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Childhood Trauma Leads to Brains Wired for Fear

Childhood Trauma Leads to Brains Wired for Fear | How's Your Family Really Doing? | Scoop.it
Last week, a report by the University of San Diego School of Law found that about 686,000 children were victims of abuse and neglect in 2013. T

 

raumatic childhood events can lead to mental health and behavioral problems later in life, explains psychiatrist and traumatic stress expert Bessel van der Kolk, author of the recently published book, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma.

 

Children’s brains are literally shaped by traumatic experiences, which can lead to problems with anger, addiction, and even criminal activity in adulthood, says van der Kolk. Sound Medicine’s Barbara Lewis spoke with him about his book. 

 

 


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Dorothy Retha Cook's comment, July 30, 11:45 AM
Just one question and I am not coming from the race view but from the children view. The children of slaves were terrorized and traumatized beyond where I want to go or think they were not their own but property of the Master to do with as He saw fit. Now the Master was Liberalin view just as long as it was for his benefit and the slave children were used to purchase property/land and homes and much more for their masters gain not their own. The culture they had was endoctrinated by sheer abuse and brute force but not one of them ever was given a choice. The culture was done as the master say's or get beatin like a dog to the blood runs from their bodies and even for more punishment they were made to watch their parents and other slave members be hang by a neuce by the master with a word of if you ever think of doing thus and so you will surely be next. For some reason the government has not changed much and neither have the abuse of the children and a great deal of it is not in the home or culture environment and some children by law have to return back to the abusive environment and be abused or they or their parent go to jail by law. therefore my question is liberal parenting or not in the 21st century
Dorothy Retha Cook's comment, July 30, 11:48 AM
Who has the true authority over your child(ren) you or the GOVERNMENT OFFICIALS Liberal or not? sorry did not get question in in previous post. WHO HAS THE FINAL SAY and what say do you have if your child(ren) are traumatized by the GOVERNMENT?
Ngozi Odochi (Godwell) Nwokocha's comment, August 14, 9:17 AM
I quote:"In essence the kids live in a war zone and they get "bombed" and "shelled" and hurt and if they complain there will be more of the same. And on top of that you have "traps" that look innocent but are "gotchas" ! So - from the perspective of an abused kid - nothing, absolutely nothing can be trusted! A little story. A childless couple adopts a foster kid as they can't seem to have kids on their own. They encourage being called mom and dad! She now gets pregnant. The couple fears for their newborn and promptly send the kid back to foster hell! I ask: "You are surprised that they don't trust?". Dolphins are intelligent! We train them. Every human being is trained to live in their cultural matrix! And for abused kids it is enforced with inhuman punishment - not treats. You get what you put in! You put in hate and force and terror - you can't expect love! The kids see aggression and hate and force and brutality and that is their life experience? And if they saw "love" there was probably a trick to really set them up for failure. Gregory Bateson's book "Steps to an Ecology of Mind" touches on these issues.
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The One Trait that Predicts Sexual Satisfaction in Long-Term Couples

The One Trait that Predicts Sexual Satisfaction in Long-Term Couples | How's Your Family Really Doing? | Scoop.it
Think a satisfying sex life in a long-term relationship is kind of an anomaly? Sure, people pretend it exists because it makes for good romantic comedies and keeps us married folks somewhat hopeful of our futures.
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10 Steps To Effective Listening

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In today’s high-tech, high-speed, high-stress world, communication is more important then ever, yet we seem to devote less and less time to really listening to one another. Genuine listening has become a rare gift—the gift of time. It helps build relationships, solve problems, ensure understanding, resolve conflicts, and improve accuracy. At work, effective listening means fewer errors and less wasted time. At home, it helps develop resourceful, self-reliant kids who can solve their own problems. Listening builds friendships and careers. It saves money and marriages.


