People were expressing difficulty with having been constantly told to “accept others” for the way they are. This directive always seems to be issued when someone is expressing difficulties with having been devalued, discounted and mistreated. I have come to realize that this is where the difficulty lies. When we are directed to accept, it is implied that acceptance means to accept the abusive behavior of the other person. This misunderstanding and false teaching gets deeply mixed into many relationships and is used as a justification for all kinds of abuse.