Homecare
473 views | +0 today
Follow
Homecare
Care among relatives
Curated by Jan Bergmans
Your new post is loading...
Your new post is loading...
Rescooped by Jan Bergmans from ♡ James & Mary ♡
Scoop.it!

Trust the Voice Within You

Trust the Voice Within You | Homecare | Scoop.it
[Photo by Riaz Padamsee] "Do not follow the ideas of others, but learn to listen to the voice within yourself." - Dogen Zenji The fact is, the Internet has made it such that most everyone these days is a writer of some sort - no, you may not be...
Via Mary E. Berens-Oney
Jan Bergmans's insight:
TY Mary ;-)
more...
Marc Ricci's comment, March 21, 4:03 AM
Hi we are fitness choice, I have seen your article,I think this is superb Article,we have also one fitness equipment superstore please visit more about us https://fitnesschoice.com.au/
Rescooped by Jan Bergmans from ✽ Bipolar Disorder & Fibromyalgia ✽
Scoop.it!

Hypomania and Mania in Bipolar Disorder

Mania and hypomania? . Breaking . , . . . . Hypomania and mania are similar but have a critical difference. More like the person they were before bipolar dis...


Via Mary E. Berens-Oney
more...
No comment yet.
Scooped by Jan Bergmans
Scoop.it!

How to Get More Energy and Feel Lighter Survey

How to Get More Energy and Feel Lighter Survey | Homecare | Scoop.it
Web survey powered by SurveyMonkey.com. Create your own online survey now with SurveyMonkey's expert certified FREE templates.
Jan Bergmans's insight:
Your answers here will help me complete a long awaited program that I've been working on for some time. The course will help people find more energy, feel more alive and improve connectedness in relationships.
more...
No comment yet.
Scooped by Jan Bergmans
Scoop.it!

Who Goes First? Preparing for a Loved One's Death

Who Goes First? Preparing for a Loved One's Death | Homecare | Scoop.it
When a loved one dies unexpectedly, we not only mourn their loss, but also regret what we failed to tell her.
Jan Bergmans's insight:

I’ve counseled many people who never asked themselves the question. They assumed their loved one would outlast them. “I never thought she would die before me,” a caregiver said at a meeting two months after his wife died. “I’m the one with the heart condition.

Ads
Aanbiedingen van XS4ALL
Ons Internet weer als beste getest. XS4ALL:Het beste alles-in-1 pakket!
Die Siedler Online
Erschaffe Dein eigenes Königreich. Jetzt Die Siedler kostenlos spielen
Pflegehilfsmittel
pflege-paket.de/KostenloseBeratung
Wir rechnen direkt mit Ihrer Kasse ab. Jetzt Informieren!
Companion CareAlzheimers Care HomeCaregivingElderly Care ServicesLong Term Care

Her cancer came on so unexpectedly, we didn’t have a chance to have the type of conversations you always wanted but were afraid to have.”

How to Plan for a Loved One’s Death

There is substantial information available that can enable you to financially and legally prepare for a loved one’s death whether or not it’s imminent.

Most of this information involves what I call “housekeeping chores,” important but fairly routine tasks. They are activities lawyers, accountants, and other professionals can assist with, such as setting up trusts, filing taxes, planning for internment, etc.

While there can be financial and legal problems if these activities aren’t done in advance of a person’s death, most are correctable, or their effects can be minimized. However, living with regrets because you neglected to do or say something when your loved one was alive, can create emotional pain that can remain forever.

How to Prevent Regrets

I’ve found regret torments many people following the death of a loved one. “Why didn’t I tell her how much she meant to me?” “I wish I could have taken that hurtful statement back.” “I never forgave her for having an affair, but I should have.”

Ads
Free Printable Worksheets
Help Kids Build Critical Skills With Fun Worksheet Activities
Blasenentzündung
Rein natürliches Präparat hilft bei Blasenentzündung, besonders wirksam

The solution to not living with regrets is to “clean your plate,” every day. Instead of allowing something to ferment—sometimes for years, take care of it on a daily basis. Steven Levine wrote a book in which he asked readers to imagine they had one year to live. How would you live it? In my counseling, I shorten the timeline to twenty-four hours.

If you knew you would be dead in one day, what would you say to your loved one?

Living Your Life As If It Will End Tomorrow

Since my cancer diagnosis thirteen years ago, I’ve tried to live my life as if it will end within twenty-four hours. When I shared this approach with some people, they thought it was a morbid and depressing exercise.

To the contrary, it has been fulfilling to me and soothing to friends and family. Difficulties in relationships don’t linger. If I do an unskillful act, I try to apologize as soon as possible.  If I’m the recipient of an unskillful act, I try to forgive or at least understand what was behind it. If I’ve received a kindness from someone, I offer my gratitude to them.

I’m seventy, and my wife is sixty-eight. Will I be upset if she goes first? Of course. But it will be because I lost a loving companion of forty-five years, not because I regret having held back expressing gratitude, offering forgiveness, asking for forgiveness or expressing my love.

more...
No comment yet.
Rescooped by Jan Bergmans from ✽ Bipolar Disorder & Fibromyalgia ✽
Scoop.it!

Why Fibromyalgia Worsens and Treatment Advice

Why Fibromyalgia Worsens and Treatment Advice | Homecare | Scoop.it
Two experienced physicians describe situations that cause fibromyalgia to worsen and offer treatment advice on how to turn your symptoms around.

Via Mary E. Berens-Oney
more...
No comment yet.
Scooped by Jan Bergmans
Scoop.it!

TED Talks: What really matters at the end of life

TED Talks: What really matters at the end of life | Homecare | Scoop.it
At the end of our lives, what do we most wish for? For many, it’s simply comfort, respect, love. BJ Miller is a palliative care physician at Zen Hospice Project who thinks deeply about how to create a dignified, graceful end of life for his patients. Take the time to savor this moving talk, which asks big questions about how we think on death and honor life.
more...
No comment yet.
Scooped by Jan Bergmans
Scoop.it!

