Purpose makes us complete and transcends the small self ego that we usually associate with. It has been written about extensively by Viktor Frankl who suggested we need something bigger than we are to strive towards.
The 14th Dalai Lama was born as Lhamo Dondrub in a village in Tibet in 1935.
He fled his home during the Chinese occupation of Tibet and soon set up a government in exile in India.
The monk has been the spiritual leader of his people and his religion since he was 15 years old. He's also one of the foremost authors and philosophers within Tibetan Buddhism, having authored books like "The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living," "How To Practice: The Way To A Meaningful Life," and "Beyond Religion: Ethics for the Whole World."
In 1989 he won the Nobel Peace prize, and he continues to travel the world giving talks on compassion, the nature of truth, and happiness.
Ethical behaviour is relational and contextual. It is not fixed by predetermined rules but negotiated within the relational structure of a particular context against historical and cultural norms. When we see rules as fixed, we fall into the trap of thinking there is only one way to encounter our ethical responsibilities.
Teaching is an example of ethical behaviour and its relational nature. We are always in relationship with someone and teaching about something. Our conduct and comportment is a message that is only speakable through our behaviour which will include words and actions.
Burnout is a real problem when you're in a demanding job or are a superachiever . The biggest cause of burnout, however, might not be your inability to take a break from work, but being kept from doing what you love or is important to you.
"Do you ever daydream about a superhero alter ego? In my reveries, I’m a mad scientist remixing the brain chemistry of the clinically depressed and injecting the chronically unconfident with invisible vials of self-love. I’m changing the world, in short, by sharing one Yoga or meditation practice at a..."
Right Livelihood is a key point. If we enjoy and find joy in our work, that is what makes it profitable. I found the points about "experts and specialists' interesting. I am reading Wendell Berry and he makes similar points. I wondered how this fits with teaching? Do we make teachers into specialists in ways that it becomes difficult to build relationships with students, families, colleagues, and the subject matter they teach? In the specialization, do we succumb to instrumental ways of teaching which create problems in learning? I am not sure instrumental and teaching fit that way.
Have you ever wondered why one kid may be more resilient than another? Let’s say Lisa and Jenny are students in the same eighth grade math class. They both struggle during the quarter and, in the end, they both receive low final grades. Upon hearing...
The Eastern practice of yoga has become a modern-day symbol of peace, serenity and well-being in the West. More than 20 million Americans practice yoga, according to the 2012 Yoga in America study, with practitioners spending more than $10 billion a year on yoga-related products and classes.
Healthy and supportive relationships are keys to happiness. This blends with working in healthy places where there is good support and we enjoy the work. It is not enough to enjoy one's work. There must be healthy relationships there. I love teaching, but that was not enough the last few years as my support network eroded.
These are excellent choices. Learning and happiness are intertwined. Children who learn tend to be happy. The key is make sure curiosity remains open. Here we find the love of that is sacred in the world.
Happiness, purpose and meaning are top priority for Millennials. The marriage of meaning and happiness is challenging yet needed blend.
Ivon Prefontaine's insight:
The Viktor Frankl quote is important in this article. He wrote the definitive books on meaning in life. The work we do i.e. teaching has to have meaning. Work is embedded in life. It is married to who we are as a person.
"Metacognition is, put simply, thinking about one’s thinking. More precisely, it refers to the processes used to plan, monitor, and assess one’s understanding and performance. Metacognition includes a critical awareness of a) one’s thinking and learning and b) oneself as a thinker and learner."
Learning about our learning is essential and helps us understand how to move the learning into new areas. It includes pedagogy which helps students find new pathways that are never the same one time to the next and is never the same for all students. Teaching and learning explore who we are and how not just what we learn and how we learn.
Once you believe you are strong emotionally, you will unconsciously act stronger than before and begin to take control over your emotional whims. – Senora Roy
Life is a series of stories, and each one of us has a unique story to tell. Billions upon billions of stories and no two are exactly the same. If the story of your life has been filled with more sad moments than happy ones, it’s time to change that. And the best place to start is within your head.
