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History as this woman sees it. The serious, the kitsch, the opinionated. Companion to http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/
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Court case from 1837, involving an unwanted kiss & a bitten nose

Court case from 1837, involving an unwanted kiss & a bitten nose | Herstory | Scoop.it
bill-holmes: “ how the fuck did we get from there to where we are today ” Aces. Just aces. Yes, I’ll be adding this to Herstory.
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James Deen’s Alleged Assaults Were Ignored, Laughed Off by Casts and Crews #sexwork #porn #rape

James Deen’s Alleged Assaults Were Ignored, Laughed Off by Casts and Crews #sexwork #porn #rape | Herstory | Scoop.it
Since Saturday, when porn actress and writer Stoya tweeted that she was raped by porn hero James Deen, four more adult film performers have come out agains

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Cauterucci's article gives the most balanced view of the whole James Deen rape story ~ including the debacles facing women in porn and sex work. While the adult industry has a much faster (and positive) response to its stars who rape and abuse than Hollywood and mainstream media do, there are always the following issues of whether or not it is rape if a person is paid or likes rough sex. 


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"There is nothing wrong or rape-like about enjoying rough sex and being good at it. There is nothing wrong or suspicious about acting out a consensual rape fantasy. But, as in offscreen/noncommercial sex, the entire validity of porn as an industry hinges on consent. Perversely, that may be one reason why a porn actress might feel compelled to stay silent about these kinds of violations: Women who act in adult films are often portrayed as victims with little agency or know-how, who must resort to a demeaning and dangerous career because they have no other options. Stories like the ones Fires, Lux, Rayne, and Peters tell—important as they are—don’t exactly contradict that myth.


But neither porn nor rough sex subjected these women to sexual assault, and they didn’t turn James Deen into a rapist. The allegations against Deen are full of references to ways porn actresses control their own careers: through lists of acts they won’t perform, lists of people they won’t perform with, and contracts that specify exactly what will happen in a scene. Deviating from the agreed-upon variety, timing, and manner of sex is just as wrong as any other kind of assault. The women who’ve told their horrifying stories about Deen know that. Deen and the bystanders who looked on and laughed did, too."


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Gracie Passette's curator insight, December 2, 2015 6:33 PM

Cauterucci's article gives the most balanced view of the whole James Deen rape story ~ including the debacles facing women in porn and sex work. While the adult industry has a much faster (and positive) response to its stars who rape and abuse than Hollywood and mainstream media do, there are always the following issues of whether or not it is rape if a person is paid or likes rough sex. 


Cauterucci:


"There is nothing wrong or rape-like about enjoying rough sex and being good at it. There is nothing wrong or suspicious about acting out a consensual rape fantasy. But, as in offscreen/noncommercial sex, the entire validity of porn as an industry hinges on consent. Perversely, that may be one reason why a porn actress might feel compelled to stay silent about these kinds of violations: Women who act in adult films are often portrayed as victims with little agency or know-how, who must resort to a demeaning and dangerous career because they have no other options. Stories like the ones Fires, Lux, Rayne, and Peters tell—important as they are—don’t exactly contradict that myth.

But neither porn nor rough sex subjected these women to sexual assault, and they didn’t turn James Deen into a rapist. The allegations against Deen are full of references to ways porn actresses control their own careers: through lists of acts they won’t perform, lists of people they won’t perform with, and contracts that specify exactly what will happen in a scene. Deviating from the agreed-upon variety, timing, and manner of sex is just as wrong as any other kind of assault. The women who’ve told their horrifying stories about Deen know that. Deen and the bystanders who looked on and laughed did, too."

Click links for more info on rape & rape fantasies ~ including issues in porn & sex work.

Gracie Passette's curator insight, December 2, 2015 7:17 PM

Cauterucci's article gives the most balanced view of the whole James Deen rape story ~ including the debacles facing women in porn and sex work. While the adult industry has a much faster (and positive) response to its stars who rape and abuse than Hollywood and mainstream media do, there are always the following issues of whether or not it is rape if a person is paid or likes rough sex. 


Cauterucci:


"There is nothing wrong or rape-like about enjoying rough sex and being good at it. There is nothing wrong or suspicious about acting out a consensual rape fantasy. But, as in offscreen/noncommercial sex, the entire validity of porn as an industry hinges on consent. Perversely, that may be one reason why a porn actress might feel compelled to stay silent about these kinds of violations: Women who act in adult films are often portrayed as victims with little agency or know-how, who must resort to a demeaning and dangerous career because they have no other options. Stories like the ones Fires, Lux, Rayne, and Peters tell—important as they are—don’t exactly contradict that myth.


