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Childhood Maltreatment Can Leave Scars In The Brain

Childhood Maltreatment Can Leave Scars In The Brain | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
Teenagers who were maltreated may have a harder time figuring out what's scary and what's safe.
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Laura Strom's curator insight, November 18, 2013 12:15 PM

There is a huge price to pay for mistreating a child, including substance abuse programs, correctional facilities, vandalism, crime, and poor physical/mental health. We need to stand as a society in opposition to child abuse, if for no other reason than the sheer cost to society.

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Domestic Violence in the spotlight at last

Domestic Violence in the spotlight at last | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

Justin Lee Collins's court case has attracted much media interest. But does a high-profile case like this help campaigners?


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When Acceptance is NOT the Answer :: Emerging From Broken

When Acceptance is NOT the Answer :: Emerging From Broken | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

People were expressing difficulty with having been constantly told to “accept others” for the way they are. This directive always seems to be issued when someone is expressing difficulties with having been devalued, discounted and mistreated. I have come to realize that this is where the difficulty lies. When we are directed to accept, it is implied that acceptance means to accept the abusive behavior of the other person. This misunderstanding and false teaching gets deeply mixed into many relationships and is used as a justification for all kinds of abuse.

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Peace and Protection From Abuse

Peace and Protection From Abuse | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

Years ago, I thought the most frightening thing in the world would be to stand up to abusers. But the willingness to stand toe to toe with an abuser isn’t where I needed the most courage. I showed the most courage when I started to stand up to the lies within me—when I began to challenge the false messages I learned from the abuse. When I was finally able to confront what really happened to me and really understood the truth, confronting abuse outside of me became much less difficult.

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Healing and Hope: Am I the Abusive One?

Am I the Abusive One?

Living with an angry and controlling partner can become a twisted world where bad is good, down is up, and wrong is right. Many women over the years have said to me, “My partner tells me that I’m the one abusing him. He has said it so many times that I start to wonder if he’s right. How do I know if it’s him or me?”

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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month - Band Back Together

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month - Band Back Together | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
A woman who experienced domestic violence first-hand shares her story in hopes of raising awareness for victims, family and friends.

 

I am an educated professional woman with a good job. I married an educated professional man who also had a good job. In retrospect, red flags went up throughout our courtship, but I did not recognize them at the time. I thought I could deal with my future husband’s ‘emotional’ behaviors.


I was wrong.

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'SNL's' Darrell Hammond Reveals Cutting, Abuse : NPR

'SNL's' Darrell Hammond Reveals Cutting, Abuse : NPR | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
In 14 years on Saturday Night Live, Darrell Hammond did many impressions, including Bill Clinton and Al Gore. But few of his cast members knew that Hammond struggled with drugs, alcohol and self-cutting as the result of systematic childhood abuse.
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Love and Stockholm Syndrome

People are often amazed at their own psychological conditions and reactions. Those with depression are stunned when they remember they’ve thought of killing themselves. Patients recovering from severe psychiatric disturbances are often shocked as they remember their symptoms and behavior during the episode. A patient with Bipolar Disorder recently told me “I can’t believe I thought I could change the weather through mental telepathy!” A common reaction is “I can’t believe I did that!”

 

In clinical practice, some of the most surprised and shocked individuals are those who have been involved in controlling and abusive relationships. When the relationship ends, they offer comments such as “I know what he’s done to me, but I still love him”, “I don’t know why, but I want him back”, or “I know it sounds crazy, but I miss her”. Recently I’ve heard “This doesn’t make sense. He’s got a new girlfriend and he’s abusing her too…but I’m jealous!” Friends and relatives are even more amazed and shocked when they hear these comments or witness their loved one returning to an abusive relationship. While the situation doesn’t make sense from a social standpoint, does it make sense from a psychological viewpoint? The answer is - Yes!

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Leslie Morgan Steiner: Why domestic violence victims don't leave | Video on TED.com

TED Talks Leslie Morgan Steiner was in “crazy love” -- that is, madly in love with a man who routinely abused her and threatened her life.

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Child's psychological mistreatment may be subtle but harmful: study

Child's psychological mistreatment may be subtle but harmful: study | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

The child who is routinely yelled at, demeaned, ridiculed, ignored or terrorized by a parent may bear no outward signs of abuse. But abused he is, and the negative consequences for the child's mental health as well as his future relationships and sense of self-worth are generally significant, says a new clinical report from the nation's pediatricians.


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How Child Maltreatment May Scar the Brain | Healthland | TIME.com

How Child Maltreatment May Scar the Brain | Healthland | TIME.com | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
Child maltreatment has a profound effect on the brain — even in kids who are resilient and don't suffer from psychiatric disorders, according to two new studies, one of which found that brain activity in children raised in violent homes resembled...
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Relationship Stages, Abusive Women and the WTF Moment, Part One | Shrink4Men

Relationship Stages, Abusive Women and the WTF Moment, Part One | Shrink4Men | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
The first article in this series discusses the early stages of an abusive relationship and the WTF moment. The WTF moment is when the non-abusive partner first realizes there is something wrong with the abusive partner.
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Guy's comment, February 9, 2012 8:10 AM
This is a great article for the newbies. I am still in the power struggle phase.I don't exert power just tell her what I am prepared to do and not do. The difference is she is still struggling to regain power. There is some sort of ridiculous middle ground that can be reached. But reading the comments OCPD can't be fixed like people think it can. Been there done that got the t shirt. Its like living with a handicapped person who doesnt realise it.

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Child Abuse May Change The Brain, Study Says

Child Abuse May Change The Brain, Study Says | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
Victims of child abuse may experience changes in their brains similar to those seen in soldiers, according to a new, small study.
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The Neglected Child In Me Was Alone and Scared | Journal of a Male Childhood Abuse Survivor

The Neglected Child In Me Was Alone and Scared | Journal of a Male Childhood Abuse Survivor | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it
My present pains aren’t caused by what they did to me. It’s what they didn’t do. They treated me as if I was a lower class human, as if I wasn’t important. It felt as if I didn’t exist.
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Self-parenting 101: Part 2

Self-parenting 101: Part 2 | ISO Mental Health & Wellness | Scoop.it

These are a few exercises to help with reprogramming negative messages from childhood into positive ones by Offra Gerstein Ph.D, a clinical psychologist and contributing author to Relationships matter.com.

 

1. Imagine what you would say to a child who told you that he was exposed to these messages and asked your opinion about him. (This exercise inspired the post, An Unavoidable Meeting.)

 

2. Visualize the abuser’s head placed on your shoulder whispering these toxic words. Lower the volume of this torturous chatter until you can no longer hear it.

 

3. Add to your other shoulder a loving, affirming voice of someone who has been supportive to you. Increase the volume of these encouraging words.

 

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