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History as this woman sees it. The serious, the kitsch, the opinionated. Companion to http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/
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Family Courts Helping Pedophiles, Batterers Get Child Custody

Family Courts Helping Pedophiles, Batterers Get Child Custody | Herstory | Scoop.it

Fathers Rights.Karen Anderson suspected that something strange was going on between her ex-husband, Rex Anderson, and their 15-year-old daughter. Prior to the couple's separation in 1998, the girl would sometimes...


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Have you ever noticed that county court houses are becoming wealthy at the expense of the most innocent. Check out what happened in Pennsylvania with a caper well known as " Kids For Cash " and I doubt much will change as the truth will most likely be drowned out by well paid lawyer ...may God have mercy.

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An Open Letter From Dylan Farrow

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Dylan Farrow, Woody Allen’s adoptive daughter, speaks out about her experience.


For as long as I could remember, my father had been doing things to me that I didn’t like. I didn’t like how often he would take me away from my mom, siblings and friends to be alone with him. I didn’t like it when he would stick his thumb in my mouth. I didn’t like it when I had to get in bed with him under the sheets when he was in his underwear. I didn’t like it when he would place his head in my naked lap and breathe in and breathe out. I would hide under beds or lock myself in the bathroom to avoid these encounters, but he always found me. These things happened so often, so routinely, so skillfully hidden from a mother that would have protected me had she known, that I thought it was normal. I thought this was how fathers doted on their daughters. But what he did to me in the attic felt different. I couldn’t keep the secret anymore.

When I asked my mother if her dad did to her what Woody Allen did to me, I honestly did not know the answer. I also didn’t know the firestorm it would trigger. I didn’t know that my father would use his sexual relationship with my sister to cover up the abuse he inflicted on me. I didn’t know that he would accuse my mother of planting the abuse in my head and call her a liar for defending me. I didn’t know that I would be made to recount my story over and over again, to doctor after doctor, pushed to see if I’d admit I was lying as part of a legal battle I couldn’t possibly understand. At one point, my mother sat me down and told me that I wouldn’t be in trouble if I was lying – that I could take it all back. I couldn’t. It was all true. But sexual abuse claims against the powerful stall more easily. There were experts willing to attack my credibility. There were doctors willing to gaslight an abused child.

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This Picture Is Worth a Thousand Words...

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tihscihc:
“ live yur dreams
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There's more wrong with this photo than the fashions...


As if it's OK to have little boys sexualized, or grown women to be props in a male fantasy.


The original poster of this retro pic said, "Live yur dreams" -- more like nightmares.

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There's more wrong with this photo than the fashions...


As if it's OK to have little boys sexualized, or grown women to be props in a male fantasy.


The original poster of this retro pic said, "Live yur dreams" -- more like nightmares.

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The war on 12-year-old girls

The war on 12-year-old girls | Herstory | Scoop.it

An epidemic of high-profile trolling is a testament to how pathological misogyny is — and how early it begins.

My dear daughter, I am so sorry these morons are out there, and that you and your friends are in their cross hairs. That they don’t see you as a person but a threat. But I hope they’re right. I hope you and your friends grow up to be everything that scares the crap out of these idiots. I hope you all stay loud and strong and refuse to be pushed around by dirty weirdos hiding in their basements, anonymously trying put you down, rewarding each other with encouragement and bobbleheads. I hope you change the world. I hope you all can stay brave and autonomous and bullyproof and be their worst nightmare. Because they’re been trying to be yours for way too long.


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Working Welfare Mom's Response to the GOP - "I'll Show You People Dignity"

Working Welfare Mom's Response to the GOP - "I'll Show You People Dignity" | Herstory | Scoop.it

Above: 1 month of food (138lbs) for my family of 4, picked up today from a St. Paul, MN foodshelf.  Divided into 4 weeks of suppers = 1 can beans, peas, cup of rice 5 days per week, tomato sauce & rice on weekends, and lunches = 3 packs of sandwich meat, 3 cans of apple sauce, 2 jars of peanut butter, 2 packs of tortillas

 

by JESSICA ENGLISH

 

Sean Hannity recently said he has friends who live on rice and beans.  You gotta throw some fruits and veggies in, but he maintains a person can "survive" on the stuff.  Check out what I received from the foodshelf today, for the month of June, and ask if you're family of four could survive on it, three meals per day for a month.