But neither porn nor rough sex subjected these women to sexual assault, and they didn’t turn James Deen into a rapist. The allegations against Deen are full of references to ways porn actresses control their own careers: through lists of acts they won’t perform, lists of people they won’t perform with, and contracts that specify exactly what will happen in a scene. Deviating from the agreed-upon variety, timing, and manner of sex is just as wrong as any other kind of assault. The women who’ve told their horrifying stories about Deen know that. Deen and the bystanders who looked on and laughed did, too."


Click links for more info on rape & rape fantasies ~ including issues in porn & sex work.

TheBodyHouse.biz's curator insight, December 4, 2015 12:08 AM

For God's sake... It's never ok to punch a woman in the face and take her from behind... even if she's a paid porn star. Even if she literally... asks you for it.

 

It doesn't matter that this happened on the set of a porn flick. This incident springs from the generalized notion that it's excusable to treat a woman abusively because you are a more powerful and dominant male. Get over yourselves!

 

I see this attitude (and often experience it) everywhere. It's the attitude whereby men believe women have been put on this Earth to serve them.


Men feel entitled to us. This leads to a sense of ownership. I'm not sure where this comes from (The Bible maybe?) but it has got to END.


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Woman reports FB abuse to man's employer. Man gets fired. Internet deluges woman with death and rape threats.

Woman reports FB abuse to man's employer. Man gets fired. Internet deluges woman with death and rape threats. https://t.co/7I26A68EgH


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When Street Harassers Realize The Women They're Catcalling Are Their Moms Undercover

When Street Harassers Realize The Women They're Catcalling Are Their Moms Undercover | Herstory | Scoop.it

If you've ever wanted to tell a street harasser to stick it where the sun don't shine, but couldn't find the right words -- don't worry, these mamas got you covered.


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New Study Shows One in Four Young Female Internet Users is Stalked Online

New Study Shows One in Four Young Female Internet Users is Stalked Online | Herstory | Scoop.it

A new study from the Pew Research Center provides shocking hard data on internet harassment.


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The Blame Game: Black Women, Shame, and Victim Blaming

The Blame Game: Black Women, Shame, and Victim Blaming | Herstory | Scoop.it

The many stereotypes of black women are used to justify violence and aggression against them.  Because black women are mythologized as gold-digging, angry, physically strong, provocative shrews some black men assume (and this is something that having a mama, a auntie, a grandmother who raised you, or your own damn daughters doesn’t change) that if/when black women are hit, they asked for (or deserved) it.  At the end of the day many men empathize with other men and instead of vilifying any act of violence, physical or otherwise, against anyone, especially a woman, they attempt to justify it.  They put themselves in the shoes of the aggressor, but not the victim, and see themselves as blameless and reactionary, rather than violent and misogynistic.

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When Evangelicalism Makes Things Easy For Sexual Offenders – and Hard for Their Victims

When Evangelicalism Makes Things Easy For Sexual Offenders – and Hard for Their Victims | Herstory | Scoop.it
by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy Feminism

Evangelical teachings on repentance and forgiveness create a tremendous problem when it comes to rape or other forms of abuse. If you commit a sin and repent of it, God forgives you. I remember hearing Psalm 103:12 quoted constantly: “As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.” Of course, this was always said in a positive way—isn’t it awesome that God forgives us no matter what? But it doesn’t must mean God forgives us. It also means God forgives rapists, child molesters, and so on—fully and completely.
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I Was The Victim Of Street Harassment At Eight Months Pregnant

I Was The Victim Of Street Harassment At Eight Months Pregnant | Herstory | Scoop.it
I stood there seething, my heart pounding, frustrated and embarrassed that I couldn’t get him to stop or go away.
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The shocking testimony of soldiers who rape

The shocking testimony of soldiers who rape | Herstory | Scoop.it
“When we rape we feel free”, a young soldier in the Congolese Army confesses with astonishing candour. In a country where it’s estimated that 48 women are raped every hour, his actions have become virtually the norm, and not the exception. The Democratic Republic of Congo has born the brunt of vicious wars and fighting almost continuously since 1996, concentrated in the east of the country. One of the reasons the women repeat to anyone who bothers to ask them is: “where there’s fighting there’s rape”.
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This woman was threatened with rape after calling out sexist games—Then something inspiring happened...

