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Living a Focusing Life: "It's hard to do Focusing with my scary parts."

Living a Focusing Life: "It's hard to do Focusing with my scary parts." | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
"Focusing doesn't work with scary parts because my attention avoids them."
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Anna writes: "I've watched your YouTube video where you say it's important to face 'our darkest parts.' And you've mentioned that even though they're dark (a.k.a. unpleasant to see and realize they are there), it's important to focus on them. If these feelings were as easy to deal with as other sensations, no one would have a problem with them! It's easy to be with a 'scared' or 'reluctant' part... but not so much with some 'crazy' part that has 100X intensity when it arises. The regular way I do Focusing simply doesn't work with scary parts since my attention slips and avoids them... I can't look from some 'self-in-presence' perspective and say 'it's OK, it's what a part in me has'... The immediate response, at least for me, is automatic, and it's to shift my attention somewhere else, because I naturally don't want to suffer, and that's what finding out that I have these hidden parts causes me."...
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Εκπαίδευση στην Οικογενειακή Θεραπεία – Θεραπεία Ζευγαριού | Ελληνικό Κέντρο Focusing

Εκπαίδευση στην Οικογενειακή Θεραπεία – Θεραπεία Ζευγαριού | Ελληνικό Κέντρο Focusing | focusing_gr | Scoop.it

Το πρόγραμμα Εκπαίδευσης στην Οικογενειακή Θεραπεία – Θεραπεία Ζευγαριού διοργανώνεται από τοΚέντρο Δια Βίου Μάθησης (Κε.Δι.Βι.Μ.1) του Ελληνικού Κέντρου Focusing και πληρεί μεγάλο μέρος των απαιτήσεων του ICEEFT (International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy –http://www.iceeft.com) για την πιστοποίηση θεραπευτή ζεύγους.

Υπεύθυνη εκπαίδευσης:

Υπεύθυνη εκπαίδευσης είναι η Ρίτα Βεντούρα Μ.Α. ΕCP, ψυχοθεραπεύτρια, προσωποκεντρική εκπαιδεύτρια και επόπτρια, καθώς και πιστοποιημένη EFT θεραπεύτρια και επόπτρια.

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2015 International Focusing Conference: July 29-August 2, 2015 | The Future of Focusing

2015 International Focusing Conference: July 29-August 2, 2015 | The Future of Focusing | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
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2015 International Focusing ConferenceSeattle, Washington

The 26th International Focusing Conference will be Wednesday July 29 to Sunday Aug. 2, 2015, with a Certifying Coordinators’ meeting before, July 27-28, 2015. We will meet on the Seattle University campus . The campus is invitingly landscaped on a hill in a city surrounded by mountains and water. SeaTac International Airport is close by.

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Focusing Tip #452: The Big Confusion at the Heart of Weight Problems

Focusing Tip #452: The Big Confusion at the Heart of Weight Problems | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
Is a weight problem a “technical” problem or an “adaptive” problem?Holidays can be a time when feelings about weight issues are highlighted.
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Focusing Tip #454: Is the Real Me always present?

Focusing Tip #454: Is the Real Me always present? | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
“Is the Real Me always present? Mine gets overwhelmed by parts.”More from Ralph: Last time we heard from Ralph, and I responded to his question about how the need to get felt shifts seemed “insatiable.” Here is what he wrote after the Tip...
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Citizenfour: Edward Snowden and the felt sense

Citizenfour: Edward Snowden and the felt sense | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
Last night I saw the documentary Citizenfour. I think everyone should see it. Despite Variety's catchy comparison to Psycho, it is a quiet, thoughtful, inspiring film about real people. It is mostl...
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Focusing Tip #453: What Happened to My Felt Shifts?

Focusing Tip #453: What Happened to My Felt Shifts? | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
“Can the drive to seek felt shifts be the source of one’s problems?”Ralph writes:
I have been practicing Focusing for nearly two years. In the beginning it was exciting, and I felt a definite felt shift.
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FocusingChart - Focusing-Oriented Addiction Treatmant pdf

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Focusing-oriented addiction treatment.

by Arlene Kahn, LCSW, LCADC, LMFT

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Εύη Κλαδούχου Αναζητώντας τα ίχνη του εσωτερικού κριτή στην προσωποκεντρική και Focusing-βιωματική ψυχοθεραπεία | Ελληνικό Κέντρο Focusing

Εύη Κλαδούχου Αναζητώντας τα ίχνη του εσωτερικού κριτή στην προσωποκεντρική και Focusing-βιωματική ψυχοθεραπεία | Ελληνικό Κέντρο Focusing | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
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Confessions of a Trauma Therapist » An Introduction to Body-Centred (Somatic) Therapies

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Carl Rogers Part 1 Person Centered Approach to Peace: "one more word on empathic listening"

I want to say one more thing about Empathic Listening. 

 

I said that it is often misunderstood and I think it is.

It's regarded superficially as passive for one thing - you just sit back and listen.

 

No, to be really empathic is one of the most active things I know.  To really understand what it feels like for this person in this situation.

 

What does it feel like to be an abused child?

What does it feel like not to be able to read?

What does it feel like not to be in a marriage where you are totally unhappy and yet see no way of getting out of it?

What does it feel like to have bizarre thoughts and  hallucinations and so on?

