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About living with (or recovering from) Mental Disorders and Co-Dependency
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Getting Rid of Negative Voices In Our Heads

Getting Rid of Negative Voices In Our Heads | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

"You are stupid. You are ugly. You will never amount to anything. You’re fat."

If we believed these, there would be no hope to be any different. We can conclude that we are and will always be a failure at life.

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The Neglected Child In Me Was Alone and Scared | Journal of a Male Childhood Abuse Survivor

The Neglected Child In Me Was Alone and Scared | Journal of a Male Childhood Abuse Survivor | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
My present pains aren’t caused by what they did to me. It’s what they didn’t do. They treated me as if I was a lower class human, as if I wasn’t important. It felt as if I didn’t exist.
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The Fear of Good-bye if You Don’t Comply :: Emerging From Broken

The Fear of Good-bye if You Don’t Comply :: Emerging From Broken | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

It occurs to me that the people in my own life who invalidated me had this kind of “if you don’t comply ~ Good-bye” attitude towards me. In realizing that truth I remembered that my mother always said “if you don’t like it, lump it.” I don’t remember if I ever wondered what the hell that meant but I always took it to mean that if I didn’t like it, too dang bad. And that means the exact same thing as “if you don’t comply, good-bye”. When I got older she started to say “if you don’t like it you can leave” which is exactly what I thought she had been saying all along anyway.

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Self-parenting 101: Part 2

Self-parenting 101: Part 2 | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

These are a few exercises to help with reprogramming negative messages from childhood into positive ones by Offra Gerstein Ph.D, a clinical psychologist and contributing author to Relationships matter.com.

 

1. Imagine what you would say to a child who told you that he was exposed to these messages and asked your opinion about him. (This exercise inspired the post, An Unavoidable Meeting.)

 

2. Visualize the abuser’s head placed on your shoulder whispering these toxic words. Lower the volume of this torturous chatter until you can no longer hear it.

 

3. Add to your other shoulder a loving, affirming voice of someone who has been supportive to you. Increase the volume of these encouraging words.

 

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