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We are born Happy and now is the perfect time to reclaim that birthright. The science of happiness is spreading, and everybody can learn to flourish. It starts with you. happier.
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Can Wine and Paint Help Boost Business? - Huffington Post

Can Wine and Paint Help Boost Business? - Huffington Post | Flourishing is the new Happy | Scoop.it
Can Wine and Paint Help Boost Business?
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I recently sponsored a 'Wine and Canvas' party at the office and it was an absolute blast.
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Wow! 3 Ways to Boost Moral in the Office!

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The Pursuit of Happiness | Big Think Mentor | Big Think

The Pursuit of Happiness | Big Think Mentor | Big Think | Flourishing is the new Happy | Scoop.it
The idea that "true happiness" is of a uniformly high emotional pitch, and our tendency to expect it from external things ironically ends up causing us a great deal of suffering. 
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We're coming around, more and more of us, to the understanding of our birthright to experience well-being.  In our misunderstanding of our right to pursue happiness, we suffer in the outside-in approach we've been conditioned to take in the pursuit. Just take a moment and stop the pursuit, quiet your mind, and notice your natural state is a state of well-being.  From the insight you gain, your regain your true birthright and that is the liberty and wonder of being alive....in joy!

 

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8 Ways Happy People Are Different From Everyone Else

8 Ways Happy People Are Different From Everyone Else | Flourishing is the new Happy | Scoop.it
Want to be happier? Steal a page from the perennial optimist's playbook.
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It's one thing to read about it... it's a transformative experience to be living it!  On "The Happiness Journey" 4-week course we talk about "lean into optimism."  We talk about positive emotions helping us to "broaden and build" our resilience.  We study ways to experience more "flow" and "savoring" that the science of happiness confirms helps us be happier people.  The course itself is an opportunity to spend time with people, and deepen social connections so critical to happiness.  And more.  Read the article, and when you are ready to experience this for yourself, take a course by Hapacus.  Want to take the course with me, search "Denise Starrett" at http://hapacus.com.

 

Your happiness is a gift that keeps on giving in the world - the science of happiness proves it.  Now is the perfect time to share your gift!

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Have you created "a masterpiece of a life on a postage stamp of possibility”?

Have you created "a masterpiece of a life on a postage stamp of possibility”? | Flourishing is the new Happy | Scoop.it
Michael Neill is an internationally renowned success coach and the best-selling author of The Inside Out Revolution. An interview with Super Souls.
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I'm not just a student and fan of Supercoach Michael Neill, I'm a member of the "Inside-out Revolution."  This interview offers perspective that might inspire you to start shifting how you think about creating your life.

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The Happiness Tipping Point

The Happiness Tipping Point | Flourishing is the new Happy | Scoop.it
Happiness is not about smiley faces, unicorns and light-hearted merriment. Nor is it about self-proclaimed gurus and their self-help anecdotes of supposed enlightenment.
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As you read, also check out http://Hapacus.com, the educational program that is spreading the science of happiness in the USA through small groups, anyone can organize.

 

Want to experience "The Happiness Journey" - find in person and online courses starting almost every week.  You can find dates for my courses by searching "Denise Starrett."

 

In joy!

 

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6 Ways to Build a More Positive Workplace

6 Ways to Build a More Positive Workplace | Flourishing is the new Happy | Scoop.it
Enhance your happiness and see how it boosts your success.
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HERO in the workplace: someone developing four key psychological resources to positively influence how they approach their work. 

 

Hope

Self-Efficacy

Resilience

Optimism

 

Be a HERO.  Learn more about Barbara L. Fredrickson's research on the role of negative and positive emotions in the first class in the 4-week course: The Happiness Journey.  Courses taught by Denise Starrett:  https://hapacus.com/teacher-profile.php?uid=239

 

 

 

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Career Advice: Give

Career Advice: Give | Flourishing is the new Happy | Scoop.it
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In 1990, Jon Huntsman, Sr. made a business decision that most in corporate America would probably have called insane. He was intensely negotiating the biggest business deal of his life with Charles Miller Smith, the head of a British chemical company. Deep into the negotiations over the acquisition, Smith's wife died. She had been suffering from terminal cancer. It was unfortunate, but business is business and the negotiation was incomplete. On top of that, Huntsman had millions of dollars on the line -- money that would be his if he just pushed Smith further.

But he didn't.

"I decided the fine points of the last 20 percent of the deal would stand as they were proposed," he later wrote. "I probably could have clawed another $200 million out of the deal, but it would have come at the expense of Charles' emotional state. The agreement as it stood was good enough."

When people are stressed out, their first instinct is to protect themselves -- or to retreat into a taker mentality. But operating like a giver may actually be more effective in buffering against stress and enhancing well-being.

