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Personal development articles that help people construct meaningful lives: creativity, productivity, mindfulness, and improvisation skills.
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DJ Khaled Delivers Keys to Success on Snapchat | Billboard

DJ Khaled Delivers Keys to Success on Snapchat | Billboard | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Stop playing yourself and grab these keys to success from DJ Khaled's Snapchat.
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The Ivy Lee Method: The Daily Routine Experts Recommend for Peak Productivity | James Clear

The Ivy Lee Method: The Daily Routine Experts Recommend for Peak Productivity | James Clear | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
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The Ivy Lee Method

 

At the end of each work day, write down the six most important things you need to accomplish tomorrow. Do not write down more than six tasks.Prioritize those six items in order of their true importance.When you arrive tomorrow, concentrate only on the first task. Work until the first task is finished before moving on to the second task.Approach the rest of your list in the same fashion. At the end of the day, move any unfinished items to a new list of six tasks for the following day.Repeat this process every working day.
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5 Habits Of People Who Always Get Promoted

5 Habits Of People Who Always Get Promoted | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Some employees just seem to be ahead of the curve and reap the rewards. Here's how to be that person.
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1. THEY CHOOSE THE RIGHT ENVIRONMENT FOR THEIR TALENTS

 

2. THEY PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT THEIR BOSS VALUES

 

3. THEY FOCUS ON BOTH DAILY RESPONSIBILITIES AND BIG-PICTURE THINKING

 

4. THEY MAKE SPACE FOR BIGGER THINKING

 

5. THEY LIKE THEIR COLLEAGUES

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18 Quotes for Women in Government - GovLoop

18 Quotes for Women in Government - GovLoop | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Having a rough day? Week? Month? I hope not, but in case you are having a bit of a slump, don’t feel bad. We’ve all been there. Public service is a tough job sometimes and, when you add the additional obstacles that women in government face, it can be downright grueling. Nevertheless, other women have... Read more »
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Just to help keep your chin up if you're a woman in government, like me! 

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20 Productivity Apps to Be Your Most Efficient You

20 Productivity Apps to Be Your Most Efficient You | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
For the majority of my life I've been an inefficient and unorganized mess. I've somehow managed to get by, but I'm highly distracted, lose things, make men
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Bridging Psychological Distance

Bridging Psychological Distance | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Four types of gaps—social, temporal, spatial, and experiential—separate us from our goals.
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This article is full of strategies and tactics for decreasing or increasing four psychological gaps between you and your goals. The substitution tricks listed near the end are brilliant! 

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8 Ways Not to Manage Your Email (and 5 and a Half Tactics that Work)

8 Ways Not to Manage Your Email (and 5 and a Half Tactics that Work) | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Preliminary results from a two-year experiment in self-management.
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Managing the flow of information in email contributes to extraordinary living! These are great tips. 

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Thich Nhat Hanh on Loosening the Knots of Anger - Lion's Roar

Thich Nhat Hanh on Loosening the Knots of Anger - Lion's Roar | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Thich Nhat Hanh teaches us how to relax the bonds of anger, attachment and delusion through mindfulness and kindness toward ourselves.
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For THOSE days. 

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To Find Happiness, Forget About Passion

To Find Happiness, Forget About Passion | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Several years ago, a friend decided she wanted to follow her passion. She loved the liberal arts and academe. She was a talented graphic designer, a great writer, and was the president of a student...
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The Confidence Gap

The Confidence Gap | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Evidence shows that women are less self-assured than men—and that to succeed, confidence matters as much as competence. Here's why, and what to do about it.
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What to do about it? Women, DO something and stop thinking so much. 

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30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself. #10 Is An Absolute Must.

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself. #10 Is An Absolute Must. | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
And the last one nearly broke my heart.
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The 6 Best Tools For Creative Work, According To Science

The 6 Best Tools For Creative Work, According To Science | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Connecting our minds and bodies--by sleeping, stepping away from the keyboard, and breaking a sweat--might be the best way to get through a creative...
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1. WRITE FASTER AND STRENGTHEN YOUR MEMORIES BY USING A PEN AND PAPER 2. A MESSY DESK TO EXPLORE NEW IDEAS 3. A NOTEBOOK TO CATALOG IDEAS AS THEY COME 4. A PAIR OF RUNNING SHOES TO SPARK DIVERGENT THINKING 5. A PAIR OF HEADPHONES TO CREATE AMBIENT NOISE FOR CONCENTRATION 6. A COMFY CHAIR FOR BRIEF BUT INSPIRING NAPS
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The Secrets of The Best Public Speakers

The Secrets of The Best Public Speakers | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Expert advice on how celebrities and politicians manage to deliver smooth and seemingly spontaneous performances.
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"It’s the preparation that allows you to be spontaneous!"

