A person can't be compassionate and empathic to others unless that person is compassionate to himself or herself.
In her TED Talk “The Power of Vulnerability,” Brene Brown explores how people can embrace their vulnerabilities and imperfections so that they engage in their lives from a place of authenticity and worthiness. She calls these wholehearted people. They have the compassion to be kind to themselves first and then to others, because, she says, you can't practice compassion with other people if you can't treat yourself kindly.
“Caring too much can hurt,” states Patricia Smith, founder of the Compassion Fatigue Awareness Project. When caregivers focus on others without practicing self-care, destructive behaviors can surface.”
by Anthony Cirillo