Curated by Beth Kanter
This article starts off with a call for us to reframe failures and mistakes from shame to learning. Anyone who has reached the mountaintop will admit that success comes not from your failures, but from your response to those failures.
I love this quote:
An ancient Buddhist proverb says, “The arrow that hits the bull’s eye is the result of a hundred misses.”
The advice is to let go of your fear of failure because it actually causes more mistakes. Once you embrace the learning that follows a mistake or something that wasn't successful, the sting of shame gives way to incredible learning which leads to success.
The article suggests some approaches for this reframing:
* Depersonalize the failure: You are not a "failure" - you just failed trying to do something.
* Create a Failing Forward Journal: Suggests writing about your failures and doing an after action review. Some great reflection questions: Why were your nervous? What did not perform at your best? Why did you have negative thoughts?
Closing quote: Failure is not failure unless it is failure to change.