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History as this woman sees it. The serious, the kitsch, the opinionated. Companion to http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/
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My Doctor Told Me I'll Be Done Having Sex In Thirteen Years. WTF??

My Doctor Told Me I'll Be Done Having Sex In Thirteen Years. WTF?? | Herstory | Scoop.it
A few months ago, during my annual well woman visit, my gynecologist asked me if I was sexually active. I told her I was, and yes, I wanted a routine STD check. And then she informed me that I woul...

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Gracie Passette's curator insight, November 21, 2014 6:29 AM

If the doctor is correct, why is there so much sex ~ and STDs ~ in senior centers?


With much love & respect for women who do desire less sex in their "senior" years, it's not a rule.

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The Selfie Revolution

The Selfie Revolution | Herstory | Scoop.it
Have you ever taken a selfie? If you're unfamiliar with the term, selfies are when you snap a solo shot of yourself. Selfies have received a lot of hate recently for encouraging vanity. Check out this video to understand why that hate is overblown and how selfies are feminist, body positive, and sex positive. The video also includes nine tips to improve your body image with your selfies.
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From Chanel to Burberry, fashion is now a branch of the porn industry

From Chanel to Burberry, fashion is now a branch of the porn industry | Herstory | Scoop.it
These days, models like Keira Knightley (inset) pose open mouthed, their eyes half-closed as if in a state of arousal. Sometimes they lie on their backs, like Rosie Huntington-Whiteley did recently.
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Despite the fact that this issue was discussed back when I was in college decades ago -- and likely long before that, this article makes the following claims:


  • Fashion adverts no longer sell fashion - they sell sex
  • The pornification of the fashion world is affecting our young girls
  • The advent of airbrushing and rise of internet porn are responsible
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I love Tina Fey, but apparently she’s anti-sex worker

I love Tina Fey, but apparently she’s anti-sex worker.
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“ Tina Fey talking about her daughter Alice.
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Secret History of the Black Pin Up

Secret History of the Black Pin Up | Herstory | Scoop.it
(ALSO AVAILABLE AS EBOOK download for iPAD $5.99) Intrigued by the question "Why aren't there any black pin up girls" on an internet message board, writer Jim Linderman decided to find out.
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What Are Women Earning? (And How Are Men Shrinking?)

What Are Women Earning? (And How Are Men Shrinking?) | Herstory | Scoop.it

One should also note that this is not simply a matter of “feminism having won, so just let it all go away.” For the findings also reveal that “total family income is higher when the mother, not the father, is the primary breadwinner.” Thanks, pink collar ghetto, unequal pay, and continuing notions of gender inequality in the workplace. Not to mention all the BS traditional notions of motherhood.

 

Never mind the facts, however; let’s just get to the million dollar subtext question Liza Donnelly put forth regarding the 37% — the married mothers who have a higher income than their husbands: Can Husbands Handle Being Outearned By Their Wives?

 

...If you want to dismiss all this as the ramblings of irrelevant talking asshats on Fox (for which I will gently remind you that their rhetoric is often too dangerous to be dismissed), you’ll need to also know about this other study, called In Sickness and In Wealth...

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A Cupcake Is Never Just a Cupcake: The Psycho-Sexuality of a Twee Treat

A Cupcake Is Never Just a Cupcake: The Psycho-Sexuality of a Twee Treat | Herstory | Scoop.it

Cupcakes only care about their own orgasms. When you see a woman eating a cupcake, you're basically watching her perform cunnilingus on herself. Small and moist and warm and sweet, a cupcake's sole reason for existence is solitary pleasure. Historically, many symbols of female power or divinity involved fertility and/or reproduction: circles and eggs, Mother Earth and Mother Goose. But modern times call for modern branding, and if you're looking for the shorthand way to label something as being of, for or about the essence of a woman, and you have no pictogram of a vagina handy, by all means, slap a cupcake on it.

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Sex Differences in Sex Dreams

Sex Differences in Sex Dreams | Herstory | Scoop.it
A 1934 study on sex differences in sex dreams by Richard Husband found various things. First, men were more likely to have sex dreams than women. Second, men’s sex dreams more often involved major ...

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In Defense of the Slut

In Defense of the Slut | Herstory | Scoop.it

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studies Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz (read her blog here). She has this to stay about the slut stigma…

 

How many times have you heard people say, “If she wasn’t such a slut…” or, “She’s kind of a slut, but…” or, “I can’t believe she’s slept with [X number] of people”?

