by David Rome Shambhala Sun, September 2004, pp. 60-63, 91-93.
Below the level of thoughts, concepts and even emotions are the subtle ways that life is felt directly in the body. David Rome explains how this “felt sense” is resolved through the practice of Focusing.
“I’ve been trying to figure out the difference between mindfulness meditation and Focusing.” Chris writes: I have been trying to figure out what the difference is between Focusing and mindfulness meditation.
“I have a hard time listening when my partner is first victim, then rescuer, then perpetrator.” A Reader writes: In a recent session with one of my Focusing partners, I heard her go around from victim, to rescuer, to perpetrator in two situations,...
“She wants to feel her wholeness and she doesn’t like it when I talk about parts.” Victoria writes: I have a friend who is curious about Focusing because of how much I am getting out of it, but it bothers her when I talk about “parts” of myself.
“Each time I end Focusing I say I’ll be back to this again but the next time I focus something new and urgent comes up.” Yen Lu writes: “Often at the end of a Focusing session, we say that we will come back to ‘this’ again.
“Nothing is stable, everything is fluctuating, so that I cannot stay with anything.” Eila writes: Being a very new Focuser I often have difficulties from the very beginning of a session because a wealth of impressions come fleetingly.
“A part of me said I should commit to a regular exercise program.” A Reader writes: In a recent Focusing session, I was working with an issue of my health. I became aware of something in my throat area that was quite worried about my health.
I found an old copy of On Becoming a Person at Encore Books a month or two ago. It is by Carl Rogers, the founder of client-centered psychotherapy, and I have been reading it slowly ever since. The first essay "This is Me" is a list of the very humane things Rogers learned over his years working as a therapist and researcher. Perhaps the central piece, the motto of client-centered psychotherapy is "I have found it highly rewarding when I can accept another person." Really accepting another person in his or her otherness is at the heart of Rogers' vision of psychotherapy (and humanness as far as he was concerned). My supervisor and teacher, Sylvia, has been telling me for the last year and a half that the greatest resource a therapist has is the client; I might summarize her teaching to me as, "Be curious. Ask, ask, ask." That is very much in the spirit of Rogers. You may, as a therapist, think you know, but rather than proceed with that assurance, ask. He describes the experience of the research scientist afraid that the evidence might disprove one's hypothesis;
“The theory behind Focusing is that the body knows a great deal more than the mind; it’s the realm of intuition. If you think about it, the body, the lived body, really is the entire history of the individual up to this present moment.”
David Rome is a Senior Fellow at Garrison Institute and former secretary to Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche. This interview with David was conducted by Libby Weathers.
“Who knew that was in there?” A few weeks ago I had the pleasure of witnessing a beautiful transformative Focusing session, and I’d like to share it with you today because it’s such a perfect example of what Focusing can do.
“Maybe I should just be asking a question and pondering until an answer surfaces.” Ivica writes: I think I am maybe overcomplicating my Focusing sessions by mystifying it, looking for magical presence, treating the whole thing with too much...