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Symptoms of Separation Anxiety Disorder in Children | anxiety disorder in children

Symptoms of Separation Anxiety Disorder in Children | anxiety disorder in children | Divorce Support - Traveling the same Road! | Scoop.it

Separation anxiety disorder is a chronic psychological condition that occurs when a separation from a loved one such as in divorce situations causes apprehension, anxiety and other feelings of disassociation.

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If there are children and they have been used to particular routine and closeness with the children then it is not unusual for the children to react with any of a number of forms of separation anxiety.  Separation anxiety is an apprehension and/or anxiety that children process in any number of ways from panic attacks to stomach aches to night terrors and major abandonment issues when they sense a separation from one or both parents or even from the family pattern and consistency that they are used to.

 

In some cases I am aware that as a divorce lawyer if these things go untreated that they can develop into a deeply ingrained post-traumatic stress disorder.  

 

This relates to divorces, separations, breakups with significant others, new persons introduced to either of your parent's lives.

 

I have been through a divorce where this is the case.  I didn't understand it back then.  Why the symptoms presented themselves as they did, in such a strange form, but I understand now.  Education is the key!  As a parent I wish I would have understood these things better.  Separation anxiety needs to be recognized and treated both by the parents and by a profession if possible.

 

Remember the children!  They can't deal with things and process things as adults.  The adults in their life are their stability.  If they lose their stability... they fall apart.

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About 5% of all children from the ages of 7 to 11 years old experience some form of separation anxiety.  It affects boys and girls and can take any form of symptoms depending upon how the child processes it.

 

In divorces or contemplated divorces it is often the case that the parents may split up for a time.  In divorces, the parents most certainly end up splitting eventually.  If there are children and they have been used to particular routine and closeness with the children then it is not unusual for the children to react with any of a number of forms of separation anxiety.  Separation anxiety is an apprehension and/or anxiety that children process in any number of ways from panic attacks to stomach aches to night terrors and major abandonment issues when they sense a separation from one or both parents or even from the family pattern and consistency that they are used to.

 

In some cases I am aware that as a divorce lawyer if these things go untreated that they can develop into a deeply ingrained post-traumatic stress disorder.  

 

I have been through a divorce where this is the case.  I didn't understand it back then.  Why the symptoms presented themselves as they did, in such a strange form, but I understand now.  Education is the key!  As a parent I wish I would have understood these things better.  Separation anxiety needs to be recognized and treated both by the parents and by a profession if possible.

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I Love You, But Please Change

I Love You, But Please Change | Divorce Support - Traveling the same Road! | Scoop.it
Do you spend more time second-guessing your partner's comments or reactions than examining your own behavior? While I believe it's important to be vulnerable with your partner it's also critical to take responsibility for your own actions.
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What a Fantastic Article Whether you are Currently Wonderfully in Love or trying to save your marriage or trying to help cultivate a new relationship with someone after a marriage and get over the hurt from your marriage or whatever may have prevented you from helping make the marriage work, this is just a wonderful article by Terry Gaspar.

 

I recommend it to all.  Including myself and my wife!

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Single, Divorced, but Plenty Tall Enough to Ride: A Blogger Profile

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There are 47 million blogs at WordPress.com and every single one has a unique story to tell. Today, we're proud to introduce you to WordPress.com blogger Matt, the man behind "You Must Be This Tall To Ride!"
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Many of us have been there. You're not the only one by a long shot. I'm remarried now and thankfully I'm fairly convinced I did it right with my 15 year anniversary coming up this year. But I remember being there like it was yesterday. At 5'5" I've never been a giant as far as height. Yet one thing I had going for me was the change that divorce brought about but either you're not there yet or you need to refocus your mind. When I got divorced I had kids too and yes...it's hell when they want mommy and daddy back under the same roof, but we all have a right to be happy so it just wasn't going to go that way.

I'm glad you found therapy! I found it in workouts at the time and lots of work. Oh and after overworking myself being deathly ill, contagious, and then quarantined with a blind woman taking care of me while I slept on her floor in a little children's room didn't hurt either. It helped me focus on the fact that life is too short and deci

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Suzanne Somers Drops a Bombshell .... Could this relate to Divorce and Support after Divorce?