 

I always interject by pointing out that being a slut is not a bad thing — at least, not in the way I define it, i.e. enthusiastically enjoying your sexuality in ways that are always physically and emotionally safe. There is a big difference between sleeping with ten different guys in one month and taking ten Plan B pills in one month. The former is perfectly fine sluttiness (that I encourage!) while the other has nothing to do with sluttiness and everything to do with being careless and irresponsible. I’ll take the side of sluts any day.

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Women Making Pornography

Women Making Pornography | Herstory | Scoop.it

What I have found are films that have empowered and inspired me. Films that feature women I can identify with. Mothers and daughters, single or partnered, younger and older, thinner or plumper. Women who confront culturally imposed sanctions regulating their behavior, and deeply felt issues shaping their lives. Women who reject the speed limits of desire enforced upon women. Women who refuse to be labeled.

 

Behind these films are educated women with high ideals and intriguing visions. Women who object to the discriminating portrayal of their sex in porn and popular media, and who speak up for women sexually and politically. Some of them stay clear of the “porn” word lest they turn their targeted audience away from their work. Instead they market their films as “adult,” “explicit,” “sensual,” or “erotic.” But others refuse to allow men free rein in defining porn, and therefore claim the “porn” word as a way to subversively change its meaning.

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Also from the article:

 

Nielsen/NetRatings surveys have repeatedly found that women represent approximately a third of all online porn consumers. A new major international research project on people’s everyday uses of porn (in any format) also quotes this number in a preliminary report, which furthermore reveals that younger women show significantly greater interest in porn than do older women, suggesting a generational shift that may eventually “reduce the overall differences between male and female interest in pornography.”[iii] In 2010, the UK-based edition of the women’s magazine Cosmopolitan found that 60 percent of its readers have watched porn and an additional 14 percent said that they were open to the idea.[iv]

 

Nevertheless, a “woman watching porn” is still surrounded by a lot of social stigmas. Even researching porn is not a neutral topic. I’ve received many awkward reactions, unwelcome solicitations, and unkind rejections from people when they find out about my work on porn.

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Your Phone Wants You To Have Sex Now

Your Phone Wants You To Have Sex Now | Herstory | Scoop.it

There’s an app for that? Now your phone tells you when to have sex.

 

[T]he new trend in this technology is tracking something that women have monitored for centuries – the menstrual cycle. Given some basic information, apps like Kindara tell women when to have sex so they can plan or prevent pregnancy.

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Tess Marshall's comment, March 16, 2013 7:31 AM
Well I almost wish I was still pre-menopause so I could try this out!!
Gracie Passette's curator insight, March 17, 2013 7:57 PM

To plan or prevent pregnancy is rather surprising!

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Body Image In Art, Porn & Media - Sex~Kitten.net

Body Image In Art, Porn & Media - Sex~Kitten.net | Herstory | Scoop.it

Much is written on the effects of porn and female body image. Some complain fearfully of men who will, upon viewing porn, expect all women to have those bodies; others that women themselves fall into this trap and try to emulate such unrealistic things with their own bodies. Of course, these accusations and reservations aren't only reserved for pornographic materials, but magazines, television, any media.

 

And while you may think that I'm going to rant about how stupid this is, how silly it is to believe that people will be so affected by these images that they'd let ~ no force ~ them to be their realities, I'm not.


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Gracie Passette's curator insight, February 23, 2013 6:44 PM

My look at how humans have consumed media, art, and the human form through the ages.

Laura Brown's comment, February 27, 2013 1:27 PM
I thought it was NSFW. You can't just go ahead and shorten it that way!!! Can you? Strumpet! I will be on Yahoo tonight. See you there - let me know if you're too busy strumpeting to be there.
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The “Yes, No, Maybe” Chart – A Tool For Talking About Consent

The “Yes, No, Maybe” Chart – A Tool For Talking About Consent | Herstory | Scoop.it
Jamie Utt offers a "Yes No Maybe" Chart to help couples talk about their limits---and their fantasies.

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How porn became a civil right

How porn became a civil right | Herstory | Scoop.it
We didn't always believe that Playboy was constitutionally protected.

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Why We Need Sex Ed Now « Sex~Kitten.net

Why We Need Sex Ed Now « Sex~Kitten.net | Herstory | Scoop.it

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Meet A Warrior You May Not Have Heard Of: Sylvia Rivera

Meet A Warrior You May Not Have Heard Of: Sylvia Rivera | Herstory | Scoop.it

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Definitions & Distinctions In Sex Work, Trafficking, And Sex Worker Activism

Definitions & Distinctions In Sex Work, Trafficking, And Sex Worker Activism | Herstory | Scoop.it

Responding to Stella Marr's "Pimps Posing as “Sex Worker Activists” & Other Conflicts of Interest."


