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A Check-Up From the Neck Up (and Book Giveaway Announcement)

A Check-Up From the Neck Up (and Book Giveaway Announcement) | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
This is the last installment of my Tour of Fives, celebrating the release of the 5th book in my mystery series. I felt I should bring things back home with my Five Top Tips for Maintaining Mental H...
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I Don't Feel Your Pain: Overcoming Roadblocks to Empathy

I Don't Feel Your Pain: Overcoming Roadblocks to Empathy | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
Why empathy is import at home and work and how to be better at it.

 

Neuroscientists have recently discovered that humans are wired to experience empathy through multiple systems of mirror neurons in our brains. These mirror neurons reflect back actions that we observe in others causing us to mimic that action in our own brains.  When we observe someone in pain or when we are with someone happy, we experience that to a certain extent. These mirror neurons are the primary physiological basis of empathy. They create a neural Wi-Fi that connects us to the feelings of people around us. 

 

Many people seem to be naturally empathetic. Others are not.  The good news is that research shows that empathy can be learned. There are however a few potential roadblocks to empathy that must be overcome.

 

by David F. Swink


Via Edwin Rutsch
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Barbara Kerr's curator insight, March 10, 2013 2:55 PM

Did you know that the training for negotiating with hostage-takers includes "faking" empathy--and that those being trained actually come to feel some empathy for someone they despise?  Good article about how we can learn to develop our empathy for improved relationships.

Barbara Kerr's curator insight, March 10, 2013 2:56 PM

Did you know that those who negotiate with hostage-takers are trained to "fake" empathy?  Read more to see what happens!

Garth Sanginiti's curator insight, August 1, 2013 9:57 PM

Empathy is a key skill to dealing and interacting with people in a manner that produces positive outcome and builds healthy relationships.  The article does a good job explaining what emphathy is, as well as giving some tips to improve in this area.  It also includes facts to support the assertion that empathy matters at work, "Empathy is also important in the workplace. A study conducted by the Center for Creatively Leadership investigated 6,731 leaders from 38 countries. Their results reveal that empathy is positively related to job performance. The study concluded that managers who show more empathy toward direct reports are viewed as better performers in their job by their bosses."

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What Do You Think You Are?

What Do You Think You Are? | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

And the zebra asked me,

Are you good with bad habits?

Or are you bad with good habits?

Are you noisy with quiet times?

Or are you quiet with noisy times?

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Kicked, Cornered, Bitten and Chased

Kicked, Cornered, Bitten and Chased | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

I have been thinking about butterflies lately. I have been admiring their ability to transform into something new and beautiful, and I have been wondering if they are frightened when they discard everything they know and take to the skies.

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More Thoughts on FOG, Hoovers and No Contact When Ending a Relationship with a Narcissist, Borderline, Histrionic and/or Sociopath | Shrink4Men

More Thoughts on FOG, Hoovers and No Contact When Ending a Relationship with a Narcissist, Borderline, Histrionic and/or Sociopath | Shrink4Men | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

Many of my clients often have difficulty after ending their relationships with an abusive and crazy ex. These men and women torture themselves with self-doubt (Am I doing the right thing?), self-recrimination (Why am I so stupid? Why did I put up with her/his behavior for so long? Why did I have kids with that sadistic lunatic?) and second-guessing (If only I’d done this; What if I’d said that?)

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The Fear of Good-bye if You Don’t Comply :: Emerging From Broken

The Fear of Good-bye if You Don’t Comply :: Emerging From Broken | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

It occurs to me that the people in my own life who invalidated me had this kind of “if you don’t comply ~ Good-bye” attitude towards me. In realizing that truth I remembered that my mother always said “if you don’t like it, lump it.” I don’t remember if I ever wondered what the hell that meant but I always took it to mean that if I didn’t like it, too dang bad. And that means the exact same thing as “if you don’t comply, good-bye”. When I got older she started to say “if you don’t like it you can leave” which is exactly what I thought she had been saying all along anyway.