How would you react to being Donald Trump's caregiver?

How would you react to being Donald Trump's caregiver? | Homecare | Scoop.it
Imagine you’re caring for someone as arrogant and unappreciative as Donald Trump. Worse, this person is your loved one.
Jan Bergmans's insight:
Leaning Into Sharp Points

My hospice assignment was to care for an elderly man with stage IV lung cancer. He was a white supremacist; I was an aging political radical from the 1960’s.

Each of us was the embodiment of what the other despised.

I could have refused the assignment, but I didn’t. My caring for him would be a test of my ability to be compassionate, and it would offer a unique learning experience. In hospice, I learned an important axiom: The more discomfort I sense, the more important the lesson. Caring for the man changed my life.

When We Can’t Withdraw

Sometimes there is the opportunity to withdraw from a caregiving situation, such as I could have done as a hospice volunteer. But for people with limited finances, there is no choice.

As a nation we undervalue the importance of caregiving. If we didn’t, government support for home care wouldn’t be controversial. Even when it’s possible to hire professional caregivers, the emotional draw of a loved one often pulls caregivers into disastrous situations.

more...
No comment yet.
Rescooped by Jan Bergmans from ✽ Bipolar Disorder & Fibromyalgia ✽
Scoop.it!

The Biggest Cause of Fibromyalgia Symptoms

The Biggest Cause of Fibromyalgia Symptoms | Homecare | Scoop.it
My wife has had fibromyalgia for years, but we've managed to reduce her symptoms by 85-90% through diet and lifestyle. Fibromyalgia can be a mysterious and debilitating syndrome. There are no defi...

Via Mary E. Berens-Oney
more...
No comment yet.
Scooped by Jan Bergmans
Scoop.it!

Drie vragen over mantelzorgondersteuning

Drie vragen over mantelzorgondersteuning | Homecare | Scoop.it
Vorige pagina
Drie vragen over mantelzorgondersteuning
artikel - 4 november 2014
Drie vragen over mantelzorgondersteuning

Zoveel mensen, zoveel wensen. Dat principe gaat absoluut op voor de ondersteuningsbehoeften van mantelzorgers. De gemeentelijke taak hierin wordt vanaf 2015 een stuk groter door de nieuwe Wmo. Aan de slag dus! Maar hoe? Twee adviseurs van Movisie beantwoorden drie vragen.

1. Hoe kunt u als gemeente mantelzorgers waardering geven?

Michelle Emmen: 'Mantelzorgers voelen zich het meest gewaardeerd door een combinatie van waardering én een tegemoetkoming in de kosten van mantelzorg. Dat laatste is niet zo vreemd: gemiddeld betalen mantelzorgers per jaar 1.100 euro extra kosten. Met een tegemoetkoming kunt u creatief omgaan. Denk aan een gemeentelijke kortingspas voor diensten als de bioscoop, restaurants of sportieve activiteiten. Dit gebeurt bijvoorbeeld in Den Haag. Extra voordeel: doordat mantelzorgers de pas aanvragen, heeft u meteen een beter beeld van het aantal mantelzorgers in uw gemeente.'
2. Hoe betrekt u mantelzorgers bij het keukentafelgesprek?

Ilse de Bruijn: 'Vraag meteen bij de melding of aanvraag voor een Wmo-voorziening of er iemand in de omgeving is die zorg en ondersteuning voor zijn of haar rekening neemt. Nodig diegene expliciet uit voor het keukentafelgesprek. Idealiter vinden deze gesprekken ook ‘s avonds plaats zodat ook de werkende mantelzorger erbij kan zijn. Het is belangrijk dat de professional over de juiste vaardigheden beschikt om een evenwichtig gesprek te voeren met zorgvrager én mantelzorger. Om professionals hiervoor te scholen, is in Amsterdam een E-module ontwikkeld. Aan bod komen: het erkennen van mantelzorgers, het bespreekbaar maken van hun situatie, het herkennen van mogelijke overbelasting en het bespreken van ondersteuningsmogelijkheden.'

Het deurknopeffect: een mantelzorger vertelt vaak pas na afloop bij de deur hoe het écht gaat

Michelle Emmen: 'Een gesprek met zorgvrager én mantelzorger biedt de kans om ondersteuningsbehoeften en -mogelijkheden expliciet te maken. Als gemeente zult u de afweging maken om met de mantelzorger een apart gesprek te hebben, los van de zorgvrager. Vaak hoor je namelijk van het deurknopeffect: als de mantelzorger je na afloop van het gesprek naar de deur brengt, vertelt diegene pas hoe het écht met hem of haar gaat.'
3. Welke ondersteuning mag niet ontbreken in een gemeente?

Michelle Emmen: 'Bij deze vraag denk ik in eerste instantie aan respijtzorg en aan het faciliteren van mantelzorgers. Respijtzorg ontlast de mantelzorger tijdelijk van zijn mantelzorgtaak en is één van de taken die vanuit de AWBZ naar de Wmo gaat. Goed om te weten: mantelzorgers doen minder een beroep op respijtzorg dan ze eigenlijk willen.' Ilse de Bruijn: 'Dit komt onder meer door onbekendheid met alle ondersteuning en de moeite om het mantelzorgen los te laten. Professionals die met de zorgvrager en mantelzorger spreken, kunnen het ondersteuningsaanbod actief uitdragen en mogelijke drempels om er gebruik van te maken wegnemen. Op deze manier benut je de natuurlijke vindplaatsen.' Ilse de Bruijn: 'Materiële hulp die in eerste instantie bedoeld is voor zorgvragers kan voor mantelzorgers groot verschil maken. U kunt dus ook een woningaanpassing, mantelzorgwoning, huishoudelijke hulp, parkeerkaart of aangepast vervoer toewijzen als ondersteuning voor de mantelzorger.'
Wat zegt de Wmo 2015 over ondersteuning van mantelzorgers?
- De gemeenteraad moet in het beleidsplan opnemen hoe mantelzorgers worden ondersteund.
- Gemeenten bepalen per verordening hoe mantelzorgers jaarlijks een blijk van waardering ontvangen; de opvolger van het huidige mantelzorgcompliment.
- Om mantelzorgers te ondersteunen zodat zij het mantelzorgen kunnen volhouden, wordt de mantelzorger betrokken bij het keukentafelgesprek.
- De eigen mogelijkheden van de cliënt én de mantelzorger zijn het uitgangspunt in de Wmo. In het gesprek 'aan de keukentafel' wordt niet alleen gekeken wat de zorgvrager nodig heeft, maar óók wat de mantelzorger nodig heeft aan ondersteuning om die rol te kunnen vervullen.
- Mantelzorgers die zelf onvoldoende zelfredzaam zijn, kunnen ondersteuning (een maatwerkvoorziening) van de gemeente krijgen.
- In de nieuwe Wmo staat dat gemeenten aandacht moeten besteden aan de manier waarop mantelzorgers en vrijwilligers ondersteund worden. Gemeenten zijn verplicht om in ieder geval algemene voorzieningen te treffen die mantelzorgers ondersteunen.
more...
No comment yet.
Scooped by Jan Bergmans
Scoop.it!

