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Futurity.org – Books contain fewer words about feelings

Futurity.org – Books contain fewer words about feelings | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Research news from leading universities
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This research is concerning, "Other than fear, words about emotions have steadily decreased in books throughout the last century, say researchers." And it makes one reflect on the impact this may be having on the current mood in our country. It is also concerning to think that one of the gifts humans have is to be abe to feel, but we need language to help us communicate our emotions. I wonder how this might affect our emotional intelligence and to use this critical intelligence to help us navigate a very complicated world.

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Are 'machine values' replacing our principles? - Futurity

Are 'machine values' replacing our principles? - Futurity | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
"We are losing empathy, compassion, truth-telling, fairness, and responsibility and replacing them with all these machine values," says Michael Bugeja.
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Warning: “We are losing empathy, compassion, truth-telling, fairness, and responsibility and replacing them with all these machine values,” Bugeja says. “If we embed ourselves in technology, what happens to those universal principles that have stopped wars and elevated human consciousness and conscience above more primitive times in history?”

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Skills for the Future: Break Patterns and Surprise Yourself, says Harvard’s Michael Puett

Skills for the Future: Break Patterns and Surprise Yourself, says Harvard’s Michael Puett | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
What are the key skills for the future? In our special multi-part series, experts share valuable and surprising insights we can use to build tomorrow’s world. In this part Harvard professor Michael Puett explains the skill of breaking patterns and its impact on your life, your leadership, and on the people you interact with.
The best thing about listening to someone who challenges your day-to-day assumptions is that you learn something about yourself. Michael Puett, Harvard’s tall and boyish-looking expert on ancient China, certainly made me think when he explained how we are ruled by patterns, and how we can live better lives if we learn to break those patterns. I felt sorry when his talk at The School of Life (London, February 2017) came to an end after 2 hours. I would like to meet him again.
Here are the best insights Michael Puett shared with us in London (I leave his high-pitched voice and frequent smiles to your imagination):

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One of the competencies of the 6 Seconds model of emotional intelligence is Recognizing Patterns. It was one of the most powerful and revealing one for me. Patterns operate under our radar, but learning to be aware of our emotions that cue our patterns is critical to changing and breaking a pattern that is not working for you.

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David Hain's curator insight, March 21, 6:18 AM

What are the patterns in your life. maybe they are the key to your growth...?

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What do you think?

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Oxytocin may drive dads to nurture their toddlers - Futurity

Oxytocin may drive dads to nurture their toddlers - Futurity | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
After a "snort" of oxytocin, the brains of dads changed in response to photos of their toddlers. Could hormones reform lackluster fathers?
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I think the world needs more oxytocin than testosterone. 
For sometime we've know that oxytocin hormone increased bonding between mothers and infants and it is alsorelated to trust. Dr. Paul Zak has done extensive research on the affects of oxytocin on human relationships and also the trust in a culture an it's affects on the economies and cultures. We could all use a little nasal whiff of oxytocin.

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From Individuals to Teams: the Importance of Emotional Intelligence - Meeteor

From Individuals to Teams: the Importance of Emotional Intelligence - Meeteor | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Inspired by Goleman’s work, researchers Vanessa Druskat and Steven Wolff looked at emotional intelligence at the group level. They found that “just like individuals, the most effective teams are emotionally intelligent ones,” and that “a group’s Emotional Intelligence isn’t simply the sum of its members.”
Instead, if you think about a group as one entity, a group’s emotional intelligence is its ability to create a shared set of norms that manage the emotional process. These norms help a group build trust, establish identity, and achieve results. By establishing norms at three levels of interaction – the individuals within a team, the team itself, and the team interacting with other teams – leaders can help their teams build awareness of and manage emotions.

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Emotionally intelligent teams work and play better together. First step as a team leader - develop your EQ.

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EQ tips for better team collaboration.

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What is Learning? Emotional Intelligence for an Adventure of Growth

What is learning? It’s a process of growth… starting at a neurological level, new connections forming… At work, in life, and hopefully in every classroom, people are working to teach and learn. It’s a mental process — but current neuroscience confirms learning is also physical, social, and emotional. Are you someone committed to learning and helping others learn? If so, perhaps you’ve considered:
How does learning work best?
In the Six Seconds community, we’re starting this year focused on this big question and understanding the role of emotions and emotional intelligence as our brains build new insight and meaning. The adventure starts now with five essential highlights (plus inspiring learning quotes) below.

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Learning is a full body contact sport without concern for concussions!

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David Hain's curator insight, January 27, 6:47 AM

Learning is fairly Darwinian - those of us who do it best tend to thrive. Worth looking at this useful resource, then...?

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A call for responsive and responsible leadership

A call for responsive and responsible leadership | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
World leaders must understand that we are living in a world marked by uncertainty, volatility and deep transformational changes, says Professor Klaus Schwab.
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Leaders will need emotional intelligence: " leaders need sensitivity and empathy to serve as their radar system, and values and vision as their compass. Without a radar system, leaders cannot be responsive; and without a compass, they cannot exercise leadership responsibly."

