility of the emotion never leaving you, and being totally okay with it, without needing to change anything. Notice how this attitude feels, compared to that of resistance. It can almost feel peaceful, even in the midst of a very heavy emotion.

By dropping the mental labeling of the emotion and the resistance to feeling it, we allow the emotional energy to return into the flow of the universe, rather than keeping it bottled up inside of us. Since there is no longer a resistance to feeling the emotion, there is no longer anything keeping it from leaving; it is finally free to go.

As can be seen, there is no limit to how much you can accept what is happening, to just let it be. Fortunately, there is a limit to the energy of the emotion being let out. If we are patient enough and continue to surrender to the process, eventually the pressure of the emotion runs itself out completely, as if a fire has burned it out of us. It is this transformative fire of the decompression process that clears out all of the unpleasant feelings associated with repressed emotions. What remains is the warmth from the fire, and in it all of the lessons we were meant to learn from the experience.

 

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5 Everyday Practices to Living the Good Life

5 Everyday Practices to Living the Good Life | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
  While growing up I often would ask questions about things that perplexed me and my dad often answered me with, “life doesn’t come with an instruction manual.” As a kid I would just look at him still perplexed as he would go back to reading his newspaper, as a teenager I would scowl at …

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The endless practice of being and becoming who we are is ongoing. I wonder what that means in teaching and learning?

 

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Bring the Fiery Light of Awareness With These 4 Steps. ~ Ruth Lera

Bring the Fiery Light of Awareness With These 4 Steps. ~ Ruth Lera | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
Having problems might not be going anywhere for the human race anytime soon. But needing to run from them might be.
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The first step is quieting the mind and allowing the problem to reveal itself in the quietness. We can begin to lean in only after we recognize and name the problem.

 

The last few years I was a teaching I found realizing the problems at hand allowed me to deal with them differently. I shifted my attitude. After all, it is impossible to shift someone else's attitude.

 

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A Mindful Season | Mindful

A Mindful Season | Mindful | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
As the holiday season approaches, Janice Marturano asks us to consider the treasures in our lives and offers a short practice for reflecting on those treasures.

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The article is several months old, but makes a good case for being mindful and discovering/rediscovering our personal treasures. It is important for people to feel connected to their lives, work, and their relationships with people and in the world.

 

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A Meditation for Taming the Monkey Mind

A Meditation for Taming the Monkey Mind | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
A Meditation for Taming the Monkey Mind. Many of us in this fast-paced world are plagued with an equally fast-paced mind.nbsp Our thoughts can become a whirlwind as we try to juggle the many events in our schedule along with the ongoing dialogue we have with ourselves.nbsp Many of us have been conditioned to use a judgmental

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We live in a world of paradox rather than one of binary opposites. Mindfulness does not eliminate the deep-seated belief in the binary opposites. It provides ways of understanding the way we deal with those binaries.

 

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A New Approach to Education

A New Approach to Education | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it

Empathy and Academic Success
The key to compassion is being predisposed to help -- and that can be learned.
 

There is an active school movement in character education and teaching ethics. But I don't think it's enough to have children just learn about ethical virtuosity, because

 

we need to embody our ethical beliefs by acting on them. This begins with empathy.


Daniel Goleman 

Author, 'Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence'

Culture of Empathy Builder Page: 
 http://bit.ly/jc7Dam


  

Peter M. Senge 
Culture of Empathy Builder Page: 

Senior Lecturer at the MIT

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Learning in general happens best in a warm, supportive atmosphere, in which there exists a feeling of safety, of being supported and cared about, of closeness and connection. In such a space children's brains more readily reach the state of optimal cognitive efficiency -- and of caring about others.

Such an atmosphere has particular importance for those children at most risk of going off track in their lives because of early experiences of deprivation, abuse, or neglect. Studies of such high-risk kids who have ended up thriving in their lives -- who are resilient -- find that usually the one person who turned their life around was a caring adult.

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Let there be Peace on Earth & Let it Begin with Me.

Let there be Peace on Earth & Let it Begin with Me. | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it

Whe/wWe are looking in all the wrong places. The peace we seek cannot be found outside - it's within. The mirror seeks its reflection - our true nature is infinity.

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Beginning with who we are as a person is the place to begin. The Gandhi quote: Be the change you want to see in the world is fitting here.

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What is Eid al-Fitr, and when does it take place?

What is Eid al-Fitr, and when does it take place? | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it

When is Eid? And what is the celebration about? Here's a guide to the festival of Eid al-Fitr, which marks the end of the month-long fast of Ramadan


Muslims across the world will greet each other by saying "Eid Mubarak" today, as the month-long fast of Ramadan comes to a close.

Because the timing of Eid al-Fitr is based on the Islamic lunar calendar, it can be difficult to predict when the festival will take place.

