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Why Empathy Precedes Compassion

Why Empathy Precedes Compassion | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

Empathy minus the feeling of being overwhelmed moves us in the direction of compassion. It enables us to be a loving force for good in the world.

 

I use this four-level hierarchy to explain the differences between apathy, sympathy, empathy and compassion.
Apathy = I don't care. You are unimportant to me.

Sympathy = I see you and I am feel sorry about your plight. This can feel like one-up/one-down. The person I "feel sympathy for" may feel pitied -- which doesn't feel good. But this is a step up from apathy. I might donate money or express concern from sympathy.

Empathy = I feel what you feel. This is a peer-to-peer experience. When you are sad, I feel the sadness in my body/mind/heart. This has a genuine caring texture to the person who is suffering. But you might feel like you are riding the emotional rollercoaster of emotions. You and I might feel unsafe and distance ourselves if feeling another's pain becomes too much.

Compassion = I feel what you feel and it doesn't overwhelm my circuits. My wisdom circuits remain active and I modulate my emotional state. I see a larger picture. I act skillfully to relieve suffering where I can, or to sit with people who just need accompaniment in their pain (or their joy).

 

by Cindy Wigglesworth

 

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the definitition in of empathy in this article is not very accurate and more like a form of sympathy. For a more indept Definition of Empathy see
http://bit.ly/J6fK91

 

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To Newspaper Front Page: All Sections

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Where Do You Draw the Line Between Empathy and Helicopter Parenting?

Where Do You Draw the Line Between Empathy and Helicopter Parenting? | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

by Lisa Fuller

As the mother of a middle school girl, I struggle to be empathetic without jumping on the roller coaster of her ever-changing moods, emotions and dramas. And, as a woman in her late 40s, my emotions are often a 6 Flags of hormonally-induced thrills, so staying detached feels nearly impossible at times..

From Helicopter Parenting to Empathy

  • Validate her feelings. In your story Michelle, you give nice examples of how you did this — letting her cry and stay in her feelings, etc.
  • Resist the urge to fix..
  • Share your own story of disappointment...
  • Be present...
  • Practice mindfulness. ...
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Dialogue and Empathy: Necessary Skills in Civic Engagement

Dialogue and Empathy: Necessary Skills in Civic Engagement | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

Being part of initiatives that make reflection, discourse, and discussion central has been transformative and taught me a vital skillset.  This experience taught me how to talk to people about difficult subjects and it developed my sense of empathy.


These discourse and empathetic learnings I hold parallel to the events of fall 2014 throughout the United States.  I will name specifically Ferguson, Missouri, but the incidents expanded beyond this single locale.  Furthermore, these incidents are nothing new in this country but, due to a variety of factors, they captured national attention.  Responses on college campuses ranged from nonexistent to significant protest.  The former is a shame.  The latter can be an effective mechanism to bring upon social change.  However, there is a third option that all college campuses should seek to cultivate.


In conclusion, learning reflection skills and dialogue, while developing a sense of empathy, are crucial factors in any civic engagement initiative.   Without these, we are just putting students to work.
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Carl Rogers on Empathy and Presence

Presentations at CarlRogers.info: New World / New Person Pt. 1 2/22/81
Full audio at: http://carlrogers.info/audio.html
More on Rogers and Empathy at: http://j.mp/V88gdn

Starts talking about empathy and empathic listening at 40:30, discusses presence from 42:00 to end.
Transcript:
"You've heard much in this conference about the skill of empathic listening. I simply want to underscore what has been said because I believe that it plays a large part in our future. I come to believe that a very sensitive listening is one of the most powerful forces for growth that I know.

When I can let myself enter softly and delicately, the vulnerable inner world of the other person.
When I can temporarily lay aside my views and values and prejudices.
When I can let myself be at home in the fright, the concern, the pain, the anger, the tenderness, the confusion, which fills his or her life.
When I can move about in that inner world without making judgments,.
When I can see that world with fresh unfrightened eyes.
When I can check the accuracy of my sensing's with him or her being guided by the responses I receive.

Then I can be a companion to that inner person, pointing to the felt meanings of what is being experienced. Then I find myself to be a true helper, a welcome companion, and aid to growth and help.


Listening seems such a easy word, I find it a lifetime task to achieve true listening and a task well worth the effort.

There is another very subtle factor in the healing relationship which I have experienced and that I would call presence. It is certainly known to physicians. ..... I to have experienced this. When I am at my best as a group facilitator, or a therapist, I discover this characteristic. I find that when I am closest to my inner intuitive self, when I am somehow in touch with the unknown in me, when perhaps I am in a slightly altered state of consciousness, then what ever I do seems to be full of healing. Then simply my presence is releasing and helpful....