New Cyberthreat Report By SANS Institute Delivers Chilling Warning To Healthcare Industry

New Cyberthreat Report By SANS Institute Delivers Chilling Warning To Healthcare Industry | Homecare | Scoop.it
The report – SANS Health Care Cyber Threat Report (email registration here) – was sponsored by Norse (a threat intelligence vendor) who provided the data to SANS Institute for analysis. As described on their website (here):

SANS is the most trusted and by far the largest source for information security training and certification in the world. It also develops, maintains, and makes available at no cost, the largest collection of research documents about various aspects of information security, and it operates the Internet’s early warning system – the Internet Storm Center.(www.sans.org)

Senior SANS Analyst and Healthcare Specialist Barbara Filkins authored the report which included some startling analysis.

The data analyzed was alarming. It not only confirmed how vulnerable the industry had become, it also revealed how far behind industry-related cybersecurity strategies and controls have fallen.

During the sample period [09/2012 to 10/2013], the Norse threat intelligence infrastructure – a global network of sensors and honeypots that process and analyze over 100 terabytes of data daily – gathered data. The intelligence data collected for this sample included:

49,917 Unique Malicious Events
723 Unique Malicious Source IP addresses
375 U.S.-based health-care related organizations were compromised

A SANS examination of cyberthreat intelligence provided by Norse supports these statistics and conclusions, revealing exploited medical devices, conferencing systems, web servers, printers and edge security technologies all sending out malicious traffic from medical organizations. Some of these devices and applications were openly exploitable (such as default admin passwords) for many months before the breached organization recognized or repaired the breach. Barbara Filkins – SANS Analyst and Healthcare Specialist

One reason for the alarm – this was all just a sample data set. The report identified all categories in healthcare as having been compromised and in some instances – still open and vulnerable.

Health care providers – 72.0% of malicious traffic
Health care business associates – 9.9% of malicious traffic
Health plans – 6.1% of malicious traffic
Health care clearinghouses – 0.5% of malicious traffic
Pharmaceutical – 2.9% of malicious traffic
Other related health care entities – 8.5% of malicious traffic

Even though the largest single category of malicious traffic was identified as health care providers, the report highlighted one medical device company in Florida (Site One) as having a significant number of events (over 12,000) during the reporting period.

The list of exploited devices included medical devices, conferencing systems, web servers, printers and edge security technologies that were all sending out malicious traffic from medical organizations. Surprisingly, the two biggest categories of risk were security devices themselves and then devices that fall more broadly into the Internet-of-Things (IoT). Newer versions of devices like dialysis and MRI machines are often “network” attached.

Connected medical devices, applications and software used by health care organizations providing everything from online health monitoring to radiology devices to video-oriented services are fast becoming targets of choice for nefarious hackers taking advantage of the IoT to carry out all manner of illicit transactions, data theft and attacks. This is especially true because securing common devices, such as network-attached printers, faxes and surveillance cameras, is often overlooked. The devices themselves are not thought of as being available attack surfaces by health care organizations that are focused on their more prominent information systems. SANS-Norse Report

The example of an IP connected device (in this case a video surveillance camera with default security settings) was highlighted as an easy entry point where access could then be extended to other devices on what the organization would likely consider their secure and private network.

Web Configurator

Perhaps the most chilling aspect of the report (aside from the enormous financial liability for healthcare entities) was the potential consumer liability associated with Medical Identity Theft (largely around electronic medical record software and “personal health information”).

In the e-commerce world, consumers have some protection from theft and fraud. In the healthcare world, consumers are directly responsible for costs related to compromised medical insurance records. A survey last year by the Ponemon Institute estimated the cost of Medical Identity Theft to consumers at $12 billion for 2013 (here).

The larger consumer risk isn’t financial – it’s the life-threatening inaccuracies in the medical records themselves (often used for committing the financial fraud). According to the Ponemon survey (sponsored by the Medical Identity Fraud Alliance) victims reported these medical risks:

15% of respondents experienced a misdiagnosis
13% of respondents experienced a mistreatment
14% of respondents experienced a delay in treatment
11% of respondents were prescribed the wrong pharmaceutical
50% of respondents have done nothing to resolve the incident

The largest single takeaway from the report for the HIPAA-obsessed healthcare industry could well be this one.
more...
No comment yet.
Rescooped by Jan Bergmans from welfare benefits
Scoop.it!

Child abuse network reached into 10 Downing Street, MP Tom Watson tells stunned House of Commons

Child abuse network reached into 10 Downing Street, MP Tom Watson tells stunned House of Commons | Homecare | Scoop.it
Paedophile ring reached former Prime Minister's office according to West Bromwich East MP Tom Watson

Via Bennett Kathie
more...
No comment yet.
Suggested by Mary E. Berens-Oney
Scoop.it!