Suzanne Somers Drops a Bombshell .... Could this relate to Divorce and Support after Divorce? | Divorce Support - Traveling the same Road! | Scoop.it
In an excerpt from her new book, Bombshell: Explosive Medical Secrets That Will Redefine Aging, actress and author Suzanne Somers dishes on getting older, facing her fears, and the secret to a long and happy life.
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Suzanne Somers talks about aging and frankyl I find this to be an enlightening and encouraging book and article.  What you take from it is up to you.  I have run into marriages where (1) partners are bland, (2) run down, (3) boring or no fun at all, and even (4) sexually stunted.  This can often become the problem with not only aging with but with failing or failed marriages. 

 

What we can take from Suzanne is that it doesn't have to be that way.  We don't have to stay  in the "funk" of divorce or be sucked into depression or treating ourselves as the victim.  No longer do we have to waste the best years of our lives pining over an old ex-spouse or wishing things were different.

 

Take action!  We can all do things to make things better for ourselves, our body, our mind, our attitude... by medically proven actions some of which aren't hard and take only minutes a day.  Perhaps Suzanne doesn't have it wrong.  Maybe 65 is the new 40!  Her book may not have all the answers but her age, her attitude and her sex appeal is still there at age 65 without a doubt. 

 

How can we comfort each other from the pain of divorce and give each other support?  Perhaps it's a matter of helping those going through divorce to realize they can go on and be more powerful and vibrant than before.  We are not our relationships although they contribute to who we are and who we become.  We are dynamic individuals in and of ourselves capable of doing amazing things at any age with the right mindset and determination. 

 

Let's help support each other by becoming the new and improved , "young" powerhouses of the future.  Divorce is not the end, it's just a new beginning in disguise.

 

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6 Little-Known Benefits Of Being Single

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Written by Alexandra Churchill for YourTango.com (Originally published on YourTango.com)
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Well, I can agree that these are six little-known benefits of being single. Nor can I necessarily agree that they are particular reasons why one might want to get divorced.

 

However, if you do end up on the path of divorce I can agree that these are  "possible benefits" that may result from your divorce.

 

 I can address these in short fashion.

 

Can you be happier? Of course you can! You can also be more miserable. It all depends upon your choices and whether or not proceeding along the lines of a divorce was a good choice or not.

 

Will you necessarily be healthier by getting a divorce than by remaining in an unhappy marriage? The article indicates that this is the case. However, I doubt the author had a crystal ball. If you find yourself alone and lonely all the time and this makes you into an  unhappier person than when you were married to your spouse, then it is entirely possible that you could be even more unhappy than you were in your unhappy marriage. The fact is, the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence.

 

I must agree that you can no doubt avoid the financial frustrations that you have by being married. This is true simply because you wouldn't be married anymore. However, you may undertake your own flawed financial frustrations of your own user in the divorce or because you're simply a poor financial manager with your own money.

 

If you have kids they will be better off. It's possible! It's also possible that you could become ostracized as a parent, blamed for the divorce, and suddenly send your children into therapy because they somehow think they are the cause of the divorce.

 

 You'll be happier in your next marriage?   Where did that one come from? Is it a possible benefit, yes!   Yet is this a probable benefit of getting a divorce and being single? If the first spouse wasn't for you and you certainly need to take a hard long look at your life and what you are looking for in order to be happy in your life to find the right mate to be your "soulmate", otherwise it isn't something you should bet on.

 

Lastly, it's claimed that you'll have an easier retirement? Well you won't have an easier retirement if you're single and you spend all your money! And you won't have an easier retirement if you don't put monies away for retirement! And depending upon the terms of your divorce settlement with your spouse you may even have a more difficult time with your retirement.

 

Now, with all of the six "benefits" just quickly mentioned here, I do want to address that I am not a pessimist. However I am a realist. The person who wrote the article is seemingly an optimist and is looking toward the best result that one could gain by returning to the single lifestyle once again. Keep in mind that while it is possible, there are a lot of factors involved here that could make it just as  unlikely that this would occur.