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How Psychopath Ideology Can Be Crushed By Empathy

How Psychopath Ideology Can Be Crushed By Empathy | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
Art has the power to be more transforming than any harsh law or order. It is the only moral way of using deception, because it creates genuine emotions. Deception Can be used in art to transform a psychopath into an empath.

A psychopath never treats another person as an equal and it is through relationships that involve having power over the other person that a psychopath develops a strong sense of invulnerability. An empath can overturn this by demonstrating that malleability is a far greater asset to possess than a solid sense of invulnerability.

Empathy allows your thoughts to take a different form so they can easily adapt to fit another shape. This will take you on a far greater personal adventure than the solid sticking points of psychopathology, which act as a barrier to freedom.
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My son seems to lack empathy. Is that okay?

My son seems to lack empathy. Is that okay? | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
Question: My first-grader doesn’t seem empathetic at all. Last night at dinner, he happily mentioned how when he was introducing himself in a group, his thing that others didn’t know about him was that he hated his older brother.


His poor brother looked stricken and almost burst into tears. If you had asked me before, I would have said they had a very close, friendly relationship. Talking about it later, it was clear he had put zero thought into whether it would hurt his brother’s feelings. He’s good at identifying his own emotions but doesn’t seem to notice anyone else’s at all.


Answer: Empathy is such an important part of development, and you’re far from the first to ask why your child doesn’t show empathy. 


So, let’s start with the easy question: What is empathy?



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NY Times Op-Ed: Where’s the Empathy? by Nicholas Kristof

NY Times Op-Ed: Where’s the Empathy? by Nicholas Kristof | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

That acerbic condescension reflects one of this country’s fundamental problems: an empathy gap. It reflects the delusion on the part of many affluent Americans that those like Kevin are lazy or living cushy lives.


A poll released this month by the Pew Research Center found that wealthy Americans mostly agree that “poor people today have it easy because they can get government benefits without doing anything in return.”

Lazy? Easy? Kevin used to set out with his bicycle and a little trailer to collect cans by the roadside. He would make about $20 a day...


Those who would judge you don’t have a clue. They could use a dose of your own empathy.


 by Nicholas Kristof

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The Intriguing New Science That Could Change Your Mind About Rats | WIRED

The Intriguing New Science That Could Change Your Mind About Rats | WIRED | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

As Oxford University zoologist Alex Kacelnik and colleagues noted in a 2012 Biology Lettersreflection on empathy research, some ants display helping behaviors similar to Mason and Ben-Ami Bartal’s rats. “Any solid evidence for empathy in non-humans would be a notable advance,” they wrote, “but, in our view, it remains unproven outside humans.”


Other researchers defended the possibility of rat empathy.


“Ants are not rats,”quipped Frans de Waal, an Emory University ethologist who has written extensively about empathy, on Facebook. “It would be totally surprising, from a Darwinian perspective, if humans had empathy and other mammals totally lacked it.” As for Mason and Ben-Ami Bartal, they’ve downplayed the empathy interpretation in their latest work, restricting it to speculative discussion.

we think of this oft-reviled creature, and maybe even ourselves.


BY BRANDON KEIM  

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BLOG: Empathy. What's the big idea?

BLOG: Empathy. What's the big idea? | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
Empathy. We all know what it is. Empathy is an essential part of being human, of connecting with and understanding other humans. Empathy is a word that most of us instantly ‘get’. Or so we believe. I’ve spent the best part of the last three years seeking to deepen my knowledge of empathy.


Recently, I returned from twelve months of exploration in India, seeking new perspectives on age-old questions.

What exactly is empathy?

How does it work?

Who is actively applying it?

What are the implications?

Leading me to consider the future and the role empathy could play.


by Nathan Wiltshire


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Where to Start on Empathy? 5 Essential Reads - A Beginner's Guide to Studying Up on Empathy'

Where to Start on Empathy? 5 Essential Reads - A Beginner's Guide to Studying Up on Empathy' | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

Over the last few years, empathy has taken over my life. The fascination with human understanding has become a deep running passion as the result of many long hours of research, countless exhilarating discussions, and increasing experimentations seeking new ways to apply empathy in business, education, social programs, and public policy.


At first it was extremely challenging to grasp, with a holistic view of empathy covering fields as diverse as neuroscience, anthropology, philosophy, biology, psychology and innovation (to name a few). Adding to my beginner’s confusion was a lack of coherent definition for empathy – the term has almost as many descriptions as it does commentators. As we colloquially say in Australia, a dog's breakfast! 