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Jerry Busone's curator insight, April 9, 2014 9:18 PM

Greta quote in the cartoon. "nobody hates a listener"

Jerry Busone's curator insight, April 9, 2014 9:19 PM

Great caption in cartoon "Nobody hates a listener"

Stefano Principato's curator insight, April 25, 2014 6:13 AM
  1. Face the speaker and maintain eye contact.
  2. Be attentive, but relaxed.
  3. Keep an open mind.
  4. Listen to the words and try to picture what the speaker is saying.
  5. Don’t interrupt and don’t impose your “solutions.
  6. Wait for the speaker to pause to ask clarifying questions.
  7. Ask questions only to ensure understanding.
  8. Try to feel what the speaker is feeling.
  9. Give the speaker regular feedback.
  10. Pay attention to what isn’t said—to nonverbal cues.









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30 Dr. Seuss Quotes to Live By

30 Dr. Seuss Quotes to Live By | How's Your Family Really Doing? | Scoop.it

you don’t have to have children of your own to entertain, educate and enthrall them.
“You make ‘em, I’ll amuse ‘em,” Dr. Seuss used to say


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Positive Quotes For Life: Letting go of what we can't change takes courage

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RT @blazelazarony: Positive Quotes For Life: Letting go of what we can't change takes courage

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And focus on the things you CAN change...

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The ABC's of Mental Health and Happiness - PsychCentral.com (blog)

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Cultivate the mindset of a child with the openness to learn something new each and every day. Mindfulness and ...

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Do you know your ABC's?

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What Your 'Life Story' Really Says About You | Huffington Post

What Your 'Life Story' Really Says About You | Huffington Post | How's Your Family Really Doing? | Scoop.it

"We all have one particularly important story that we tell ourselves, about ourselves: our "life story," which helps us to organize our experiences and give us a sense of self, even dictating our behavior in some cases. We're constantly updating, amending and adding to this story as we encounter new experiences.


By understanding how we create these stories and how they are structured, we can alter our own stories and rewrite our own scripts in ways that improve our lives."

 

Read the full article to find out more about these six principles from narrative psychology to help you better understand your 'life story.'

Your story is constantly evolving, becoming more positive later in life.Your present emotions color your entire narrative.We conceive of our life story in the structure of a novel.Successful people's stories contain themes of redemption.Your stories are dictated by social and cultural norms.You can take control of your own stories.
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Are you the hero or heroine in your story or are you a victim?

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Kim Zinke (aka Gimli Goose)'s curator insight, November 19, 2013 1:03 AM

What I like about this article is that it points out that our stories are always open to interpretation and adaption.  They're never really final if you don't want them to be.  It's good to be reminded of that.

Angie Mc's curator insight, November 19, 2013 9:24 PM

The power of story to unite a family is amazing. 

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What is Positive Psychology?

"What is Positive Psychology?" A "white board animation" sponsored by Test Prep Gurus. Written and Produced by: Nick Standlea Animation Technique Development...

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It makes sense for families to capitalize on their strengths.

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Sandeep Gautam's curator insight, November 14, 2013 9:06 AM

a pretty good animated summary

Belkacem Nabout's curator insight, November 14, 2013 5:10 PM

Produits Universaliss Bank....Produits Universaliss Laboratory
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Gottfried's curator insight, November 14, 2013 9:26 PM

Positive much?

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Stepparent Problems: The 18 Biggest Misconceptions About Step-Parenting - Huffington Post

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Stepparent Problems: The 18 Biggest Misconceptions About Step-Parenting
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Stepparents can't seem to win.
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Parenting Chronically Ill Kids Can Stress Entire Family - PsychCentral.com

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Parenting Chronically Ill Kids Can Stress Entire Family PsychCentral.com Parenting Chronically Ill Kids Can Stress Entire Family New research chronicles the extra demands placed on parents of chronically ill children and finds that caregiving...
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Excessive texting linked to emotional problems in students - Salon

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Salon Excessive texting linked to emotional problems in students Salon A new study suggests university freshmen are more vulnerable to a variety of emotional problems if they (a) find themselves in difficult personal relationships, and (b) text...
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The Importance of Validation

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On Oprah’s final episode of her wildly popular TV show, she highlighted the importance of validation: “I’ve talked to nearly 30,000 people on this show,” she said, “and all 30,000 had one thing in common.
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WATCH: Dr. Brené Brown On Why Shame Is 'Lethal' and the Antidote is Empathy.