 

Whatever you decide to do, put your best foot forward and do your very best to get on with your life. There most certainly can be  a pot of gold at the end of your rainbow.

 

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He's Rhode Island's Most Affordable of Divorce Lawyers | RI Lawyer Christopher A. Pearsall

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Not only can the divorce process be oversimplified by laypeople, it can be overcomplicated by attorneys because some attorneys thrive on your reliance upon them.  The more ignorant you remain the more you need them.  That's not the way I work.  Attorneys have been doing this wrong for decades and I'm one attorney who can fix it, at least for my own clients.

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DEXTER: United Methodist Church launches outreach program for divorcees - Heritage Newspapers

DEXTER: United Methodist Church launches outreach program for divorcees Heritage Newspapers “In a boundaries class, there were several divorced folks in that group who were really struggling with how to handle ex-spouses — the course dealt with...
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There's always help somewhere by someone when you're going through a divorce and there is no excuse for getting that support.  Many people need it and it's those who don't get it that end up repeating the same mistakes. I believe that it's true that we should not live in the past but that we should not forget it either because when we forget the past then in retrospect we can't learn and grow by recognizing our shortcomings.

 

Help is often hidden or disguised to us in such things as programs, counselors, parishoners, priests, and ministers, not to mention friends and family that we may need for support.

 

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What Do I Do When I Don't Have Anyone To Turn To? | I Am A Child ...

What Do I Do When I Don't Have Anyone To Turn To? | I Am A Child ... | Divorce Support - Traveling the same Road! | Scoop.it
Such groups can help you to move from the pain and turmoil that you may currently be feeling to hope and healing. Look for a The Big D: Divorce Through the Eyes of a Teenager group in your area and sign up.
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Children need somewhere to go or someone to go to other than the divorcing parents when they themselves are trying to deal with divorce.  The adults often forget that many children can't come to them to talk about the divorce or rather won't talk to them about the divorce for fear of retribution or misunderstanding because it is the very parents who are in the divorce situation that have caused the situation that is creating their pain.

This is not to say that the divorce is not justified or that the child's feelings are founded or unfounded, but they are what they are and they need to be understood and dealt with so the child gets some kind of help so they do not go from simply upset to dysfunctional.

Third parties are often good to reach out too if they are peers or if they are even run by adults who went through their parent's divorce as a child , etc...

Group help is often today's answer and a good way to address it as well.

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How To Survive Your Son or Daughter's Divorce

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SPECIAL FROM Next Avenue By Claire Berman
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Parents and Grandparents, it is too easy to lose touch with the children who are involved in a divorce.  It happened to me and it happened to my mother through me.  We tried to prevent it but we couldn't.  Yet we didn't have the internet back then.  We didn't have the help that is available today.  Read this article... it could make a huge difference in your life and your grandchild's life.

 

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7 Ways Divorce Can Affect Your Health

7 Ways Divorce Can Affect Your Health | Divorce Support - Traveling the same Road! | Scoop.it
The fact that an estimated 50 percent of marriages in America now end in divorce doesn't make breaking up any easier to do.
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It's not easy to go through a divorce. It can rip you apart whether you are the person filing for divorce or the person receiving the divorce papers. It is important to be able to recognize the tell-tale signs of emotional issues prevalent in divorces and acknowledge them because they can too easily spiral out of control. The emotional and mental health factors can be even more significant and devastating than the legal factors in many divorces. Take action if you are in a divorce or if you have been through one to understand what you are going through or what you have been through and find out how best to deal with whatever issues you may be facing. https://www.facebook.com/christopherpearsall http://www.rhodeislanddivorcecoach.com http://www.attorneypearsall.com
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Emotional Coping and Divorce - Divorce

