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4 Ways We Talk Ourselves Out of What We Want

4 Ways We Talk Ourselves Out of What We Want | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
Here are the ways we silently—and secretly—discourage ourselves from doing the things that would make us the happiest.

 

1. We focus on the positive.


This happens when we spend a lot of time thinking things like, "Our rent is half the market value for this neighborhood! We have free cable! We live in this supercool neighborhood with two parks!" In other words, you, and me, we convince ourselves how happy we are in our current situation (because we are grateful and we do want to be happy), so much so that we don't realize we could be even happier someplace else. Like someplace in a different supercool neighborhood but with equally inexpensive rent...and one more bedroom. 

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-We-Limit-Ourselves#ixzz41aXHeqwS

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12 Signs You Lack Self Love

12 Signs You Lack Self Love | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"15 years ago when I realized that I didn't love myself, I was shocked. If you had asked me if I loved me, I would have said, "Yes, I think so." I had a good job, self confidence, and lots of friends. But I also had an unhappy and toxic romantic relationship, I was headed for a career that wasn't the one I really desired, I lived in a big house in a city I didn't like, and I worked, a lot, often to the point of exhaustion, overwhelm and stress. 

 

I had no idea at the time that all of these outward ways in which I was settling and trying hard to "make it work" -- in relationship, career, and my emotional and physical health -- were connected to a lack of self-love. Since that time I have dedicated a big part of my life to understanding self love, defining it, figuring out how to "do" it, not in theory but in real practical ways that give us the power to make changes on the outside that lead to more lasting changes on the outside

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What Five Minutes of Silence Can Do for Your Brain

What Five Minutes of Silence Can Do for Your Brain | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
The benefits of taking time out of the day to focus on well-being and lowering stress levels.

 

In a past article, journalist Andrea Chalupa suggested everyone make a plan to take out 24 hours in solitude. She quotes her father, Dr. Leo Chalupa, saying that “A national day of absolute solitude would do more to improve the brains of all Americans than any other one-day program.”

This might sound scary to some and intriguing to others, but have no fear, this is not going to happen. But what can happen?

 

Thomas Merton said, “Solitude is not something you must hope for in the future. Rather, it is a deepening of the present, and unless you look for it in the present you will never find it.”

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7 Things Mindful People Do Before 9 A.M.

7 Things Mindful People Do Before 9 A.M. | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello, you who make the morning and spread it over the fields." -- Mary Oliver

 

 When you're tired and sleep deprived, like many Americans today, mornings can often pass by in a groggy blur. But rushing to work without checking in with yourself is a waste of a precious opportunity. Each morning is a new beginning, and each sunrise brings with it an opportunity for renewal and rejuvenation. 
 

Instead of waking up to stress and rushing, consider how the rest of your day could go if you started it by doing something just for yourself. A spiritually refreshing morning ritual can help set you up for a day full of positivity.

 

Here are a few simple tips on how to create a morning routine that will nourish your soul.

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Cultivate What You Want By Loving What You Have

Cultivate What You Want By Loving What You Have | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
Want to find contentment in the New Year? Look for ways to acknowledge what's already working and pair it with intentions for the year ahead.

 

The concept of a new year can bring promise and sometimes a sense of not being content with what we have. Our mind is naturally inclined toward the negative and as a result we may focus on what needs to be fixed or what isn’t going well in our lives. We can bring an energy of discontentment into the New Year and with it a feeling of pressure. Have you ever heard yourself think, “This is the year that I have to…exercise more, meet the man/woman of my dreams, land that dream job, etc.”

 

The New Year is an opportunity to grow and develop new qualities that will more closely align with the kind of person we want to be and the life we want to be living. But first, it’s important to acknowledge everything that we already have and bring into the New Year with us. If we forget this important step, we are setting too lofty of expectations for our year because we are coming from a sense of lack vs. a feeling of “I have enough.”

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18 Ways to Create Good Habits -- and Eliminate Bad Ones -- for Life

18 Ways to Create Good Habits -- and Eliminate Bad Ones -- for Life | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
Forget the excuses for bad habits! Building good money habits lies in following a system consistently, day in and day out.

 

All of us like to mythologize successful athletes and entrepreneurs for their achievements. How do they do it? What’s their special sauce? What magic superpower does this one or that one have?

 

The answer, my friend, lies in the paradox of boring details. Whether it’s eating less or exercising more, taking walks or saving away money for retirement, good habits are not genetic and don’t attach themselves magically to successful people.