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Do these exercises for two minutes a day and you’ll immediately feel happier, researchers say

Do these exercises for two minutes a day and you’ll immediately feel happier, researchers say | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Too busy trying to achieve to be happy? You've got it backward, a happiness researcher says.
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1. Three Acts of Gratitude. Spend two minutes a day scanning the world for three new things you’re grateful for. And do that for 21 days, The reason why that’s powerful is you’re training your brain to scan the world in a new pattern, you’re scanning for positives, instead of scanning for threats. It’s the fastest way of teaching optimism.

 

So this only works if you’re scanning for new things and you’re very specific. So if you say, “I’m grateful for my son,” it doesn’t work. But if you say, “I’m grateful for my son because he hugged me today, which means I’m loved regardless,” that specificity actually gets the brain stuck in a new pattern of optimism. 

 

2. The Doubler. For two minutes a day, think of one positive experience that’s occurred during the past 24 hours. Bullet point each detail you can remember. It works, because the brain can’t tell the difference between visualization and actual experience. So you’ve just doubled the most meaningful experience in your brain. Do it for 21 days, your brain starts connecting the dots for you, then you have this trajectory of meaning running throughout life.

 

3. The Fun Fifteen: 15 minutes of cardiovascular exercise a day. It’s the equivalent of taking an anti-depressant for the first six months, but with a 30 percent lower relapse rate over the next two years.

This is not a repudiation of anti-depressants. It’s an indication that exercise works, because your brain records a victory, and that cascades to the next activity.

 

4. Breathe. We did this at Google. We had them take their hands off their keyboards two minutes a day. And go from multitasking, to simply watching their breath go in and out. This raises accuracy rates. Improves levels of happiness. Drops their stress levels. And it takes two minutes.

 

5. Conscious Acts of Kindness. The final habit is the most powerful that we’ve seen so far. For two minutes each day, start work by writing a two-minute positive e-mail or text praising or thanking one person you know. And do it for a different person each day.


People who do this not only get great e-mails and texts back and are perceived as positive leaders because of the praise and recognition, but their social connection score is at the top end of the scale.

Social connection is not only the greatest predictor of long-term happiness – the study I did at Harvard is 0.7 correlation, which doesn’t sound very sexy, but is stronger than the connection between smoking and cancer.

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How Meditation Builds Compassion

How Meditation Builds Compassion | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Mindfulness is best known for its positive effects on practitioners’ brains and bodies. My research suggests it may also encourage compassion toward others.
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How 6 Badass New York Women Stay Powerful | The Story Time

How 6 Badass New York Women Stay Powerful | The Story Time | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Life in New York City can move pretty fast. When early morning commutes meet late lunches, one too many cups of coffee, and a work day that way surpasses the
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“I say prayers and have a meditation for 20 to 30 minutes every morning to set the pace for a day of joy and peace!”


“Starting your day feeling good helps you to tackle obstacles and allows you to have sustained energy, which is needed in this industry!”


“For me, feeling physically strong is key to a healthy mental life. Remaining active and fit helps me clear my head, so I can focus on what needs to get done.”


“I focus on my health and make it a priority; without health, the rest is out the door. Sleep is huge for me. When I don’t get a good night’s rest, I know I’ll be tired, cranky, and inefficient. Lately, I’ve maintained a screen-free evening routine, which helps make sure I get to bed at a decent time.”

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10 mindfulness habits that will make you more productive at work

10 mindfulness habits that will make you more productive at work | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Open your mind.
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1. Be consciously present

2. Use short mindful exercises at work

3. Be a single-tasker

4. Use mindful reminders

5. Slow down to speed up

6. Make stress your friend

7. Feel gratitude

8. Cultivate humility

9. Accept what you cannot change

10. Adopt a growth mindset

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4 Steps to Dispel a Bad Mood

4 Steps to Dispel a Bad Mood | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Shift your state of mind and improve your work.
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1) Engage breathing

2) Activate a positive feeling

3) Reframe thinking

What else is possible here?What is the opportunity in this situation?What really matters right now?What could I learn in this moment?What does my heart say? What does my gut say?What is a more useful/constructive/positive approach?What is the most desirable outcome?

