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Why extroverts fail, introverts flounder and you probably succeed

Why extroverts fail, introverts flounder and you probably succeed | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
The conventional view that extroverts make the finest salespeople and leaders is so accepted that we’ve overlooked one teensy flaw: There’s almost no evidence it’s actually true.
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Helpful research. I've struggled with the ideas and concepts of Intro and extroverts and there relationship to career and job "fit" and achieivement. This helps to shed light on it. It also has implication for focusing on emotional inteligence rather than on personality or personal preference profiles.

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Create Wise Leader's curator insight, January 28, 2013 2:54 PM

This research into whether introverts or extraverts make the best sales people shows that agility to do both is most effective.  Probably a good combination of listening and talking. 

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Touchy moms may boost 'social brain' in kids - Futurity

Touchy moms may boost 'social brain' in kids - Futurity | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
New research "suggests that there is a positive relationship between how much kids are touched and how sensitive they are to the social environment."
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Could touching and hugs be a critical element in the development of emotional intelligence? This research indicates they are.

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How an emotional 'hangover' changes your brain - Futurity

How an emotional 'hangover' changes your brain - Futurity | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
The "emotional hangover" is a real phenomenon, according to research showing that emotional experiences have lingering effects on our brains.
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This is fascinating research that shows the positive and negative impact emotions can have on our lives, especially memory. Although, it highlights what effect emotions have on the brain and memory; it's also interesting to think about applying it to help make our lives safer and more productive.  If the brain retains information better after an emotional experience this could be applied to how we teach and facilitate instruction on safety and other important areas. It also suggest that as a leader if you address a subject with emotions and then proceed to the informational aspect, people will retain and remember the non-emotional parts better.

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Do You Reflect? 4 Simple Questions To Make Your Reflection A Habit

Do You Reflect? 4 Simple Questions To Make Your Reflection A Habit | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
When do you make time to reflect?
Is it at the end of the day or week? The end of the month, or even the year?
Perhaps after a project or challenging piece of work? Maybe you reflect after a particularly tough conversation?
It’s important to recognise that without these moments to reflect, your growth as a leader would be somewhat constrained.
How can you go about achieving clarity and self-awareness?
Read on for 4 simple questions you should be asking yourself after every day.

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I subscribe that there are three culture conditions that leaders should create and sustain to keep their organization open to change and for continuous improvement: Engagement, Practice and Reflection. This article provides a framework for creating the condition of reflection. The wording and focus may change but the process is worthwhile. One of the key questions in the process is how did you feel and did your feelings affect what you did?

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David Hain's curator insight, December 14, 2016 7:09 AM

Kevin Watson, @kjcoach, on why and how to make reflection part of our daily practice...

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Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action. - Peter Drucker
 
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Why “Be Positive” Isn’t the Best Advice When You’re Down

Why “Be Positive” Isn’t the Best Advice When You’re Down | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
When we're down, people often tell us to "be positive," which is as helpful as saying "cheer up." Befriending my negativity is what's helped me.
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Understanding how our emotions can be allies even the difficult ones is important.

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12 Powerful Gratitude Practices That Bring Joy

12 Powerful Gratitude Practices That Bring Joy | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
These simple gratitude practices are relatively easy to do, yet they bring huge benefits. Try one today to bring joy to yourself and others.
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An appropriate  story for the holidays - the practice of gratitude.

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Athletes play better after reminders that they'll die - Futurity

Athletes play better after reminders that they'll die - Futurity | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Reminding athletes of their impending deaths sounds like a bizarrely grim pep talk, but new research shows it can boost their performance.
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This was a fascinating piece of research. It opened my thinking  up on the power of  purpose and legacy and motivation. If basketball performance can be improved with feelings and thoughts of death how might our living be improved by confronting our mortality? 

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Tips for handling a toxic co-worker (and how to avoid becoming one)

Tips for handling a toxic co-worker (and how to avoid becoming one) | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
There are three important steps: Identifying the problem, confiding in someone you trust, and creating a strategy.
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This article provides a formula for handling difficult work relationships. The formula  suggests to Identify the problem, Confide in someone you trust and take action. This ICA formula is akin to the EQ model of VET: Validate how you are feeling, explore what is causing you to feel this way and to transform your feeling into one that will give you the energy to take positive action. The best solution to creating a less stressful and toxic work climate is raising the EQ level of everyone.