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You probably know to ask yourself, “What do I want?” Here’s a way better question

You probably know to ask yourself, “What do I want?” Here’s a way better question | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when yo
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The key to achieving what you want is  your willingness to manage the frustration and pain to make your want a reality. Emotional intelligence is essential to getting what you want.

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Delayed Gratification: A Scientific Perspective on Self-Control

Delayed Gratification: A Scientific Perspective on Self-Control | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
If given a choice between receiving 10 dollars today and 100 dollars tomorrow, most of us would likely opt for the latter. This kind of decision-making process is what psychologists call Delayed Gratification, and we practice it every time we consciously forgo immediate rewards to reap the benefits of a more distant goal.

Whenever we log out of Facebook to focus on our work, or when we choose to save our hard earned paychecks to travel instead of spending them on impromptu shopping sprees, we are choosing delayed gratification and executing our self-control.


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The key to self-Control is the ability to understand and manage your feelings and emotions.

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David Hain's curator insight, December 8, 2016 3:10 AM

Marshmallows and strategies for self-control - more important than it may sound!

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4 Tips for Raising Happy, Emotionally Healthy Children

4 Tips for Raising Happy, Emotionally Healthy Children | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Many of us don't learn to understand or process our emotions growing up. If you want raise happy, emotionally healthy children, this may help.
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There has been concern recently on how to help children with their feelings about world events. This article provides advice for  adults and parents on how to work with emotions productively.

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Bringing Empathy to Work  

Empathy is central to all of our most significant relationships. It should come as no surprise then that empathy and emotional intelligence are central to successfully leading and collaborating with colleagues and clients.

 

And yet, with the infusion of virtual teams, virtual workplaces and technology in our working lives, we are seeing an overall lack of empathy and connection in our workplace and professional relationships.


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How We Avoid Our Feelings and How Embracing Them Sets Us Free

How We Avoid Our Feelings and How Embracing Them Sets Us Free | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
“We numb our minds and heart so one need not be broken and the other need not be bothered.” ~Peggy Haymes Feelings are important, no doubt about it. They communicate all sorts of information to us. I don’t know about you, but I’ve preferred to ignore some of that information. Raise your hand if you would much rather feel the good feelings and just jump right over the not so good ones. Okay, so it’s unanimous. We all prefer the good, happy feelings. I expect we are all experts at finding ways to avoid the uncomfortable ones. But maybe weRead more ›
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This is a great article on how emotions drive our behavior both positively and negatively and how by developing our EQ we can substantially improve every aspect of our life.

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Leadership and behavior: Mastering the mechanics of reason and emotion | McKinsey & Company

Leadership and behavior: Mastering the mechanics of reason and emotion | McKinsey & Company | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it

The confluence of economics, psychology, game theory, and neuroscience has opened new vistas—not just on how people think and behave, but also on how organizations function. Over the past two decades, academic insight and real-world experience have demonstrated, beyond much doubt, that when companies channel their competitive and collaborative instincts, embrace diversity, and recognize the needs and emotions of their employees, they can reap dividends in performance.


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A model of human motivation that also supports the premise of this article about Mastering Reason and Emotion, is Self-Determination (SDT) theory. Daniel Pink's book, Drive, provides a good overview how this model can help leaders understand and motivate performance and engagement.

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David Hain's curator insight, October 5, 2016 6:02 AM

Fascinating discussion on decision making and its rational/emotional elements!

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How to Stop Being a People-Pleaser

How to Stop Being a People-Pleaser | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
We sometimes become pretty invested in our false selves, in the “representative,” as Glennon Doyle Melton calls it, that we send out into the world instead of showing up fully and authentically as ourselves. We create representatives to protect ourselves, often in response to unstable or abusive situations.
Sometimes, we aren’t yet able to separate our false selves from our real ones. We want to defend the important representative that has worked so hard for us for so long. And that’s okay…so long as we can see where our representative is holding us back, and that it is, of course, the truth that will eventually set us free.

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The key to unlocking the jail cell of people pleasing is emotional intelligence.

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David Hain's curator insight, September 22, 2016 4:28 AM

People pleasers - some tips to take of your mask and let your real feelings show.

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How Do Kids See the World on a Family Trip?

How Do Kids See the World on a Family Trip? | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
We gave 10 families a 360 video camera to show us a family trip through the eyes of a child. Their views varied widely and wildly.
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The article and accompanying videos are great! Seeing the world thru eyes of some other than your self is great way to experience not just the visual, but as importantly the emotional experience. When viewing the video's identify the emotions you notice in the children. Being emotionally intelligent is learning to notice and understand how others are emotionally experiencing their circumstances, events and the world.  

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Outbreaks hinge on sick people caring about others - Futurity

Outbreaks hinge on sick people caring about others - Futurity | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
How long an outbreak of the flu or a stomach bug lasts may depend on how much empathy sick people have for their work colleagues and friends.
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Quick get the empathy in the medicine cabinet!

