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Imperfect Spirituality | Three ways to cultivate compassion

Imperfect Spirituality | Three ways to cultivate compassion | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
Offering compassion rather than judgment can ease difficulties and leave you feeling better too.

 

Compassion is a choice you can make it at any time. It requires no special schooling, no extra time or money, nada but awareness and a decision to lead with love.


And, while you think you are acting with compassion to help someone else – and it certainly will help them – compassion is really more about you and how close you want to live to your heart. In the end your compassionate action says more about you than the person receiving it, but it is the one thing that will change both of us.

 

By Polly Campbell

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When we cannot offer compassion, we limit ourselves more than the other guy. We dim a bit, become less creative, more reactive and worried and caught up in what others have done instead of what we can do.

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The Empathy Movement Magazine: Front Page

The Empathy Movement Magazine: Front Page | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

Visit the individual magazines specifically for empathy and;

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*   Teaching - Learning
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Meryl Streep, Thinks It's Time Men Develop Some Damn Imagination And Empathy (Video)

Meryl Streep, Thinks It's Time Men Develop Some Damn Imagination And Empathy (Video) | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

There she explained how the mass dominance of male stories forced generations of women to develop an empathy for characters in a way men are rarely challenged to do.


This act of empathy, that women go through from the time we’re little girls — we read all of literature, all of history, it’s really about boys, most of it,” Streep explained, “But I can feel more like Peter Pan than Tinker Bell, or like Wendy. I wanted to be Tom Sawyer, not Becky. And we’re so used to that act of empathizing with the protagonist of a male-driven plot. I mean, that’s what we’ve done all our lives. You read history, you read great literature, Shakespeare, it’s all fellas, you know?”


She went on to explain how her challenge as an actress is to get men to empathize with her character, despite her being a woman and all. 


By Kristy Puchko 

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Meryl Streep Continues to Be One BAMF, Calls Hollywood Men Out on Lack of Empathy for Women

Meryl Streep Continues to Be One BAMF, Calls Hollywood Men Out on Lack of Empathy for Women | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

When asked by Stewart if “the very act of stepping into a male-dominated area” like film can be perceived as a victory,


Streep replied,


"A lot of it has to do with imagination. This act of empathy, that women go through from the time we’re little girls—we read all of literature, all of history, it’s really about boys, most of it. But I can feel more like Peter Pan than Tinker Bell, or like Wendy. I wanted to be Tom Sawyer, not Becky.


And we’re so used to that act of empathizing with the protagonist of a male-driven plot. I mean, that’s what we’ve done all our lives. You read history, you read great literature, Shakespeare, it’s all fellas, you know?


They’ve never had to do the other thing, and the hardest thing for me as an actor is to have a story that men in the audience feel like they know what I feel like. That’s a really hard thing. It’s very hard for them to put themselves in the shoes of a female protagonist, it just is. This is known to the studios, they know it’s the toughest suit of clothes to wear."



by Carolyn Cox 

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(Empathic Education) Role playing: Cultivating Empathy - Walking in anothers moccasins

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A co-production of The Dalai Lama Center for Ethics and Transformative Values at MIT with WGBH on PBS Learning Media, the Transformative Teachers video collection is a learning and teaching tool for young children. The collection is designed to catalyze reflections and conversations around some of the fundamental human values. This program is part of The Center’s Young Peace Leaders and Compassionate Young Leaders initiatives.

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(Empathic Parenting) Empathy as a Foundation of Family Life: Robbyn Peters Bennett and Edwin Rutsch

(Empathic Parenting) Empathy as a Foundation of Family Life:  Robbyn Peters Bennett and Edwin Rutsch | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

"I think for some, there is a religious idea that children are innately sinful, and innately evil even maybe.  But what neuroscience is saying is that children are innately empathic. That the fundamental neurobiological orientation of the brain, is it learns though empathy and through co-regulation and that children have an innate need to connect and they have an innate need to feel good with us and to enjoy us."