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How Do We Heal?

How Do We Heal? | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

."When we only treat symptoms, whether behavioral, emotional or mental, symptoms recur. Symptoms are present to alert us to examine ourselves in order to determine what is not working effectively. Chronic lack of joy, humor and serenity, or excessive anger, anxiety and fear create emotional illness. Persistent blaming, catastrophizing, deceiving, judging and worrying causes mental disorders. Habitual behaviors of abuse, aggression, over-controlling and manipulation lead to conduct disorders. Abstaining from specific actions and from expressing certain feelings or thoughts helps us immensely in early recovery."

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5 Fears You Need To Overcome to Transform Your Body (And Life)

5 Fears You Need To Overcome to Transform Your Body (And Life) | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
Remember: You have what it takes, are worthy, and don't need to know everything or do everything perfectly. You've got this.

 

I still remember the day I realized that my life needed to change, vividly.

My mind had already been made up about how I was going to look and feel for the rest of my life: Deeply uncomfortable in my own skin, struggling to manage a dysfunctional relationship with food, and always hating how I looked.

 

But the thought of fighting to change all that seemed like such an impossible, uphill battle... so I chose not to do anything about it. I resigned myself to settling into my new 'normal': Overweight, insecure and unhappy.

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Peggy Kelsey's curator insight, December 31, 2015 3:09 PM

This article is about losing weight, but it can be applied to almost any of the challenges we face.

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Why Can't 2016 Be the Happiest Year of Your Life?

Why Can't 2016 Be the Happiest Year of Your Life? | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
When you begin thinking about this upcoming year, ask yourself, "What can I do to make 2016 the happiest year of my life?" Maybe it's scheduling more time for exercise, learning to prepare healthier meals, getting to bed earlier, or making more time to spend with friends and family.

 

 Historically many life-change gurus have promoted the notion that new habits can be formed in 21 days. So, establishing a habit of going to bed earlier would simply take three weeks of practicing this behavior. 

 

You could do that, right?

 

Recent research however, has found that real change takes at least 66 days of consistent practice! Going to bed earlier for more than 66 days is a much more ambitious goal than doing it for just three weeks. No wonder we struggle to implement change even when we know what it is we need to do.

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Nurturing The Mind: My Path To True Health And Wellness

Nurturing The Mind: My Path To True Health And Wellness | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

“Life is not meant to be a struggle.” I had heard these words so many times, but the true magnificence of this statement wasn't fully clear until I welcomed its insight into my life -- and began to experience a significant positive shift in my overall health as a result.

 

For years, my body had been trying to tell me that something was off. Unbeknownst to me, chronic fatigue, persistent anxiety and intestinal pain were all physical manifestations of the absence of contentment and ease in my mind. What I needed was to empower my mind so that I could deeply heal my body.

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How to Say No and Not Feel Guilty

How to Say No and Not Feel Guilty | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

You’ve been trained to make “yes” your default — but you can change that without drowning in guilt.

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Saying NO can be so freaking hard for so many of us, we feel obligated, guilty, and under pressure to “help” other people. We want to be seen as good, kind and thoughtful. We desperately want to be accepted, loved and thought well of.
 
Often we have been trained by family, friends, and society to say yes because well, it serves them. It makes sense. How you’ve been trained s is going to scare you because it is likely that you are training others (totally unconsciously) the exact same way.
 
They train us by withdrawing love and approval when we do not do as they wish and then they reward us with love and approval when we say yes. Think about it a moment.. 
 
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How to Stop Feeling Like You're Not Good Enough

How to Stop Feeling Like You're Not Good Enough | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
We all have triggers that lead us to feel like we're not good enough. This may help you overcome them.

 

“Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It’s the fear that we’re not good enough.” ~Brene Brown


I’ve always had a temper for as long as I can remember. It would show up at the most innocuous times—when playing a board game with my family, at the dinner table, or sometimes right in the middle of a shopping mall.

At the time I had no idea why I would get so frustrated, so red-in-the-face with pure rage and an intense feeling of absolute helplessness. Even more puzzling was the triggers to these episodes.

 

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-stop-feeling-like-youre-not-good-enough/

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5 Ways to Start Putting Yourself First

5 Ways to Start Putting Yourself First | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"There’s often a bad stigma that is attached with putting yourself first. You feel guilty and worry about what others think."

