Perhaps the reason I’m focusing on self-compassion today is as an act of forgiveness for the failure to write blogs these last months. I have been busy with clients, with my family, and with my drive to finish our new book (which we did this week!) and I have had no energy for anything else. And yet even though I’ve ignored the “post a blog” item in my to-do list for months, it took my breath away to see how long it had been since I have actually written one. I felt the wave of self-recrimination building. Which might partially explain my interest in singing the self-compassion song here.
“Compassion Cultivation Training (CCT) helped me create more ‘space’ with myself and when dealing with others. Space = patience,acceptance, better listening and more awareness.” -Recent CCT student
What is CCT? According to the course creators at Stanford University’s Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education:
“Compassion Cultivation Training is an eight-week educational program designed to help you improve your resilience and feel more connected to others—ultimately providing an overall sense of well-being. CCT combines traditional contemplative practices with contemporary psychology and scientific research to help you lead a more compassionate life. Through instruction, daily meditation, mindfulness, and in-class interaction, you can strengthen the qualities of compassion, empathy, and kindness.”
Misunderstandings and hurt feelings happen all the time, even more often online when you can't see or hear each other, but Facebook wants things to go smoothly on its social network. So they are tapping some of the top minds at Yale and U.C. Berkeley to make it happen.
Unrehearsed and uncensored, a panel of real, live teenagers was the star attraction at Facebook's fourth annual Day of Compassion.
It was a day otherwise marked by charts, graphs, and people with Ph.D.'s, who have studied how those teens interact on Facebook -- including things like bullying.
Emiliana R. Simon-Thomas, Ph.D., is the science director of the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center. In this talk for the 2012 Mindfulness and Compassion conference, Dr. Simon-Thomas explains the neurological mechanisms that support compassion--and why mindfulness meditation can help support the growth of compassion.
Compassion is not something that can be measured, but something to be felt and used in practice. In the drive forCompassion in Practice and the “six Cs” (care, compassion, competence, communication, courage and commitment) in the development of compassionate care, can we train compassion, nurture it and mandate it?
‘We need to ensure selection processes address emotional intelligence and compassion as much as clinical aptitude and intellectual prowess’
These approaches may be possible and, indeed, all may have some effect. There are many initiatives responding to the call; we might seek tosend staff on compassion training courses or awareness-raising days. We might seek to nurture compassion within staff through cultural change or re-engineering.
As part of Thursday's 'Compassion Research Day,' Facebook engineers will work with scientists from Yale, Stanford, and UC Berkeley to share what they've learned over a year of research into why people do...
Facebook is getting compassionate.
At least, it's looking into why compassion works.
As part of Thursday's "Compassion Research Day," Facebook engineers will work with scientists from Yale, Stanford, and UC Berkeley to share what they've learned over a year of research into why people do what they do. Topics include bullying, dispute resolution, and communication.
The CMH Global Arts after school programs utilize arts education to enhance our students' understanding of the world by pairing an art modality with an international country of focus. Through learning about children their age who live in other countries and being given the freedom to express themselves through art, the students gain a sense of empathy and global citizenship that will stay with them for a lifetime. This is what we do; this is what we believe in. And as this semester (and the year) draws to a close, we find ourselves reflecting on our work -- why we do what we do.
As Service Designers to create great services we need to truly understand the Customer (user). Not by asking them what they want, but by really observing and understanding who they are and what they actually do. To minimise personal bias and really put yourself in the user’s shoes takes a great deal of empathy. So does this means all Service Designers need to be inherently very empathetic people?
I discovered an article ”Service Design Soft Skill Builder: Empathy” by Patrick Quattlebaum, Managing Director at Adaptive Path (http://www.adaptivepath.com/ideas/service-design-soft-skill-builder-empathy/) that highlighted the importance for designers to consciously try to inculcate and enhance their ability to empathise. As any skill, it needed to be honed and practiced to be effectively applied.
Contagious yawning may be a form of cross-species empathy.
Pets are good for us. Pets provide companionship, exercise, affection, and opportunities to interact with neighbors. Animals have been used effectively in therapy. They provide companionship for lonely children and older adults. And, almost everybody talks to their pets. But, do they understand us? Can they feel our emotions?
One recent study shines some light on this question. In a very interesting study conducted Romero, Konno, and Hasegawa (2013), 25 dogs of varied breeds were studied to test cross species empathy. It was reasoned that contagious yawning is related to social communication and empathy. This is supported by previous nueropsych and questionnaire research with both primates and humans. It is also known that empathic humans mimic yawning more than non-empathic ones. Furthermore, it is believed that dogs can read their owners moods. However, there is very little research testing contagious yawning across species, e.g. between humans and dogs. As stated by the authors, “If contagious yawning indeed is related to the capacity for empathy, it could become a powerful tool to explore the root of empathy in animal evolution by studying cross-species contagious yawning.”
In this post, the author reveals how empathy is the key foundation of Design Thinking.
This summer I completed my first “MOOC” (Massive Open Online Course) through Stanford University's “Design Thinking Action Lab." The course description caught my interest: “Stanford d.school lecturer and Epicenter Associate Director Leticia Britos Cavagnaro and her team will take you on a journey to learn the Design Thinking process. This methodology for human-centered creative problem solving is used by companies and organizations to drive a culture of innovation. The Design Thinking Action Lab will provide the inspiration, tools and support you need to discover the joy of learning by doing as you tackle an innovation challenge in the real world.” My sincere gratitude goes to Dr. Cavagnaro for an excellent and dynamic MOOC experience!