Depression is often undertreated in seniors - Washington Post

Depression is often undertreated in seniors - Washington Post | Homecare | Scoop.it
Seniors are less likely to feel despondent, but they have more serious complications.
more...
No comment yet.
Rescooped by Jan Bergmans from ✽ Bipolar Disorder & Fibromyalgia ✽
Scoop.it!

6 Ways to Start Practicing Self-Compassion — Even If You Believe You’re Undeserving

6 Ways to Start Practicing Self-Compassion — Even If You Believe You’re Undeserving | Homecare | Scoop.it
For many of us being kind to ourselves is hard. It’s hard even when we’re struggling -- and need compassion most. Instead, we get mad. We tell ourselves to buc
Via Mary E. Berens-Oney
more...
No comment yet.
Scooped by Jan Bergmans
Scoop.it!

Stoppen met wat je kapot maakt. — Medium

Stoppen met wat je kapot maakt. — Medium | Homecare | Scoop.it
Depressie: een verhaal over je leven waarmee je totaal geïdentificeerd bent. Inclusief meningen over jezelf en je verled…
Jan Bergmans's insight:
Als je er klaar voor bent te stoppen, maakt de methode op zich niet veel meer uit. Er is geen universele oplossing anders was er niemand meer verslaafd en/of zouden mensen niet meer zo massaal terugvallen. Verslaving is in feite nog steeds een raadsel, en om te kunnen stoppen, moet alles kloppen.

Op 22 oktober 2012 was ik er blijkbaar écht klaar voor om de onvoorstelbaar ingewikkelde reis te maken die ontnuchtering heet. Want het betekende niet alleen het doorstaan van talloze ontwenningsverschijnselen en het trotseren van álle vuiligheid die ik mijn hele leven hardnekkig en weinig elegant had vermeden en weggestopt; het betekende vooral een onvoorstelbaar diep onderzoek naar mijn chronische onzeker- en ontevredenheid, en alle misvattingen die ik had over mijn bestaan en de ‘ik’ die ik dacht te zijn.

Om een lang verhaal even samen te vatten: ik kwam terecht in de hel. Maandenlang heb ik geleefd in een wereld waaruit langzaam maar zeker al het licht verdween, mijn energievoorraad volledig opraakte, en een woeste rivier van loodzware pijn en giftige schaamte eindeloos door mijn lichaam kolkte. Terwijl mijn enige en levenslange methode om te dealen met tegenslag en obstakels middelengebruik was, moest ik een compleet nieuwe manier leren om met gruwelijke innerlijke pijn om te gaan. Ik moest nu niet alleen de ellende uit het verleden weerstaan op de meest rauwe manier mogelijk, maar ook nog eens leren omgaan met de stem in mijn hoofd die een steeds reëler verhaal leek te vertellen over gelukzalig wegzinken in een eindeloze hoeveelheid drank. En dat dag na dag, seconde na seconde. Terwijl ik het leven uit me weg voelde glippen. Kortom: ik moest mezelf volledig opnieuw uitvinden, zonder dat ik ook maar énig idee had van hoe dat eruitzag.

By the way: mijn ontnuchtering ging gepaard met een depressie die ik mijn ergste vijand niet zou toewensen. Intense pijn hebben is één ding; leven in het epicentrum van het kansloze gevoel dat je continu kapot gaat is een heel ander verhaal. Ik lag soms dagen in mijn huis op de grond, afwisselend huilend en schreeuwend naar het plafond, omdat ik me van moment tot moment tot in elke vezel realiseerde dat ik het zelf niet meer in de hand had, en dat ik was overgeleverd aan het leven. Ik, Mister Controlfreak, was iedere illusie van macht over mijn wereld kwijt. Het enige wat ik steeds maar kon denken was ‘Waarom overkomt mij dit?’. Er was geen enkele manier meer om de pijn te ontvluchten.

Twee jaar later. Ik ben er doorheen gekomen (misschien overbodig te vermelden, maar ik zeg het toch maar even), en het gaat bijzonder goed met me. Ik heb het volgehouden, ook al was ik minstens tienduizend keer vlakbij een hernieuwde overgave aan de drank of drugs. Niemand is voorbereid op dit soort intense kwellingen, je kunt het niet vooraf leren of oefenen, en ik kon uiteindelijk niets anders doen dan me volledig overgeven. Ik kon niets anders doen dan toegeven dat ik het gewoon niet meer wist en hopeloos verloren was. In die situatie van complete uitputting en kansloosheid, nam mijn instinct het over. Als ik destijds op het punt stond overstag te gaan (vaak) of létterlijk niets meer kon bedenken om voor te leven, was er een minimaal, bijna onvoelb

more...
No comment yet.
Scooped by Jan Bergmans
Scoop.it!

What I learned not drinking for two years — Medium

What I learned not drinking for two years — Medium | Homecare | Scoop.it
I’ve accomplished a lot, and learned a lot since I stopped drinking two years ago. Here’s nine things I’ve learned.
Jan Bergmans's insight:
What I learned not drinking for two years

Two years ago today I last got shithoused. It was the closing night of the Lincoln Lodge, a fantastic comedy venue in Chicago in the back of a now-closed diner. They’ve since moved, but after that show, I thought I should take a breather from drinking — and eating meat — and focus on productivity.

Here’s a short list of what I’ve accomplished since I stopped drinking two years ago:

Lost 75 poundsBought a bad-ass loft condoFinished a first draft of an advice bookStarted exercising three days a week, then fourWent from a size XXL to size LargePerformed in three comedy festivalsGot a badass new job at Breaking News (download our apps!)Finished multiple drafts of multiple television and movie scriptsWent from 42-inch waist to 36-inchWent from hating myself daily to relatively enjoying myself

A lot of this is what I externally accomplished, what I can show on paper. But I think that last one is the most important.

I’ve learned a lot in two years, so I thought I’d share that with you, in case you’d like to take a break from the booze cruise. Also, that’s what I tell myself: I’ve taken a break. Maybe I’ll drink again. Maybe I won’t.