Robbyn Peters Bennett, LMHC, CMHS is a psychotherapist, educator, and child advocate who specializes in the treatment of trauma-related mental health problems resulting from the effects of early childhood stress, abuse and neglect. She is the founder of StopSpanking.org, a non-profit dedicated to educating the public on the dangers of spanking. She is on the steering committee of The U.S. Alliance to End the Hitting of Children.
 
In this dialog we talk about how science shows that we are biologically wired for empathy and how trauma can block it and ways to restore blocked empathy.  We also discuss the role of empathy in different parenting approaches.

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(Empathic Leadership) Acceptance, Empathy, and Genuineness: Not A Weakness - Gordon Training International

(Empathic Leadership) Acceptance, Empathy, and Genuineness: Not A Weakness - Gordon Training International | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

To be an effective leader, it is crucially important to be a good listener. To be a good listener, I mean a really good listener, there are three conditions that must be met according to Dr. Thomas Gordon. They are: acceptance, empathy, and genuineness.


Dr. Gordon studied psychology with Carl Rogers, one of the most famous psychologists of all time. Rogers talked about unconditional positive regard, empathy, and congruence and Tom Gordon applied those concepts to non-therapeutic situations that were practical for parents, teachers, and managers...


Empathy is the ability to understand the other person’s point of view - both the content and emotions. It does not mean that you have to have the same feelings or experience the same things or have had the same experience in the past. Have you ever heard someone say,


“I know how you feel.” It is difficult not to be sarcastic or to respond defensively. “

No you don’t!” Or, how about, “I feel sorry for you.” Wow! How insulting “Can’t you do anything on your own? I need to do this for you as well?”



William Stinnett, Ph.D.

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Self and Other: Exploring Subjectivity, Empathy, and Shame by Dan Zahavi

Self and Other:  Exploring Subjectivity, Empathy, and Shame  by Dan Zahavi | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
Dan Zahavi engages with classical phenomenology, philosophy of mind, and a range of empirical disciplines to explore the nature of selfhood.


He argues that the most fundamental level of selfhood is not socially constructed or dependent upon others, but accepts that certain dimensions of the self and types of self-experience are other-mediated.

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(Empath) Science Links Anxiety To High IQ’s & Sentinel Intelligence, Social Anxiety To Very Rare Psychic Gift

(Empath)  Science Links Anxiety To High IQ’s & Sentinel Intelligence, Social Anxiety To Very Rare Psychic Gift | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
We hypothesized that high-socially-anxious individuals (HSA) may exhibit elevated mentalizing and empathic abilities.”


The research methods were as follows: “Empathy was assessed using self-rating scales in HSA individuals (n=21) and low-socially-anxious (LSA) individuals (n=22), based on their score on the Liebowitz social anxiety scale. A computerized task was used to assess the ability to judge first and second order affective vs. cognitive mental state attributions.”

Remarkably, the scientists found that a large portion of people with social anxiety disorder are gifted empaths

people whose right-brains are operating significantly above normal levels and are able to perceive the physical sensitivities, spiritual urges, motivations, and intentions of other people around them (see Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor’s TED Talk below for a powerful explanation of this ability).


The team’s conclusion reads: “Results support the hypothesis that high-socially-anxious individuals demonstrate a unique profile of social-cognitive abilities with elevated cognitive empathy tendencies and high accuracy in affective mental state attributions...”


Empaths who have fully embraced their abilities are able to function on a purely intuition-based level.

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Building Empathy and Eliminating Oppression Workshop: A Deep Look at Racism and Religious Prejudice

Building Empathy and Eliminating Oppression Workshop:  A Deep Look at Racism and Religious Prejudice | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
This three-part workshop strives to give participants the opportunity to build skills and knowledge to engage in conversations about oppression. Registration is for all three days of the series, and we encourage participants to attend each session to get the most benefit from the workshop.


All sessions will be held at The Peace & Justice Center, 60 Lake Street in Burlington, VT. Below are more details about each seminar:

- Tues, May 19th 5:30pm-7:00pm: Short lecture and group activities focused on the White Fragility, or the struggle for dominant communities to tolerate discussions on race without feeling shame, guilt, or victimization.