In his 2008 book Winners Never Cheat, Huntsman summarized his philosophy on business and life, writing, "Monetarily, the most satisfying moments in my life have not been the excitement of closing a great deal or the reaping of profits from it. They have been when I was able to help others in need ... There's no denying that I am a deal junkie, but I also have developed an addiction for giving. The more one gives, the better one feels; and the better one feels about it, the easier it becomes to give."

Huntsman is what organizational psychologist Adam Grant calls, in his provocative new book, a "giver." In Give and Take, Grant, the youngest tenured professor at the University of Pennsylvania's Wharton School of Business, wields a large body of social science research, much of it his own, to challenge the idea that career success is a zero-sum game in which your gains equal my losses, a harmful idea that discourages people from helping each other out at work.

In Grant's book, the reader encounters three types of people: givers, takers, and matchers. Matchers reciprocate favors and good deeds tit-for-tat. Takers try to tilt the balance of a transaction in their own favor, hoping to get more than they give -- the type of person who takes credit for someone else's work. Givers are the opposite. Their hallmark is generosity. Crudely put, givers are focused on others, takers are focused on themselves, and matchers care above all about fairness.

Most people are givers in their personal relationships. They act selflessly and try to contribute more than they take with those they love. But when these people enter the workforce, their style of interacting with others changes dramatically. As Grant told me in an interview, "There is an extraordinary number of people who are in a giver mindset at home and a matcher or taker mindset in the work setting." Only 8 percent of people describe themselves as givers at work. That's because most people think it's safer to operate like a taker or matcher at work; givers, they think, are chumps who will fall behind in the game of life.

Across four other studies, researchers found that giving time away -- in the form of volunteering -- makes people feel like they actually have more time than if they spent time on themselves, wasted time, or got a random bit of free time.

Grant explodes that myth in his book, showing that givers are among the most successful people in business. They may also be the happiest. "There is powerful evidence," Grant tells me "that givers experience more meaning in their work than takers or matchers."

This is important considering that Americans spend most of their waking hours -- most of their lives -- at work. The average American man works 8.4 hours per day and the average American woman works 7.7 hours a day. How they feel in those hours is a major determinant of their well-being. But, according to the American Psychological Association, nearly 70 percent of Americans cite work as a major source of stress in their lives and four out of ten say that they experience stress at work on a daily basis. One report indicates that over half of working Americans are unsatisfied and unhappy with their jobs. The top person people don't like being around is, according to the National Time Use survey, their boss. Bosses and work seem to be significant sources of unhappiness for many people.

When people are stressed out, their first instinct is to protect themselves -- or to retreat into a taker mentality. But operating like a giver may actually be more effective in buffering against stress and enhancing well-being. On its face, this is counter-intuitive. Time is a scarce resource, especially for people who are stressed. Being a giver involves taking time away from yourself to help someone else. This could seemingly aggravate stress levels, but it actually alleviates them.

In one study, Grant and a colleague found that givers who were high school teachers were less vulnerable to stress and exhaustion if they saw the impact their giving was having on their students. Across four other studies, researchers found that giving time away -- in the form of volunteering -- makes people feel like they actually have more time than if they spent time on themselves, wasted time, or got a random bit of free time.

Not only does being a giver protect against stress, but it also has lasting benefits on well-being outside of work. In a study of 68 firefighters, Grant and a colleague found that those who helped others on the job felt happier at home at bedtime than those who did not. Interestingly, the increase in happiness from giving was delayed. The firefighters were not any happier at the end of the working day, but only after they had been at home for several hours.

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Another study, led by psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky, shows that the more giving an individual is, the happier he becomes. Participants were randomly assigned to one of two conditions: Over a six-week period, they would either perform five random acts of kindness all in one day or to do one act of kindness across five different days. Those who fit all five acts of giving into one day were happier at the end of the study than those who thinly spread their giving out.

Being a giver is a principle many of us apply -- or at least try to -- in our personal lives. It's also one we should internalize in the workplace. As Grant puts it, "Let's ignore the evidence that givers often outperform matchers and takers. Let's say their scores are even. Given that, here is the question I would ask takers: Would you rather achieve success in ways that come at the expense of others or in ways the lift other people up?" He also points out that if you try to be a giver just to get ahead, it probably won't work.


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Why giving can be a significant advantage.

 

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David R. Canales's curator insight, August 7, 2015 1:01 PM

Giving equates to an attitude of service.  This is "health-full"

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What Happy People Do Differently

What Happy People Do Differently | Flourishing is the new Happy | Scoop.it
One of life's sharpest paradoxes is that the key to satisfaction is doing things that feel risky, uncomfortable, and occasionally bad.
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People who are living in higher states of well-being - flourishing, thriving, excelling - approach the game of life differently.  We all have the capacity to play at high levels and live at high levels.  Take your time reading the multiple posts.  