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Ask Why: How to Motivate Yourself to Keep Going When Things Get Hard

Ask Why: How to Motivate Yourself to Keep Going When Things Get Hard | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
It's tempting to give up when things get hard, but the impossible becomes possible when you fuel the fire in your belly with a strong motivating reason.
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In my work with individual leaders and with organizations the first ground we address is what is your why. If the goal is to become a  more influential leader or creating a stronger culture of safety  - the why is the critical piece of the puzzle . Another way to position the why is purpose, north star or noble goal, but it is ineffective to pursue the what and how without knowing your why. My why/noble goal is, to awaken, inspire and empower human potential to create a safer and more just world. What's your why?

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How it feels when people see you as less human - Futurity

How it feels when people see you as less human - Futurity | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
"Feeling not only disliked, but dehumanized by another group has a profound effect on people," says Emile Bruneau.
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Great leaders know the power of emotions and use them to connect with people. They use them to show respect and to gain respect. They use emotions in a safe way - they use them to build trust. Abraham Lincoln was probably one of our most emotionally intelligent leaders. He didn't create fear, he didn't belittle and he didn't use emotions as weapons.

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Touchy moms may boost 'social brain' in kids - Futurity

Touchy moms may boost 'social brain' in kids - Futurity | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
New research "suggests that there is a positive relationship between how much kids are touched and how sensitive they are to the social environment."
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Could touching and hugs be a critical element in the development of emotional intelligence? This research indicates they are.

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How an emotional 'hangover' changes your brain - Futurity

How an emotional 'hangover' changes your brain - Futurity | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
The "emotional hangover" is a real phenomenon, according to research showing that emotional experiences have lingering effects on our brains.
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This is fascinating research that shows the positive and negative impact emotions can have on our lives, especially memory. Although, it highlights what effect emotions have on the brain and memory; it's also interesting to think about applying it to help make our lives safer and more productive.  If the brain retains information better after an emotional experience this could be applied to how we teach and facilitate instruction on safety and other important areas. It also suggest that as a leader if you address a subject with emotions and then proceed to the informational aspect, people will retain and remember the non-emotional parts better.

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Do You Reflect? 4 Simple Questions To Make Your Reflection A Habit

Do You Reflect? 4 Simple Questions To Make Your Reflection A Habit | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
When do you make time to reflect?
Is it at the end of the day or week? The end of the month, or even the year?
Perhaps after a project or challenging piece of work? Maybe you reflect after a particularly tough conversation?
It’s important to recognise that without these moments to reflect, your growth as a leader would be somewhat constrained.
How can you go about achieving clarity and self-awareness?
Read on for 4 simple questions you should be asking yourself after every day.

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I subscribe that there are three culture conditions that leaders should create and sustain to keep their organization open to change and for continuous improvement: Engagement, Practice and Reflection. This article provides a framework for creating the condition of reflection. The wording and focus may change but the process is worthwhile. One of the key questions in the process is how did you feel and did your feelings affect what you did?

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David Hain's curator insight, December 14, 2016 7:09 AM

Kevin Watson, @kjcoach, on why and how to make reflection part of our daily practice...

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Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action. - Peter Drucker
 
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Why “Be Positive” Isn’t the Best Advice When You’re Down

Why “Be Positive” Isn’t the Best Advice When You’re Down | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
When we're down, people often tell us to "be positive," which is as helpful as saying "cheer up." Befriending my negativity is what's helped me.
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Understanding how our emotions can be allies even the difficult ones is important.

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12 Powerful Gratitude Practices That Bring Joy

12 Powerful Gratitude Practices That Bring Joy | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
These simple gratitude practices are relatively easy to do, yet they bring huge benefits. Try one today to bring joy to yourself and others.
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An appropriate  story for the holidays - the practice of gratitude.

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Athletes play better after reminders that they'll die - Futurity

Athletes play better after reminders that they'll die - Futurity | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Reminding athletes of their impending deaths sounds like a bizarrely grim pep talk, but new research shows it can boost their performance.
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This was a fascinating piece of research. It opened my thinking  up on the power of  purpose and legacy and motivation. If basketball performance can be improved with feelings and thoughts of death how might our living be improved by confronting our mortality? 

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Tips for handling a toxic co-worker (and how to avoid becoming one)

Tips for handling a toxic co-worker (and how to avoid becoming one) | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
There are three important steps: Identifying the problem, confiding in someone you trust, and creating a strategy.
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This article provides a formula for handling difficult work relationships. The formula  suggests to Identify the problem, Confide in someone you trust and take action. This ICA formula is akin to the EQ model of VET: Validate how you are feeling, explore what is causing you to feel this way and to transform your feeling into one that will give you the energy to take positive action. The best solution to creating a less stressful and toxic work climate is raising the EQ level of everyone.

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Barbara Fredrickson: Positive Emotions Open Our Mind

Barbara Fredrickson discusses how positive emotions broaden our awareness of the world, allowing us to become more in tune with the needs of others.

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It appears that the world is more aware of negative emotions and therefore we are losing touch with the needs of others and becoming polarized.

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Sandeep Gautam's curator insight, October 1, 2016 11:25 PM
on the broadening effects of positive emotions.