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Barbara Fredrickson: Positive Emotions Open Our Mind

Barbara Fredrickson discusses how positive emotions broaden our awareness of the world, allowing us to become more in tune with the needs of others.

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It appears that the world is more aware of negative emotions and therefore we are losing touch with the needs of others and becoming polarized.

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Sandeep Gautam's curator insight, October 1, 2016 11:25 PM
on the broadening effects of positive emotions.
Arron Saini's comment, October 10, 2016 3:29 AM
Everybody say to be positive. Lets know the reason behind of being positive and overcome negative. http://www.dadabhagwan.org/path-to-happiness/self-help/positive-thinking/why-be-positive-to-remain-happy/
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How to Avoid End-of-Life Regret: Stop Giving Your Life Away

How to Avoid End-of-Life Regret: Stop Giving Your Life Away | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Life is an invitation to grow and make a difference. Don't be the one dying with regret. Do not waste another minute being afraid to break out of your rut.
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Have you ever felt regret? Not a pleasant feeling, however if we understand it and use to change it can have a positive impact on our being. Unfortunately, we wait to long to take an inventory of our regrets, leaving us little time to transform our regrets into positive and affirming moments in our life.

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9 Brutal Truths About Emotional Intelligence Everyone Needs to Hear

9 Brutal Truths About Emotional Intelligence Everyone Needs to Hear | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Is E.I. all it's cracked up to be? Decide for yourself.
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Excellent points particularly this final point:

"in the end, that's what emotional intelligence is all about: making emotions work for you, instead of against you."

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The Daily Chore That Can Increase Mental Stimulation and Decrease Anxiety - PsyBlog

The Daily Chore That Can Increase Mental Stimulation and Decrease Anxiety - PsyBlog | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
When done properly, the chore decreased nervousness by 27% and increased mental inspiration by 25%.
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We The People

We The People | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
    Why do temperatures continue to rise every year?  Why are we fearful of and denying immigrants the opportunity for a safer and better life? Why are we fighting war after war
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Not Just Another Deceased Pet Story — Medium

Not Just Another Deceased Pet Story — Medium | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
“He’s 22,” the vet told my wife and me, “it’s time to let him go.”
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I wanted to share this touching and uplifting story because it vividly conveys how powerful and critical emotions are to our health and well-being

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A call for responsive and responsible leadership

A call for responsive and responsible leadership | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
World leaders must understand that we are living in a world marked by uncertainty, volatility and deep transformational changes, says Professor Klaus Schwab.
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Leaders will need emotional intelligence: " leaders need sensitivity and empathy to serve as their radar system, and values and vision as their compass. Without a radar system, leaders cannot be responsive; and without a compass, they cannot exercise leadership responsibly."

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You probably know to ask yourself, “What do I want?” Here’s a way better question

You probably know to ask yourself, “What do I want?” Here’s a way better question | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when yo
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The key to achieving what you want is  your willingness to manage the frustration and pain to make your want a reality. Emotional intelligence is essential to getting what you want.

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Delayed Gratification: A Scientific Perspective on Self-Control

Delayed Gratification: A Scientific Perspective on Self-Control | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
If given a choice between receiving 10 dollars today and 100 dollars tomorrow, most of us would likely opt for the latter. This kind of decision-making process is what psychologists call Delayed Gratification, and we practice it every time we consciously forgo immediate rewards to reap the benefits of a more distant goal.

Whenever we log out of Facebook to focus on our work, or when we choose to save our hard earned paychecks to travel instead of spending them on impromptu shopping sprees, we are choosing delayed gratification and executing our self-control.


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The key to self-Control is the ability to understand and manage your feelings and emotions.

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David Hain's curator insight, December 8, 2016 3:10 AM

Marshmallows and strategies for self-control - more important than it may sound!

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4 Tips for Raising Happy, Emotionally Healthy Children

4 Tips for Raising Happy, Emotionally Healthy Children | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Many of us don't learn to understand or process our emotions growing up. If you want raise happy, emotionally healthy children, this may help.
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There has been concern recently on how to help children with their feelings about world events. This article provides advice for  adults and parents on how to work with emotions productively.