This woman was threatened with rape after calling out sexist games—Then something inspiring happened... | Herstory | Scoop.it
"We are witnessing a very slow and painful cultural shift," explains Anita Sarkeesian, the brains behind "Feminist Frequency."
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The National Domestic Violence Hotline | Building Your Case: How to Document Abuse

The National Domestic Violence Hotline | Building Your Case: How to Document Abuse | Herstory | Scoop.it

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A Chilling, Terrifying Glimpse Inside The Mind Of A Woman Beater (VIDEO/IMAGES)

A Chilling, Terrifying Glimpse Inside The Mind Of A Woman Beater (VIDEO/IMAGES) | Herstory | Scoop.it
TRIGGER WARNING. THIS ARTICLE CONTAINS TEXT AND IMAGES THAT MAY BE HARMFUL TO SURVIVORS. A friend recently sent me a link to a TEDx video that features Leslie Morgan Steiner. Steiner is a Harvard graduate, former editor of Seventeen magazine, and a successful businesswoman. She is also a domestic violence survivor. The author of Crazy Love, Steiner busts…

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10 Signs You're In The Wrong Relationship

10 Signs You're In The Wrong Relationship | Herstory | Scoop.it
Let's face it: When we're newly coupled up, we tend to look at our partner -- and the budding relationship itself -- through a pair of proverbial rose-colored glasses.

Any flaws we detect in our partner are all too easily written off: He shies aw...
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Family Courts Helping Pedophiles, Batterers Get Child Custody

Family Courts Helping Pedophiles, Batterers Get Child Custody | Herstory | Scoop.it

Fathers Rights.Karen Anderson suspected that something strange was going on between her ex-husband, Rex Anderson, and their 15-year-old daughter. Prior to the couple's separation in 1998, the girl would sometimes...


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Scott Gibboney's curator insight, March 1, 2014 9:44 AM

Have you ever noticed that county court houses are becoming wealthy at the expense of the most innocent. Check out what happened in Pennsylvania with a caper well known as " Kids For Cash " and I doubt much will change as the truth will most likely be drowned out by well paid lawyer ...may God have mercy.

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This 104-year-old started a secret women's shelter; help her change Alaska

This 104-year-old started a secret women's shelter; help her change Alaska | Herstory | Scoop.it
One of the cooler experiences I've had in recent memory was meeting Elsie Nanugaq Tommy, a spry 104-year-old who started a secret women's shelter decades ago out of her home in Newtok, Alaska. She's a bundle of smiles and optimism -- and her legacy of helpfulness already has been passed down to her granddaughter, Denise Tommy, who is executive director of the Tundra Women's Coalition in Bethel, Alaska, which shelters women and fights violence with educational programs.

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I'll Keep You In My Hoosegow, Valentine

I'll Keep You In My Hoosegow, Valentine | Herstory | Scoop.it
Isn't this a creepy, abusive-stalkery-type valentine? It takes the idea of a prisoner of your love to a whole new (low) level -- complete with gun! You're the one I've been looking for, My chase is...
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Domestic Abuse Barbie Art Project Shows Realities Of Violence Against Women

Domestic Abuse Barbie Art Project Shows Realities Of Violence Against Women | Herstory | Scoop.it
Here's Barbie as you've never seen her before - as a model of domestic abuse. A student artist has painted black eyes, bruises and blood onto the perfect faces of the iconic dolls.

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Bob Jones University Has Way Of Shutting That Year-Long Sex Abuse Study Down

Bob Jones University Has Way Of Shutting That Year-Long Sex Abuse Study Down | Herstory | Scoop.it
Bob Jones University shut down a yearlong investigation into sex abuse complaints before a final report came out. They had really good reasons, we’re sure.
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Longform Reprints: Death of a Playmate by Teresa Carpenter

Longform Reprints: Death of a Playmate by Teresa Carpenter | Herstory | Scoop.it
Dorothy Stratten was the focus of the dreams and ambitions of three men. One killed her.


“The major reason that I’m … that we’re both sittin’ here,” says Hefner, “that I wanted to talk about it, is because there is still a great tendency … for this thing to fall into the classic cliché of ‘smalltown girl comes to Playboy, comes to Hollywood, life in the fast lane,’ and that was somehow related to her death. And that is not what really happened. A very sick guy saw his meal ticket and his connection to power, whatever, slipping away. And it was that that made him kill her.”

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An Open Letter From Dylan Farrow

An Open Letter From Dylan Farrow | Herstory | Scoop.it
Dylan Farrow, Woody Allen’s adoptive daughter, speaks out about her experience.


For as long as I could remember, my father had been doing things to me that I didn’t like. I didn’t like how often he would take me away from my mom, siblings and friends to be alone with him. I didn’t like it when he would stick his thumb in my mouth. I didn’t like it when I had to get in bed with him under the sheets when he was in his underwear. I didn’t like it when he would place his head in my naked lap and breathe in and breathe out. I would hide under beds or lock myself in the bathroom to avoid these encounters, but he always found me. These things happened so often, so routinely, so skillfully hidden from a mother that would have protected me had she known, that I thought it was normal. I thought this was how fathers doted on their daughters. But what he did to me in the attic felt different. I couldn’t keep the secret anymore.