 1.     Empathy: A handbook for revolution by Roman Krznaric...

2.     Down and Out in Paris and London by George Orwell...

3.     Zero Degrees of Empathy by Simon Baron-Cohen...

4.     Empathy: A motivated account by Jamil Zaki...

5.     Well Designed: How to use empathy to create products people love by Jon Kolko...


Nathan Wiltshire is a human-centred innovation specialist on a mission to transform our thinking with empathy. His work includes with higher education at the University of Technology Sydney and developing immersive empathic innovation experiences with Delhi-based, Samaahit Immersion. An earlier version of this post originally appeared on Nathan's blog - subscribe and follow him on Twitter for more thoughts on empathy.



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Putting empathy back on the workplace agenda: Why is empathy relevant in today's business environment?

Putting empathy back on the workplace agenda:  Why is empathy relevant in today's business environment? | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

One of the more surprising items on the British political agenda this year was empathy.


 This is largely thanks to Labour leader Ed Miliband, who has cited empathy as one of his core political values and has even recruited the help of empathy expert Professor Simon Baron Cohen to develop his “politics of empathy”. 


 It is too early to know whether Mr. Miliband’s initiative will bear fruit in the political domain.  But it isn’t too early for the HR community to take note and consider the case for pushing empathy up its own agenda.

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The limits of empathy for an executive

The limits of empathy for an executive | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

Our findings suggest that decades’ of prior research failed to reveal how empathy can turn into a liability for an executive—particularly when it’s not accompanied by other components of EQ. Empathy must be accompanied with other social-behavioral skills in order to be an asset.  


James Lewis,


Executive Insights The limits of empathy for executives

report http://www.kornferryinstitute.com/sites/all/files//documents/briefings-magazine-download/The%2 0limits%20of%20empathy%20for%20executives.pdf 

Too much empathy can be a liability for an executive— particularly if it’s not balanced out by other components of emotional intelligence. A Korn Ferry study of 2,000 C-level executives found that those who overemphasize empathy are among the least engaged leaders and at high risk of derailing.

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Empathy, Engagement And The Brain

Empathy, Engagement And The Brain | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

The failure to understand one’s own emotions and to recognize their impact on others is a source of much personal and intra-personal conflict. In contrast, the understanding of one’s own emotions allows for self-regulation of disruptive emotions and impulses and helps in adapting to changing circumstances.


Empathy is a particularly important emotion in considering other people’s feelings especially when making decisions and is therefore a basic component of all helpful human relationships including effective, therapeutic interventions.


The best healthcare providers know this; yet empathy is often lacking in professional practice as frequently reported by patients.

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Study: Empathy and humanity. Fuchsman K.

Study: Empathy and humanity. Fuchsman K. | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
This has been called the Age of Empathy; empathy is seen as the glue that holds society together, the capacity without which humans would not have evolved. It is the ability to accurately perceive others internal states and to have affective responses to them. Empathy is most likely to emerge with those with whom we are familiar, those that are an 'us'. Universally, humans divide 'us' and 'them.'


Those in the out-group are treated with disdain, and sometimes with lethal actions. In human history and psychology, trends often move in opposite directions.


Empathy has a limited domain, and is accompanied by hostility to 'outsiders'.

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The Heart of Empathy:

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What does it take to be a helper in the 21st century? The distinguished authors of this powerful book combine a lifetime of research, development and practice in human behavior and development to define the answer.


The result is a single, thought-provoking volume that should be required reading for every individual.

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THE EMPATHY CYCLE

THE EMPATHY CYCLE | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

Violence and disparities in health and education can chip away at empathy, or jeopardize it all together.


One of the biggest and most heart wrenching recent examples of the importance of empathy, particularly as it relates to violence in America, can be found in the Mike Brown and Eric Garner cases. Perhaps if there was more empathy for and within these communities in general, resulting in more action and policy change across the board, these events never would have occurred. Wishful thinking, perhaps, but a compelling thought nonetheless.

While empathy is difficult to measure, organizations like Ashoka are working to study the long-term effects of encouraging empathy and trauma-informed care.

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Reading Literary Fiction Impacts Theory of Mind. Emanuele Castano

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Reading Literary Fiction Impacts Theory of Mind. Article Published in the journal Science, and Media Coverage

I recently co-authored with my graduate student David Kidd a scientific article in which we investigated the effects that reading literary fiction has on our capacity to infer and represent other people’s mental states – a capacity that is called Theory of Mind in psychological literature. The article reported results from five experiments and was published in Science.

The article has received extensive media coverage worldwide. Among others radios, TVs 


(see TV interview here) and newspapers, this work is discussed in several NPR programs (All Things Considered, The Diane Rehm Show, and NPR Books) and international radio (FRANCEinter).


Emanuele Castano, 
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Video: Police techniques used to establish empathy

Video: Police techniques used to establish empathy | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

Investigators give insight into techniques used to establish empathy with suspects and how they work to get the confession needed to close the case.