But overall, life seems to be a shitload better for me because I took a break. Perhaps it could be for you, too.

Things I’ve LearnedYou don’t have to drink to have fun

What a shocker! As someone who’s been drinking since his senior year of high school (sorry mom, we weren’t just “hanging out” in the basement), most events in my life revolved around booze.

Almost everything does: Comedy shows, concerts, after-work functions, meetups, dates, conferences, dinner, museum tours. But guess what? The events don’t change if you decide not to drink!

You’re still you. Maybe you’re a little less “inhibited,” but is that altogether terrible? I’ve found that when I hang out with folks who have been drinking, I start to feel the same way I was — in terms of becoming silly, goofy, fun — when I was around people while drinking.

And I remember everything that happened during the events, too, which is always nice.

2. You have way less regrets

Since I stopped drinking, I’ve yet to wake up and look at my phone, see something I texted, and go, “Ugh, wwwwwwhhhhhy.” I’m in control of my actions basically all of the time.

I think a lot more before I respond to something someone says. If I’m angry, it gives me time to calm down instead of just reacting like a shithead. Drinking definitely helped my inner asshole come out a lot more often.

Now I am better at keeping the jerkier side of me locked up. It still comes out, sure, but at least I have more control over when that happens.

3. People will judge the shit out of you

This one was the weirdest one to deal with. Many, many folks will give you shit for not drinking. Here are some actual things I’ve been told:

“C’mon, dude, just have one beer! It’s not like you’re going to meetings or whatever!”
“I can’t trust someone who doesn’t drink.”
“You’re not fun unless you’re drunk.”
“When you don’t drink, it makes me feel bad about myself, which makes me not like you.”
“I can’t date someone who doesn’t want to get drunk with me, sorry.”

I’ve bet I said some of these things back when I used to drink. Because when you’re around someone who doesn’t do something you like doing, you can be taken aback by it.

I’ve had friends who’ve stopped hanging out with me because I don’t drink anymore. I’ve had relationships end (or not even start) because of it. I have been sent screenshots of people I know talking smack about me to other people because I choose to not do a thing.

It’s weird. But it makes you realize the bad relationship with booze other folks must be having. And for that, I have empathy. And I hope they figure it out.

4. You sleep so much better

I haven’t slept this great since before high school. Holy shit it’s fantastic. I could link you to all the studies that show how alcohol affects your sleep, but hey, take my word for it.

5. You get less sad

I don’t know if I have depression, but I used to get bummed out a lot. Days where I wouldn’t want to leave my apartment, or see anyone, mostly because I hated myself.

I don’t hate myself nearly as much as I used to. I’m generally okay with my life and who I am. Positivity is my go-to emotion, even when something bad or terrible happens to me.

It’s like I flipped this switch inside my brain: Instead of going to shittiness, I try to find the reason something is positive. It’s definitely weird to have this happen to me.

6. You develop more empathy for others

A few weeks ago, this guy blared on his horn because I was crossing at a crosswalk and he wanted to turn, and he almost hit me with his car, then he flipped me off and told me to go fuck myself and die.

Old me probably would’ve stood in front of him, not moved, taken a photo or video of him, shared it on the internet, explained, “Hey look at this asshole who tried to hit me with his car!” and felt smug and wonderful about it.

Instead, after an initial moment of fear and anger, I realized this dude is probably having an awful day. Maybe he’s late for an appointment. Maybe he’s trying to get to the hospital to see his sick son who has cancer. Maybe he didn’t have as loving of parents as I did, and that’s filled him with resentment his entire life.

Either way, that guy has something going on, and I wanted him to be happier. Then I felt weird, because my brain has been wired forever to be a little shit to anyone who wrongs me. But now? I generally jump to empathy. I like that it does that now.

7. You save so much money

I bought a condo. I’d like to pretend as though it wasn’t because of how much money I saved not drinking and buying food while drunk, but probably 1/4th of my down payment came from just abstaining from booze.

Yeah. I know.

8. You get tired earlier

It’s pretty hard for me to stay up past 11 p.m. most nights, even on the weekends. When I was drinking, booze was a magical fuel that kept me going, trying to find a new adventure.

Now that I don’t drink, I’m not constantly searching for adventure, trying to find one more fun thing that will fill the empty void inside of me. I’m content with what I’ve done for the day, and my body wants to go to bed. I dig that.

9. You become amazingly productive

When you’re not spending most of your free time at bars, you get a lot of shit done. I read more. I write more. I learn more.

I spend more time working on bettering myself and my skills than I ever would have sitting at a bar, chatting with a buddy or two. I’m much less social than I was previously, but I’m also creating more art and failing a lot more than ever before.

In the end, I know I’m going to die. I’d rather there be a few things of me still hanging around a few years after I’m dead, some sort of expression of myself that others can enjoy. That requires me to put in the time to work on projects, make something tangible and real for others to enjoy.

That seems, now, like a better use of my time than chatting with some pals at a bar. That conversation may have been great, sure, but in the end, it dies with me and those people. If I can create a few things that last longer than me, it makes my life last longer. It means I mattered a little more.

I’m glad I haven’t drank for two years. Sure, I’ve done a few shots of Malort with people who’ve never tried it. And that one time a dude threatened to kick my ass if I didn’t drink that shot of whiskey he bought me to congratulate me on “being so funny” after hearing me tell jokes about how I don’t drink anymore.

If you ever think, hey, this drinking thing isn’t fun anymore, it’s okay to take a break. I just quit. For me, it’s been relatively easy, and I know it isn’t easy for everyone. But just know I’ve found countless rad people who can have fun without booze. And you can, too.

Good luck.

more...
No comment yet.
Scooped by Jan Bergmans
Scoop.it!