- Thurs, May 21st 5:30pm-7:00pm: Presentation and group activities on myths and stereotypes to help participants identify and recognize subconscious bias and discuss how these bias affect our daily lives.


- Sat., May 23rd 10:00am-11:30am: Discussion on guidelines for action and tools for how to build empathy for others, in order to reaffirm our commitment to creating and supporting an anti-oppressive society.

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"I Wish My Teacher Had Known..." Adults on How Teacher Empathy Could Have Changed Their Lives

"I Wish My Teacher Had Known..." Adults on How Teacher Empathy Could Have Changed Their Lives | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

by Lindsey Weedston

With CNN and The Today Show reporting on Schwartz’s class project, she has become a leading voice in the national conversation about the importance of teachers building trust with their students. Educators all over the country have been inspired to learn more about their students’ individual needs and personal hurdles by holding their own activities around “I wish my teacher knew.”


What started as one small classroom project has sparked a movement to improve the U.S. education system through simple empathy and understanding.

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(Empathic Parenting) Parenting: Empathy is Not Indulgence

(Empathic Parenting) Parenting: Empathy is Not Indulgence | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
Empathy is not indulgence. It is not permissive and it is not laissez-faire. Listening with empathy helps children bounce back. The solution of every emotional or behavioral problem of childhood should begin (but does not end) with our willingness to make a genuine effort to hear our child’s concerns and to understand her point of view.

When you listen empathically to your children, they experience reduced stress, and then, increased cognitive and emotional flexibility. In your child’s behavior, you will see less argument, less defiance, and less withdrawal.

Moments of empathic understanding then open a pathway toward emotional maturity. Your child becomes, in small increments, more open to compromise and problem solving.  In this way, our empathy helps bring about a decisive change in children’s attitudes and behavior; a fulcrum shift in their emotional development—a movement away from urgent and insistent demands and toward tolerance for disappointments and frustrations, and acceptance of personal responsibility.


KENNETH BARISH, Ph.D

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Shares some important concepts about parental empathy influencing a child's brain development as well as their behavior and attitudes.

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Nurturing Empathy | Attachment Parenting

Babies and children require empathy and respect for their feelings to help them learn to feel safe and secure.

The Attached Family

API's The Attached Family online magazine, updated weekly with articles on a variety of topics, is an extension of the quarterly The Attached Family print magazine. The following articles on Nurturing Empathy in Children are accessible at no cost on The Attached Family online magazine.


Please consider joining API to help support API's ability to continue providing this information.


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Developing Empathy: Raising Children who Care

Developing Empathy: Raising Children who Care | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

What is Empathy?
Empathy is the ability to understand the feelings of others, feel what they feel, and respond in helpful, compassionate ways. Children who are able to identify with and comfort others make friends more easily, generally perform better academically, and demonstrate a higher level of moral and emotional development.


How do we teach empathy?

  • Infants: (Birth to 1 yr.) ...
  • Toddlers: (1-2yrs.) ... ( name feelings)
  • Pre-schoolers: (3-5 Yrs....) (share) 
  • Ages 5 and up:... (model behaviors).


Model empathy...

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The article makes good points i.e. how adults interact with children and model empathy is important at all ages.

 

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Sophia Tara's curator insight, April 25, 12:55 PM

Model empathy: Above all, remember that parents are their children's first and most influential teachers.  If we expect our children to grow into caring, empathetic adults we must model these behaviors. Let your children see your kind and thoughtful actions, hear you express your concern for the feelings of others, and demonstrate empathetic parenting. Listen carefully to your children and ask questions that help them clarify their thoughts and feelings. 

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What is Empathic CBT?

What is Empathic CBT? | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

The new combination of CBT, the power of empathy and the addition of neurobiology is an integrative therapeutic tool developed by Dr. Arthur Ciaramicoli, our chief medical officer, over the last 35 years. This unique psychology perspective will provide you with the most comprehensive self-help vehicle to date. 


