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Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens
News and Opinion of Interest to Parents and Professionals Working with With Struggling Young People - Web Page www.strugglingteens.com
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Emotions are Not Bad Behavior and We Need to Listen First - Blocking empathy

Emotions are Not Bad Behavior and We Need to Listen First - Blocking empathy | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it

Our evasive tactics are called "empathy blockers". Empathy blockers save us the trouble of listening, but they cost us our connection with each other.

 

Sometimes we use empathy blockers inadvertently because we are anxiously trying to save our children from emotional pain. Ironically, the greatest salve for our children comes from being heard, not from us trying to change how they feel. For all of these reasons, we all use empathy blockers from time to time, quite automatically and unconsciously. You could say we are all quite skilled at blocking. Here are some of the most common examples used when children become emotional:

 

by Robin Grille

 


Via Edwin Rutsch
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Interesting expansion on the damage sometimes done by acting on the impulse to save our children from hurt. -Lon

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Maria Teresa Frezet terapeuta olistica's curator insight, October 19, 2013 1:16 PM

Interessante articolo che conferma come sia importante accogliere le emozioni per quelle che sono, perché ricordiamoci che i bambini imparano quello che sentono! E se per caso ci accorgiamo che i nostri bambini reprimono le emozioni invece di viverle con chiarezza, chiediamoci dove noi facciamo la stessa cosa e mettiamo in atto un cambiamento dentro di noi! SE CAMBIAMO NOI, LE PERSONE INTORNO A NOI NON POSSONO CHE CAMBIARE!

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How Using Sexy Female Avatars in Video Games Changes Women | TIME.com

How Using Sexy Female Avatars in Video Games Changes Women | TIME.com | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
A new Stanford University study looks at the connection between hyper-sexualized gaming characters and the way female players view rape and their own bodies.
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The Declining Mental Health of Millenials: Is Depression the New Normal?

The Declining Mental Health of Millenials: Is Depression the New Normal? | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
Is narcissism to blame for the rise in teen depression?
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Sam Ross, Teenage Whisperer's curator insight, October 25, 2013 5:37 AM

Very interesting article on the increase in teen depression and social media isage. Feeling one’s fate is shaped by external forces rather than one’s own efforts is more likely to cause depression and anxiety than feeling an internal drive and control over one’s future, and it is argued that social  media amplifies these feelings.

David Collet's curator insight, October 29, 2013 10:59 PM

For too long, and for too many, entertainment is not something you actively participate in. It is something that happens to you (or for you).

Louise Avril's curator insight, November 1, 2013 1:56 PM

will look at this in more detail, this will help with my presentation as well as give more insights.

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Is technology ruining our kids?

Is technology ruining our kids? | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
The data doesn't support the idea that technology is changing or encouraging bullying, sexting or other types of harassment.
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The Real Problems With Psychiatry

The Real Problems With Psychiatry | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
A psychotherapist contends that the DSM, psychiatry's "bible" that defines all mental illness, is not scientific but a product of unscrupulous politics and bureaucracy.

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An excellent review of the criticisms of Psychiatry and the DSM-V -Lon

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The Sex Addiction Debate- A Dialectic

The Sex Addiction Debate- A Dialectic | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it

"All of the theories that we use to describe, represent, and interpret the complex dynamics of human behavior are only arbitrary mental constructs at best. As such, they are subject to all of the flaws to which any human behavior is subject, despite our best efforts to prevent such flaws."

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Via Bill Herring LCSW, CSAT
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A lot of common sense in this discussion on what we currently see as truth, diagnostics etc. -Lon

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Bill Herring LCSW, CSAT's curator insight, October 10, 2013 2:54 PM

Curator comment: It's delightful to come across a reasoned and gentle essay devoted to a topic that often the subject of controversy and unfounded certainty.

