In August 2006, the Israeli novelist David Grossman's son, Uri, was killed in southern Lebanon, his tank hit by a rocket....Falling Out of Time permits itself the freedom of despair. It has a necessary feel: a book that needed to be written. It reads like a postscript but that, after all, is what an elegy is.
Sam passed away on Monday, April 30, 2007 with a heart that was full of love and bigger than life. He was a third-grade student in the gifted program at the Bank of America Learning Academy, and was also a former graduate of the JCA’s Gan Yeladim. He lived life with a loving heart and was loved deeply by so many.
There are five people in our family. Each one unique. Each one with his or her place.
But when we were all together Jonathan almost invariably set the tone. He was at times the ringleader and other times the ring master. His personality was too big to ignore. If he was in a playful mood, the room became playful. If he was in a combative mood, the room became combative. And in those rare times when he was in a tender mood, the room became tender.
Pam and I believe with all our hearts that Jonathan is joyful and with the Lord, and accept fully that God's plan is better than the one we would have wanted for our boy. But honestly, at this moment that does little to lessen the pain.
Tell me about your favorite Natasha memory,” after you’ve updated me on your child’s latest milestone. (I might hesitate and stumble; I might not come up with a very revelatory memory. I might even cry, but I will so appreciate you acknowledging my child’s life.)
Honestly, I am not sure how to describe myself since my youngest, beautiful, healthy, vibrant, precious daughter died suddenly on August 4, 2013 because I no longer know who I am behind this grief fog. However, I am absolutely positive about one thing, and that is I have changed.
The trailer to the documentary film, Four Sisters. The film follows four women in Austin, Texas, who lost a brother to suicide. It documents their attempts to reconcile the pain left behind by their brother's death and their efforts to educate others about the effects of suicide on siblings.
About six weeks ago, I had the unfortunate experience of being intimately involved in a unique shiva. A member of our community suddenly lost a 4 month old grandson. The father of the child is a friend and peer of mine.
Mary Jo Bang is professor of English and director of the Creative Writing Program at Washington University. Her fifth book, "Elegy," which won of the National Book Critics Circle Award, examines the pain and grief following the death of her son. She shares two poems from the collection.
Listen to Mary Jo Bang read from and discuss Elegy in this Poetry foundation interview:
My husband, Phil, and I have two children, Philip and Natalie, who are (of course) the great loves of our lives. On February 23rd, 2012, we found out that our son, who had turned 21 the month before, died. It was sudden and unexpected....The essential question, the one that seems without the answer I’m so desperate to find, is, “How do I live in the face of death? How do I make meaning in the aftermath of the unthinkable?”