Relationships - Aren't They Complicated Enough Already?
Tagged you’re It?
Tagged or as I have found it to be the “Booty Call” social networking site is the antithesis of good taste and maturity among adults who claim they are trying to find a mate. All you will find on Tagged is a roll in the hay or if you’re not so lucky a combination Jack the Ripper/Ted Bundy sociopath.
How did I become so vehement against a social site in which I only have a passing relationship? (I have an account that I never use.) It all came to a head while I was lunching with a friend who not only uses the site on a regular basis but has accessed or accepted a selection of pornographic photos so vile and disgusting that even the hidden hedonist within me cringes to look at them. She was about to show me some X-rated pictures when she hesitated and made a remark that stunned me. She more or less accused me of being stuck-up or thinking that I was better than everyone else or specifically her because I no longer engaged in that lifestyle. Her comments really upset me because we have or I thought had a better close relationship. I was so hurt and upset because I thought that being a woman she would understand that I had made the choice to remain celibate because I was abused. She felt I should have gotten over what happened to me because domestic violence happens to plenty of women and I should just take up having sex with every and any men who cross my path. I have to admit because I was in emotional pain I made a rather extreme statement that, “I hated sex”. This is not entirely true. Of course like any red blooded American woman I enjoy sex, that is sex with the right man. Believe me even at my age I’ve had plenty of opportunities to have sex. It seems once I made the celibacy decision and fought off temptation the devil has had more jackasses cross my path than I care to mention. They are dangle that carrot of supposed endless pleasure and passion before me but I refuse to take the bait because I know it is all a pack of lies and an illusion.
Judging from my girlfriend’s experience once you contact these males on Tagged they send you pictures of body parts, Ala disgraced New York representative Anthony Weiner. Yes I mean penises and in my girlfriends pictures, guys with elongated tongues. Hey, I’m in my 50s and to put it bluntly it will take more than a big dick and a long tongue to turn me on or even satisfy me. I’m long past the “He’s so Fine” stage. I’m looking for good character, integrity, intelligence, loyalty and a strong faith in God. Sex is an important part of a relationship between engaged or married couples and; since I don’t qualify on either stage why should I demean myself for a few moments of pleasure, his pleasures not mine.
My girlfriend is in her 40s and should also be long past that stage, claiming she wants to find a good man, settle down and get married but if you choose a man solely based on physical a characteristic, that’s all you get, is the superficial and shallow. Even though I’ve been insulted and ridiculed for my stand as a Christian woman I will continue to stay faithful and true to God’s Word. I’m enjoying very strong platonic relationships and dating garnering respect from my guy friends and dates. Eventually I too would like to get married but this time I will let God choose the mate not me.