"Do you ever daydream about a superhero alter ego? In my reveries, I’m a mad scientist remixing the brain chemistry of the clinically depressed and injecting the chronically unconfident with invisible vials of self-love. I’m changing the world, in short, by sharing one Yoga or meditation practice at a..."
Right Livelihood is a key point. If we enjoy and find joy in our work, that is what makes it profitable. I found the points about "experts and specialists' interesting. I am reading Wendell Berry and he makes similar points. I wondered how this fits with teaching? Do we make teachers into specialists in ways that it becomes difficult to build relationships with students, families, colleagues, and the subject matter they teach? In the specialization, do we succumb to instrumental ways of teaching which create problems in learning? I am not sure instrumental and teaching fit that way.
It is interesting to note that the only reference to work is helping others. I found the isolation in teaching worked against helping the other adults in the building and I found it was not always appreciated. Helping the students and their families worked for many years.
94% of human resources people might say they prefer positive feedback, but that does not explain when they escort an employee of site. I find it useful to ask for examples. I once had a School manager suggest I was being unprofessional, but, when I asked for an example, he had none.
Feedback and criticism are necessary for growth. The relationship we have with employees and students is important in providing feedback and criticism. I eliminated giving marks on many activities and used rubrics as a way to guide learning. These were well explained to the students and became useful in student learning.
For the better part of my teaching career, these three existed. As School managers began to tell me what my work was without any sense of knowing what it was, these were eroded. We each need a job with a capital J and we need to stop doing the work of others.
Do you ever question the enforcement of schools “Zero Tolerance Policy” in relation to bullying and school violence? How much of it is enforced? To the hundreds of parents I have personally spoken ...
Ivon Prefontaine's insight:
Teaching is relational process. Learning is based on inputs and outputs. Students learn that they can bully and act violently against others by apologizing. I watched School managers accept apologies repeatedly from the same students with little evidence change occurred. The other part of in-school bullying is some of the worst bullies in schools are adults. A number of school Managers bullied staff saying they knew they had a particular personality issue they were working on, but again it never seemed to change.
Do we need to be stuck under a constant avalanche? I told a School manager several years ago that when something is added to my workload something has to come off the plate. They did not understand what I was talking about and did not get it when things I had previously done were no longer done.
These are interesting articles. The first link took me to a great article about creating lasting happiness. It is not about occasional experiences which end up being false happiness, but being present in each moment. This would seem to be important in classrooms for teachers and students.
"Metacognition is, put simply, thinking about one’s thinking. More precisely, it refers to the processes used to plan, monitor, and assess one’s understanding and performance. Metacognition includes a critical awareness of a) one’s thinking and learning and b) oneself as a thinker and learner."
Learning about our learning is essential and helps us understand how to move the learning into new areas. It includes pedagogy which helps students find new pathways that are never the same one time to the next and is never the same for all students. Teaching and learning explore who we are and how not just what we learn and how we learn.
Once you believe you are strong emotionally, you will unconsciously act stronger than before and begin to take control over your emotional whims. – Senora Roy
Life is a series of stories, and each one of us has a unique story to tell. Billions upon billions of stories and no two are exactly the same. If the story of your life has been filled with more sad moments than happy ones, it’s time to change that. And the best place to start is within your head.
You have the power to create the life you want. One crucial skill that will help you get there is learning how to become emotionally strong. The good news is emotional strength is like a muscle: the more you use it, the stronger it becomes.
In this article, you’ll learn 17 things emotionally strong people don’t do … so you can start creating the existence you’ve always imagined for yourself.
They don’t beg for attention.
Emotional strength means confidence, and confident people don’t need to constantly be the center of attention. They’re comfortable in their own skin.
They don’t allow others to bring them down.
Emotionally strong people ignore the haters and the naysayers. They weed these people out and surround themselves with positive people instead.
They don’t stop believing in themselves.
Somehow I can’t believe that there are any heights that can’t be scaled by a man who knows the secrets of making dreams come true. This special secret, it seems to me, can be summarized in four C’s. They are curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy, and the greatest of all is confidence. When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionable. – Walt Disney
Soak up these amazing words from Walt Disney. Because belief is the most essential quality of emotional strength.
They’re not afraid to love.