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Stop Penalizing Boys for Not Being Able to Sit Still | Growing With Your Child

Stop Penalizing Boys for Not Being Able to Sit Still | Growing With Your Child | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
Kids, boys in particular, are not wired to sit still. Instead of blaming & punishing them, perhaps it's time to teach in more developmentally appropriate ways.
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Why Younger And Younger Girls Are Binge Drinking

Why Younger And Younger Girls Are Binge Drinking | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
Wild high school parties and binge drinking have long been the stuff of teen movies. But a new documentary, "Faded: Girls & Binge Drinking," paints a different, and less glorified, picture of underage drinking.
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Ailish Manners's curator insight, May 22, 2014 9:31 AM

It's sad to think that a young girl had died from binge drinking. But this is showing how bad it is. Now they are starting to say that young girls are getting binge drinking from hollywood movies and their trying to figure out what came first the drinking sense in the movie or just young girls drinking. From my point of view I think that it is both, young girls watching the movies and saying yeah this is fine lets do what their doing and we might become famous or something like that. And then you have where the young girls see older girls do it and think oh I wanna be like them and do them sort of things. So really I think it comes from both ways.

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All Work and No Play: Why Your Kids Are More Anxious, Depressed

All Work and No Play: Why Your Kids Are More Anxious, Depressed | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it

When children are in charge of their own play, it provides a foundation for their future mental health as older children and adults. Gray mentions five main benefits:

 


Via Nik Peachey, Stewart-Marshall
Lon Woodbury's insight:

The fear that something will happen is so overblown - I tend to blame the media and our expanding instant news coverage - that if it bleeds it leads, and now covers the whole world in an instant. -Lon

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Nik Peachey's curator insight, October 7, 2013 1:03 PM

Good article with some good justification for more play for kids and what they learn while playing.

Kate Cicchelli's curator insight, October 22, 2013 4:22 PM

Fabulous piece on the power of play and the dramatic impact the loss of time and space for play is having on our children today.  

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Teens' safe drinking message drowned out by boozy pop songs and videos from Pink, Katy Perry, Lady Gaga (Aus)

Teens' safe drinking message drowned out by boozy pop songs and videos from Pink, Katy Perry, Lady Gaga (Aus) | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
HEALTH messages warning of the dangers of children drinking alcohol are being drowned out by the lyrics of chart-topping songs.

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Is this just another example of adults pointing with alarm to the younger generation?

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Philly's Cop-Free Heroin Zone - Sober Nation

Philly's Cop-Free Heroin Zone - Sober Nation | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
Kensington Avenue's ghoulish world of addiction and prostitution exists outside the law. Jeff Deeney goes inside Philadelphia's most desperate neighborhood
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It's scary that places like this exist, and that there are people who are so lost in this self-destructive behavior.  But this local accommodation to the endless desire for drugs on the part of some does seem to be reducing violent crime.  It seems to be something along the line of Amsterdam's governmental established drug parks as part of what they call "harm reduction."  -Lon

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The Top Five Parenting Mistakes You Can't Afford to Make

The Top Five Parenting Mistakes You Can't Afford to Make | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
There are parenting methods that are known to be detrimental if not downright damaging to a child.
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A good summary that parents should check themselves against. -Lon

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Anthony Fazzary's curator insight, October 4, 2013 7:15 PM

Hey folks, check these out! It is ok if you dont have all of the answers, none of us ever do... The smartest among us are the ones that always look to improve.... Anthony Fazzary CPC

Anthony Fazzary's curator insight, October 4, 2013 7:16 PM

Hey folks, check these out! It is ok if you dont have all of the answers, none of us ever do... The smartest among us are the ones that always look to improve.... Anthony Fazzary CPC

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60% of Parents Have Distracted Their Kids With a Smartphone or Tablet

60% of Parents Have Distracted Their Kids With a Smartphone or Tablet | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
Statista created this chart showing the percentages of parents that have handed their children different tech gizmos.
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Feed Brains for Happier Children - HappyFamily

Feed Brains for Happier Children - HappyFamily | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it

Want a happy, smart and healthy child? It really isn’t difficult to achieve. Feeding the hungers of the brain contributes greatly to well adjusted and thriving children. When provided with what the brain needs, children are likely to be more content and are eager to move, play and learn.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Via Deborah McNelis
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In addition to food, this talks about the need for structure, consistency etc. as important to properly feeding the brain. -Lon

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Effects of Complex Trauma | National Child Traumatic Stress Network - Child Trauma Home

Complex trauma can affect children in a multitude of ways. Here are some common effects.