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Tiny Wisdom: When Other People Won’t Change | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In

Tiny Wisdom: When Other People Won’t Change | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
The people we want to change—there are others out there who'd accept them, just as they are. We can choose to do that, or we can set them free and create the possibility of finding people we'd never want to change.
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daring greatly! meet the new book.  - my blog - Ordinary Courage

daring greatly! meet the new book.  - my blog - Ordinary Courage | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.

 

The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again,

 

because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause;

 

who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly . . .
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Womanatics: How to Deal With Failed Relationships?

Womanatics: How to Deal With Failed Relationships? | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

Nothing can be more devastating than a relationship that does not materialize and that took years of your time, energy and emotions. You devoted yourself completely to it but it still failed. Now what?

 

Many people are resilient in nature and move on. But few accept it as a failure of their own and sulk. This gets even harder to come to terms with when your partner leaves you for some silly reason or for someone else. But it is done and you can not undo it. Now what?

 

Learn from it.

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Co-Dependency Is A Serious Addiction That Could Be Hurting You And Your Relationship | B Intentional, LLC

Co-Dependency Is A Serious Addiction That Could Be Hurting You And Your Relationship | B Intentional, LLC | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
By Alter Sage Co-dependency is a serious addiction requiring specialised relationship counselling. Co-dependency is twofold.
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» No Dumping Allowed: Dealing With Family Get-Togethers In 3 Steps - Therapy Soup

» No Dumping Allowed: Dealing With Family Get-Togethers In 3 Steps - Therapy Soup | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
Sometimes having a well thought out No Dumping policy (and action plan) is best for family get-togethers, especially at holiday time.
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Adult Children Of Alcoholics/ ACAs ACOAs ACODFs Blog: Healing/ Are You A Control Freak?

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That giant tarantula is terrifying, but I'll touch it: Expressing your emotions can reduce fear

That giant tarantula is terrifying, but I'll touch it: Expressing your emotions can reduce fear | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
Can simply describing your feelings at stressful times make you less afraid and less anxious? A new psychology study suggests that labeling your emotions at the precise moment you are confronting what you fear can indeed have that effect.

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When Acceptance is NOT the Answer :: Emerging From Broken

When Acceptance is NOT the Answer :: Emerging From Broken | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

People were expressing difficulty with having been constantly told to “accept others” for the way they are. This directive always seems to be issued when someone is expressing difficulties with having been devalued, discounted and mistreated. I have come to realize that this is where the difficulty lies. When we are directed to accept, it is implied that acceptance means to accept the abusive behavior of the other person. This misunderstanding and false teaching gets deeply mixed into many relationships and is used as a justification for all kinds of abuse.

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How to Forgive When You Don’t Really Want To | Tiny Buddha

How to Forgive When You Don’t Really Want To | Tiny Buddha | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
Freedom is what we do with what’s been done to us. It is not the circumstances of our lives that matter. It is what we choose to do with it.
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How Barbara Arrowsmith-Young rebuilt her own brain

How Barbara Arrowsmith-Young rebuilt her own brain | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
She realised that part of her brain was not functioning properly so she devised a series of cognitive exercises to develop it.
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When You Feel Like You are Going Backwards Remember: There is Only One Direction

When You Feel Like You are Going Backwards Remember: There is Only One Direction | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
Someone wrote this on my Facebook page:

 

After two good days I can’t stop crying today. It feels like I’m back to how I was feeling before. Those two days were brilliant. Today I feel scared it won’t come back! What do I do for myself?

 

I replied:

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Eve Ensler on security | Video on TED.com

Eve Ensler on security | Video on TED.com | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

TED Talks Playwright Eve Ensler explores our modern craving for security -- and why it makes us less secure. Listen for inspiring, heartbreaking stories of women making change.  (Warning - she DOES use the word vagina, so if that makes you squeamish...)

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How PTSD took over America

How PTSD took over America | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
The diagnosis is now being applied to everything from muggings to childbirth.

 

Post-traumatic growth is when people come out of trauma having learned new things about themselves and about the world and about their relationship with the world. People develop new philosophies of life. They develop new priorities in life. People learn an awful lot about themselves: their strengths; what they’re good at; having new respect for themselves...

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