The Fear of Good-bye if You Don’t Comply :: Emerging From Broken | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

It occurs to me that the people in my own life who invalidated me had this kind of “if you don’t comply ~ Good-bye” attitude towards me. In realizing that truth I remembered that my mother always said “if you don’t like it, lump it.” I don’t remember if I ever wondered what the hell that meant but I always took it to mean that if I didn’t like it, too dang bad. And that means the exact same thing as “if you don’t comply, good-bye”. When I got older she started to say “if you don’t like it you can leave” which is exactly what I thought she had been saying all along anyway.