"But Why Is It So Hard for Dudes to Feel?"
"Contrary to some big generalizations out there, men do in fact feel, but most men were trained as little boys by the “boy code” not to feel.
They were trained and taught to suck it up, not to cry. For example, as a boy I was trained by my dad and my culture to not feel. To feel meant I would be judged as a wimp, a girl, or even gay. (As if girls or gay people are somehow bad?)
So men do feel. It’s just challenging for many men to know what they are feeling.
So it’s understandable why many men don’t allow themselves to feel and can’t even identify a feeling. Many adult men are still very scared to feel their feelings because if they do, their fear is they will be judged as not manly, acting like a girl or being weak or gay.
So, most men never venture out beyond the shoreline and certainly don’t look below the surface. Therefore, many men remain locked up, shut down, and not free."
"The Cost of Not Being Willing to Feel"
But Where Do I Start?"