Google the phrase “assertiveness training” and over 700,000 possibilities will pop up.
We take it as truth that how assertive or unassertive we are affects every aspect of our lives, including work and relationships. Culturally, we link assertiveness to success, leadership, and getting ahead, but still, there’s ambivalence: Look up “assertive” in the dictionary and you’ll see its synonym is “aggressive.”
Don’t rely on your own perception of how assertive or unassertive you are; it’s not likely to be accurate. If you’re beginning to notice that how you’re acting is having real social costs, pay attention.
Certainly, as we turn to online reading, the physiology of the reading process itself shifts; we don’t read the same way online as we do on paper.
Anne Mangen, a professor at the National Centre for Reading Education and Research at the University of Stavanger, in Norway, points out that reading is always an interaction between a person and a technology, be it a computer or an e-reader or even a bound book.
Revealed: The richest women in each region and how they made their fortune.
The wealthiest woman in North America is Christy Walton. As the widow of John Walton, son of Walmart founder Sam Walton, Christy Walton inherited a portion of the retail fortune following her husband's death in 2005. With an estimated worth of $37.9 billion she is the world's richest woman.
Every relationship you have is impacted by your ability — or inability — to communicate well.
Whether at work, in your love life, or with friends and family, good communication fosters better understanding, helps us resolve differences, promotes mutual trust and respect, and allows creative ideas to flourish.
Although communication seems fairly simple and straightforward, so much of our communication is misunderstood or misinterpreted. Of course, this can cause conflict and wounded feelings in personal and professional relationships.
The idea that “doing nothing” is a skill to be learned might seem bewildering at first. Surely it’s just a question of stopping doing anything else? Yet that’s far easier said than done. It’s long been recognised – by everyone from the Buddha to John Keats – that “doing” can be a kind of compulsion, an addiction we only fail to acknowledge as such because society praises us for it. Indeed, learning how to do nothing might be the most vital skill for thriving in our frenetic, overwhelmed, always-connected culture. Here are five key reasons why:
What does it take to ask for what you want—and then get it? There seems to be a magical art behind creating a great ask, and we all know stories of people who seem to get exactly what they want whenever they ask.
Magicians who bend and will the world to their ways. Why is this? What are they doing that no one else seems to be doing? How do they ask for what they want and seem to get it every time?
Ivo Nový's insight:
Great tips for creating a great ask — in order to get more of what you want.
Are you as confident as you'd like to be? Few people would answer "yes" to that question. But, according to Becky Blalock, author and former Fortune 500 executive, anyone can learn to be more confident. And it's a skill we can teach ourselves.
Begin by forgetting the notion that confidence, leadership, and public speaking are abilities people are born with. In fact, research shows that being shy and cautious is the natural human state. "That's how people in early times lived to pass on their genes, so it's in our gene pool," she says. "You had to be cautious to survive. But the things they needed to worry about then are not the things we need to worry about today."
How do you teach yourself to be more confident? Here's some advice..
In today’s busy, fast-paced world, it is easy to take sleep for granted. It’s normal to see a number of young professionals rush to the office so early in the morning and come home during the wee hours at night.
It is also common to see work being done during those few hours before going to bed just to try to catch up with the never-ending tight deadlines and busy workdays.
However, it might be useful to take a break, contemplate on why sleep is essential, and remember the need to get more restful sleep.
When most people think about Roald Dahl, they think about the books they read in their childhood, or the movie adaptations. Words like "snozzberry" and and “whizzpopper” spring to mind—as well as cartoonishly mean adults and the clever boys and girls who outsmarted them.
And while that is one aspect of Dahl’s life, he was a lot more complicated than you probably thought.
Starting your day off with warm lemon water is thought to have a ton of health benefits - and it's been an Ayurvedic practice for a long time. Read on to learn about the health benefits of drinking lemon water first thing in the morning.
Urban planners are finally recognizing that streets should be designed for people, not careening hunks of deadly metal.
After over a hundred years of living with cars, some cities are slowly starting to realize that the automobile doesn't make a lot of sense in the urban context. It isn't just the smog or the traffic deaths; in a city, cars aren't even a convenient way to get around.
For anyone who wants to write a book, however, the internet is probably the greatest enemy to attention and concentrated thought, both for the writer and potential readers. It works in partnership with the mind – trained during years of internet use – not be able to concentrate on any one thing for more than 90 seconds.
The cost of this butterfly attention span is creativity. There is no space and time among the constant digestion of competing stories, picture, videos, messages and emails. For every instructional video and the remarkable luxury of real-time global instant messaging, there is, on a bad day, a thousand punchlines, a thousand cannibal comment threads, an endless river of pouting, over made-up selfies all demanding your attention and once they have it, they send it off elsewhere.
Building true confidence is a gradual process. No one is going to turn into a positive, self-confident person overnight.
But if you're in need of some extra confidence, here are seven secrets for building unstoppable confidence that are no longer undercover.
1. Stop comparing yourself to others. 2. Remember that the loudest is not the most confident. 3. Keep your limiting beliefs at bay. 4. Live in a positive reality. 5. Don't mask it. 6. Change what you can. 7. Be fully committed.
Willpower is not something you either have or you don't.
Sure, some people may be more self-disciplined than you. Some people may be better at resisting temptation than you. But that's probably not because they were born with some certain special something inside them--instead, they've found ways to store up their willpower and use it when it really matters.
They have remarkable willpower not because they have more of it, but because they've learned how to best use what they have.