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This Is Your Stressed-Out Brain On Scarcity

This Is Your Stressed-Out Brain On Scarcity | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"When we don't have enough of something — love, time or money — we spend extraordinary effort worrying about how to get by, research shows. The stress of poverty changes the way people think."


In a poll by NPR, the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation and the Harvard School of Public Health, 1 in 3 people making less than $20,000 a year said they'd experienced "a great deal of stress" in the previous month. And of those very stressed-out people, 70 percent said that money problems were to blame.

For Many Americans, Stress Takes A Toll On Health And Family
Scientists have long recognized that poverty can aggravate health problems. Now they're also beginning to understand that the stress of too little income actually changes the way people think.

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How to Get Out of Your Own Way and Unblock the “Spiritual Electricity” of Creative Flow

How to Get Out of Your Own Way and Unblock the “Spiritual Electricity” of Creative Flow | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"No matter what your age or your life path … it is not too late or too egotistical or too selfish or too silly to work on your creativity.

 

“Art is not a thing — it is a way,” Elbert Hubbard wrote in 1908. But the question ofwhat that way is, where exactly it leads, and how to best follow it is something artists have been grappling with since the dawn of recorded time and psychologists have spent decades trying to decode, outlining the stages of creativity, its essential conditions, and the best technique for producing ideas.

 
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What Does Mindfulness Meditation Do to Your Brain?

What Does Mindfulness Meditation Do to Your Brain? | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

 

"As you read this, wiggle your toes. Feel the way they push against your shoes, and the weight of your feet on the floor. Really think about what your feet feel like right now – their heaviness."

 

If you’ve never heard of mindfulness meditation, congratulations, you’ve just done a few moments of it. More people than ever are doing some form of this stress-busting meditation, and researchers are discovering it has some quite extraordinary effects on the brains of those who do it regularly.


>Originally an ancient Buddhist meditation technique, in recent years mindfulness has evolved into a range of secular therapies and courses, most of them focused on being aware of the present moment and simply noticing feelings and thoughts as they come and go.

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Why Some People Always Seem to Push Your Buttons

Why Some People Always Seem to Push Your Buttons | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
The people who push your buttons are a gift. They help you find the source of your deepest wounds, which hold you back in life.

 

“Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion.” ~Buddha

I always felt invisible whenever my husband and I got together with a certain couple.

Every time we saw them, it triggered feelings of rejection because they would go on and on about themselves and never ask about how I was doing or feeling. I went home feeling invisible and sad every time.

Finally, after a number of years of putting up with this non-reciprocal relationship, I decided that it was best for us to break free from it. 

For the longest time I couldn’t figure out why this self-absorbed behavior bothered me so much.

Eventually, the light bulb went off and I realized I kept hoping and hoping that one day this couple would validate me, in the same way that I kept hoping and hoping that one day my father wouldvalidate me.

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The Blessing of a Broken Heart: How Pain Can Lead to Healing

The Blessing of a Broken Heart: How Pain Can Lead to Healing | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
If we take it upon ourselves to see what inside of us they are pointing toward, all grievances become opportunities for healing and loving ourselves.

 

“Never fear shadows. They simply mean there’s a light shining somewhere nearby.” ~Ruth E. Renkel

 

My last break-up was on April 16th, 2012.

I remember the date because on the evening of April 17th, as I sat with a blotchy red face and tears in my eyes, my dad told me I soon would remember that day and be glad I was no longer sad. “Men are like buses,” he said. “If one leaves you behind, rest assured another will come.”

I found his support very touching, but it did little to console me. If this guy was a bus, it was the bus I wanted to be on, period. That day, on my dad’s couch for the second night in a row, I slept a total of an hour and cried for about eight.

 

I found the break-up pretty surprising and abrupt. After not more than a strange feeling, and a day during which I sensed an uncomfortable distance, I said to my then boyfriend, “I feel that you might not be in love with me,” to which he responded, “Maybe.”

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PAT NOVAK's curator insight, May 15, 9:22 AM

A relationship break-up can be a real shock to your belief system  and self-image, 

 

Its even harder when we have abandoned ourselves.during the relationship.

 

One of the biggest lessons I learned from a break-up, was the importance of  Self Care.

 

I had been programmed to take care of others and not myself.

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Trying Not to Try: How to Cultivate the Paradoxical Art of Spontaneity Through the Chinese Concept of Wu-Wei

Trying Not to Try: How to Cultivate the Paradoxical Art of Spontaneity Through the Chinese Concept of Wu-Wei | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"Our modern conception of human excellence is too often impoverished, cold, and bloodless. Success does not always come from thinking more rigorously or striving harder."