But when the new moon appears over Saudi Arabia, the Islamic community break into colourful celebrations, throwing food festivals, performing music and spending time with friends and family.

Here's a guide to Eid al-Fitr, and how to know when it takes place.
What is Eid al-Fitr?

The arabic name Eid al-Fitr translates to 'festival of the breaking of the fast' in English.

It marks the end of the month-long fast of Ramadan, and the beginning of the Islamic month of Shawwal.
What is Ramadan?

Ramadan is the ninth month of the Islamic calendar, and marks the month in which the Quran was first revealed.

Muslims spend the month fasting from dawn until sunset.
When is Eid al-Fitr observed?

The end of Ramadan is based on the Islamic lunar calendar, so it can be difficult to predict.

Eid al-Fitr is observed when the first new moon is sighted.

This can lead to the festival being celebrated on different days in different parts of the world.

While some Muslims wait to be able to see the moon themselves, many either use the calculated time of the new moon, or base it on the declaration made in Saudi Arabia.

Saudi Arabia announced on Sunday that Eid al-Fitr would begin on July 28th - so most UK Muslims will begin their celebrations today.

How is Eid al-Fitr celebrated?

On the day of Eid, Muslims gather at mosques in the morning to perform the Eid prayer, before holding family gatherings and visiting friends.

Muslims share feasts and sweets to mark the end of the fasting period, and greet each other by saying "Eid Mubarak" - which roughly translates as "happy Eid" or "blessed Eid."

The celebrations last for three days, and are seen as a time of forgiveness and of giving thanks to Allah for helping people to complete their spiritual fasting.

Many Muslims display this thanksgiving by giving donations and food to those less fortunate than themselves.

In most Muslim countries, the three days of Eid are observed as public and school holiday. This is not the case in the UK, but many employers and schools allow time off for Muslim workers and children - particularly in areas with a high Muslim population.

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/what-eid-al-fitr-your-guide-3925161#ixzz38nRoSuNl

 


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Last year, where I was living I was invited, along with others in the house, to join our Islamic friends there in celebrating Eid. It was incredible to experience what this meant to the Islamic friends who were our hosts.

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Why Mindful Individuals Make Better Decisions

Why Mindful Individuals Make Better Decisions | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it

Mindfulness is practiced in board rooms from Silicon Valley to Wall Street. But just how much does it improve the quality of your decision-making?


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Mindfulness does not improve bottom lines unless it improves the person practicing the practice and make for a better world. Mindfulness is compassionate and is directed towards a better world. Thinking about meditation is a key component; the opposite is premeditation. What does that bring up. For example, in School we calculate what is important in advance and write curricula. That calculation is premeditated and does not require being mindful and attentive to this particular child's needs. Chogyam Trungpa suggested the practice on the mat prepares us for the real practice in life.

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This article very elegantly outlines how important being mindful can be for corporate leaders. It is just as true for civic, political and non-profit leaders.

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Let Go & Let God.

Let Go & Let God. | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
At our core, we are Nature, yet traditionally we've been strangled by judgment, rules and limitation. It's time to end left-brain-domination, and surrender to
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Even in School, there is a desire to separate learning from teaching, the planned curricula from the living curricula. We begin with predetermined, pre-meditated outcomes as if they are stable and fixed. Even the language we use is about naming the place i.e. it is a site rather than working which is a verb and gerund. A gerund is a noun wanting to be a verb.

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Do We Really Need a Purpose to be Abundant, Happy & Successful? ~ Mirror Living

Do We Really Need a Purpose to be Abundant, Happy & Successful? ~ Mirror Living | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it

eIt's a lie.

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There is a hermeneutic quality when we say we don't need to know our purpose. It does not mean our life does not have purpose, but it gets us away from the rat race concept where bosses, self-help gurus, professional development experts, etc. get to order you have to passion. I think of the best people and things in my life and they found me. I had to be awake, present, and reading the lay of the land (hermeneutics) and be open to the possibilities in front of me. I could not plan for that.

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Contemplative Based Resilience Training

Contemplative Based Resilience Training | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
Humanitarian relief and development work takes place in an often stressful and frequently traumatic environment, which can create an enormous psychological burden for the workers – and result in a similarly negative impact on the organizations that employ them and on the beneficiary populations they seek to serve.

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We don't build. It is a matter of trans-forming and per-forming in compassionate ways in daily life.

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beyond a system ...

beyond a system ... | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
click the thumbnails, to enlarge ... Diamond Sutra  (7): Then Buddha asked Subhuti, "What do you think, Subhuti, has the Buddha arrived at the highest, most fulfilled, most awakened and enlightened...
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Another article I scooped today proposed that leading is a rational process. This article does not refute that, but offers an explanation about that supports an intuitive aspect to teaching, learning, and leading. We integrate the rational and intuitive into our lives in ways that help us navigate life and its works.

