Understanding the critical difference between explanations and excuses can help you become successful.
You aren’t likely to hear a truly successful person say, “Sorry to keep you waiting but traffic was terrible,” or “I would have been on time, but the kids were so slow getting ready this morning.” Instead, they’re more likely to say, “Sorry I’m late. I should have left my house sooner.”
That’s because successful people recognize the critical difference between an explanation and an excuse.
Ivo Nový's insight:
An explanation accepts full responsibility and an excuse places blame, minimizes liability, and tries to avoid consequences.
InTHE SMALL BIG, three heavyweights from the world of persuasion science and practice – Steve Martin, Noah Goldstein and Robert Cialdini – describe how, in today’s information-overloaded world, often it’s not the strength of your argument or how much information you provide that will carry sway.
More and more it is small changes to the way you present your proposal or argument that can make the biggest difference to your results.
Ivo Nový's insight:
A pretty good book on the topic of ethically persuading and influencing other people to change their behaviour.
People who are regularly bombarded with several streams of electronic information cannot pay attention, recall information, or switch from one job to another as well as those who complete one task at a time.
You’ve likely heard that multitasking is problematic, but new studies show that it kills your performance and may even damage your brain.
When it comes to job coaching, almost every conversation we have with clients involves the topic of communication. The motives can vary widely: Some people want to be more assertive, others need help with conflict management, and still others find it hard to speak their minds in a group setting.
Here are the top five things that help people when it comes to communication.
Identify the ones that you need to work on, and start moving them into your conversation skill set today.
Modern culture often labels creativity as natural gift. Artists get showered with praise and proclamations of "you're so talented," but truthfully, talent has little to do with it.
Creativity is a skill to be learned, practiced, and developed, just like any other. Juggling takes practice, as does surfing, coding, and driving a car. Creativity is no different. The more you make creativity part of your daily life, the more it will grow.
So how do you make creativity part of your daily life? Here are 9 suggestions--and guess what? You can get started on them all in the next 10 minutes.
We define what we are. If you call yourself lazy, stupid, talentless – that’s all you’ll ever be because that’s what you’ve accepted, you made yourself into this person and that’s who you are now.
It’s never too late to break through, reject this distorted image of yourself and embrace a warrior attitude. No one is strong by default and no one is brave by default – you cultivate these qualities because you know it’s worth the trouble. When no one believes in what you can be, who you can eventually become – you must do that yourself ten times with resilience. You define you – no one else does.
Even though we all want to be more productive, it’s hard to make major changes. Small changes are easy– and can be incredibly powerful. That’s why the following 20 tips are simple enough you can immediately incorporate them into your daily routine.
You don't have to be born able to execute at a high level. Here's how you can develop that vital skill.
There's a huge biggest difference between being efficient and being effective.
Efficient people are well organized and competent. They check things off their to-do list. They complete projects. They get stuff done.
Effective people do all that ... but they check the right things off their to-do list. They complete the right projects. They get the right stuff done.
Ivo Nový's insight:
And everything starts with goals. Effort without a genuine purpose is just effort. Effective people don't just know what to do--they know why. They have a long-term goal. They have short-term goals that support their long-term goals.
"Living the dream" can mean a lot of different things. To some, it's a life spent kicking back on a beach with an endless supply of Mai Tais. To others, it could be traveling all over the world, meeting new people, and experiencing a hundred different cultures. And to others, it is a dream job in which you get paid to do the things you love.
These people have taken big risks to live exactly the kind of life they want.
In all of these different contexts, one characteristic emerged as a predictor for success. It wasn't social intelligence, good looks, IQ, or physical health. It was "grit," which the dictionary also defines as "mentally toughness."
Duckworth describes this quality in successful people as "perseverance and passion to achieve long-term goals; having stamina; sticking with your future day in and day out and working hard to make that future a reality; a marathon not a sprint.”
Her studies have shown that there is a correlation between mental toughness and self-control. To achieve those long-term goals there are things mentally tough people avoid. Here are seven of those:
A guide to being the kind of world explorer you want to be..
No, you don’t have to be the guy who memorized the guidebook or the Wikipedia page for a particular destination, but it’s always a good idea to have a sense of where you’re going. Where do the locals like to spend their time? What is the culture like? Is tipping customary, or will it be offensive?
You can never be wholly prepared for every experience abroad, but it’s nice for both parties if you make an effort to minimize unnecessarily awkward interactions with the local people.
By 2018, Hudson Yards will have changed the face of New York.
New York City is constantly evolving as new skyscrapers shoot into the sky.
And adding to the city's already dynamic skyline is Hudson Yards, a massive new development on Manhattan's far west side. The $20 billion project is a joint effort between real estate firm Related Companies and real estate investment, development, and management company Oxford Properties Group.