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Sticks and Stones: Brain Releases Natural Painkillers During Social Rejection

Sticks and Stones: Brain Releases Natural Painkillers During Social Rejection | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
Researchers find the opioid system responds to social rejection, not just physical pain.

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Lou Salza's curator insight, October 11, 2013 1:36 PM

This is so important. We can now begin to refine our understanding of  social anxiety.--Lou

 

Excerpt: "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” goes the playground rhyme that’s supposed to help children endure taunts from classmates. But a new study suggests that there’s more going on inside our brains when someone snubs us – and that the brain may have its own way of easing social pain.

The findings, recently published in Molecular Psychiatry by a University of Michigan Medical School team, show that the brain’s natural painkiller system responds to social rejection – not just physical injury.

What’s more, people who score high on a personality trait called resilience – the ability to adjust to environmental change – had the highest amount of natural painkiller activation..."

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10 Assumptions We Make about Teens and Media

10 Assumptions We Make about Teens and Media | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
The facts about teens media use behaviors
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New DSM criteria for anorexia may help more people

New DSM criteria for anorexia may help more people | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it

With the release of the updated Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) this year, anorexia has gotten somewhat of a makeover.


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We Are Raising A Generation Of Slackers

We Are Raising A Generation Of Slackers | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
Look around you:  there's no shortage of work to be done.  If anything, public-service budget cuts are making most communities shabbier.  Paying jobs are scarce.  But work?  Never.
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I sure see this problem in my work.  It looks like this is a individual citizen project more than a government project. -Lon

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For colleges, does drug testing really prevent drug use?

For colleges, does drug testing really prevent drug use? | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
As administrators look for solutions, experts and students weigh in on the effectiveness of drug testing in the higher education system.
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The answer is drug testing does not act as a deterrent.  -Lon

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Expert in Modesto discusses violence’s effects on kids’ brains

Expert in Modesto discusses violence’s effects on kids’ brains | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
Dr. Bruce Perry, an expert on childhood trauma, spoke Monday at the annual conference of the Stanislaus County Family and Domestic Violence Council held at Modesto Centre Plaza.
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Underage Drinking in the United States - What are the Facts? | Sober Nation

Underage Drinking in the United States - What are the Facts? | Sober Nation | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
Underage Drinking in the United States Of all the serious health problems prevalent in the United States, underage drinking is one of the most prevalent an

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War on drugs leads to more potent narcotics, study shows - Al Jazeera America

War on drugs leads to more potent narcotics, study shows - Al Jazeera America | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
Al Jazeera America War on drugs leads to more potent narcotics, study shows Al Jazeera America The “war on drugs” has failed to curtail the $350 billion annual trade in illegal narcotics over the last 20 years as the price of drugs has declined...

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Soaring numbers of teenage girls are self-harming due to 'unprecedented toxic ...

Soaring numbers of teenage girls are self-harming due to 'unprecedented toxic ... | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
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Soaring numbers of teenage girls are self-harming due to 'unprecedented toxic ...

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Professionals I work with have speculated that these problems are getting worse.  This provides some data that supports that view of this trend.  Very helpful. -Lon

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Betty Skeet's curator insight, October 4, 2013 8:53 PM

Becoming aware of our children's mental  state is a first step in doing something about it.

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3 Children and It: Time to take our heads out of the sand re Internet....

3 Children and It: Time to take our heads out of the sand re Internet.... | Woodbury Reports Review of News and Opinion Relating To Struggling Teens | Scoop.it
A little over two years ago, my eldest daughter commenced her Secondary School education. And what an education it's been - in more ways than one!  You may recall her big wide eyes as she regaled stories of "boys using the 'f' word in the corridor" and people no longer holding doors open for one another.  At 11 years old, she was probably rather naive by most people's standards, but she was incredibly innocent, something that I cherished.  
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