Click here to support Please Help The Oney Family Move by Mary E. Berens-Oney

Click here to support Please Help The Oney Family Move  by Mary E. Berens-Oney | Homecare | Scoop.it
Be the first to like this update
We would like to say "Thank you" for the people that have donated... It is appreciated... :) We only need another $700 dollars to Move ... We only have 3 more weeks to get out of the house ... Please help Us ... Thank You ... The Oney Family ( Kevin, Mary & Erin)
Subscribe to Updates Show More
Donate
Tweet
Share
My Husband was Robbed at Gun Point on Monday August 31, 2015. Our neighborhood has gotten even more violent. We have decided to move to a better neighborhood in Cleveland. We have been fighting Social Services to get our Granddaughter back HOME !!! Our Funds are very low at this time. I don't want My Family to become "Homeless". Please Help My Family Get To A Better Neighborhood & Home. My Family would be Grateful & Thankful for the Help. Thank You ... Mary E. Oney Man with Parkinson’s disease robbed at gunpoint on Cleveland’s west side
more...
No comment yet.
Suggested by Mary E. Berens-Oney
Scoop.it!

Friendship Line: nation's only 24-hour hotline for older adults in jeopardy - Geripal

Friendship Line: nation's only 24-hour hotline for older adults in jeopardy - Geripal | Homecare | Scoop.it
Friendship Line: nation's only 24-hour hotline for older adults in jeopardy Geripal To each of you who has experienced or laid witness to depression, loneliness, grief, and isolation among older adults, we ask that you consider a contribution to...
more...
No comment yet.
Rescooped by Jan Bergmans from Social Neuroscience Advances
Scoop.it!

A Urine Test Could Distinguish Between Bipolar Disorder And Depression

A Urine Test Could Distinguish Between Bipolar Disorder And Depression | Homecare | Scoop.it
An easy and reliable method of distinguishing bipolar disorder from major depressive disorder could save tens of thousands of lives, and transform millions more. Now researchers at Chongqing Medical University, China, claim to have found just that in a study based on biomarkers in urine.

The popular image of someone with bipolar disorder is epitomized by prominent figures such as Robin Williams – bouts of severe depression punctuated by off-the-wall mania. In reality, it is often not so easy to recognize; even Williams said he was never officially diagnosed. Moreover, as a new paper in The Journal Proteome research notes, “Multiple depressive episodes usually occur prior to the first manic episode in many bipolar patients.”

In these cases, the symptoms of bipolar can be very difficult to distinguish from those of major depressive disorder (MDD). Since MDD is the more common condition, clinicians often jump to an MDD diagnosis; indeed, many don’t even think to investigate the possibility of bipolar. Studies have found that as many as 39% of patients diagnosed with MDD have unrecognized bipolar.

The paper adds: “A large percentage of BD subjects are incorrectly treated with antidepressants in clinical practice.” The consequences can be lethal. Selective seratonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) such as Prozac and Celexa probably don’t help people with bipolar. SSRIs are alleged to increase suicide risk among bipolar patients, a major concern since bipolar sufferers have suicide rates around 20 times the population as a whole.

While efforts have been made to alert doctors to the dangers of this sort of misdiagnosis, as long as we continue to rely only on multiple subtle signs, the problem will remain. 

The Chongquing team think they have found a way out of this problem, having identified biomarkers whose concentrations are different for people with bipolar or MDD.

The authors note that some of these biomarkers have been investigated before, but individually did not provide a sufficiently reliable method for diagnosis. However, senior author Dr. Peng Xie proposed that multiple markers in combination might succeed where each had failed.

For the study, experienced psychiatrists recruited 71 people with bipolar disorder, 126 whose diagnosis of MDD was considered reliable, and 126 "healthy controls." Each group was divided into a training set and a test set. For the training set, the researchers knew the subject’s condition ahead of time and used this to identify relevant markers, while in the other set it was a blinded test to confirm the predictive capacity of these markers. The researchers examined the urine of those in the training set to identify 20 metabolites associated with either MDD or bipolar. 

An initial trial on the test set identified 76% of those with MDD and 79% of those with bipolar, falling short of what would be required clinically. However, when the results were reanalyzed, six metabolites stood out.

Via Jocelyn Stoller
more...
No comment yet.
Scooped by Jan Bergmans
Scoop.it!

When Less is More: Three Strategies for Preventing Caregiver Stress

When Less is More: Three Strategies for Preventing Caregiver Stress | Homecare | Scoop.it
We want to alleviate the emotional and psychological pain of the person for whom we are caring. The mistake is believing “doing more” is the solution. In caregiving, as in writing, sometimes less is more.
Jan Bergmans's insight:

For forty years what he did for her was always out of love.

His wife also did many things for her husband.  But with progressive muscular degeneration, her ability to take care of everyday chores decreased.

He now handled everything in their lives requiring mobility from shopping for food to helping his wife with toileting. As her needs increased and with little help available, what was done out of love before she became ill, was done because of necessity. He still loved his wife, but he daily skated on the verge of burnout.

Many strategies can make caregiving easier. The one most often written about is the reduction of stress. The problem with focusing on stress reduction is the strategies are for AFTER events get out of control. For example, one often reads, “Take a break for yourself at least once a day.”

While taking breaks is important for reducing stress, the well-meaning statement doesn’t address what created the stress. Stress is what happens BECAUSE of prior events. Focusing on the resultant condition is similar to closing the gate of a barn after the animals have left.

Instead of focusing on stress reduction, concentrate on stress prevention. Caregiving is stressful, but we can do various things to reduce its impact. Below are three I and other caregivers found reduce the occurrence of stress.

Prioritize

One of the hardest things caregivers face is prioritizing what’s important. Many people, such as the husband, assume they can best serve their loved one by doing everything they did prior to the illness. While laudable, their efforts often are unrealistic, regardless of the love someone has for the person receiving care.

Equating the pre-caring situation with the caring situation is a formula for disaster. Even if the amount of effort appears identical, you need to factor in the new emotional weight of the activities.

Think about using simple criteria to prioritize needs. For the husband, developing criteria was simple. “Most important” was anything that could affect the physical health of his wife (e.g., creating a barrier-free home environment). Second most important were things that “buoyed her spirits” (e.g. going to the symphony). Least important were “everything else” (e.g., keeping the kitchen spotless).