David A. Levine is a teacher, author, empathy educator, musician and recording artist. He is currently the Director of the School of Belonging Training Institute. After teaching elementary and middle school, David became the chief trainer for the U.S. Department of Education's Northeast Regional Center for Safe and Drug-Free Schools. It was during that time that he created a framework for social culture building he calls The School of Belonging.
The School of Belonging is a social consciousness process that emphasizes relationship building, compassion in practice, social skills development and reflective practice as the primary components of a healthy and effective school. This change process is highlighted in his books Teaching Empathy, Building Classroom communities, and The School of Belonging Plan Book.
Facebook is expanding its efforts to help teens (and adults) deal with annoying or bullying behavior on the world’s biggest social network, by extending its online reporting tools and promoting its new “Bullying Resource Hub” for kids, parents and educators.
And in coming months, Facebook’s Arturo Bejar says he hopes to adapt those tools for Instagram, the online photo-sharing service owned by Facebook that’s become increasingly popular among teens.
As we’ve reported before, Bejar is a Facebook engineering director who also oversees what the company calls its “compassion research” program, in which Facebook has enlisted psychologists and child development experts to help improve procedures for flagging items that make them uncomfortable. The effort started with photos and has been extended to status updates and other comments posted on the site.
One of the hurdles most of us run into when trying to become more self-compassionate is not knowing what “self-compassion” looks like. If you’ve ever been in a situation where English isn’t the preferred language, you’ve likely experienced having trouble finding the words to ask for/express/get what you want. Without language, it’s pretty difficult to communicate. You find yourself gesturing and pointing and feeling distressed and frustrated. So, when you’re in the process of changing your relationship to yourself, you’ll likely experience similar feelings. Remember trying to learn French or Spanish or Japanese or ASL? It didn’t come naturally; it was foreign. By Megan Bruneau •
Facebook is hosting the fourth Compassion Research Day Thursday at its headquarters in Menlo Park, Calif., and the social network revealed six important trends its compassion research team discovered while partnering with researchers from Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, Yale’s Center for Emotional Intelligence, Stanford University, Northeastern University, Claremont McKenna University, and other institutions.
Facebook said in introducing the six trends, which it revealed during the event:
Paul Gilbert is an author and professor of clinical psychology
My first degree was in economics and I was very interested in the link between economic conditions and people's mental states. I also became interested in the Buddhists' concepts of consciousness and their spiritual views, particularly those of compassion. The recognition that both our evolved minds and our social context shape us, and that we have less control over our minds than we think, is to me a call to compassion.
Does this book represent a convergence of different theories?
Empathy, and it close relative sympathy, have long been proposed, and have been found in research related to and motivating people to help others. Understanding how another feels, cognitive empathy, and experiencing (vicariously) the feelings of another person or emotional empathy, have been the primary focus of theory and research as the motivators of helping and altruism. Feelings of empathy, and sympathy, which Nancy Eisenberg defined as “feeling sorrow or concern for a distressed or needy other,” mean that a person cares about another.
Personal distress, which looks similar to empathy, is in contrast self-focused. It is being impacted and distressed by others’ distress. It is associated with helping if that is the only way for a person can reduce his or her own distress, but not if this person can escape from the presence of a distressed other. A term relatively recently introduced into scientific discourse and research is compassion, which Emma Seppala defined as “the emotional response when perceiving suffering and involves an authentic desire to help.”
The empathy trap: therapists and counselors almost by definition are empathic, to facilitate clients' recovery - but this quality can mean those carers are targets for sociopaths, aided by what Dr Jane & Tim McGregor call "apaths". The first UK article on this cruel sport shows how to identify and thus avoid it.
People targeted by a sociopath often respond with self-deprecating comments like "I was stupid", "what was I thinking" of "I should've listened to my gut instinct". But being involved with a sociopath is like being brainwashed. The sociopath's superficial charm is usually the means by which s/he conditions people.
Empathy is who we are in our connection to each other. If there is little connection there, our relationships, mood, feelings, emotions are not taken into account. Without any connectedness, there is no insight, understanding of each other’s world and perspectives. There is no openness, trust or vulnerability. There is no sense that you know me as a person. As someone who has dreams, ambitions, hopes, concerns, feelings…There is only the sense that I work for ‘you’, the ‘organisation’ and that I am here only to produce results. How many of you have felt like that?
What does Wal-Mart, Dick Cheney, the Philippines' typhoon victims, Rush Limbaugh, and Nazis have in common? The empathy gap.
The empathy gap experiments included research on pain. If someone has not experienced the pain to be administered, they seriously underestimate what that pain would be like. When this is coupled with lack of empathy regarding sexual orientation, or race — at its most drastic — you get results such as the torture, extermination and medical experimentation that occurred at Nazi death camps or Japanese facilities during World War II. At a lesser degree of drastic, Rush Limbaugh experiences back pain and after years of denouncing drug use becomes an addict himself.
For many in the innovation field, the hardest task is listening – real listening, deep listening. To listen without building a mental model or rushing to a conclusion is a cultivated skill.
To listen to a person’s summary of your product or service and honor their experience as the only experience that matters is not only a great courtesy, but it can be a competitive advantage; that is, if you are willing to collect feedback from a lot of customers and apply adaptive intelligence.
The hardest part is just listening.
In the Design Thinking methodology of innovation, the first major phase is Empathy.
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