4) Reengage action 

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Pronouns Matter when Psyching Yourself Up

Pronouns Matter when Psyching Yourself Up | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
It’s not weird to refer to yourself in the second or third person.
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This is a simple, easy way to tap into the power of self talk! 

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Another reason to spend money on experiences rather than things

Another reason to spend money on experiences rather than things | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
"To do or to have? That is the question."
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"All of the studies indicated that anticipation of an experience is more exciting and pleasant than the anticipation of a material purchase—regardless of the price of the purchase."

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Innovation Excellence | 25 Things Skilled Learners Do Differently

Innovation Excellence | 25 Things Skilled Learners Do Differently | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it

by Sarah Briggs

 

"We also know that people who think about their own learning, make a habit of asking questions, use what they’ve learned, teach what they’ve learned to others, and enjoy the learning process on an intrinsic level all become better learners.

"The good news is, these are all strategies and habits that can be adopted through practice. Why some of us master them earlier than others is another topic, one that may have something to do with parenting, environment, and even genetics. But the point is, we’re all capable. The smartest, most successful people in the world wouldn’t be where they are today if they weren’t skilled learners. So let’s examine which strategies we should be perfecting and how they can serve us in the long run."


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The smartest, most successful people in the world wouldn’t be where they are today if they weren’t skilled learners.


In this article Saga Briggs examines which strategies we should be perfecting and how they can serve us in the long run.


A recommended read. You can follow the author Saga Milena on Twitter here: @SagaMilena


Stephen Dale's curator insight, October 19, 2014 6:21 AM

A very useful article that recognises that there is a skill (or at least a process) involved to achieve effective learning, and that we can learn this skill, i.e. learn to learn. As the article explains: "The smartest, most successful people in the world wouldn’t be where they are today if they weren’t skilled learners" It goes on to examine which learning strategies we should be perfecting and how they can serve us in the long run.

 

Reading time: 15 mins

 

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The Character Code | Aspen Ideas Festival

We're in a world full of good people, but who don't have a clear vocabulary for character.  We don't have a moral system. Here, David Brooks puts forth Western civilization’s ancient recipe for being a better person—and how we forgot it.
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"What motivated [the Greeks] to make  all these audacious decisions?...Well, they grew up with an ideology, an ideology established by Homer...The honor code was based, in part, on how transitory life is and how fleeting and how deeply insignificant an individual life can be... and so In Homeric morality, one of the things a great man wants to do is fight against that insignificance...and the way you do that is by achieving eternal fame and glory. You perform deeds of excellence in order to win the admiration of eternity...so the Homeric man risks his life to win honor."

 

The first great trait in this code: courage...

then assertiveness (making your mark, your presence felt)

prowess (being excellent at something, working hard and displaying your excellence to the world),

lack of self doubt

 

Entirely different code: Code of Bible (turns greek code on his head) - series of inversions

Achieve loftiness spirit by caring for the downtrodden, you achieve greatness by demonstrating meekness, you achieve power by demonstrating your dependence on God, you achieve strength by acknowledging vulnerability, you achieve wisdom by being aware of your own ignorance, you find yourself by losing yourself, to get everything you have to give everything up. Dorothy Day as example.

 

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Sleep as a Competitive Advantage

Sleep as a Competitive Advantage | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Too many of us live by the myth that one less hour of sleep gives us one more hour of productivity, Tony Schwartz writes in the Life@Work column. In reality, lost sleep not only leaves us more fatigued, but also takes a toll on our cognitive capacity.
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The most powerful short-term solution for insufficient sleep isn't caffeine. Brilliant advice from Tony Schwartz. http://nyti.ms/1mdClrC ;

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12 Effective Ways To Gain Respect In The Workplace

12 Effective Ways To Gain Respect In The Workplace | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
This article looks at the concept of workplace respect, and offers tips on how you can achieve and maintain the respect of your colleagues.
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Exceptional tips. All 12. Practice practice practice these~

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Social Change and the Shadow Side of Passion (SSIR)

Social Change and the Shadow Side of Passion (SSIR) | Extraordinary Living | Scoop.it
Major opportunities to change the world often lie within our biggest personal challenges.
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"The medicine you create for yourself while healing your wound can become a gift to the world."

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