Simplify

“Complications” are a part of caregiving. A complication may involve increasing the number of required activities. At other times, the complication may involve consequences (e.g., scheduled ingestion of medicines moves from important to critical with some conditions).

Simplicity can be introduced into caregiving. The easiest way is to rank order the importance of everything you’re doing, as suggested in the “Prioritize” strategy. But often, even reducing the number of necessary activities doesn’t result in the prevention of stress.

An alternative is to reduce the importance of an outcome. In our example, the husband and wife always took pride in the spotlessness of their house. While a “clean house” was still important, an “immaculately clean” one no longer was. “Acceptably clean” simplified their lives.

Accept

Caregiving is always in flux; either because the illness is progressive, or the effects of it continually require attitude adjustments by both the loved one and caregiver. Just when the caregiver and loved one adjust to the change, the situation shifts and a new period of adjustment begins which inevitably will change again.

“Acceptance” becomes the basis for developing future strategies. By planning for continual changes, you reduce the possibility of more disappointment when improvements don’t occur. If there is improvement, that’s icing on the cake.

Many people refuse to accept the permanence or progressiveness of a condition requiring care. They equate “acceptance” with “giving up”.  However, acceptance of reality often leads to creative ways of adapting (e.g. trading in a sports car on a van equipped with a wheelchair ramp). Hope, on the other hand, can prevent adaptation and becomes a delusion leading to continued disappointment.

SUMMARY

Will implementing all three strategies make caregiving a joy? Probably not. Caregiving involves making choices. Rarely are they between what’s “great” and what’s “terrible.” Most involve choosing between two or more alternatives, that are “less than great.” Using the three strategies will enable you to adapt to what is presently occurring and minimize the possibility of disabling stress.

more...
No comment yet.
Rescooped by Jan Bergmans from ♡ James & Mary ♡
Scoop.it!

Lonely is not being alone, it’s the feeling that no…

Lonely is not being alone, it’s the feeling that no… | Homecare | Scoop.it
Lonely is not being alone, it’s the feeling that no one cares.
The post Lonely is not being alone, it’s the feeling that no… appeared first on Lifehack.

Via Mary E. Berens-Oney
Jan Bergmans's insight:

TY Mary, I still care ;-)  JB

more...
No comment yet.
Scooped by Jan Bergmans
Scoop.it!

hackinghealthcare

hackinghealthcare | Homecare | Scoop.it
Unlike any other workshop in the world of healthcare information technology today!



Hacking Healthcare 2015 (HH2015) has been crafted from the ground up, to provide healthcare information technology professonals with the latest intelligence and best practices for safeguarding their complex environments.



Hacking Healthcare 2015 is a no-excuses, check the politically correctness at the door, keep your hands in the vehicle at all times, high energy, fast paced program. During our time together, you will be immersed in the most cutting edge cyber-security & privacy information. You will learn about and explore threats specific to healthcare, attack analysis methodologies from the inside out, dispel common myths and beliefs regarding the world of cyber-security and much more!



Hacking Heatlhcare 2015 will assure that you...



* Understand the top threats facing HIT organizations for 2015.

*Gain in-depth insight into threats associated with bio-medical devices.

*Develop a holistic set of cyber-security/privacy strategies for addressing core threats in 2015.

*Gain a clear understanding of your attack surface and potential attack pivot points.

*Ratify a strategy for dealing with business associates and reducing their threat to your systems.

*Go beyond the common and understand the world of malware and cyber-munitions.



...and that is by the end of the first day!



Your primary guide, coach and instructor during your journey will be John Gomez, CEO and Founder of Sensato. Sensato, and John, are unique as their entire DNA is focused on healthcare security and privacy. As you may know, John was the CTO/co-President of Allscripts and former CTO of Eclipsys. He is also the ex-CTO of WebMD and has over 14 years of experience in desigingg healthare information technology systems. John is one of the few technologists in the industry who has gone from designing and developing worldclass healthcare technology systems to breaking and hacking them; with the single goal of ultimately making healthcare technology safer and more secure.



Regardless if you represent a small or large physician practice, retail pharmacy, community healthcare organization, large scale delivery network, payer, pharma, or technology vendor this workshop is for you. Hacking Healthcare 2015 takes a holistic view of healthcare information technology and the content has been developed to be applicable across the healthcare ecosystem.



Given the sensitive nature of the information presented, workshop attendance requires that you are affiliated with a healthcare provider, payer or vendor. We are also limiting the attendance to assure there is ample opportunity for interaction with instructors and colleagues. Registration will be closed as soon as we reach our attendance limits - so please confirm your attendance as soon as possible.
more...
No comment yet.
Scooped by Jan Bergmans
Scoop.it!

Farewell to my daughter Kate, who died on Christmas day

Farewell to my daughter Kate, who died on Christmas day | Homecare | Scoop.it
Kate and Billy in 2004.

Christmas won’t be spoiled for us for ever. A wise friend of Kate’s, who lost his own wife years ago, told us that because he remembered and thought about her every day the “big” days (anniversaries and Christmas) held no fears. I think he is right.

Kate once said, in relation to a mother’s love for her children, that “worry is love’s currency”. Well, for the first time in two years I don’t wake up worrying how she is. And two years of advance grieving has helped prepare us for today.

It has helped to have the love of family and friends, and the kindness of strangers, the thousands of messages we have received. Newspaper obituaries (I hadn’t realised until now quite how much it helps to have the life of someone you love rounded off in this way).

It helps that we can feel so proud of Kate’s work. She had always been high achieving. In her 20s she worked closely with two prime ministers; at 30 she was CEO of a charity that supported fragile democracies in Africa, hanging out with heads of state and wealthy American philanthropists. There are lots of babies who wouldn’t be alive now without Kate’s work, lots of children being educated, lots of parents able to find work and feed their families.