WATCH: Dr. Brené Brown On Why Shame Is 'Lethal' and the Antidote is Empathy. | How's Your Family Really Doing? | Scoop.it
Shame and vulnerability researcher Dr. Brené Brown has studied the power of these intensely painful feelings as a professor at the University of Houston's Graduate College of Social Work.

 

By keeping quiet, Brown says your shame will grow exponentially. "It will creep into every corner and crevice of your life," she says.

 

The antidote, Brown says, is empathy. She explains that by talking about your shame with a friend who expresses empathy, the painful feeling cannot survive. "Shame depends on me buying into the belief that I'm alone," she says.

Here's the bottom line: "Shame cannot survive being spoken," Brown says. "It cannot survive empathy."


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Important info about the negative effects of shame.

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The single best goal you can set for 2015

The single best goal you can set for 2015 | How's Your Family Really Doing? | Scoop.it
Be less judgmental. It will make you happier, more powerful, and help others around you.

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This is a powerful way each of us can not only be happier, enjoy broader social networks but also help make the world a better place.

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Sandeep Gautam's curator insight, January 16, 3:51 AM

Don't judge a book; neither by its cover nor by its text:-)

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Sweating Out The Sadness: Can Exercise Help You Grieve? - Huffington Post

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Sweating Out The Sadness: Can Exercise Help You Grieve?

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Exercise is helpful for so many things. Check this out.

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Julianna Bonola's curator insight, June 11, 2014 7:48 PM

Exercise is a key element in assisting people with elevated anxiety levels generally, but when we grieve, our normal defenses can cause a spike in our anxiety. I suggest exercise to assist in regulating  the emotional overload  that may occur during such times. It  can and does help if we follow through with a regular exercise schedule.  It doesn't much matter what form that exercise takes, so long as we do it regularly.  

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The Single Most Proven Way To Get Smarter And Happier

The Single Most Proven Way To Get Smarter And Happier | How's Your Family Really Doing? | Scoop.it
Research points to a very simple thing that, if done daily, can help you get smarter, happier and healthier.

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Peter Shanks's curator insight, January 18, 2014 7:14 AM

What’s a scientifically validated way to get smarter, happier, healthier and calmer?

Stop reading this right now and go for a walk.

It’s that simple.

 
John Michel's curator insight, January 18, 2014 7:57 AM

Being in good shape increases your ability to learn. After exercise people pick up new vocabulary words 20% faster.


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» Unhappy Relationships and Depression Go Hand in Hand - Parenting Tips

» Unhappy Relationships and Depression Go Hand in Hand - Parenting Tips | How's Your Family Really Doing? | Scoop.it
Assessing and treating both positive and negative aspects of their intimate relationships should be considered evidence-based treatment for depression.
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When to turn to your partner for more help and support.

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3 Suggestions to Share to Help Your Stressed Out Teen

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As adults we sometimes forget that being a teenager comes with some really big stresses.
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Create an Attitude of Gratitude - PsychCentral.com (blog)

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Create an Attitude of Gratitude
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A great place to start is with one of the books of psychologist Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology.

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Helpful not just at Thanksgiving time...

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Meditation is one of the most ...

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Meditation is one of the most effective ways to relieve stress. Here's how to do it http://t.co/nReT6Oqxmd

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Sweet and simple instructions.

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Using Music as a Teaching Tool for Kids

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“There may be no more powerful method of learning than through music, and no more important lessons for children than those that focus on character and social and emotional skills,” according to clinical psychologist and author Don MacMannis, Ph.D.
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Music can be a powerful medium for building social and emotional intelligence in kids.

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Top 10 Free Mental Health Apps

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If you’re looking for good mental health apps, those selected here are all solid. But the really great thing about the apps on this list?
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They are all free. Many of them help to lower anxiety and help with troubled sleep.

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5 Signs Your Teen Needs Mental Health Treatment

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Teens go through emotional ups and downs all the time. Hormones are changing, life can seem overwhelming, and without much life experience, a young adult can feel misguided.
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The iParents: Adults face modern struggle to balance staying connected and ... - National Post

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A study on parenting in the digital age released in June by the U.S.
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Your are only as good as your own mind!

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The benefits of mindfulness.

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Panda little's curator insight, September 3, 2013 11:35 PM

Your mind is everything!