“Many parents of adolescents feel that they have little influence over their children, but the evidence strongly suggests otherwise.”
Jane Waldfogel, What Children Need
If we take our responsibility seriously, we may focus on who or what is to blame, rather than on what we can do to improve the situation. We may even wonder whether it can be improved. Is a noncompliant toddler doomed to become a challenging adolescent? Worse, if we have a defiant teenager—one who refuses to comply with requests or follow rules of conduct—do we have any real chance of producing the result we want for him or her?