More than anything, it helps that we have Kate’s book, Late Fragments, written so that her sons may one day discover who she was and what she held dear. If anything good is to come from losing Kate, it will be that book and the effect it has on all who read it. Kate had, as her friend Katy Brand, the actress, said to her, the ability “to choose just the right word – to roll all the words around your head like ball bearings, until the perfect one drops into the hole”. But if not for the cancer, she probably wouldn’t have become a writer – like most high-flying working parents, she wouldn’t have had time.

The last two years taught us the importance of time, of stepping off the treadmill. As Kate writes in her book: “Everything has changed and yet nothing has changed. In other words, the petty frustrations and stupid ambitions and general rushing around have melted away, but the good stuff remains. And it’s better than ever.”

Because of the Nuisance, we became a much closer family. We bridged the distances that grow between parents and their adult children and came to know and admire Kate and Jo, much more than we would have otherwise. We became part of Oscar and Isaac’s daily lives instead of occasional visitors. And we were – and still are – overwhelmed at the way Kate’s friends and our own have responded to her illness.

I’ve learned that there is more love in the world than I ever knew and that perhaps all we need to do is learn to ask for what we need.

• Kate Gross died peacefully at home from colon cancer on 25 December 2014. Kate finished writing her book in September and received finished copies a few weeks before her death. She leaves behind her devoted husband, Billy Boyle, and her five-year-old sons, Isaac and Oscar.

Late Fragments: Everything I Want to Tell You (About This Magnificent Life) by Kate Gross is published by William Collins, £14.99. To order a copy for £11.99, including free UK p&P, go to bookshop.theguardian.com or call 0330 333 6846
more...
No comment yet.
Scooped by Jan Bergmans
Scoop.it!

Healthcare: Look anywhere you like for answers, just not the US

Healthcare: Look anywhere you like for answers, just not the US | Homecare | Scoop.it
So, as the New Year hangovers finally, gently, fade away, why don't we consider what it is that we really do want in a healthcare system. And even, well, who manages to do this quite well?

Do not fear, we are not about to find that the answer is the US. That really is God's Own Clusterfuck of a system. All the problems of a market system and almost none of the benefits. Quite how any nation can manage that is beyond belief.

To start with, we should probably note that nobody really actually sat down and planned their healthcare systems. When economists discuss this sort of thing they peer over their glasses, mutter “path dependence” and then move on to simpler subjects.

The point they're trying to make is that sometimes shit just happens and which turd depends upon what has been eaten beforehand. With healthcare systems the general view is that they didn't actually do very much before about 1940. They might provide bed rest and hydration (hey, don't knock it, still the basic treatment for both flu and Ebola), and quarantine of certain infectious diseases, but not hugely more.

It was really only with the introduction of broad spectrum antibiotics that what we now regard as a proper healthcare system began to be possible. There had been huge increases in public health in the preceding century but this was public health: better diets, sewage, clean water, changes of clothes to beat lice and so on.

By nationalising all extant healthcare facilities and calling them "the NHS", the NHS performed healthcare in extant facilities

The path dependence bit here is that various countries cobbled together their systems from the ideas that they had to hand as that technological change came through. Over in the US, FDR had imposed (and managed by JK Galbraith) price and incomes controls to deter inflation during WWII. However, perks were not considered incomes to be controlled.

Thus American companies competed for labour by offering (tax free!) healthcare insurance. Thus when a proper healthcare system really became technologically possible, that's the system they went with: employer provided and tax free healthcare insurance. Over here in Blighty we had an almost Stalinist mindset about these things.

For example, George Orwell had TB and there was a new American drug (another of the new antibiotics) which was having some success in treating TB. He got some, was treated, was allergic to it (his fingernails fell out), stopped the treatment and died.

However, how he got the drug is informative. He had some US dollars, in the US, royalties from the US sales of one of his books (1984 I think? Or maybe Animal Farm, either is darkly humorous when connected to this story). Yes, sure, the UK was broke after WWII, foreign currency was at a significant premium but it was his money after all.

Yet when he applied for permission (Oh Yes! Permission to spend your own money in a foreign land was required) he was refused. So he asked again, having the odd contact, and a deal was agreed in which he could only spend his own money on his own drugs if he also bought more to treat other patients. Which he did – some were cured and he wasn't.

Maybe that's a fair enough reaction from the government and maybe it isn't but in a time when that was considered normal behaviour there's nothing really odd about the government of the day deciding to create the NHS as a centralised and monolithic state entity.

By nationalising all extant healthcare facilities and calling them 'the NHS' (please do note, they didn't “build” the NHS, the first NHS-built hospital didn't open until 1963), the NHS simply performed healthcare in extant facilities).

Other countries similarly built their healthcare systems with what was to hand in the form of resources and extant ideas. That's the theory at least and it explains some of the variance we've got over the different countries.
more...
No comment yet.
Scooped by Jan Bergmans
Scoop.it!

Inbox | LinkedIn

Inbox | LinkedIn | Homecare | Scoop.it
New cancer support ebook

Stan Goldberg, Ph.D.

November 19, 2014 8:15 PM
At least once in your life someone will say to you, “I have cancer,” and when those three words are spoken, you may struggle with a response. In my new ebook, “I HAVE CANCER” 48 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU HEAR THOSE WORDS, I provide 48 specific suggestions that will support your loved one or friend on this unsettling journey you both will travel. The suggestions range from the simplicity of compassionate listening to the gut-wrenching preparation for death.

The reviews from the medical community, cancer researchers, people living with cancer, and those caring for loved ones with cancer have been humbling. You can read them and order the book at http://bit.ly/1xEqgjx.

Until November 30, it is available on Amazon as a pre-order for $.99. On December 1st it will be sold by all online booksellers for $3.99.

I’ve added a new section on my website “Thoughts for the Day”, a collection of daily observations ranging from 50 to 300 words. http://bit.ly/1uIT0YV Not enough for an article, but too much for a tweet. I’ll try to post Monday through Friday. Please let me know what you think.

And as always, if you don’t wish to receive these occasional announcements, please write “op out” on the message line and I’ll remove you from my connection list. Sorry for the intrusion.
more...
No comment yet.