Love is the force that transforms and improves the Soul of the World. – Paulo Coelho
People who possess emotional strength have experienced heartbreak. But it doesn’t hold them back … it makes them stronger. Just because you’ve been hurt doesn’t mean you should shut love out of your life. Open up your heart and embrace vulnerability. The love you find will be worth everything you go through to get it.
They’re not afraid of slowing down.
Sometimes you need to take a step back and slow it down when you’ve been pushing yourself too hard. Having drive is great but not at the expense of your health and well-being. Allow yourself time for reflection and relaxation.
They refuse to be a victim of circumstance.
Being emotionally strong means refusing to make excuses. Leave the past behind you and focus on getting a little better every day.
They don’t have a problem saying no.
Saying no is one of the most important things you’ll ever learn how to do. Focus on your top priorities and say no to all the stuff that’s wasting your time.
They don’t back down from challenges.
Emotionally strong people see challenges as opportunities to grow and improve their life. Challenges happen for a reason. Only when we have overcome them will we understand why they were there. They don’t do things they don’t want to do.
If you want to keep your emotional balance and sanity intact, do what you love. Get rid of baggage and commitments that are making you miserable.
They don’t forget that happiness is a decision.
Emotionally strong people know that happiness is a choice. They understand the things they need to really be happy. They choose a life of simplicity, productivity, and passion.
They don’t waste time.
Abraham Lincoln said, “It’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” Emotionally strong folks don’t waste time doing mindless crap. They live mindfully in the present, enjoying every day as if it’s their last.
They aren’t afraid to ask for help.
Every single one of the great minds in history, from Einstein to Edison, had help along the way. You can’t do it all alone, and it takes an emotionally strong person to swallow their pride and ask for help.
They don’t hold themselves back.
Self-handicapping is a common trait among emotionally weak people. What this means is you make excuses and find ways to justify your inadequacies instead of finding ways to improve on them. If you want to change something, stop holding yourself back. Just start. Small victories lead to major changes. They don’t mind working a little harder than everyone else.
The heights by great men reached and kept were not attained by sudden flight, but they, while their companions slept, were toiling upward in the night. – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Soak in these poetic words from Longfellow. Put in the work, and you’ll get the results you’re looking for.
They don’t overreact to things beyond their control.
Charles Swindoll said, “Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.” Think about how many times a day you overreact to things that really don’t matter. When you start to feel your blood boil, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “Is this really worth getting stressed out over?” Ninety-nine percent of the time, you’ll realize the answer is no.
They aren’t content with a mediocre life.
Emotionally strong people don’t settle for mediocrity. They strive to achieve greatness.
They never, ever give up.
Being emotionally strong means staring adversity in the face, learning from your mistakes, and living to fight another day. I’ll leave you with this inspiring quote from Harriet Beecher Stowe:
When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.
Want more productive and satisfied employees? A new study suggests that companies should consider mindfulness training for managers. (Former les #managers à la pleine conscience pour des employés plus #heureux ?
It would not be a given, but it certainly provides more possibilities for happiness. I found days I was stressed and less present for students were harder for them and, when I was more present, they were happier.
The short answer is yes. There is karma. Emmanuel Levinas writes about gift giving which does not anticipate any reciprocity. Teaching in its purest sense is gift-giving of that nature. We can never anticipate the rewards.
People who are agreeable are also more likely to make destructive choices, if they think doing so will help them conform to social expectations. That's the finding of psychologists, who suggest that disagreeable, ornery people may be more helpful than we think.
This is interesting. I don't think it means that good people cannot make good decisions. Good means something different than nice. Nice is about not rocking the boat. Sometimes being a good person requires rocking the boat. I know it does not go over well with School managers.
Not only do we hate work, we hate the commute to and from our work. I told colleagues I would teach for 1/2 the price. That was the wrong thing to say to other teachers. Apparently, even limited altruism is not welcome. When we work for money, it is inevitable that we will become unhappy. When we work for the love of what we do, we find ways to overcome the obstacles.
For the first 15 years of my teaching career, I loved to go to work. It actually was not work. For the last 5-7 years, I had to make sure that the bosses I worked for did not deny me the love of what I did. Healthy relationships are at the heart of work. It is rarely about money and perks.