CBT corrects distorted thinking, empathy calms the emotional brain so we can use this capacity to perceive accurately and thoughtfully, and neurochemistry allows us to produce our own natural chemicals that create calm, focused energy to do and be the best we can be. These three components produce a synergy that enhances our lives and releases our potential. Never before have these three elements been combined in one practical formula to reduce the inordinate amount of stress in our society and in our world.


Dr. Ciaramicoli has been practicing with these three elements for many years and is absolutely convinced that this distinctive formula will prove quite profitable to all those willing to do the work necessary for advanced mental health.

Dr. Arthur P. Ciaramicoli
Clinical Psychologist/Author of The Curse of the Capable, Performance Addiction, The Power of Empathy, and Treatment of Abuse and Addiction:A Holistic Approach. Expert Panel SoundMindz.



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Study: Oxytocin Conditions Intergroup Relations Through Upregulated In-Group Empathy, Cooperation, Conformity, and Defense.

Study: Oxytocin Conditions Intergroup Relations Through Upregulated In-Group Empathy, Cooperation, Conformity, and Defense. | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

Humans live in, rely on, and contribute to groups. Evolution may have biologically prepared them to quickly identify others as belonging to the in-group (versus not), to decode emotional states, and to empathize with in-group members; to learn and conform to group norms and cultural practices; to extend and reciprocate trust and cooperation; and to aggressively protect the in-group against outside threat. We review evidence that these components of human group psychology rest on and are modulated by the hypothalamic neuropeptide oxytocin.


It appears that oxytocin motivates and enables humans to

  • 1) like and empathize with others in their groups,
  • 2) comply with group norms and cultural practices, and
  • 3) extend and reciprocate trust and cooperation, which may give rise to intergroup discrimination and sometimes defensive aggression against threatening (members of) out-groups.


We explore the possibility that deficiencies in (components of) group psychology, seen in autistic spectrum disorder, schizophrenia, and borderline personality and social anxiety disorders, may be reduced by oxytocin administration. Avenues for new research are highlighted, and implications for the role of oxytocin in cooperation and competition within and between groups are discussed.

Authors: De Dreu CK, Kret ME

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(Empathic Pathologies) Narcissists Lack Empathy Here's How To Spot One - YouTube

Want to know how to spot a narcissist before you date him or her?
If you know that narcissists lack empathy, there are communication skills you can learn that will help you avoid getting involved with them, before you take the plunge.
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Hey Are You Really Listening or Just Hearing?

Hey Are You Really Listening or Just Hearing? | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

by:  Michelle Adams - Gordon Training International


We all need people who will listen, who will give us what Dr. Carl Rogers referred to as minimal evaluative feedback (or Reflective Listening) and what was later named as Active Listening by Dr. Richard Farson.


I doubt there is anything one can do that will build high quality relationships more rapidly or maintain them as solidly.


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(Empathic Parenting) Are You Listening Without Empathy?

(Empathic Parenting) Are You Listening Without Empathy? | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
A real danger for parents who try to learn Active Listening solely from a book’s printed page is their inability to hear the warmth and empathy that must accompany their efforts. Empathy means a quality of communication that conveys to the sender of a message that the listener is feeling with her, putting herself in the shoes of the sender, living, for a moment, inside the sender.


Everyone wants others to understand how she feels when she talks, not just what she is saying. Children, especially, are feeling people. Therefore, much of what they communicate is accompanied by feelings: joy, hate, disappointment, fear, love, worry, anger, pride, frustration, sadness, and so on. When they communicate with parents, they expect empathy with such feelings.


When parents don’t empathize, children naturally feel that the essential part of them at that moment–their feeling–is not being understood. Probably, the most common mistake parents make when they first try out Active Listening is to feed back a response devoid of the feeling component of the child’s message.

 

Here’s an example:

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"A real danger for parents who try to learn Active Listening solely from a book’s printed page is their inability to hear the warmth and empathy that must accompany their efforts. Empathy means a quality of communication that conveys to the sender of a message that the listener is feeling with her, putting herself in the shoes of the sender, living, for a moment, inside the sender."

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(Empathic leadership) Why is empathy becoming a vital skill for leaders ?