 

Maybe you're not surprised that my cupboards aren't overflowing.  They are not, but I am thrilled at what we have received, so please don't misunderstand my motivation for this article.  I am grateful for the foodshelf, for its staff and volunteers, but obviously this is not enough for 3 healthful meals, for four people, for an entire month.  


One can see that our family will need more help to get through the summer.  Like many families, I had my children before the economic collapse.  Due to summer I have had to drastically cut my minimum wage hours to shifts I can pick up on Saturdays and Sundays, when the kids go to their dad's house.  

 

Fortunately, my application for foodstamps will probably go through by the end of the month.  However, there are many millionaires in Washington who fail to understand the needs of the poor during this economic crisis, especially the need to fund the foodstamp program.  They cut the foodstamp program to fund military budgets.

 

I think they do this because many still believe in the ideals that George W. Bush brought to the fore with his "compassionate conservatism" agenda.  The basic premise is to give large tax cuts to the rich, and reduce the government roll in providing programs for the poor, with the faith that the rich will fund local city and state charities, who will pick up the slack.  What many fail to realize is that monthly TANF payments to families have not risen since 1986, so local charities exist because even with the government programs, the poor need help to survive.  

 

If you weren't into politics in 2000, here is a NY Times article that highlighted the ideas and critics of the Bush policy. Allison Mitchell reported back in June, 2000, regarding Bush's compassionate conservatism ideals, "the 'compassionate conservative' platform Mr. Bush is running on today: tax incentives that he predicts will lead to an explosion of charitable giving; an emphasis on using religious institutions to deal with poverty, drug abuse and other social problems and a pledge to ''usher in the responsibility era,'' to replace the notion that ''if it feels good, do it.''

 

So, ten years of tax cuts behind us, and cuts to the foodstamp program ahead of us, how is it panning out at your local food pantry?  Is the local charity meeting the needs of the 1 out of 2 Americans who are low income or in poverty?  How much aid has flooded into your local charities from your local millionaires?  Have the poverty rates been driven down by the compassion fof the 1%?  Hardly.

 

George W. Bush had critics, at the time, within his own party, people who recognized the limits of local charities, reporter Allison Mitchell, again back in June 2000, "Arianna Huffington, once an acolyte of the Gingrich revolution who ran an organization with Mr. Olasky to promote such ideas, now counts herself a skeptic.

 

'How do you take what works and make sure it reaches enough people?' Ms. Huffington asks. 'Can that really be done without the raw power of government appropriations given that the private sector has not been forthcoming?' She said she once thought that if government were scaled back, the private sector would step forward. Instead, she realized 'how much easier it was raising money for the opera or a fashionable museum.'"

 

Welfare reform passed by Clinton in 1995 mandates that recipients WORK, search for a job, or attend retraining classes 30 hours per week.  I can personally attest that even if you are leaving an abusive situation, a recipient must work, or look for work (filling out worksheets) 30 hours per month.  

 

Yet, given Romney's statement about the poor needing to go to work in order to understand dignity, and Gingrich suggesting poor children clean schools so they can learn a work ethic, it seems that no one has informed the Republicans that Welfare to Work recipients are working.  Despite high unemployment (due in large part to banking fraud and bailouts) the GOP continues to perpetuate the idea that those who reach out for foodstamps and welfare checks are unwilling to work, are addicted to drugs, or living a hedonistic lifestyle.  Lies and misrepresentations that lead state and local governments to waste valuable legislative sessions and tax payer dollars passing measures to drug test those on welfare!  Lies and misrepresentations that gain the public's support for needed programs to be cut at a time of high need, while the 1% continues to help themselves and their corporations to designer tax breaks and "subsidy" giveaways diverted from taxpayer dollars meant for the common good.

 

My answer to the GOP:  Where is your compassion?  I am working, and I have worked almost every single day this year!  I would feel a hell of a lot more dignified if my work was worth more than poverty wages.  When will you and your media cronies quit lying about me!  I would have even more dignity if I didn't see my government forced to create, then cut, programs to subsidize my poverty wages... poverty wages offered by your corporate donors that maximize their profits by short-shrifting their employees and scooping up more tax breaks and government subsidies than ever before!