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Veritas Forum held on empathy

Veritas Forum held on empathy | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
USC hosted the Veritas Forum discussion yesterday night in Town and Gown. This year’s forum, “Neighbors: A Campus Conversation on Race, Empathy and Faith,” featured guest speakers, Dr. Jody Armour of the Gould Law School and visiting speaker William Tate, dean of the Graduate School of Arts and Sciences at Washington University in St. Louis.


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NY Times: How Do We Increase Empathy?

NY Times: How Do We Increase Empathy? | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it


In my last column, I wrote about a high school buddy, Kevin Green, a warm and helpful man who floundered in a tough job market, hurt his back and died at the age of 54. The column was a call for empathy for those who are struggling, but, predictably, scolds complained that Kevin’s problems were of his own making. Grrrr.


So what do we know about empathy and how to nurture it?


First, it seems hard-wired. Even laboratory rats will sometimes free a trapped companion before munching on a food treat.


“Probably the biggest empathy generator is cuteness: paedomorphic features such as large eyes, a large head, and a small lower face,” Steven Pinker, the Harvard psychologist, tells me.


“Professional empathy entrepreneurs have long known this, of course, which is why so many charities feature photos of children and why so many conservation organizations feature pandas.


Nicholas Kristof


How to increase empathy?

  • cuteness
  • wealth may impedes empathy
  • think about suffering 
  • seeing empathic acts 
  • reading and seeing fiction
  • student service projects,
  •  travel


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Validation: Beyond Empathy

Validation: Beyond Empathy | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

I have a tendency to talk incessantly aboutempathy.  And if you're my devoted readers, you know that empathy means conveying that you really understand another person's point of view, completely.  You don't have to share the same perspective, but you 100 percent genuinely understand what they mean.  So here's empathy:

 

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Empathy: A motivated account by Jamil Zaki

Empathy: A motivated account by Jamil Zaki | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

We often think of empathy as an automatic process. However, empathy is often context-dependent. Our willingness to empathize with others changes with different situations and with different people.A new paper by Jamil Zaki resolves this tension by underscoring the role of motivation in empathy.


Motives drive our willingness to empathize. In his paper, Zaki highlights specific motives that drive people to avoid and approach empathy, illustrates a motivated model of empathy, and suggests potential interventions to maximize empathy.For a complete list of SSNL publications, click here


http://ssnl.stanford.edu/sites/default/files/pdf/zaki2014_motivatedEmpathy.pdf?width=85%25&height=85%25&iframe=true



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Compassion fatigue: Why are Animal Caretakers Suffering as Much as the Animals?

Compassion fatigue: Why are Animal Caretakers Suffering as Much as the Animals? | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
Animal shelter workers are responsible for lives every day. Those difficult decisions that no one wants to make clash with their innate empathy, compassion and love for animals, and can lead to:

Sleepless nights
Nightmares
Alcohol or drug abuse
Emotional “numbing”
Feelings of guilt
Depression


by Jessica Ramos

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Atheists: Is empathy the real driver of morality?

Atheists: Is empathy the real driver of morality? | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
Every secular expert that I've heard speak on the subject has said that, rather than dictates from God, what really drives moral behavior is empathy.


I can imagine or remember what it would feel like to go through something negative, and I therefore would not want to inflict this onto another.


The supposed logical extension is that people who act immorally simply have a broken empathy engine.


Do I understand this correctly? If I do, I still don't understand how putting myself in someone's shoes would make me not want to wrong them. I do not want to be stolen from. I know what it feels like to be stolen from. I don't understand how this makes me want to not steal from others.

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Transforming business: The four faces of empathy

Transforming business: The four faces of empathy | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it

Your business is filled with people. If you want to connect with them on a meaningful level, empathy is the key.


Here we explore how empathy plays a vital role in shifting brands from a bland and vulnerable position, to one that is robust in meaning and purpose.


Empathy as a driver of brand strategy

...As such, empathy leads you to the deep-rooted connections that can be forged to create strong and enduring bonds...


Empathy as a cultural ethos

...empathy helps you better engage and motivate employees. This means they’ll be far more likely to listen to, appreciate, and follow your leadership...


Empathy as an engine of innovation

...An empathetic attitude sheds new light on what’s needed now and how to best address that need or opportunity...


Empathy as a leadership practice

We’re all born empathetic. As babies we all had the capacity to perceive how others were feeling and what they were experiencing...

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Why Is Yawning Contagious? Looking to Chimps for Answers - YouTube

Why Is Yawning Contagious? Looking to Chimps for Answers - YouTube | Empathy and Compassion | Scoop.it
People are not the only animals who yawn, or who catch yawns from each other; dogs and chimps even catch human yawns. It may have to do with empathy, which s...
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