 

“The best way to get approval is not to need it,” Hugh MacLeod memorably counseled. We now know that perfectionism kills creativity andexcessive goal-setting limits our success rather than begetting it — all different manifestations of the same deeper paradox of the human condition, at once disconcerting and comforting, which Edward Slingerland, professor of Asian Studies and Embodied Cognition at the University of British Columbia and a renowned scholar of Chinese thought, explores in Trying Not to Try: The Art and Science of Spontaneity (public library).

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"Wu-wei literally translates as “no trying” or “no doing,” but it’s not at all about dull inaction. In fact, it refers to the dynamic, effortless, and unselfconscious state of mind of a person who is optimally active and effective."

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The Ways to Control Dreaming

The Ways to Control Dreaming | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
The science of lucid dreaming—in which the sleeper is aware she is dreaming—and how it could affect waking life

 

In 2008, Isaac Katz, a civil service officer, passed away just before reaching his 78th birthday. He had been struggling with cardiovascular problems for some time. His son, Arnon Katz, now a 47-year-old tech entrepreneur, was beside himself with grief, and frustrated by the fact that he would never speak to his father again.

 

At the time, the younger Katz had been training himself to lucid dream—a phenomenon in which the dreamer becomes aware they are dreaming and can potentially control their actions as well as the content and context of the dream. But despite keeping a dream journal and diligently practicing other techniques, hadn't had any success. All that changed, though, a year after his father’s death.

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7 Ways to Be More Optimistic (but Still See Things As They Are)

7 Ways to Be More Optimistic (but Still See Things As They Are) | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"The other day a friend of mine said, “I’m just over everything. What’s the point?” She was referring to love, but also life in general. “I just don’t care anymore, nothing ever comes of anything anyways.” Of course we’re going to feel off kilter sometimes and unsure if anything good will ever happen, especially if we’ve been hurt or gipped in the past. But, believe it or not, for good things to happen, we have to believe that they will. “If you assume in favor of yourself and act as if it is possible, then you will do the things that are necessary to bring about the result,” says Jack Canfield in his book The Success Principles.  What that means is that the more we believe we are capable of achieving our dreams, the more right actions we take to make them happen. The belief that good things will happen is also known as optimism."

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Nermeen Hassan's curator insight, April 6, 9:34 PM

Sabah El Tafaol... Very Good morning dear friends... 

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10 Things Highly Intuitive People Do Differently

10 Things Highly Intuitive People Do Differently | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"Intuition is challenging to define, despite the huge role it plays in our everyday lives. Steve Jobs called it, for instance, “more powerful than intellect.” But however we put it into words, we all, well, intuitively know just what it is."


Pretty much everyone has experienced a gut feeling — that unconscious reasoning that propels us to do something without telling us why or how. But the nature of intuition has long eluded us, and has inspired centuries’ worth of research and inquiry in the fields of philosophy and psychology.

 
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How To Stop Overthinking - 9 Simple Habits

How To Stop Overthinking - 9 Simple Habits | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

What is holding people back from the life that they truly want to live?

I’d say that one very common and destructive thing is that they think too much.

 

They overthink every little problem until it becomes bigger and scarier and it actually is. Overthink positive things until they don’t look so positive anymore.


Or overanalyze and deconstruct things and so the happiness that comes from just enjoying something in the moment disappears.


- See more at: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/how-to-stop-overthinking-9-simple-habits/#sthash.jaETntSz.dpuf

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How to Live a Full Life and Smile Your Way Through It

How to Live a Full Life and Smile Your Way Through It | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
After dealing with depression and insecurity, I learned how to turn my nervous giggle into a real laugh. Here's what I've learned about living a full life.

 

“Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it.” ~Bill Cosby

 

I recently had my thirty-first birthday. I am officially in my thirties. This leads to reflection; what have I accomplished with my time as an adult?

 

I recently started over yet again, making this the fifth state I’ve lived in seven years. I have a roommate, half of the stuff in my room is hers, and I’m temping for a living. I was more prosperous at twenty friggin’ three…

 

…externally.

 

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10 Things Highly Intuitive People Do Differently

10 Things Highly Intuitive People Do Differently | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

Intuition is challenging to define, despite the huge role it plays in our everyday lives.Steve Jobs called it, for instance, "more powerful than intellect." But however we put it into words, we all, well, intuitively know just what it is.