 

Todd Kashdan is a Board of Advisory member for Hapacus, an educational program spreading the science of happiness through small discussion groups.  Learn more at http://hapacus.com.

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The First 100 Hours

The First 100 Hours | Flourishing is the new Happy | Scoop.it
The reason I like the notion of the 10,000 hours is that while it can appear daunting, it actually lowers the barrier to entry for most people.
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Rather than focus on what it takes to reach mastery, allow the doing and your joy in doing be enough to get you started. 

 

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Invest in deep bonds with family and community | Increase happiness

Invest in deep bonds with family and community | Increase happiness | Flourishing is the new Happy | Scoop.it
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The image is of children in a cohousing community in Denmark. from the movie, "Happy" by Roko Belic.  Among the recommendations coming out of the science of happiness is investing in deep bonds with family and community. 

 

Check out cohousing:

 

http://www.cohousingco.com/cohousing-books/

 

http://blog.aarp.org/2013/06/06/sally-abrahms-community-caregiving-with-cohousing/

 

http://www.cohousing.org/

 

 

The Happiness Journey 4-week course dedicates one class to the importance of relationships and social connection to our happiness.  Find a course. http://hapacus.com. "Denise Starrett"

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Research Based Tips | A Happiness Journey Towards Joy | Start Today!

Research Based Tips  | A Happiness Journey Towards Joy | Start Today! | Flourishing is the new Happy | Scoop.it
Happiness Tips: 9 Simple Steps To Joy (PHOTOS) Huffington Post "Not that we wish cancer on anyone, but it's often negative experiences that help us grow and learn, which is vital for being happy," says Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., professor of...
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The term we use on "The Happiness Journy" course (created by Hapacus) - based on the research done by Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D. - is "High Return on Happiness (ROH)."   Experience purchases encourage higher levels of happiness.  Learn more about the science of happiness at http://hapacus.com.  (Courses I teach are under "Denise Starrett")

 

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6 Unique Ways to Be Successful and Happy

6 Unique Ways to Be Successful and Happy | Flourishing is the new Happy | Scoop.it
Tired of searching for the secret to a fulfilling career and a happy life? Look no further.
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Something pursued in out in front and might never be caught.  Stop the pursuit and start to engage in a different approach.   Read Mr. Tobak and check out the 4-week course, The Happiness Journey to understand what the science of happiness teaches how to be happier (and the success follows).

 

http://yourinnersmile.com/happinesscourse.html

 

 

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Activities to Build Social and Emotional Skills in Elementary Students | Edutopia

Activities to Build Social and Emotional Skills in Elementary Students | Edutopia | Flourishing is the new Happy | Scoop.it

By Randy Taran

 

"Happiness is something we all want, and new research shows that happiness and well-being can be taught! But who has time to teach happiness when there is so much else to cram into a school day? At the university level, we see courses at Harvard and University of Southern California on the Science of Happiness. There are good reasons why those courses are among these schools' most popular classes. Happier people tend to be healthier, moreproductive, more generous and kinder to others. They also learn more easily and enjoy life. Who doesn’t want some of that?

 

"On the flipside, bullying is an issue that many deal with, and both anxiety and depression are rapidly on the rise. The World Health Organization predicts that by 2020, depression will be the second greatest cause of human suffering cross all ages.

 

"The good news: happiness skills are not hard to learn. It just takes time and practice. Neuroscientist Richard Davidson compares learning happiness to playing tennis. "You won't end up in Wimbledon the first week, but if you keep on practicing, you absolutely will get better at it." Though some students just appear to have a happier disposition and outlook, anyone can become happier. According to Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., a social psychologist at University of California, Riverside, happiness is influenced by our genes, environment, and also by the activities that we engage in." 


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Yes, Happiness can be taught.

 

Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D. is one of the happiness researchers behind www.hapacus.com - a grassroots educational program designed to teach happiness based on research from the science of happiness.  Online and in person courses are available now.

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Part 1 of a 9-part series

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Stop Obsessing Over Self Improvement. Accept Yourself!

Stop Obsessing Over Self Improvement. Accept Yourself! | Flourishing is the new Happy | Scoop.it
We live in a culture that is obsessed with self improvement. Why aren't we just as obsessed with self acceptance? (Stop Obsessing Over Self Improvement. Accept Yourself! - I recently had the honor of meeting author Robert Holden...
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I remember when I first heard Robert Holden say the following, "No amount of self improvement will make up for a lack of self acceptance."  At that moment, I started overcoming an addiction to the thought that something was wrong with me, and it inspired me to celebrate wholeness - in myself and in others.  Try self acceptance; you just may like what you see reflected back to you!

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