 

But at the same time you know the benefits that come from taking care of yourself first. After all, how are you going to give to others if your cup is not full?

 

In order to function in life, there needs to be a balance of give and take.

So you imagine what your life will be like if you can start to say no to people and turn the attention to fulfilling your needs first.



5 Ways to Start Putting Yourself First

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The Magic in Surrender

The Magic in Surrender | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"I was recently talking with a client who I have been working with for over a year. She was very frustrated with herself for "knowing" all of this spiritual stuff but still succumbing to her painful patterns from time to time. This reminded me so much of myself only a few years ago. I had read every spiritual book on the planet, listened to many guru's preach and found myself within the same unwanted patterns time and time again."

 

You probably know what I am talking about if you struggle with certain reoccurring themes in your life. When you know better but aren't doing better. You unconsciously think that all of this divine wisdom is seeping into your pours and that life will be better because you have read some words of wisdom. I can remember sharing all of this wonderful inspirational stuff on social media but then looking at the imperfect life I was living. This is an unfortunate but true reality until we wake up to the fact that our minds are not in control of the universe. Thats right, your mind does not have all the answers, but your heart does.

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5 Easy Ways to Be Mindful Every Day

5 Easy Ways to Be Mindful Every Day | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

."Do you ever wonder how much time you spend being in the moment? By this, I mean fully engaged in the very thing you are doing, without your mind wandering in the past or future. I first started thinking about mindfulness when I realized that I was hardly ever in the present moment. Whether I was ruminating about an event in the past, going over my to-do list, or projecting into the future, I left no time to be fully aware of the now. 

Unfortunately, once I started talking to friends, family and my patients about being present, I realized that most of us spend most of the time outside "the moment". Our minds seem to spontaneously rush through time. That is, unless we are fully occupied in a crisis situation

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8 Common Habits That Are Completely Killing The Chances Of Living Out Your Dream

8 Common Habits That Are Completely Killing The Chances Of Living Out Your Dream | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"The chains of habit are too light to be felt until they're too heavy to be broken." -- Warren Buffet.

Are your habits ruining your chances of a bright future?

 

Success and failure are both a result of a gradual process. The habits you develop over time cement themselves. Your circumstances act as a mirror of your actions. Your actions are determined by your habits.

 

Today I'm going to share some negative habits that will kill your chances of living the life of your dreams. If you're exhibiting any of these, it's time to reevaluate your actions and make steps towards changing them.

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How Meditation Is the Glue for Your 2016 Resolution

How Meditation Is the Glue for Your 2016 Resolution | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
Whatever your resolution for the year might be, taking time for meditation is sure to help you maintain discipline, compassion, and focus on your journey.

 

It’s that time of year again, where we contemplate major changes in our life. As the calendar refreshes to a new year, we too yearn to hit refresh on ourselves, setting resolutions that we will finally (finally!) implement from now on. It might be physical (such as exercising more or losing weight), emotional (such as being kinder to certain people or volunteering more), or mental (such as getting more organized or focused at work). No matter what your resolution may be, I have a sinking suspicion that meditation will support it.

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16 Goals To Set For Next Year That Are More About Enjoying What You Have Than Chasing What You Don’t

16 Goals To Set For Next Year That Are More About Enjoying What You Have Than Chasing What You Don’t | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"Milestones are markers that you’re evolving – they do not create emotional fulfillment in the way we think they will. This confusion is why with the dawn of each new year, our resolutions are to change our lives, rather than to change ourselves. But what if we made goals that were more about loving what we have rather than chasing what we don’t? What if we realized that it’s what we were seeking in the first place? It’s something to consider – if not even try just a little. Here, a few ideas to get you started:"

 

1. Pick up where you left off. Finish the half-read books on your shelf. Eat what’s in the cupboard. Wear what you own in ways you never thought of before. Apologize and mean it. Call old friends. ...

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10 Ways To Have A Spiritually Refreshing New Year's

10 Ways To Have A Spiritually Refreshing New Year's | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
Here are some new ideas to mark the beginning of 2016.

 

For thousands of years, humans have marked the beginning of a new year with sacred festivals. January is named after the Roman god Janus, whose two faces looked to both the past and the future.

As you consider the many days ahead in 2016, take some time to reflect on the past as well.

Try these tips if you're searching for ways to make this year's New Year's celebration more meaningful.

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Are You Guilty of Wasting Your Time This Way?