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Indecent Proposals Game

Indecent Proposals Game | Herstory | Scoop.it

With a title similar to Demi's movie, this adult game is based on sex work: "The object is to make enough money to pay for sex. To do this, players must accumulate money by selling sexual favors to their opponent."


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How Classy Are You?

How Classy Are You? | Herstory | Scoop.it
What is your maturity level? Are you a perv and connoisseur of low-brow, crass humor and vulgarity, or do you find yourself cringing at the humor and...
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A new report says political conservatives have a much better sex life than Democrats by Andrew Malcolm

Republicans, especially older conservatives, have a far better sex life than young liberals...

 

I don't think they (Match) knows how trully funny this is from such lying liars!

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Magical Deductions: The Eyeglass Sex Myth

Magical Deductions: The Eyeglass Sex Myth | Herstory | Scoop.it
“ “ ok lets see if that thing with glasses chicks suddenly becoming super weird feminine when they whip off their glasses works woop well that was anticlimatic wait wait WHAT THE HELL IS GOING...
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Your Vagina Isn't Just Too Big, Too Floppy, and Too Hairy ;It's Also Too Brown

Your Vagina Isn't Just Too Big, Too Floppy, and Too Hairy ;It's Also Too Brown | Herstory | Scoop.it
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"My Wife Doesn't Understand Me" & The Other Little White Lies Of Phone Sex

"My Wife Doesn't Understand Me" & The Other Little White Lies Of Phone Sex | Herstory | Scoop.it

His wife isn't necessarily a bitch. Or ill. Or dead. Or whatever he says. Hell, he may not ever have been married.

 

[Understanding phone sex, from a professional phone sex operator.]

 


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Should the University of Wisconsin Promote Safer Sex During Spring Break? The Evidence Says Yes, Uneqivocally | RH Reality Check

Should the University of Wisconsin Promote Safer Sex During Spring Break? The Evidence Says Yes, Uneqivocally | RH Reality Check | Herstory | Scoop.it

Wisconsin State Representative Stephen Nass (R-Whitewater) has taken issue with the state University's Health Services for its decision to distribute free lip balm, sunscreen, and condoms to students before spring break.

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Curated by Deanna Dahlsad
An opinionated woman obsessed with objects, entertained by ephemera, intrigued by researching, fascinated by culture & addicted to writing. The wind says my name; doesn't put an @ in front of it, so maybe you don't notice. http://www.kitsch-slapped.com
Other Topics
A Marketing Mix
Adventures in advertising and marketing - the contemporary, the historical, and the hysterical. http://deanna.dahlsad.com/
Antiques & Vintage Collectibles
Collecting old things; heirlooms and new to you things! Companion to http://www.inherited-values.com/
Colorful Prism Of Racism
Racism past and present. Companion to http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/category/colorful-prism-of-racism/
Consumption Junction
Consumerism meets marketing; who & what manipulates the free market of goods & services. See also: http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/category/ze-big-mouth-promotions-stuff/
Crimes Against Humanity
From lone gunmen on hills to mass movements. Depressing as hell, really.
Cultural History
The roots of culture; history and pre-history.
Dare To Be A Feminist
I do. http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/category/hey-sister-can-you-spare-some-social-change/
For Art's Sake-1
Art, crafts, and the people who make them. To inspire and purchase. Companion to http://www.ululating-undulating-ungulate.com/
Herstory
History as this woman sees it. The serious, the kitsch, the opinionated. Companion to http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/
In The Name Of God
Mainly acts done in the name of religion, but also discussions of atheism, faith, & spirituality.
Kinsanity
Let's just say I have reasons to learn more about mental health, special needs children, psychology, and the like.
Kitsch
Mostly vintage and retro "badness" but you can decide how delicious it is. http://www.kitschy-kitschy-coo.com/blog/
Nerdy Needs
The stuff of nerdy, geeky, dreams.
Readin', 'Ritin', and (Publishing) 'Rithmetic
The meaning behind the math of the bottom line in publishing and the media. For writers, publishers, and bloggers (which are a combination of the two).
Sex Positive
Sexuality as a human right.
Vintage Living Today For A Future Tomorrow
It's as easy to romanticize the past as it is to demonize it; instead, let's learn from it. More than living simply, more than living 'green', thrifty grandmas knew the importance of the 'economics' in Home Economics. The history of home ec, lessons in thrift, practical tips and ideas from the past focused on sustainability for families and out planet. Companion to http://www.thingsyourgrandmotherknew.com/
Visiting The Past
Travel based on grande ideas, locations, and persons of the past.
Walking On Sunshine
Stuff that makes me smile.
You Call It Obsession & Obscure; I Call It Research & Important
Links to (many of) my columns and articles.