 

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4 Other Words for Mindfulness. ~ Ruth Lera

4 Other Words for Mindfulness. ~ Ruth Lera | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
Mindfulness is just a word, a word to describe a way to experience a moment. But sometimes certain words don’t work for their intended purpose and we need to f
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Noticing, welcoming, pausing, and awareness are ways to experience mindfulness.

 

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Word of the Week "Moral Compass": Meditate on this Phrase

Word of the Week "Moral Compass": Meditate on this Phrase | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it

These two words used together are important – very important.  In the legal profession, we must use a moral compass because we meet people who have lost their way.  We have to make sure, at all time, that we do not head in the wrong direction also.

 

Take time to meditate about the meaning of the word “moral compass” to you.

 

Learn more:

 

http://www.scoop.it/t/21st-century-learning-and-teaching/?tag=Ethics

 

http://www.scoop.it/t/21st-century-learning-and-teaching/?tag=Moral

 

http://www.scoop.it/t/21st-century-learning-and-teaching/?tag=Values


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I am unsure that moral compass is a device. A compass is, but thinking of morals in an instrumental way, even metaphorically, misses the point. Having said this, the article makes good points. We communicate morals through our words, actions, thoughts, etc. It is communicating that is important.

 

Teachers communicate all the time. We should consider what that means to the learning of others.

 

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Take a break

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Enough to make kitty's hair stand on end. Enjoy!


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I think I will now.

 

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I can relate. ❤

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The Only Thing We Need to be Happy.

The Only Thing We Need to be Happy. | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
"If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion." ~ Dalai Lama
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Teaching is about relationships. Healthy relationships are about compassion. Using compassion and inviting students into healthy relationships is critical to the relationships. I had a wonderful conversation today with two other educators about relationships and compassion.

 

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Spiritual Life is Hard

Spiritual Life is Hard | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
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Spiritual life and life that gives us voice can be trying and challenging. This is life in general. The good and not so good mix together and bring many lessons for learning. Spiritual life is pausing and listening for the voice from within that says we are doing OK even when times are hard.

 

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Don't stress - live in the moment! Making mindfulness work for you

Don't stress - live in the moment! Making mindfulness work for you | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
Believe it or not, some people try mindfulness and find that it actually adds to their stress levels rather than helps them feel calmer and more balanced. How can this be? Like so many topics that...

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Letting go and not judging would likely reduce stress. What a wonderful approach for classrooms to be able to be without judging.

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“10 Steps to Peace Within!” By Aine Belton | Global Love Project

“10 Steps to Peace Within!” By Aine Belton | Global Love Project | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
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There are excellent ideas here. I wonder if so-called leaders are thinking this way or does ideology rule the day?

 

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Mindfulness: it's good to be busy doing nothing - Telegraph

Mindfulness: it's good to be busy doing nothing - Telegraph | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
Taking several timeouts each day, says Elizabeth McFarlane, helps to get the creative juices flowing and encourages her to be more aware of the moment (RT @BH_Retreats: Mindfulness: it's good to be busy doing nothing

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It took several years for students to sit for five minutes and not talk. It is good to be busy doing nothing. Sometimes the nothing is something very important.

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5 Reasons To Start Practicing Mindfulness Right Now

5 Reasons To Start Practicing Mindfulness Right Now | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
What is mindfulness? And do you know the benefits it can provide you? Here are 5 reasons why you should start practicing mindfulness right now.

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Mindfulness is increasingly important. Slowing down and being present in work and relationships is more challenging than ever. Teachers could use mindfulness and its practices to help in their work and in their relationships with students.

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"Mindfulness is everywhere right now. But do you know what it actually is? Like many things that get press coverage and go mainstream, it’s easy to think you know all about it. But what if, like most people, you’re still not clear what the profound benefits of mindfulness actually are? And what if those benefits aren’t as far away as you might think? Odds are, if you really knew how much it could change your life—and how quickly—you’d be practicing it right now. My goal is to convince you of that."

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Remember this

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Peace is found inside yourself. Do what you must do daily to preserve it.


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Take time and spend time in solitude.

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Take good care of yourselves! ♥

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Loving Ourselves, Warts & All.

Loving Ourselves, Warts & All. | Leadership and Spirituality | Scoop.it
Loving ourselves is a journey of accepting more and more deeply until it is transformed into joy as we realize we are all lovable and we’re all held in love.
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Identity often overrides the subjective person we meditate over. The two work together. Identity is the many roles we play, the names we carry and subjectivity is how we make sense of who we are in those roles. It takes care and compassion in meditative moments.

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