Pretty much everyone has experienced a gut feeling -- that unconscious reasoning that propels us to do something without telling us why or how. But the nature of intuition has long eluded us, and has inspired centuries' worth of research and inquiry in the fields of philosophy and psychology.


"I define intuition as the subtle knowing without ever having any idea why you know it," Sophy Burnham, bestselling author of The Art of Intuition, tells The Huffington Post. "It's different from thinking, it's different from logic or analysis ... It's a knowing without knowing."

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10 Things Highly Intuitive People Do Differently.

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Don't Just Spring Clean Your House -- Spring Clean Your Life

Don't Just Spring Clean Your House -- Spring Clean Your Life | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"When you spring clean your house, you take stock of what you have, get rid of things you don't need, organize what is left, and clear space to bring in new things. You need to do these same things to spring clean your life. This means getting rid of things that no longer work for you, updating the way you do things, and freeing up some space for new and exciting opportunities. These are the four steps of spring cleaning your life:" 

 

Taking Stock, Cleaning Out the Old, Tying Up Loose Ends and Trying Something New.

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Just 25 Minutes Of Mindfulness Meditation Can Significantly Alleviate Stress

Just 25 Minutes Of Mindfulness Meditation Can Significantly Alleviate Stress | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"American scientists studied the effects of mindfulness meditation on stress levels and came to the conclusion that just three consecutive days of 25-minute meditation can significantly alleviate stress."


The technique of mindfulness meditation has helped many people to improve the overall state of their mind and body. However, until now, most studies have been mainly focused only on the therapeutic effects of the long-term meditation practice.

 
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The Perfect Quote to Help Cope with Life’s Fallbacks.

The Perfect Quote to Help Cope with Life’s Fallbacks. | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
We are never rejected. There are no mistakes. No could haves. No should haves.

 

“As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being redirected to something better.” ~ Steve Maraboli

This is the quote of the year.

Read it. Read it again.

Let it sink in.

We are never rejected. There are no mistakes. No could haves. No should haves.

Everything that happens comes along because it simply needs to.

Fallbacks are crucial parts of the puzzle.

Not getting what we want can be a huge step towards reaching a bigger dream.

So relax. Release control. Let’s learn from our mistakes and see the bigger picture.

We’re not rejected. We’re redirected. 
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Get Uncomfortable! 15 Unusual Ways That’ll Blast You From Your Comfort Zone

Get Uncomfortable! 15 Unusual Ways That’ll Blast You From Your Comfort Zone | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"No one makes the state of discomfort a goal. We don’t welcome friends into our homes by saying, “Make yourself uncomfortable.” In fact, much of our time is spent avoiding people, places, and situations that challenge our comfort zone. But we all know that getting shoved from our complacency can produce astounding improvements in our lives."

 

Yet, we also know that facing our fears and questioning our ruts and well-ordered beliefs can seem as impossible as my teenagers awakening to my unfathomable wisdom. Yeah, not likely..

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What are you willing to do to make your life better?

What are you willing to do to make your life better? | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"I was faced with this question during my morning reading and meditation.

 

On one level it seems very straightforward.

Most of us hope to make our lives better or at least it would appear that way given the volume of self improvement titles in circulation.

So, the premise is simple. Right? To get better you need to be willing to do what it takes.

Yet if you are like me, that’s a lot easier said than done.

Questions like this usually start the dialogue rolling in my head, painfully reminding me that, in some areas as least, I still don’t seem to be willing…enough.

 

But as I started to peel back the layers more questions surfaced that challenged this experience."

 

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How Being Grateful Can Change Your Life

How Being Grateful Can Change Your Life | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"It's not just for Oprah devotees. Recent studies show that practicing gratitude can positively impact your life--and researchers believe it may help.us break our bad habits."

 

YOU’RE HELPING OTHER PEOPLE.

Gratitude is about focusing on other people, says Dr. Jo-Ann Tsang, a psychology professor at Baylor University, who led a study which will appear in the July 2014 issue of the journal Personality and Individual Differences.

 

“Previous research that we and others have done finds that people are motivated to help people that help them--and to help others as well. We’re social creatures, and so focusing on others in a positive way is good for our health,” Tsang said in a statement.

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Nermeen Hassan's curator insight, April 23, 9:07 PM

Alhamdullah... many of my friends and students told me in the past few days, keep repeating their own gratitude mantra helps them a lot through out life ups and downs... mine is "Alhamdullah for opening my heart" or just simply  "Alhamdullah" = "Thank God"

Randy Bauer's curator insight, May 13, 6:33 PM

Gratitude is about giving back, or giving thanks, to someone. It is an action that has a positive reaction; Happiness and Well-Being.