 

To really let one's self go into the inner world of this other person is  one of the most active, difficult, demanding things that I know. And yet, it is worth it because it is one of the most releasing, healing things that I have had any occasion to use or be. 

 

It's one of the reasons I love doing therapy, It's one of the reasons I love dealing with very difficult situations like the racial conflict in South Africa . To try to relate to things that are out of my experience and yet not out of my experience. That's one thing that makes empathy possible, it the fact that there is no infinite amount of feelings, there's a finite number of feelings you can have. It can be rage, it can be love, it can be fear, but it's finite. So you may never been enraged about this situation, you know what rage is, you felt it. 

 

You may not know what it's like to be as joyous as this person is but you know what joy is, you felt it. You may not be as frightened of life as this person is, but you know fear. So that is what makes empathy possible. That's what makes it possible to enter the world of this other person.

 

The other thing that makes it possible is if you are secure within yourself so that you can really let yourself go into the world of this other person, and yet know that you can return to your own world too.


Everything you are feeling is 'As If'. I can feel as if I'm as frightened as you,  I am feel 'as if' as angry as you are but  I know that I can come back to to myself, which at that moment is not frightened and not angry.

 

I just wanted to say that since I think a sensitive empathy is one of the least understood elements in this whole approach.

 

Carl Rogers

 

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2k_bVHUS9rA&t=47m00s

 

Q. I'm a little pessimistic about using empathetic listening in peace talks, for example.

People, it seems to me, come into these peace talks with very strong identities, motivations and egos tied up in their motivations. For example they are members of a country, they have a purpose and this purpose has a lot of energy behind it.  And to try and come in and be empathetic is to try and strip away some of that purpose which I feel they hold on to very dearly. How do you overcome something as strong as that and how do you encourage empathy when these people are not motivated to be empathetic? There is too much to lose.

  


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Focusing Tip #452: The Big Confusion at the Heart of Weight Problems

Focusing Tip #452: The Big Confusion at the Heart of Weight Problems | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
Is a weight problem a “technical” problem or an “adaptive” problem? 
Holidays can be a time when feelings about weight issues are highlighted.
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Focusing Tip #451: A felt sense helps find just the right gift…

Focusing Tip #451: A felt sense helps find just the right gift… | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
“I realized I am buying gifts always in a sense of panic, and the fear of lack…”How can Focusing support us at holiday time? A few days ago I did a free one-hour call on this question, for about 75 people.
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2015 Carl Rogers Conference :: Center for Studies of the Person

2015 Carl Rogers Conference :: Center for Studies of the Person | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
We are a face-to-face community of people for whom the Person Centered Approach plays an important role in our personal and professional lives as a way of being and of doing. Our commitment is to maintain/build/create an environment where each of us can be heard, where we can be ourselves, where we accept and embrace each other as we are.
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Focusing Tip #455: “Do I have to know how I feel to do Focusing?”

Focusing Tip #455: “Do I have to know how I feel to do Focusing?” | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
“Do I have to know how I feel in order to do Focusing?”A Reader writes:
When people ask me how I feel, I don’t know. I feel like I know what I’m supposed to feel, or what I’m expected to feel, and that is all.
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Carl Rogers speaking at UCLA 4/7/1967 - YouTube

From the archives of the UCLA Communications Studies Department. Digitized 2013. The views and ideas expressed in these videos are not necessarily shared by ...
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David Rome teaches the art of Focusing.

David Rome teaches the art of Focusing. | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
Waylon meets with mentor David Rome, a leading Buddhist teacher and close student of Chogyam Trungpa, to learn about the art and practice of Focusing and how it
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The benefits of paying attention to the felt sense

Example of felt sensing from my life: I have wanted to integrate a shopping cart on my website.  Experienced people had told me to go with a certain well-known ecommerce site. I signed up for the t...
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Interacting With Implicit Knowing in the Mathematics Classroom by Martina Lynn Metz | ODS Portal

Interacting With Implicit Knowing in the Mathematics Classroom by Martina Lynn Metz | ODS Portal | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
Interacting With Implicit Knowing in the Mathematics Classroom by Martina Lynn Metz | ODS Portal http://t.co/1flospKehQ
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Experiential-psychotherapy-consists-of-three-therapeutic-relationships-Edited-version pdf

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by Frans Depestele (2014). Paper presented at the Third International Conference On Focusing-Oriented Psychotherapies, May 15-18, 2014, Stony Point Center, Stony Point, New York.

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Carl Rogers on Peace - Toward a Healthier State - Symposium at UCI - YouTube


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The Focusing Institute: Conversations: December 2014: Annmarie Early and David Glanzer

The Focusing Institute: Conversations: December 2014: Annmarie Early and David Glanzer | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
The Focusing Institute: Focusing is direct access to a bodily knowing. Focusing is a practice developed from the Philosophy of the Implicit.
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Focusing Tip #450: When is a distraction not a distraction?

Focusing Tip #450: When is a distraction not a distraction? | focusing_gr | Scoop.it
“What do I do if I get distracted when I’m Focusing?” 
A question people often ask:
What do I do if I get distracted when I’m Focusing?
I was recently re-reading my answer to this question in my book The Radical Acceptance of Everything.
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The Focusing Institute

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The Focusing Institute: Focusing is direct access to a bodily knowing. Focusing is a practice developed from the Philosophy of the Implicit.
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