Are You Guilty of Wasting Your Time This Way? | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

"When you want to be productive but you don't know what to do, or you want to be effective but you keep getting distracted, you end up wasting a lot of time."

 

The way to put a stop to our biggest time wasters is to identify them.

Here are 10 of the top time wasters we are all guilty of, if you see yourself in any of these, take action and reclaim your precious time.

 

1. Lack of structure. 

Structure supports productivity by creating discipline. Without it, you don't have any way to know what you need to be doing. A system tells you how you should be spending your time, helping you stay on track and accountable.

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Moving Beyond the Victim Role

Moving Beyond the Victim Role | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
Children need the adults in their lives to care for them and protect them from harm, from living a victim role.

 

Taking Personal Responsibility and Getting out of the Victim Role

 

An essential part of being an adult involves taking responsibility for ourselves. This means making conscious, empowered choices on our own behalf. Children aren’t capable of doing this because they are too unformed and helpless to understand or deal with all the things happening to them. Children need the adults in their lives to care for them and protect them from harm, from living a victim role.

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Dear Empath, we need you.

Dear Empath, we need you. | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

To those who soak up the world’s energy like a sponge…

You play a critical role here.


You may not feel it sometimes. Sometimes it feels like you’re drowning in a sea of other people’s feelings, uncertain which waves have poured over from foreign waters and which come from your own deep center, far too immersed to reach, at least in this lifetime.


The part you play in this drama of human life is absolutely essential.

You are one of the truth-tellers.

You are one of the strong ones.

You are one of the believers in magic. You dance in the shadows to bring life to the light trickling in from cracks in the board that others fail to see.

Without you, chaos continues to ensue.

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Nermeen Hassan's curator insight, December 8, 2015 1:26 AM

Totally agreed... How can you re-balance one self is not easy, any suggestions??

For me, connecting with ground bare feet, being in nature for couple of days, intimate talk with a close friend or write any thoughts cross the mind... 

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Five Ways Emotions Defy Nature’s Laws

Five Ways Emotions Defy Nature’s Laws | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

 

"Think Newton’s Laws of Gravity, the Laws of Motion, or the Relativity Principle. These Laws of Physics allow us to understand, define and predict the complicated world we live in. They’re all based on formulas, and can be proven by mathematics. They make sense. They’re logical.

 

As complex as those principles may be to thoroughly understand, basic knowledge of them at least provides us with guidelines. We know what to expect when we drop an apple, or push a chair, and generally why it happens."

 

But there is one powerful area of life which does not conform to the laws of nature. A part of our physiology that defines our humanness, and yet makes each human unique from every other. 

 

Emotions.

 

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Why Sleep? Why Dream?

Why Sleep? Why Dream? | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it
When you sleep, where does your consciousness go?

 

A friend who is suddenly sick asks that I drive him home on his motorcycle. I've never driven a motorcycle, the trip will take an hour on the highway, I have no helmet, and there's a second passenger. I ask if we could use surface streets; he says no. I ask what's the slowest speed we can go; he says 50 mph. I say I won't do it. Others crowd around, pressuring me to drive that bike. I say I'll order Uber and pay for everyone. I am smart enough to know that I should not drive that bike, but not smart enough to know that I am dreaming.

 

As I awake, I marvel. On the one hand, I was reasoning well, dealing rationally with complex ideas; on the other hand, I had no sense of basic reality. Both from the same brain at the same time. There is meaning here: what we assume to be a unified self is multiple mental faculties, each related to different brain areas or systems.

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Being true to yourself may protect against the harmful effects of loneliness

Being true to yourself may protect against the harmful effects of loneliness | DAILY NEW REALITY | Scoop.it

A lot has been written about the downward spiral of loneliness. People who crave more social contact often develop behaviours and thinking styles that only serve to accentuate their isolation, such as turning to drink and becoming more sensitive to perceived slights and rejections. Less studied is the question of whether some people have personality traits that give them a buffer against these loneliness-related risks. A new study published in the Journal of Health Psychology finds a promising candidate that appears to fit this description – authenticity, or being true to yourself.

 

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Authenticity rules! As you become more true to yourself, you begin to discover your own cadence and creativity. A whole new perspective opens up, as you open up to the love within yourself.

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SageRave of Get Custom Content's curator insight, November 16, 2015 5:09 PM

Remember that being alone during the holidays doesn't have to be the tragedy that well-meaning friends and associates may believe it is. Think carefully before accepting invitations.