Ben Affleck’s speech accepting Best Picture at the Oscars has got twitter tongues wagging. Thanking his wife, Jennifer Garner, he spoke about his marriage. Here’s the part that got people going:
“It’s good, it is work, but it’s the best kind of work, and there’s no one I’d rather work with.”
The camera panned to his wife’s face; she smiled as her eyes filled with tears. Then the criticism rolled in. Many felt his thanks was a faux pas, a revelation that this marriage is on the rocks. Some felt that he had insulted his wife by suggesting that marriage was hard.
“Am I the only one who thinks Ben Affleck’s in trouble at home for telling the world his marriage is a lot of work?” went one popular tweet. You were even able to vote: did Ben sleep on the couch or in the bedroom?
We want to believe in the fairytale marriage, the perfect, flawless movie star romance. If you have the fame and fortune, obviously you have the ‘happily ever after’ too. Admitting to working on a marriage is just not a romantic way of expressing one’s love. It shatters our idea of fabulous Hollywood living.
Work equals sweat and we shouldn’t have to sweat in a good marriage. It should be automatic.
Anyone who believes that to be true does not really understand what marriage is all about.