You have the power to create the life you want. One crucial skill that will help you get there is learning how to become emotionally strong. The good news is emotional strength is like a muscle: the more you use it, the stronger it becomes.
In this article, you’ll learn 17 things emotionally strong people don’t do … so you can start creating the existence you’ve always imagined for yourself.
They don’t beg for attention.
Emotional strength means confidence, and confident people don’t need to constantly be the center of attention. They’re comfortable in their own skin.
They don’t allow others to bring them down.
Emotionally strong people ignore the haters and the naysayers. They weed these people out and surround themselves with positive people instead.
They don’t stop believing in themselves.
Somehow I can’t believe that there are any heights that can’t be scaled by a man who knows the secrets of making dreams come true. This special secret, it seems to me, can be summarized in four C’s. They are curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy, and the greatest of all is confidence. When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionable. – Walt Disney
Soak up these amazing words from Walt Disney. Because belief is the most essential quality of emotional strength.
They’re not afraid to love.
Love is the force that transforms and improves the Soul of the World. – Paulo Coelho
People who possess emotional strength have experienced heartbreak. But it doesn’t hold them back … it makes them stronger. Just because you’ve been hurt doesn’t mean you should shut love out of your life. Open up your heart and embrace vulnerability. The love you find will be worth everything you go through to get it.
They’re not afraid of slowing down.
Sometimes you need to take a step back and slow it down when you’ve been pushing yourself too hard. Having drive is great but not at the expense of your health and well-being. Allow yourself time for reflection and relaxation.
They refuse to be a victim of circumstance.
Being emotionally strong means refusing to make excuses. Leave the past behind you and focus on getting a little better every day.
They don’t have a problem saying no.
Saying no is one of the most important things you’ll ever learn how to do. Focus on your top priorities and say no to all the stuff that’s wasting your time.
They don’t back down from challenges.
Emotionally strong people see challenges as opportunities to grow and improve their life. Challenges happen for a reason. Only when we have overcome them will we understand why they were there. They don’t do things they don’t want to do.
If you want to keep your emotional balance and sanity intact, do what you love. Get rid of baggage and commitments that are making you miserable.
They don’t forget that happiness is a decision.
Emotionally strong people know that happiness is a choice. They understand the things they need to really be happy. They choose a life of simplicity, productivity, and passion.
They don’t waste time.
Abraham Lincoln said, “It’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” Emotionally strong folks don’t waste time doing mindless crap. They live mindfully in the present, enjoying every day as if it’s their last.
They aren’t afraid to ask for help.
Every single one of the great minds in history, from Einstein to Edison, had help along the way. You can’t do it all alone, and it takes an emotionally strong person to swallow their pride and ask for help.
They don’t hold themselves back.
Self-handicapping is a common trait among emotionally weak people. What this means is you make excuses and find ways to justify your inadequacies instead of finding ways to improve on them. If you want to change something, stop holding yourself back. Just start. Small victories lead to major changes. They don’t mind working a little harder than everyone else.
The heights by great men reached and kept were not attained by sudden flight, but they, while their companions slept, were toiling upward in the night. – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Soak in these poetic words from Longfellow. Put in the work, and you’ll get the results you’re looking for.
They don’t overreact to things beyond their control.
Charles Swindoll said, “Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.” Think about how many times a day you overreact to things that really don’t matter. When you start to feel your blood boil, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “Is this really worth getting stressed out over?” Ninety-nine percent of the time, you’ll realize the answer is no.
They aren’t content with a mediocre life.
Emotionally strong people don’t settle for mediocrity. They strive to achieve greatness.
They never, ever give up.
Being emotionally strong means staring adversity in the face, learning from your mistakes, and living to fight another day. I’ll leave you with this inspiring quote from Harriet Beecher Stowe:
When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.