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Find Your Passion With These 8 Thought-Provoking Questions

Find Your Passion With These 8 Thought-Provoking Questions | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"Warren Berger, author of A More Beautiful Question, collected the provocative questions top designers, tech innovators, and entrepreneurs ask themselves about creativity."

 

In a previous post, I shared questions that can help in overcoming fear of failure. But sometimes, there’s an even more basic problem that can stop us from pursuing bold challenges and ambitious goals: not knowing which challenges or goals to pursue. These days, you're urged to “follow your passions” and “lean in”--but what if you’re not sure where your particular passion lies? What if you don’t know which way to lean?

 

The following is the second in a three-part series of posts adapted from Warren Berger’s new book,A More Beautiful Question(Bloomsbury), for which he spoke with top designers, tech innovators, entrepreneurs, and leading creative thinkers to explore the art (and innovative potential) of asking the right questions.

 

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What is Your Tennis Ball?

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7 Habits of Highly Emotionally Intelligent People

7 Habits of Highly Emotionally Intelligent People | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
People with high emotional intelligence tend to do better at work. So what habits do they have that set them apart?

 

It has increasingly become accepted that emotional intelligence is an important factor in our success and happiness, not only at work, but in our relationships and all areas of our lives.

 

So what sets emotionally intelligent people apart? Here are seven habits that people with high EI have:

1. THEY FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE

 

While not ignoring the bad news, emotionally intelligent people have made a conscious decision to not spend a lot of time and energy focusing on problems. Rather, they look at what is positive in a situation and look for solutions to a problem. These people focus on what they are able to do and that which is within their control.

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To Unlock Creativity, Seek Privacy

To Unlock Creativity, Seek Privacy | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
Make yourself a safe haven and remove all fear of failure.

 

Open-floor plan offices and working in coffee shops is all the rage these days; privacy is no longer a key priority for creatives. In her new book, The Rise, Sarah Lewis explains how privacy may be more valuable to your creative process than you think. Besides the obvious quiet, it also provides you with a safe haven of sorts, where the fear of failure is diminished and mistakes easily shrugged off.

 

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What Is Buddhism?

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"For more than 2,500 years, the religion we know today as Buddhism has been the primary inspiration behind many successful civilizations, a source of great cultural achievements, and a lasting and meaningful guide to the very purpose of life for millions of people. Today, large numbers of men and women from diverse backgrounds throughout the world are following the Teachings of the Buddha. So who was the Buddha and what are his teachings?"

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Brain Freeze: The Science of Procrastination (And How to Fight Back)

Brain Freeze: The Science of Procrastination (And How to Fight Back) | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
Once you understand the true nature of the problem, you can make sense of all the advice to “stop procrastinating!”

 

How many times have you read that procrastination is just a characteristic of a lazy person? That people try to be “busy” rather than “productive”? That only happy-go-lucky hippies get to take a brain break from life?


For a few people, this may be true. But if we look a little deeper into why it happens, we can begin to see that it is actually our “smart” brains that make it happen. And once you understand the true nature of the problem, you can make sense of all the advice to “stop procrastinating!”

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Peeling Back the Mask: Reconnect With Your Authentic Self

Peeling Back the Mask: Reconnect With Your Authentic Self | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
Feel like you wear different masks in different situations? Recognizing when you’ve strayed from your true self is the first step to staying the course.

 

“You cannot find yourself by going into the past. You can find yourself by coming into the present.” ~Eckhart Tolle           

 

It was 3PM on a Wednesday and I had nothing to do. An empty schedule with limitless potential. 

 

I was miles from home in the freezing fog of San Francisco. The bustle of traffic reminded me of my hectic life back home, but I wasn’t bothered. I had nowhere to be and nobody to answer to, just like the day before and the next day. I was free.

 

I brought my favorite travel companion along with me to aid in my journey of self-discovery: me. Not the busy Account-Manager-me. My true self.

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10 Things to Remember When You Feel Lost and Alone

10 Things to Remember When You Feel Lost and Alone | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

“This morning I felt lost and alone as I was driving home after a brutal breakup with my boyfriend.  I turned on the radio and the Michael Jackson song ‘You Are Not Alone’ was playing.  A few seconds later, at the exact moment the chorus began, I passed a huge billboard sign with big black letters that read, ‘YOU ARE NOT ALONE!’”

 

That’s the opening paragraph of an email I received today from a reader named Ella.  It made me smile because I love when life delivers seemingly coincidental, positive messages like that, right when we need them most.

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