(Empathic leadership) Why is empathy becoming a vital skill for leaders ? | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

Do situations arise at work that confuse the way you relate professionally and personally with your colleagues?


Have you ever listened to a colleague who felt upset about a problem and then felt uncomfortable about giving them feedback about their performance?...


Empathic leadership means we consider the needs of those who will be impacted by our decisions and wherever possible, we include these people in the decision making process. This action requires skill, courage, compassion, focus and determination.

Empathic leadership is not for those who want to be liked it’s for those who embody empathic concern.  

Its easy to confuse emotional empathy with counselling, this is not the role of a leader or manager in the workplace.

Tracy Seed

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Dialogue and Empathy through Immersive Arts Experiences | UNESCO-NIE Centre for Arts Research in Education (CARE)

Dialogue and Empathy through Immersive Arts Experiences | UNESCO-NIE Centre for Arts Research in Education (CARE) | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
Drawing on lessons learned in the creative and collaborative process, ArtsWok Collaborative will share insights about the principles of practice when designing an aesthetic experience that is dialogic and builds empathy, amidst a wider questioning of the purposes of civic engagement.
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The Business Power of Empathy | CRM Buyer

The Business Power of Empathy | CRM Buyer | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
In our high-powered, win-at-all-costs business environment, the word "empathy" often evokes derision and scorn. Who has time to be a squishy, touchy-feely wimp overflowing with empathy? We're all busy closing deals and kicking butt!

Kicking, closing, etc., is great and all -- but empathy has genuine business value. Don't forget that CRM has "relationship" right in the middle of it. Relationships are what keep customers, and keeping customers is the route to profitability. And you can't create great customer relationships without a degree of empathy.


By Christopher J. Bucholtz 

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Jennifer Calise Discusses 4 Benefits of Empathy Marketing

Jennifer Calise Discusses 4 Benefits of Empathy Marketing | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
Jennifer Calise, chief marketing officer of fishbat, discusses the effects of empathy marketing on branding. "Having empathy for the customer allows companies to fine tune the brand experience and ultimately meet their needs in better ways. It's natural for customers to want to build loyalty to specific brands.


Once we can identify the ideal consumer for a product, it's a matter of learning how their mind works, through interviews and observations so that we can nurture the relationship."


Here are four benefits companies can achieve through empathy marketing:


1. Companies learn the driving forces behind their customers' loyalty.


2. Customers feel appreciated.


3. Customers routinely show their loyalty via social media.


4. Negative feedback becomes an opportunity to earn a customer's loyalty.

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Empathy Weekly: The revolution in human relationships

Empathy Weekly: The revolution in human relationships | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

Empathy Weekly, by Martin: The revolution in human relationships

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How To Use Empathy Even When You Don’t Think You Can

How To Use Empathy Even When You Don’t Think You Can | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

There are many explanations for why parents are not using empathy with their kids. The most common reasons are the following:


1. Empathy is not natural:
Many parents do not know how to speak empathetically to kids.... 


2. Empathy sounds too permissive:
Some parents feel that they can empathize with their child if they are scared, disappointed or hurt...


3. Empathy does not let you express your opinion or give advice:
Sometimes children and more so teens, will act in a way that conflicts with their parent’s principles....


The skill of empathy can be used in so many different ways. It is an excellent way to help us avoid conflict and to promote a strong and loving relationship with our children.

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I Feel Your Pain: The Neuroscience of Empathy

I Feel Your Pain: The Neuroscience of Empathy | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
Empathy is rooted in our neurological makeup.


Though not entirely responsible for empathy, mirror neurons do help us detect when another person is angry, sad or happy, and allow us to feel what the person is feeling as if we were in their place.


Ramachandran suspects that mirror neuron research will lead to understanding purportedmind reading abilities, which may in fact have an organic explanation, such as a strong empathic occurrence in which one’s emotional/physical sensations are experienced by the other.


Mirror neurons are important in learning and language acquisition. Through imitation, vicarious learning allows for the construction of culture and tradition.


Noam Bin Noon

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