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There are many aspects to copying with divorce.  There is coping with the legal process.  Coping with the emotional feelings.  Coping with the financial affects.  Coping with those the divorce will affect.  Coping with your own interpretation of what the divorce means to you.  Coping with the changing lifestyle that will be coming your way as a result of the proceeding.  Coping with the feelings of your minor children.  Coping with how to contain the affect the divorce has on your work or participation in the community and much more.  It is important to understand that coping is not just a single aspect but various facets that affect different parts of our life and those around us.  Don't be afraid to reach out to others who have been through divorce but remember that your experience is personal to you and that your experience is not their experience.  Do not adopt the experience of others simply by believing divorces are all the same... they are NOT!  All divorces are different!  Some are bittter.  Some divorces are amicable.  Some involved growth and others involve self-assessment.  It is , however, very important to know that you are not alone and that there are many who have been through the process and there are many laypersons and professionals who can assist you in dealing with divorce in a positive way so that divorce can be an improvement of your life and not a destruction of it.  I've been there.  I've walked the path you are about to take or you are in the process of taking and I'm glad to help if I can.

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10 Ways to Help Your Child Cope with Divorce | Education.com

10 Ways to Help Your Child Cope with Divorce | Education.com | Divorce Support - Traveling the same Road! | Scoop.it
Divorce can be a difficult time, especially for children. Here are 10 simple and straight-forward ways you can effectively help your child cope.
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Helping children cope with divorce is perhaps one of the most challenging things for a divorcing parent.  Each child is different and therefore may act differently from what you expect they might say, do, or perceive in any given situation.  The question is whether or not you can recognize danger signs in your child and take positive and affirmative action to either get your child help or to deal with the issue appropriately based upon the age and maturity of the child.  

 

That being said, always try to attentively focus your attention on your children during a divorce rather than yourself.  Then, you will have truly protected your greatest asset.

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DivorceCare: Divorce Recovery Support Groups

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DivorceCare is a divorce recovery support group where you can find help and healing for the hurt of separation and divorce.
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Divorce is a process.  Many times we need help recovering from the emotional and mental strain of the divorce process and the trauma of a lost relationship.  The change is sometimes like a loss due to the death of someone close to us.  I've walked this road before and it's far from enjoyable.  I hope that this topic will be come helpful for others as I bring to light more and more support systems for marriage and divorce that may help others through those hard times.

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Divorce and Hopelessness: How to Get From Hopeless to Happy

Divorce and Hopelessness: How to Get From Hopeless to Happy | Divorce Support - Traveling the same Road! | Scoop.it
When it comes to divorce and hopelessness,there's hope!Divorced Girl Smiling shares how to turn hopelessness into hope,inspiration and ultimately,happiness.
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Divorce isn't easy to get through sometimes and it's good to know that other's have been there and what there thoughts and feelings are.  How does one cope with divorce and the feelings related to it?

 

Each person is different.  Men and women process things differently.  would it help to know someone feels the way you do?  Would it help to know you are not alone.  

 

I hope that women facing divorce find this blog article helpful for their own Divorce support.

 

Remember, you are not alone!

 

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10 Habits of Happy Couples

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It starts with going to bed at the same time.
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Being in sync with your partner and each party of the couple making compromises because of the love, care and concern they have for the growth and sustenance of their relationship is a major part of the survival of any relationship.

 

My wife and I would often shift our bed times when our schedules shifted or during illness, even if it didn't make sense from a time perspective during the day.  Even if it meant going to bed at 4:30 p.m. then that's what we'd do because without our relationship everything else meant nothing. 

 

Too many people think of themselves first or one partner in the couple is constantly giving and the other partner is taking.  Either situation creates an imbalance in the relationship.  Each must feel that that give and receive in roughly the same proportion and yet when a relationship works, it has nothing to do with counting or measuring what each one does for the other.  When the relationship is well-balanced, it just works!  If something isn't working, then find out where the imbalance is and create a habit that brings things back into balance and soon everything will work naturally without even thinking about it.