When I asked my mother if her dad did to her what Woody Allen did to me, I honestly did not know the answer. I also didn’t know the firestorm it would trigger. I didn’t know that my father would use his sexual relationship with my sister to cover up the abuse he inflicted on me. I didn’t know that he would accuse my mother of planting the abuse in my head and call her a liar for defending me. I didn’t know that I would be made to recount my story over and over again, to doctor after doctor, pushed to see if I’d admit I was lying as part of a legal battle I couldn’t possibly understand. At one point, my mother sat me down and told me that I wouldn’t be in trouble if I was lying – that I could take it all back. I couldn’t. It was all true. But sexual abuse claims against the powerful stall more easily. There were experts willing to attack my credibility. There were doctors willing to gaslight an abused child.

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Mia's Story -- November 1992: Maureen Orth on Mia Farrow and Woody Allen

Mia's Story -- November 1992: Maureen Orth on Mia Farrow and Woody Allen | Herstory | Scoop.it
Whatever you already know about this tangled and painful situation, you’ve only heard half: the case against Mia Farrow. This is the other half and it isn’t any prettier. It concerns Woody Allen’s behavior and what it has done to Mia Farrow and the 11 children involved. The author breaks new ground on one of the year’s most shocking stories.
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Invisible Walls: How to Set Boundaries After Abuse

Invisible Walls: How to Set Boundaries After Abuse | Herstory | Scoop.it
When you’re depressed, anxious, abused, and/or have been isolated your whole life, it’s easy to feel like other people can’t really ever get close. Socializing is really hard for people who’ve had nothing but abuse. And we keep waiting for someone healthy to save us. But they can’t. So how can we fight this process and end the cycle? Well, there are three options that I’ve seen.
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This Intense Short Film About Sexual Abuse Will Destroy Your Silence Forever

In India, a woman is sexually assaulted every three minutes and raped every 20 minutes. However, many Indian women are afraid to speak up, fearing retribution from the very same monsters who abused them, and harsh judgement from an insensitive society.

 

A recent short film by Pooja Batura that’s making waves around the internet is telling them to do exactly the opposite. The film is simply titled “Bol” and captures the different kinds of sexual abuse an Indian woman suffers from during her lifetime, from child abuse to work place harassment to marital rape.  The message is clear and simple, “The more you talk, the less it will happen.”

 


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This is an Outrage!  Speak up for  yourself, or Advocate for those who

Can't!!

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Obama Tackles College Sex Assaults as Dad, President

Obama Tackles College Sex Assaults as Dad, President | Herstory | Scoop.it
For President Obama, combating sexual assault in the U.S., particularly in college communities, isn’t just part of his job as president. It’s also one of his top priorities as a dad.
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An opinionated woman obsessed with objects, entertained by ephemera, intrigued by researching, fascinated by culture & addicted to writing. The wind says my name; doesn't put an @ in front of it, so maybe you don't notice. http://www.kitsch-slapped.com
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Colorful Prism Of Racism
Racism past and present. Companion to http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/category/colorful-prism-of-racism/
Consumption Junction
Consumerism meets marketing; who & what manipulates the free market of goods & services. See also: http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/category/ze-big-mouth-promotions-stuff/
Crimes Against Humanity
From lone gunmen on hills to mass movements. Depressing as hell, really.
Cultural History
The roots of culture; history and pre-history.
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History as this woman sees it. The serious, the kitsch, the opinionated. Companion to http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/
In The Name Of God
Mainly acts done in the name of religion, but also discussions of atheism, faith, & spirituality.
Kinsanity
Let's just say I have reasons to learn more about mental health, special needs children, psychology, and the like.
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Nerdy Needs
The stuff of nerdy, geeky, dreams.
Readin', 'Ritin', and (Publishing) 'Rithmetic
The meaning behind the math of the bottom line in publishing and the media. For writers, publishers, and bloggers (which are a combination of the two).
Sex Positive
Sexuality as a human right.
Vintage Living Today For A Future Tomorrow
It's as easy to romanticize the past as it is to demonize it; instead, let's learn from it. More than living simply, more than living 'green', thrifty grandmas knew the importance of the 'economics' in Home Economics. The history of home ec, lessons in thrift, practical tips and ideas from the past focused on sustainability for families and out planet. Companion to http://www.thingsyourgrandmotherknew.com/
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