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Jessica English's comment, June 13, 2012 9:57 AM
Amen, Virginia! No worries about Saturday. Some of us are meeting this afternoon at 3:30pm at the St Paul City Council to support a measure that stands against corporate personhood. We are also having our next Coffee Party meeting at Coffee Grounds on July 7, Noon to 2pm, but I will message you so we can get together sooner. :)
Virginia Deoccupy Homelessness Simson's comment, June 13, 2012 10:43 AM
http://www.usuncutmn.blogspot.com/2012/06/citizens-united-and-montana-model.html Really, really needs to be read - written by former Ralph Nader attorney living in Northfield. Eric let it in Coffee Party News. I like SOME people in MTA, but they are barking up the wrong tree. I took the issue to Lori Swanson w/moveon and thanked her for signing on ... I go on trial tomorrow for the foreclosure action and am a bit riled ..
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What We Can Learn From Teen Dating Violence

What We Can Learn From Teen Dating Violence | Herstory | Scoop.it

"the data in this survey reveals that the prevalence of domestic violence, especially when combined with gender-skewed safety education, means that such violence prevails because we are too busy providing reasons such as “it’s a tough economy” that “explain” violence rather than flat out condemn it." By my friend Alessia.

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Doing My Part To End Band-Aid Segregation

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Annabel started to notice bandages after her last round of vaccines. She would poke them over and over again, then look up at me with a look on her face that seemed to say, “This is ugly.

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Welfare cuts keep coming

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by JASON DEPARLE, New York Times


Much as critics of the restrictions once warned, a program that built its reputation when times were good offered little help when jobs disappeared. Despite the worst economy in decades, the cash welfare rolls have barely budged.

 

Faced with flat federal financing and rising need, Arizona is one of 16 states that have cut their welfare caseloads further since the start of the recession -- in its case, by half. Even as it turned away the needy, Arizona spent most of its federal welfare dollars on other programs, using permissive rules to plug state budget gaps. Nationally, only 30 percent of the welfare money is spent on cash benefits.

 

The poor people dropped from cash assistance, mostly single mothers, talk with surprising openness about the desperate, and sometimes illegal, ways they make ends meet. They have sold food stamps, sold blood, skipped meals, shoplifted, doubled up with friends, scavenged trash bins for bottles and cans and returned to relationships with violent partners -- all with children in tow.  [MORE]


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Legislating Teen Sex: What's (Terribly) Wrong With Our Age of Consent Laws | RH Reality Check

Legislating Teen Sex: What's (Terribly) Wrong With Our Age of Consent Laws | RH Reality Check | Herstory | Scoop.it

Last month, my husband forwarded me this article from the Daily Beast and I haven't been able to get it out of my mind since.

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UN considers recognizing sexual rights for ten-year-old children

UN considers recognizing sexual rights for ten-year-old children | Herstory | Scoop.it

The UN Commission on Population and Development is considering “sexual and reproductive health and rights” for children as young as ten. Even the Secretary General Ban Ki-Moon agrees. In a statement recently released he said, “Young people, as much as all people, share the human right to health, including sexual and reproductive health.”

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Class Privilege and Parental Leave » Sociological Images

Class Privilege and Parental Leave » Sociological Images | Herstory | Scoop.it

The United States is unusual among developed countries in guaranteeing exactly zero weeks of paid time-off from work upon the birth or adoption of a child. Japan offers 14 weeks of paid job-protected leave, the U.K. offers 18, Denmark 28, Norway 52, and Sweden offers 68 (yes, that’s over a year of paid time-off to take care of a new child).

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A Slip of a Girl: Too Sexy For Your Nursing Bra? Really?! (A Rantie)

A Slip of a Girl: Too Sexy For Your Nursing Bra? Really?! (A Rantie) | Herstory | Scoop.it

Strong reactions to discussing the functionality and fun of maternity bras. And by "strong reaction" I mean people jumped to all sorts of conclusions about bras and women -- pregnant &/or nursing women, that is.

 

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Match Workers at the Bryant and May Factory, London, 1888

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A Dangerous Ruling in the Bode Miller-Sara McKenna Child Custody Battle Takes Fathers' Rights Way Too Far\

A Dangerous Ruling in the Bode Miller-Sara McKenna Child Custody Battle Takes Fathers' Rights Way Too Far\ | Herstory | Scoop.it

I understand that fathers have rights, and I’m all for that. But this ruling took those rights way too far, to the point of dangerousness. It treated a fetus as a child, for purposes of a custody battle. And in doing so, it threatened to limit the rights of a pregnant woman to move and travel.