 

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How to Have a Healthy Divorce AND Bank Account

How to Have a Healthy Divorce AND Bank Account | Divorce Support - Traveling the same Road! | Scoop.it
Isn't 'healthy divorce' an oxymoron? Absolutely not. Having a healthy divorce and maintaining a healthy bank account is a matter of choice.
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Adina Laver, Divorce Coach, writes a wonderfully professional article here that is worth reading.  Of course, as always we each take from each article that which we can accept and other things that perhaps we aren't willing to accept because we do not think an author has stated something that is either provable or something we believe in.

 

I myself both agree and disagree, in part, with the article but that is the beauty of our own individualism and our right to question and judge for ourself the value of article and what it offers.

 

I'll post another scoop on the discussion with Ms. Laver and you, as my readers can judge for yourself whether you accept Ms. Laver's premises or whether I am way off base and even whether you have ideas of your own.

 

It is most certainly an article worth reading about having a healthy divorce.  One way or another it is possible to have a healthy divorce, the question may be what your definition of "healthy divorce" is.

 

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Enough with the Divorce Shame

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So, I've been spending some time reading the writings of the Reconciliation Industrial Complex, and it's been pissing me off. Specifically, I've been checking out the websites of the fear mongers, ...
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Wow, what a jam-packed article. I've bumped heads with the author she is referring to but what seems to stand out most is the intense anger of this woman. Michele Weiner Davis does have some good points about her writings. Yet each person needs to judge for himself or herself what something means to them in terms of support. Does this help you?
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This Is What Happens When A Woman Gets Sick Of Divorce And Mortgages. And It's Brilliant.

This Is What Happens When A Woman Gets Sick Of Divorce And Mortgages. And It's Brilliant. | Divorce Support - Traveling the same Road! | Scoop.it
This is a trend I would like to see continue.
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This is an absolutely fabulous story about a woman who went through a divorce and lost her home. It is a true testament to what someone can do if they really set their mind and their heart to it.

 

 While this might not be ideal for someone who ends up in a divorce and has minor children, it certainly gets you thinking "outside the box" as to what is truly possible with  a much smaller amount of money than one would imagine.

 

 I have to applaud this woman for what she is done. Even reviewing the pictures I found that this place was truly something that she could be proud of. Its form is very different and yet it is functional all at the same time. It costs less than most trailers cost and because she designed it herself it is something that she can be proud of and even take it with her wherever she decides she wants to live.

 

She is the kind of person who should be giving seminars and lectures about these things and how one can go on and  live a joyous life even after the most horrific divorce.

 

My hat is off to this lady.

 

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What You Should Know Before You Opt Out

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What You Should Know Before You Opt Out of Your Career
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This is a Fantastic Article about what parties in a marriage should consider during that marriage to insure their own security and protect themselves from the statistics of divorce as well keep your mental health in tact.

 

This article is worth reading both for men and for women. For men it is important to consider it from the point of alimony and paying your spouse potentially long after your divorce is over.  For women it is important for their self-esteem and stability in re-entering the marketplace.

 

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Marriage lessons: Divorced man's top 20 things to do differently

Marriage lessons: Divorced man's top 20 things to do differently | Divorce Support - Traveling the same Road! | Scoop.it
NEVER blame her. Allow her just to be. Never get lazy in love.
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It's always better to learn from our own shortcomings and mistakes.  There's certainly something beneficial about sharing with one another tips on how we can improve our relationships and move forward in life despite our shortcomings that may have caused the breakdown of our first marriage.

 

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Trial Ordered for Man Accused of Killing Wife After She Asked For Divorce - Patch.com

Trial Ordered for Man Accused of Killing Wife After She Asked For Divorce Patch.com An Iraqi man accused of fatally beating his wife in their El Cajon home last year after she asked for a divorce must stand trial on a murder charge, a judge ruled...
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Is divorce devastating to people?  This article is only one article that shows people the impact of how it hits home for too many people.

I've traveled the road of divorce before I became a lawyer and while it can be devastating for both parties I have to admit that I haven't traveled to such a dark place that I might murder my spouse.

It just shows you that anything is possible in divorce situations and that care must be taken for your safety.

If anyone once truly loved someone, how could they consider killing them. If you loved them, wouldn't you truly want them to be happy even if they weren't with you?