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Bringing Empathy to Work  

Empathy is central to all of our most significant relationships. It should come as no surprise then that empathy and emotional intelligence are central to successfully leading and collaborating with colleagues and clients.

 

And yet, with the infusion of virtual teams, virtual workplaces and technology in our working lives, we are seeing an overall lack of empathy and connection in our workplace and professional relationships.


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How We Avoid Our Feelings and How Embracing Them Sets Us Free

How We Avoid Our Feelings and How Embracing Them Sets Us Free | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
“We numb our minds and heart so one need not be broken and the other need not be bothered.” ~Peggy Haymes Feelings are important, no doubt about it. They communicate all sorts of information to us. I don’t know about you, but I’ve preferred to ignore some of that information. Raise your hand if you would much rather feel the good feelings and just jump right over the not so good ones. Okay, so it’s unanimous. We all prefer the good, happy feelings. I expect we are all experts at finding ways to avoid the uncomfortable ones. But maybe weRead more ›
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This is a great article on how emotions drive our behavior both positively and negatively and how by developing our EQ we can substantially improve every aspect of our life.

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Leadership and behavior: Mastering the mechanics of reason and emotion | McKinsey & Company

Leadership and behavior: Mastering the mechanics of reason and emotion | McKinsey & Company | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it

The confluence of economics, psychology, game theory, and neuroscience has opened new vistas—not just on how people think and behave, but also on how organizations function. Over the past two decades, academic insight and real-world experience have demonstrated, beyond much doubt, that when companies channel their competitive and collaborative instincts, embrace diversity, and recognize the needs and emotions of their employees, they can reap dividends in performance.


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A model of human motivation that also supports the premise of this article about Mastering Reason and Emotion, is Self-Determination (SDT) theory. Daniel Pink's book, Drive, provides a good overview how this model can help leaders understand and motivate performance and engagement.

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David Hain's curator insight, October 5, 2016 6:02 AM

Fascinating discussion on decision making and its rational/emotional elements!

Arron Saini's comment, November 2, 2016 8:14 AM
A human can feel motivated till he is rewarded, fame, and the aim he set to achieve it. But to become and experience permanent motivation check this page: http://www.dadabhagwan.org/
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How to Stop Being a People-Pleaser

How to Stop Being a People-Pleaser | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
We sometimes become pretty invested in our false selves, in the “representative,” as Glennon Doyle Melton calls it, that we send out into the world instead of showing up fully and authentically as ourselves. We create representatives to protect ourselves, often in response to unstable or abusive situations.
Sometimes, we aren’t yet able to separate our false selves from our real ones. We want to defend the important representative that has worked so hard for us for so long. And that’s okay…so long as we can see where our representative is holding us back, and that it is, of course, the truth that will eventually set us free.

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The key to unlocking the jail cell of people pleasing is emotional intelligence.

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David Hain's curator insight, September 22, 2016 4:28 AM

People pleasers - some tips to take of your mask and let your real feelings show.

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Embracing the Dark Side: How to Use Negative Emotions to Your Advantage

Embracing the Dark Side: How to Use Negative Emotions to Your Advantage | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
In the constant pursuit of happiness, it's easy to miss the opportunities negative emotions provide.
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EQ is learning to be smart by using all of your emotions

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Raising Humans #1-Pause, Play or Rewind? Tips on Parenting with Emotional Intelligence • Six Seconds

Raising Humans #1-Pause, Play or Rewind? Tips on Parenting with Emotional Intelligence • Six Seconds | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
After those parenting-disaster-moments, don't you wish you could press Rewind? Parenting with emotional intelligence helps!
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Workplace snark is so tiring that we can't hold back - Futurity

Workplace snark is so tiring that we can't hold back - Futurity | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
New research on workplace "incivility spirals" finds that sarcasm, put-downs, and condescension take a toll on employees' self-control.
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Rudeness spreads like a virus - no conducive for developing teams!

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Be Kind; You Never Know What Someone Is Going Through

Be Kind; You Never Know What Someone Is Going Through | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
We never know what someone is going through or what they're struggling with. But we can know that we can make a huge difference simply by being kind.
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With the rush to judge and blame I thought  this advice would be a safe and healing way to approach our interactions. the key is to use our gift and capacity for empathy. Our circumstances may be different, but we can all connect with an emotion or feeling.

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