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Mia's Story -- November 1992: Maureen Orth on Mia Farrow and Woody Allen

Mia's Story -- November 1992: Maureen Orth on Mia Farrow and Woody Allen | Herstory | Scoop.it
Whatever you already know about this tangled and painful situation, you’ve only heard half: the case against Mia Farrow. This is the other half and it isn’t any prettier. It concerns Woody Allen’s behavior and what it has done to Mia Farrow and the 11 children involved. The author breaks new ground on one of the year’s most shocking stories.
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American Mothers Political Party

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American Mothers Political Party - Moms Social Movement, demanding custody rights to HER children, seeking justice & accountability from family courts

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Making A Boob Out Of Rights Movements

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I’m pro-breastfeeding and feel very strongly that nursing mothers should have the choice to breastfeed in public rather than be relegated to some dark corner and shunned for a natural act which is healthy for baby , but...

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I Know a Lot About Welfare Mothers

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by HAPPY IN NM, Daily Kos

When I was going through my divorce, my daughter and I went to LA for my mother's 70th birthday celebration. While we were gone, my husband closed our business. The office had been emptied of everything. He also took whatever money was in the business account, which was the only account we had. I had nothing, except a place to live until the bills came due. I also had one 6 year old daughter who was inclined to eat periodically. My parents were living exclusively on Social Security, so they could offer little financial help. With few choices and much trepidation  [MORE]


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Thank you for sharing this article. I think it is so important to share experiences of real people, and not the oft touted fiction that passes for fair and balanced news in other parts.
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Early life emotional trauma may stunt intellectual development

Early life emotional trauma may stunt intellectual development | Herstory | Scoop.it
Analysis of the data showed that children who had been exposed to maltreatment and/or violence against the mother had lower scores on the cognitive measures at all time points.

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Negative Sexual Health Outcomes Higher for Teen Boys Experiencing Non-consensual Sex

Negative Sexual Health Outcomes Higher for Teen Boys Experiencing Non-consensual Sex | Herstory | Scoop.it
Multiple partners, teen pregnancies more likely among those who were victimized, surveys show ("Parents need to speak to their sons about sexual abuse awareness and prevention, as parents of girls do.

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Geena Davis Institute on Gender in Media: Guess Who?

Geena Davis Institute on Gender in Media: Guess Who? | Herstory | Scoop.it

Are there male and female jobs? Pilot learning video series, "Guess Who" created by college producers, and teaches children ages 6 to 9 about gender stereotypes. AWESOME!

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Under Scrutiny, Some Head Start Programs In Limbo

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by CLAUDIO SANCHEZ, NPR All Things Considered

 

The Obama administration has proposed big changes for the early childhood education program Head Start. Programs the government has labeled "deficient" must now compete for funds to continue operating. [MORE]


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A mom and dad respond to their gay 7-year-old

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by MARY ELIZABETH WILLIAMS, Salon.com

 

The tale began a few months ago, when blogger Amelia penned a column about her then 6-year-old son’s crush on Blaine from “Glee.” She noted how her husband had observed at the time, “So if at 16 he wants to make a big announcement at the dinner table, we can say ‘You told us when you were six.’”

 

They didn’t have to wait nearly that long. Just last month, Amelia, who has been steadily chronicling her family’s experiences in this new terrain, wrote a piece entitled “When Your 7-Year-Old Son Announces, ‘I’m Gay.’” In it, she reveals how her Blaine-crushing offspring, a child who just a few months earlier had no concept of the word “gay,” had casually come out to her one day, right before bounding off to play with his brothers. “Gay,” he’d said. “I’m gay.”

 

And what did mom do? She “leaned down to eye level with him and rubbed my nose against his,” and told him, “I love you so much.” [MORE]


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For Women Under 30, Most Births Occur Outside Marriage

For Women Under 30, Most Births Occur Outside Marriage | Herstory | Scoop.it
Motherhood without marriage among younger women across the country is both a symbol of the transforming family and a hint of coming generational change.
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Why We Vilify Single Moms

Why We Vilify Single Moms | Herstory | Scoop.it
When I was in college I was a single parent. Finding myself struggling personally with the demands of continuing education and single parenting (a special needs child too yet) was...
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