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Long-Distance Marriage | Relationship Advice

Long-Distance Marriage | Relationship Advice | Divorce Support - Traveling the same Road! | Scoop.it
A long distance marriage is not an easy experience. Those whose spouse spends much of their time abroad on business know that well enough. The spouse that remains at home has a lot on his/her mind: How will I manage everything on my own?
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Facing a long-distance marriage arrangement is difficult.  What happens if you need to separate for medical reasons because one spouse needs to be in a warm climate while the other one does not want to abandon the home they have built and find a new career?  Challenges abound and even something as straight-forward as a change in climate for medical reasons can cause a marital breakdown.  

 

How far can you bend?  What will cause your relationship to break?

 

You may want to consider every option before you let go of your relationship and contemplate divorce.

 

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Should You Forgive After Your Divorce? 6 Steps to Releasing the Past

Should You Forgive After Your Divorce? 6 Steps to Releasing the Past | Divorce Support - Traveling the same Road! | Scoop.it
By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Forgiveness can be one of the hardest concepts to understand – and one of the most personally helpful actions to take. This is especially so for parents who have experience...
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Should you? Perhaps the more appropriate question might be, "Can you?" Yet each divorce is different. I have seen pain inflicted by one spouse upon the other during divorce and well beyond it for years after the divorce has concluded. If during your divorce your spouse created a definite and intentional pattern of alienating your children from you and there was almost nothing you could do about it because you couldn't prove it. If as a result of the anger and resentment of your ex-spouse you lose the lifetime you could have had with your children, how does a wronged spouse go about forgiving for that? How can you forget or forgive your ex-spouse when every day your children are not a part of your life and you have missed the entire lifetime of your children? It is an emptiness and a void for many people that can never be filled and that remains with a parent every day. Clearly there may be a burden lifted when a person can let the weight of the past go. But is it that simple? I'm not sure it is as simple as reflection, writing down some things on a piece of paper and burning them in a ritualistic manner. Is forgiveness an act or could it possibly be the change in a belief or re-routing your belief system? Or is forgiveness possibly within a power greater than ourselves? If one were to accept what happened factually and learn to live with the fact that the divorce and your ex-spouse's actions happened. Yet it is understandable not to be able to forgive your ex-spouse for the loss of your lifetime with your children. Perhaps acceptance on a thoughtful level coupled with an offer on one's own religious level that you offer to a "Greater Power" whether to forgive or to judge the ex-spouse is sometimes the best that can be expected.
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Coping with a Breakup or Divorce: Moving on After a Relationship Ends

Coping with a Breakup or Divorce: Moving on After a Relationship Ends | Divorce Support - Traveling the same Road! | Scoop.it
Healing after a breakup or divorce can take time. These tips will help you start to move on.
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Coping with Divorce isn't easy.  I know.  I've been there myself and I've been there with hundreds and hundreds of clients during my practice though I'm probably not up to thousands yet.  But each time is different and each time is personal.  I can't tell you the number of times I've lost a good night's sleep worry about my client or the minor children.  People trust me with their lives when they trust me with a divorce.  Ultimately it's not just legal, it's personal and private and people need more than a lawyer who just regurgitates the law to them like an automated robot.  People need somone who cares and they need to know they aren't alone.  They need to know that there are ways of coping with divorce and of moving on from this stage of their life.  When one door closes... invariably another door opens.  This article does a good job helping people to realize some of the different facets of divorce and possible ways of dealing with them.  For my part, I'm not just a lawyer.  I'm a personal guide to help you get through it and much of what I do ends up being sharing my own experience and that of other clients (who remain nameless) so that each person can find their own way.  Just remember.... you are not alone!

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How to support someone going through a divorce or break up « The Naked Divorce

How to support someone going through a divorce or break up « The Naked Divorce | Divorce Support - Traveling the same Road! | Scoop.it
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Friends and Family are often the greatest support during a divorce but how do you support them?  This article may give you a few ideas on how to be supportive to a friend or family member who simply feels emotionally lost and scared about what the future may hold.

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